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  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    We've apparently come full circle in the realm of Colonel Sanders now. There was the weird reverent "documentary" Japanese television networks broadcast around Christmastime in Japan. Then... the weird dating sim "I Love You, Colonel Sanders!" (that I happen to have on my PC) and now... this. WTF Lifetime??

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rHHbTm3Npfk&feature=youtu.be
  • Yoshiboobs
    Yoshiboobs Posts: 1,090 Member
    We've apparently come full circle in the realm of Colonel Sanders now. There was the weird reverent "documentary" Japanese television networks broadcast around Christmastime in Japan. Then... the weird dating sim "I Love You, Colonel Sanders!" (that I happen to have on my PC) and now... this. WTF Lifetime??

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rHHbTm3Npfk&feature=youtu.be

    How did I forget about these gems. There was a game too I think.
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    edited December 2020
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    I just read that Chuck Yeager died at the age of 97.

    If there has been a greater American of our lifetime, I'm not sure who it would be.

    R.I.P. Sir

    Kanye?

    ETA:I'm sorry. I shouldn't try to make a stupid joke when he deserves so much more respect.
  • KickassAmazon76
    KickassAmazon76 Posts: 4,678 Member
    My heart aches for my ex. He has managed to do such a number on his kids' hearts that they want nothing to do with him. They've been living with me full time for over a month now, and as Christmas approaches, neither of them want to see him for Christmas (in fact, the thought of even seeing or talking to him makes them anxious).

    And my heart hurts. As a parent, I can imagine how much he is hurting. I know how hard this will be for him, and I KNOW he feels that this is all my doing. He doesn't see how much I have tried to soften the negative feelings, how often I have tried to help them see other viewpoints (including his). I don't want to see him suffer, I don't want him to lose contact with them. But at this point, it is no longer in my hands.


    Sadly they never see that they did it to themselves.
    My ex years ago told the kids when his gf got pregnant that they'd never amount to anything because they've too much of their mother in them and that he was going to start again and make a better family ( true story) that was just one of many examples. Yet today years later he blames me that 3 of the 4 have not spoken to him in years.

    Oh god. That is heartbreaking. My ex was also quite adamant about "training" their mother out of them and couldn't understand why that devastated the kids so much. The thing that people don't get is that your children are half mom and half dad. When one parent hates the other, they are unconcously making it known that they are hating part of their child. My youngest learned that to make dad happy, they had to put mom down. As they grew older, that didn't sit well with them. The damage done was significant and will be very hard to undo. And you are so right... they are doing it to themselves.

    I may not agree with my ex... but I will not insult him or call him down. Sadly that was a one sided decision that has backfired on him considerably.

    I am glad that your children have you in their lives. *hugs*
  • JessBbody
    JessBbody Posts: 523 Member
    My heart aches for my ex. He has managed to do such a number on his kids' hearts that they want nothing to do with him. They've been living with me full time for over a month now, and as Christmas approaches, neither of them want to see him for Christmas (in fact, the thought of even seeing or talking to him makes them anxious).

    And my heart hurts. As a parent, I can imagine how much he is hurting. I know how hard this will be for him, and I KNOW he feels that this is all my doing. He doesn't see how much I have tried to soften the negative feelings, how often I have tried to help them see other viewpoints (including his). I don't want to see him suffer, I don't want him to lose contact with them. But at this point, it is no longer in my hands.


    That's very kind of you to have these sympathetic feelings towards him. However, it sounds like he has really messed up and has a lot of repairing to do. Maybe he'll learn a lesson from this and make himself a better dad. Shows how capable you are of forgiveness. Your kids feelings are more important, though.

  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    edited December 2020
    My heart aches for my ex. He has managed to do such a number on his kids' hearts that they want nothing to do with him. They've been living with me full time for over a month now, and as Christmas approaches, neither of them want to see him for Christmas (in fact, the thought of even seeing or talking to him makes them anxious).

    And my heart hurts. As a parent, I can imagine how much he is hurting. I know how hard this will be for him, and I KNOW he feels that this is all my doing. He doesn't see how much I have tried to soften the negative feelings, how often I have tried to help them see other viewpoints (including his). I don't want to see him suffer, I don't want him to lose contact with them. But at this point, it is no longer in my hands.


