What's on your mind?

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  • isalsayourface123
    isalsayourface123 Posts: 2,153 Member
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Has anyone here tried radical honesty? Thoughts?

    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Radical_honesty

    I'm not sure the world is equipped to deal with that kind of honesty tbh but it would be absolutely liberating.

    I’ve been trying it lately, its equal parts liberating and life threatening

    Really? If you’re serious I’d love to hear some of your observations about it. Is it a difficult habit to cultivate? Do you sometimes question whether you’re simply being honest or maybe slipping into snarky? I’m very interested in this but I think I’d be constantly questioning my motives

    I am being serious, yes! But I don’t mean that I’m being brutally honest. I’m just trying to tell the truth all the time, even when its hard.

    It has greatly elevated my impatience with other people’s lies though

    Edit: yes i think it’s difficult to cultivate. I never realized just how much i used to lie purely to save face before, so that has taken some getting used to. Another form of dishonesty I’ve come to despise and avoid is spinning the truth. My sister for example.. she can tell you the same story twice but depending on who she likes better or if she wants to be a martyr she can completely change up the good and bad guys. It has made me want to tell things exactly as they happened, even if in doing so I’m not nearly as convincing.

    And no, i don’t worry about being too snarky. I’m actually painfully polite in real life. 😅

    One of my biggest pet peeves ...spinning the story to make yourself look better or take the blame off yourself or whatever the reason is...but some people are do pathological about it do they even know when they are doing it.
  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Has anyone here tried radical honesty? Thoughts?

    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Radical_honesty

    I'm not sure the world is equipped to deal with that kind of honesty tbh but it would be absolutely liberating.

    I’ve been trying it lately, its equal parts liberating and life threatening

    Really? If you’re serious I’d love to hear some of your observations about it. Is it a difficult habit to cultivate? Do you sometimes question whether you’re simply being honest or maybe slipping into snarky? I’m very interested in this but I think I’d be constantly questioning my motives

    I am being serious, yes! But I don’t mean that I’m being brutally honest. I’m just trying to tell the truth all the time, even when its hard.

    It has greatly elevated my impatience with other people’s lies though

    Edit: yes i think it’s difficult to cultivate. I never realized just how much i used to lie purely to save face before, so that has taken some getting used to. Another form of dishonesty I’ve come to despise and avoid is spinning the truth. My sister for example.. she can tell you the same story twice but depending on who she likes better or if she wants to be a martyr she can completely change up the good and bad guys. It has made me want to tell things exactly as they happened, even if in doing so I’m not nearly as convincing.

    And no, i don’t worry about being too snarky. I’m actually painfully polite in real life. 😅

    One of my biggest pet peeves ...spinning the story to make yourself look better or take the blame off yourself or whatever the reason is...but some people are do pathological about it do they even know when they are doing it.

    That’s one of my issues. Sometimes I’m not even aware of when I’m not being 100%. My motives are always so mixed and I think I’m deceiving myself. (I’m trying to only use myself as an example so I avoid being a hypocrite and cuz I’m really only interested in myself anyway.)
  • talkinghead86
    talkinghead86 Posts: 66 Member
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  • Reckoner67
    Reckoner67 Posts: 3,344 Member
    Dang, y’all hate some strangers. I would probably do my best to leave the place in better shape than when I got there, and not be any sort of imposition
  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    edited April 2019
    Reckoner67 wrote: »
    Dang, y’all hate some strangers. I would probably do my best to leave the place in better shape than when I got there, and not be any sort of imposition

    You’re nice. And in reality id probably just relish the quiet and read.
  • laprimaJenny
    laprimaJenny Posts: 1,495 Member
    Hypothetical scenario:

    A little girl asks her father to colour meanwhile grabbing a copy of 50 shades of grey. He responds, “No honey it’s not a colouring book.” She responds, “but daddy...” to him immediately yelling, “don’t call me that!”

    Moral of the story, don’t use daddy out of context.
  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    Hypothetical scenario:

    A little girl asks her father to colour meanwhile grabbing a copy of 50 shades of grey. He responds, “No honey it’s not a colouring book.” She responds, “but daddy...” to him immediately yelling, “don’t call me that!”

    Moral of the story, don’t use daddy out of context.

    🤭😝🤐
  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    I'm so pissed...I didn't open mfp since Sat am to try to kill my dumb "streak" (I hate that thing...stresses me out) and came on tonight expecting a "1 day" but got f-ed over and my streak wasn't reset.

    Wish I could turn that off, would like this app a whole lot more if not constantly being reminded of my 'failure' or 'pressure to continue a 'streak'' or 'obsessive calorie counting'...which ever way I choose to think of it that day
  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    I'm so pissed...I didn't open mfp since Sat am to try to kill my dumb "streak" (I hate that thing...stresses me out) and came on tonight expecting a "1 day" but got f-ed over and my streak wasn't reset.

    Wish I could turn that off, would like this app a whole lot more if not constantly being reminded of my 'failure' or 'pressure to continue a 'streak'' or 'obsessive calorie counting'...which ever way I choose to think of it that day

    I get this.
  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    I tried meditating yesterday but snips of poetry kept cluttering my head.
  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    I'm so pissed...I didn't open mfp since Sat am to try to kill my dumb "streak" (I hate that thing...stresses me out) and came on tonight expecting a "1 day" but got f-ed over and my streak wasn't reset.

