Please help? (Non weight related relationship post but making me wanna eat!)

tanny684

rpsetser2 wrote: »

Dude sounds like he's mentally a 13 year old girl where relationships are concerned. Drop his *kitten*. You'll think yourself later.

Thanks xx

tanny684

klkarlen wrote: »

tanny684 wrote: »

Thankyou, this is great advice. I always felt that I deserved the substandard treatment because I'm so fat and ugly that I was lucky a guy in his league was even considering me. But I'm starting to think that's the problem, I need to work on me. Plan to take time out of dating and build my self esteem a little. Thankyou for your post xxx

All of this^^^ Good for you! Feel free to join us on the Singles Hangout in this section of the forums, we are super supportive, and fun, which will help keep you from falling into old habits.

klkarlen wrote: »

tanny684 wrote: »

Thankyou, this is great advice. I always felt that I deserved the substandard treatment because I'm so fat and ugly that I was lucky a guy in his league was even considering me. But I'm starting to think that's the problem, I need to work on me. Plan to take time out of dating and build my self esteem a little. Thankyou for your post xxx

All of this^^^ Good for you! Feel free to join us on the Singles Hangout in this section of the forums, we are super supportive, and fun, which will help keep you from falling into old habits.

Thankyou, I'm determined not to slip back into old eat everything cos I feel crappy habits!

KrazyDaizy

tanny684 wrote: »

So this is stressing me out, and when I'm stressed I eat.

I'm a 31 year old RN. Two years ago I met a 32 year old doctor. Handsome, tall, intelligent, sophisticated. I fell for him hard. A few months in he told me I was too heavy. And too dark...that he only really liked blue eyed blondes. I was so in love with him that I kept sleeping with him. But lately I decided I deserve more.

I joined a gym. Reduced my intake of junk. Lost 8lbs. Felt good. Got asked out by another handsome doctor and have the date planned. But I still love the first doctor and probably always will.

So he found out I'm going on the date. At first blocked me on whatsapp then unblocked me and apologised. Chatted for a bit and then asked if I'd like to go out for a drink. I told him no as I have a date. He said leave me alone then so I said I will.

Problem is I adore this man. If I thought for a second he liked me I would go to him. But this has happened before. He told me he loved me once asked me to be his girlfriend (after interrupting a date I hate and threatening the guy).....the next day he acted like it hadn't happened. Went back to ignoring me.

What should I do? I feel like eating a huge pizza! Don't want this to derail me :-(

Dude missing out on the brunettes.

tanny684

KrazyDaizy wrote: »

tanny684 wrote: »

So this is stressing me out, and when I'm stressed I eat.

I'm a 31 year old RN. Two years ago I met a 32 year old doctor. Handsome, tall, intelligent, sophisticated. I fell for him hard. A few months in he told me I was too heavy. And too dark...that he only really liked blue eyed blondes. I was so in love with him that I kept sleeping with him. But lately I decided I deserve more.

I joined a gym. Reduced my intake of junk. Lost 8lbs. Felt good. Got asked out by another handsome doctor and have the date planned. But I still love the first doctor and probably always will.

So he found out I'm going on the date. At first blocked me on whatsapp then unblocked me and apologised. Chatted for a bit and then asked if I'd like to go out for a drink. I told him no as I have a date. He said leave me alone then so I said I will.

Problem is I adore this man. If I thought for a second he liked me I would go to him. But this has happened before. He told me he loved me once asked me to be his girlfriend (after interrupting a date I hate and threatening the guy).....the next day he acted like it hadn't happened. Went back to ignoring me.

What should I do? I feel like eating a huge pizza! Don't want this to derail me :-(

Dude missing out on the brunettes.

Hahahaha love this

Flapjack_Mollases

I'm no therapist, but it sounds like this dude is stuck in adolescence. Sounds like he has to have his way, and pouts and throws a fit if he doesn't get it. I can promise you, you aren't going to change that.