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laprimaJenny wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »
Hugs, friend, but Repercussions? I hope he doesn’t get angry with YOU for someone else’s nonsense.laprimaJenny wrote: »Today I get a random call from an unknown long distance caller. Considering I have my house up for sale and I don’t want to miss any important calls, I picked up without screening the call as usual. Well that was a mistake. This has been my ex’s second attempt to “talk some sense into me.” Now I have the dilemma of telling my current partner about this call. I’m *kitten* sweating bullets. I really didn’t need this unneeded drama in this already stressful moment of my life. Although the simple thing to do is not tell him and continue ignoring his calls, experience tells me that simply being honest is the best route. Despite the repercussions.
You are right, but regardless of my wrong choices in this situation I feel that it’s simply not that simple. If I put myself in his shoes, I would be jealous. Personally I don’t think jealousy is wrong. How it’s handled at times is wrong, definitely, but not the feeling in itself. Dealing with controversy is enough to make me want to avoid the situation, let alone having to explain my wrong doing which lead to it.
I think your heart is right....you are where you belong and with the right person. It may get uncomfortable, there may be some anger and jealousy, but weather that storm and you will be ok, its always better to make a tough decision now and deal with the consequences briefly, or put it off and deal with them in your head and heart forever.
Whether or not I am with the right person isn’t necessarily important. But I do agree that it’s better to always be honest despite the momentary drama it will conjure up. Rather than putting it off and ultimately destroying what was built caused of lack of trust. Which was exactly the point of my post. If I would of been honest that I kept in contact with his mother, when and if this day came around I wouldn’t of felt so guilty and felt tempted to lie. Hence, honesty is always best despite how uncomfortable it makes you feel in the moment.
Being with the right person is very important. The right person is the one that will be with you for what is real and accept your flaws or mistakes.
to a degree i would say. but life isn't quite so black and white. there are variables of grey for everyone and what works for someone and their ideals may not necessarily be in the same realm as another person. a certain amount of give and take is more important than being *with the right person*, especially if you're committed to each other and there's children involved - compromise is the key
Again.....the right person is the one that will compromise, and be compassionate. You have described what being the right person is. Sometimes the right person is the one that can make you the angriest, but thats all part of going all in.6 -
JustPassingTime wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »
Hugs, friend, but Repercussions? I hope he doesn’t get angry with YOU for someone else’s nonsense.laprimaJenny wrote: »Today I get a random call from an unknown long distance caller. Considering I have my house up for sale and I don’t want to miss any important calls, I picked up without screening the call as usual. Well that was a mistake. This has been my ex’s second attempt to “talk some sense into me.” Now I have the dilemma of telling my current partner about this call. I’m *kitten* sweating bullets. I really didn’t need this unneeded drama in this already stressful moment of my life. Although the simple thing to do is not tell him and continue ignoring his calls, experience tells me that simply being honest is the best route. Despite the repercussions.
You are right, but regardless of my wrong choices in this situation I feel that it’s simply not that simple. If I put myself in his shoes, I would be jealous. Personally I don’t think jealousy is wrong. How it’s handled at times is wrong, definitely, but not the feeling in itself. Dealing with controversy is enough to make me want to avoid the situation, let alone having to explain my wrong doing which lead to it.
I personally feel like jealousy is something you feel over your partner showing attention to another person. You can't control someone else's actions (the ex contacting you) so there is nothing to be jealous over. Your attention is not on your ex. You realize now you shouldn't have continued contact with his mom. Your current partner has the right to be upset at your continued contact with the ex's mom without his knowledge, but he shouldn't be jealous.
If he has been cheated on, deceived, or played before he'll be jealous. Trust is like a broken vase no matter how you glue the damn thing there still be crack in it
I agree with you on that.
However, I feel that fundamentally, jealously shouldn't occur unless there is a real threat to the relationship.0 -
laprimaJenny wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »
Hugs, friend, but Repercussions? I hope he doesn’t get angry with YOU for someone else’s nonsense.laprimaJenny wrote: »Today I get a random call from an unknown long distance caller. Considering I have my house up for sale and I don’t want to miss any important calls, I picked up without screening the call as usual. Well that was a mistake. This has been my ex’s second attempt to “talk some sense into me.” Now I have the dilemma of telling my current partner about this call. I’m *kitten* sweating bullets. I really didn’t need this unneeded drama in this already stressful moment of my life. Although the simple thing to do is not tell him and continue ignoring his calls, experience tells me that simply being honest is the best route. Despite the repercussions.
You are right, but regardless of my wrong choices in this situation I feel that it’s simply not that simple. If I put myself in his shoes, I would be jealous. Personally I don’t think jealousy is wrong. How it’s handled at times is wrong, definitely, but not the feeling in itself. Dealing with controversy is enough to make me want to avoid the situation, let alone having to explain my wrong doing which lead to it.