    Wish I could turn that off, would like this app a whole lot more if not constantly being reminded of my 'failure' or 'pressure to continue a 'streak'' or 'obsessive calorie counting'...which ever way I choose to think of it that day

    I get this.

    Thank-you for saying so, after I typed I felt like maybe shouldn't share because maybe I take things too serious or too far or dwell on minute details
  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
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  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    I'm so pissed...I didn't open mfp since Sat am to try to kill my dumb "streak" (I hate that thing...stresses me out) and came on tonight expecting a "1 day" but got f-ed over and my streak wasn't reset.

    Wish I could turn that off, would like this app a whole lot more if not constantly being reminded of my 'failure' or 'pressure to continue a 'streak'' or 'obsessive calorie counting'...which ever way I choose to think of it that day

    And here I had a 1200 something streak, missed 2 days because my thoughts were elsewhere with all this crazy flooding in my area and mine reset itself. So strange. But I get what you mean. I have fallen into the over obsessive mindset here before.
  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    iMago wrote: »
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    This image gave me a peaceful and hopeful thought...the way it's displayed shows something broken getting "fixed" or "coming together" again...I like it!
    I like this idea
  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    I'm so pissed...I didn't open mfp since Sat am to try to kill my dumb "streak" (I hate that thing...stresses me out) and came on tonight expecting a "1 day" but got f-ed over and my streak wasn't reset.

    Wish I could turn that off, would like this app a whole lot more if not constantly being reminded of my 'failure' or 'pressure to continue a 'streak'' or 'obsessive calorie counting'...which ever way I choose to think of it that day

    And here I had a 1200 something streak, missed 2 days because my thoughts were elsewhere with all this crazy flooding in my area and mine reset itself. So strange. But I get what you mean. I have fallen into the over obsessive mindset here before.

    For me it upsets me and in ways fosters an unhealthy frame of mind, whether I meet my "goals" or don't. I don't like it.
    I do understand how it can motivate some people, I just wish I could turn it off.
  • RomaineCalm
    RomaineCalm Posts: 3,972 Member
    This dude is gonna end up paralyzing someone or worse killing them 😂

    https://youtu.be/MEAlCgDd5_w

    Ok, stop this at 1:35 and look at his pupils. This guy is nutso.
  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
    Completely forgot to brush my teeth this morning

    Sigh
  • Reckoner67
    Reckoner67 Posts: 3,344 Member
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Completely forgot to brush my teeth this morning

    Sigh

    Whatever you do, do NOT knock them out with the intent of washing them and putting them back in later

    They don't go back in easily

    Trust me
  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
    Reckoner67 wrote: »
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Completely forgot to brush my teeth this morning

    Sigh

    Whatever you do, do NOT knock them out with the intent of washing them and putting them back in later

    They don't go back in easily

    Trust me

    Well i was going to just chew some gum but honestly your idea might work
  • Reckoner67
    Reckoner67 Posts: 3,344 Member
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Reckoner67 wrote: »
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Completely forgot to brush my teeth this morning

    Sigh

    Whatever you do, do NOT knock them out with the intent of washing them and putting them back in later

    They don't go back in easily

    Trust me

    Well i was going to just chew some gum but honestly your idea might work

    Oh, if you have gum that would probably work
  • RomaineCalm
    RomaineCalm Posts: 3,972 Member
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Completely forgot to brush my teeth this morning

    Sigh

    First deodorant, now this.
  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Completely forgot to brush my teeth this morning

    Sigh

    But did you remember before you went to bed?
    Or nevermind...just drink some coffee and no one will know the difference
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  • isalsayourface123
    isalsayourface123 Posts: 2,153 Member
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Completely forgot to brush my teeth this morning

    Sigh

    😂I hate when I do this...paranoid all day
  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Completely forgot to brush my teeth this morning

    Sigh

    😂I hate when I do this...paranoid all day

    Seriously tho, do you people not have a work and huge carry all bag that have a back up stash of a toothbrush and toothpaste?
  • RomaineCalm
    RomaineCalm Posts: 3,972 Member
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Completely forgot to brush my teeth this morning

    Sigh

    😂I hate when I do this...paranoid all day

    Seriously tho, do you people not have a work and huge carry all bag that have a back up stash of a toothbrush and toothpaste?

    I keep deodorant and toothbrushing stuff at work. You never know when you'll need to freshen up.
    Or just flat out forget to do before leaving the house, because the morning rush is real and a struggle sometimes.
  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Completely forgot to brush my teeth this morning

    Sigh

    😂I hate when I do this...paranoid all day

    Seriously tho, do you people not have a work and huge carry all bag that have a back up stash of a toothbrush and toothpaste?

    Historically I’ve put all my eggs in the “i’ll never forget to do it” basket

    It might be time to try new baskets
  • RomaineCalm
    RomaineCalm Posts: 3,972 Member
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Completely forgot to brush my teeth this morning

    Sigh

    😂I hate when I do this...paranoid all day

    Seriously tho, do you people not have a work and huge carry all bag that have a back up stash of a toothbrush and toothpaste?

    Historically I’ve put all my eggs in the “i’ll never forget to do it” basket

    It might be time to try new baskets

    A basket is overkill, Hank.
    You just need a simple zipper pouch with a travel size deodorant and teeth cleaning stuff.
    Done.