    Sadly they never see that they did it to themselves.
    My ex years ago told the kids when his gf got pregnant that they'd never amount to anything because they've too much of their mother in them and that he was going to start again and make a better family ( true story) that was just one of many examples. Yet today years later he blames me that 3 of the 4 have not spoken to him in years.

    Oh god. That is heartbreaking. My ex was also quite adamant about "training" their mother out of them and couldn't understand why that devastated the kids so much. The thing that people don't get is that your children are half mom and half dad. When one parent hates the other, they are unconcously making it known that they are hating part of their child. My youngest learned that to make dad happy, they had to put mom down. As they grew older, that didn't sit well with them. The damage done was significant and will be very hard to undo. And you are so right... they are doing it to themselves.

    I may not agree with my ex... but I will not insult him or call him down. Sadly that was a one sided decision that has backfired on him considerably.

    I am glad that your children have you in their lives. *hugs*

    I never said anything to my kids either about their father. Luckily for a while when they had to visit, his gf who later became his wife treated my children very well.. I was grateful for that.

    My kids lucked out and my 2nd husband ( ex now) thought the world of them and they love him and are still close to him.

    I'll never forget my young son saying he wished I'd met his step-dad first and that then he'd have been his father.

    I think not having their fathers negativity in their lives has helped.. they are well adjusted and very happy ( thanks largely to a great step dad)

    @KickassAmazon76 your kids are lucky to have your love and strength to draw on.. it will be a tough road ahead.
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    ReenieHJ wrote: »
    @slimgirljo15 and @KickassAmazon76
    Just wanted to give both you strong ladies huge hugs for all that you do to keep your kids feeling loved and cared about. <3<3

    Thank you Reenie 🤗
  • KickassAmazon76
    KickassAmazon76 Posts: 4,678 Member
    ReenieHJ wrote: »
    @slimgirljo15 and @KickassAmazon76
    Just wanted to give both you strong ladies huge hugs for all that you do to keep your kids feeling loved and cared about. <3<3

    Thank you Reenie 🤗

    I echo this. ❤️
  • KickassAmazon76
    KickassAmazon76 Posts: 4,678 Member
    My heart aches for my ex. He has managed to do such a number on his kids' hearts that they want nothing to do with him. They've been living with me full time for over a month now, and as Christmas approaches, neither of them want to see him for Christmas (in fact, the thought of even seeing or talking to him makes them anxious).

    And my heart hurts. As a parent, I can imagine how much he is hurting. I know how hard this will be for him, and I KNOW he feels that this is all my doing. He doesn't see how much I have tried to soften the negative feelings, how often I have tried to help them see other viewpoints (including his). I don't want to see him suffer, I don't want him to lose contact with them. But at this point, it is no longer in my hands.


    Sadly they never see that they did it to themselves.
    My ex years ago told the kids when his gf got pregnant that they'd never amount to anything because they've too much of their mother in them and that he was going to start again and make a better family ( true story) that was just one of many examples. Yet today years later he blames me that 3 of the 4 have not spoken to him in years.

    Oh god. That is heartbreaking. My ex was also quite adamant about "training" their mother out of them and couldn't understand why that devastated the kids so much. The thing that people don't get is that your children are half mom and half dad. When one parent hates the other, they are unconcously making it known that they are hating part of their child. My youngest learned that to make dad happy, they had to put mom down. As they grew older, that didn't sit well with them. The damage done was significant and will be very hard to undo. And you are so right... they are doing it to themselves.

    I may not agree with my ex... but I will not insult him or call him down. Sadly that was a one sided decision that has backfired on him considerably.

    I am glad that your children have you in their lives. *hugs*

    Your story and the story of @slimgirljo15 are tumultuous and you both have my sympathies for ever having to deal with it. I come from a family of divorce that did not end amicably. My mother spent much of my teenage (formative) years arguing with, putting down and being bitter at my father. She even hauled *kitten* and moved to another state as soon as the courts would let her because I had no choice but to go with her at that time, thus cementing the fact that I would only see my father once a month (4 hour drive one way). In the end, I can confirm: it divided my loyalties, made it very obvious that I was a burden to my mother (and only a source of revenue) and made me resent her most of the time I had to live with her. I still love her, but as soon as she kicked me out at 18, I never looked back.