I think your heart is right....you are where you belong and with the right person. It may get uncomfortable, there may be some anger and jealousy, but weather that storm and you will be ok, its always better to make a tough decision now and deal with the consequences briefly, or put it off and deal with them in your head and heart forever.
Whether or not I am with the right person isn’t necessarily important. But I do agree that it’s better to always be honest despite the momentary drama it will conjure up. Rather than putting it off and ultimately destroying what was built caused of lack of trust. Which was exactly the point of my post. If I would of been honest that I kept in contact with his mother, when and if this day came around I wouldn’t of felt so guilty and felt tempted to lie. Hence, honesty is always best despite how uncomfortable it makes you feel in the moment.
Being with the right person is very important. The right person is the one that will be with you for what is real and accept your flaws or mistakes.
to a degree i would say. but life isn't quite so black and white. there are variables of grey for everyone and what works for someone and their ideals may not necessarily be in the same realm as another person. a certain amount of give and take is more important than being *with the right person*, especially if you're committed to each other and there's children involved - compromise is the key
Again.....the right person is the one that will compromise, and be compassionate. You have described what being the right person is. Sometimes the right person is the one that can make you the angriest, but thats all part of going all in.
confirmed for agreement on that. and there's always room for improvement
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Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »
Hugs, friend, but Repercussions? I hope he doesn’t get angry with YOU for someone else’s nonsense.laprimaJenny wrote: »Today I get a random call from an unknown long distance caller. Considering I have my house up for sale and I don’t want to miss any important calls, I picked up without screening the call as usual. Well that was a mistake. This has been my ex’s second attempt to “talk some sense into me.” Now I have the dilemma of telling my current partner about this call. I’m *kitten* sweating bullets. I really didn’t need this unneeded drama in this already stressful moment of my life. Although the simple thing to do is not tell him and continue ignoring his calls, experience tells me that simply being honest is the best route. Despite the repercussions.
You are right, but regardless of my wrong choices in this situation I feel that it’s simply not that simple. If I put myself in his shoes, I would be jealous. Personally I don’t think jealousy is wrong. How it’s handled at times is wrong, definitely, but not the feeling in itself. Dealing with controversy is enough to make me want to avoid the situation, let alone having to explain my wrong doing which lead to it.
Jenny you did absolutely nothing wrong...
No one has any right to give you *kitten* for this
He has no right to feel jealous either, you've done nothing wrong...
ETA... Who gives a *kitten* if he is jealous...
It's your business and you don't owe anyone the details of the conversation, not even your current partner...
You have a right to your privacy, and if he is a good partner, he'll understand this...
It's OK for you to think solely about yourself and be selfish even... You've got yourself and your kids, to hell with anyone else and there "feelings".
You are the only thing you need to consider here... And he'll just need to respect that, if not then again, you deserve better...2 -
DeadliftsAndSprinkles wrote: »This conversation is suddenly a lot deeper than I was anticipating
better than endless meme threads and people complaining about how it's so boring here now etc etc imo9 -
DeadliftsAndSprinkles wrote: »This conversation is suddenly a lot deeper than I was anticipating
better than endless meme threads and people complaining about how it's so boring here now etc etc imo
Imo2
I bet people have been complaining about how boring its got around here since before this mythical Era...6 -
Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »DeadliftsAndSprinkles wrote: »This conversation is suddenly a lot deeper than I was anticipating
better than endless meme threads and people complaining about how it's so boring here now etc etc imo
Imo2
I bet people have been complaining about how boring its got around here since before this mythical Era...
they have. i been here off and on since like late 09 early 10 and its always been the same.
all of this has happened before and will happen again.6 -
Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »DeadliftsAndSprinkles wrote: »This conversation is suddenly a lot deeper than I was anticipating
better than endless meme threads and people complaining about how it's so boring here now etc etc imo
Imo2
I bet people have been complaining about how boring its got around here since before this mythical Era...
they have. i been here off and on since like late 09 early 10 and its always been the same.
all of this has happened before and will happen again.
Yes, it ebbs and flows.. old faces, become new faces and so it continues.1 -
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I just read the last few pages and all I can come up with is “I wonder if Cracker Jacks still have a prize and almost none of the delicious peanuts in each box”3
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Something random & light hearted: This lady on Chopped (Food Network addict here) is p*$$*ng me off because she thinks she's God's gift to the culinary world and she's the worst, can you say delusional! Lol
Heavy, Debbie Downer moment, no one knows but my husband, until now: Currently awaiting blood tests results to find out if I have Lupus. Been praying and worried because I just started this journey, have goals and ain't nobody got time (or money) for being sick, specialists, more tests, etc.6 -
I don’t know what’s wrong but the skin on my leg is hurting really badly and nothing is there. It’s not a muscle pain but the actual skin. Now the pain is spreading and I have no clue what’s going on. I really hope it goes away, nothing on the internet makes sense and I don’t want to show up at the er with an invisible issue.5
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CoffeeAndContour wrote: »I don’t know what’s wrong but the skin on my leg is hurting really badly and nothing is there. It’s not a muscle pain but the actual skin. Now the pain is spreading and I have no clue what’s going on. I really hope it goes away, nothing on the internet makes sense and I don’t want to show up at the er with an invisible issue.
Sorry you're in pain Meg, does there appear to be maybe a bite, have you maybe brushed up against a plant?1 -
CoffeeAndContour wrote: »I don’t know what’s wrong but the skin on my leg is hurting really badly and nothing is there. It’s not a muscle pain but the actual skin. Now the pain is spreading and I have no clue what’s going on. I really hope it goes away, nothing on the internet makes sense and I don’t want to show up at the er with an invisible issue.
Weird! Hopefully it goes away tomorrow!1 -
CoffeeAndContour wrote: »I don’t know what’s wrong but the skin on my leg is hurting really badly and nothing is there. It’s not a muscle pain but the actual skin. Now the pain is spreading and I have no clue what’s going on. I really hope it goes away, nothing on the internet makes sense and I don’t want to show up at the er with an invisible issue.
Phoenix rising1 -
slimgirljo15 wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »I don’t know what’s wrong but the skin on my leg is hurting really badly and nothing is there. It’s not a muscle pain but the actual skin. Now the pain is spreading and I have no clue what’s going on. I really hope it goes away, nothing on the internet makes sense and I don’t want to show up at the er with an invisible issue.
Sorry you're in pain Meg, does there appear to be maybe a bite, have you maybe brushed up against a plant?
No, nothing is there at all, and bot touched anything out of the ordinary. One of the kids I was working with today though, seemed fine at the beginning of our session, by the end he was bright red in the cheeks and had a very high fever. I’m not sure if it’s related. It almost feels like the beginning of shingles, I’ve had them twice but I can’t see shingles being on my calf. And it hurts on both sides of my calf too.1 -
SurfyFoFurfy wrote: »It's so boring on here.
Yeah but you forgot to groan on about the good ol days 🤷🏽♂️2 -
CoffeeAndContour wrote: »slimgirljo15 wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »I don’t know what’s wrong but the skin on my leg is hurting really badly and nothing is there. It’s not a muscle pain but the actual skin. Now the pain is spreading and I have no clue what’s going on. I really hope it goes away, nothing on the internet makes sense and I don’t want to show up at the er with an invisible issue.
Sorry you're in pain Meg, does there appear to be maybe a bite, have you maybe brushed up against a plant?
No, nothing is there at all, and bot touched anything out of the ordinary. One of the kids I was working with today though, seemed fine at the beginning of our session, by the end he was bright red in the cheeks and had a very high fever. I’m not sure if it’s related. It almost feels like the beginning of shingles, I’ve had them twice but I can’t see shingles being on my calf. And it hurts on both sides of my calf too.
I hope it's not shingles again, I've heard they are very painful.
I hope it's better by the morning whatever it is.1 -
CoffeeAndContour wrote: »slimgirljo15 wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »I don’t know what’s wrong but the skin on my leg is hurting really badly and nothing is there. It’s not a muscle pain but the actual skin. Now the pain is spreading and I have no clue what’s going on. I really hope it goes away, nothing on the internet makes sense and I don’t want to show up at the er with an invisible issue.
Sorry you're in pain Meg, does there appear to be maybe a bite, have you maybe brushed up against a plant?
No, nothing is there at all, and bot touched anything out of the ordinary. One of the kids I was working with today though, seemed fine at the beginning of our session, by the end he was bright red in the cheeks and had a very high fever. I’m not sure if it’s related. It almost feels like the beginning of shingles, I’ve had them twice but I can’t see shingles being on my calf. And it hurts on both sides of my calf too.
please get the vaccine Meg - esp if you've had before! i hope this alleviates soon - if not - get help - good luck1 -
TheRoadDog wrote: »I picked up some brownie points over the weekend without even thinking about it. My wife had some friends over this past Saturday, as well as one of my daughters. I was just tending bar and staying out of the conversation. My daughter has my Mom's name tattooed on her wrist and the subject ot tattoos came up. All my daughters have tattoos. The ladies were discussing them and asked my wife if she had any. She said "No." Then everyone turned to me and asked me why Jan had never gotten a tattoo. If it was because of me. A little tension in the room now. I said, "No, it's her body." Then one of the other women asked my opinion. I said "It's up to her, but, personally, I think it would be like writing graffiti on a work of art." Everyone turned to look at me. Then I looked at my wife and realized I got it right. The tension relaxed. I topped off everyone's wine, grabbed a cigar and headed out back while I was ahead.
you nailed this - 100 times over in so many ways1 -
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I don’t think I’ve ever seen the voice thread maintain this much staying power before. Do i need to see what’s going on in there?2
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Where is my mind?0
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