    I was not troublesome, I was an honor roll student who only left the house to go to school and to do extra-curricular stuff like band/art club. My mother spent most of my teenage life and young adult life blaming my father for why I was "like I was" instead of looking at her *kitten* behavior and realizing she'd made her own bed.

    Our relationship is better now, but I don't fully trust her nor do I go out of my way to talk to her. Meanwhile, I talk to my dad once a week via Skype.

    What I'm getting at is that you both are correct: She did it to herself. They always do. I still love her because she's my mom and I always will, but my relationship with her has caused me to be extremely cautious about anything and everything I say and do around her because of my upbringing in her home and how she treated me.

    This brought me to tears. I am so sad that you went through that. Thank you for sharing this. ❤️ I hope that one day my kids will be able to have some form of relationship with him.
  • KickassAmazon76
    KickassAmazon76 Posts: 4,678 Member
    I've never heard of a tree being girthy. To see the girthiest one ever made me chuckle! Hahaha

    Thanks for that @JessBbody!
  • honeybee__12
    honeybee__12 Posts: 15,688 Member
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  • chuckle_bunny
    chuckle_bunny Posts: 496 Member
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    💩always..........rolls downhill.........
    You haven't seen me after having Chipotle lol
  • honeybee__12
    honeybee__12 Posts: 15,688 Member
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    💩always..........rolls downhill.........
    You haven't seen me after having Chipotle lol

    😂😂😂🤭
  • LynNite
    LynNite Posts: 68 Member
    edited December 2020
    In the process of moving. I hate moving. Funny thing is...I don’t have a place to move into yet and I’m not exactly sure where in general I’ll be moving to...so that’s fun... 🙄🙄🙄
  • Miz_Owl
    Miz_Owl Posts: 3,026 Member
    After watching Bette Midler in the movie
    “ The Rose “ it reminded me how Amy Winehouse was before she died .
    It’s like the movie was some how written for her before she was a star .
  • Yoshiboobs
    Yoshiboobs Posts: 1,090 Member
    Thinking... How grateful I am to have listened to my intuition on Monday. Decided not to go for an hour walk at 4AM. By 415, Mom fell in the bathroom and hit her head on the metal door track on the bathtub. Had I not respected my intuition, she would have been on the bathroom floor bleeding profusely.

    Grateful to live near a fire station. Fire truck and ambulance arrived less than 10 minutes. Grateful for the nurses and Drs.

    Grateful shes ok. It could have been worse.

    😮 so sorry that happened to her and lucky you were there!
  • scratchmyTwitch
    scratchmyTwitch Posts: 218 Member
    In 1986 I went to the beach with youth group to see Halley’s comet. It was cold and I had to pee and I saw nothing.

    The Perseids are generally underwhelming.

    Do I really need to stay up till after midnight in winter to try to see the northern lights?

  • Miz_Owl
    Miz_Owl Posts: 3,026 Member
    Thinking... How grateful I am to have listened to my intuition on Monday. Decided not to go for an hour walk at 4AM. By 415, Mom fell in the bathroom and hit her head on the metal door track on the bathtub. Had I not respected my intuition, she would have been on the bathroom floor bleeding profusely.

    Grateful to live near a fire station. Fire truck and ambulance arrived less than 10 minutes. Grateful for the nurses and Drs.

    Grateful shes ok. It could have been worse.

    Wow that's pretty scary .
    So glad you listened to you're intuition .
    I call them Guardian Angel

  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    what if that "sex and candy" song back in the day was actually about john candy
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    Thinking... How grateful I am to have listened to my intuition on Monday. Decided not to go for an hour walk at 4AM. By 415, Mom fell in the bathroom and hit her head on the metal door track on the bathtub. Had I not respected my intuition, she would have been on the bathroom floor bleeding profusely.

    Grateful to live near a fire station. Fire truck and ambulance arrived less than 10 minutes. Grateful for the nurses and Drs.

    Grateful shes ok. It could have been worse.

    How scary! Glad you listened to that inner voice and everything worked out okay for your mom!!