What did they mean by this? Can't stop crying
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First of all you need to not worry what others think, what's important is how you feel. There will always been someone out there that says something cruel. Since I've lost weight I've been told I'm too skinney. I don't feel 125 for 5'3" is too skinney and I like my size. You definitely don't look fat. Your going about this the right way slow and steady so keep it up :}0
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It really makes me sad that there are ADULTS that think that cyber bullying is ok...
Get over yourself.
Exhibit A....smh
Telling someone to get over themselves is cyber bullying? Ummmm...wow. How do people function in life?
Haha I know right?
I'm a"bully" because I dont base my self worth on what random people online or on the street think of me?
I'm perfectly ok with that because it means I'll survive in this world and won't be reduced to tears over stupid ****.
Thats what being bullied as a kid does to you. Creates a thick skin.
So again, get over yourself and look up what bullying really is. Because this **** ain't it.
I hear that!!0 -
It really makes me sad that there are ADULTS that think that cyber bullying is ok...
Get over yourself.
Exhibit A....smh
It makes me sad that there are ADULTS who have no idea what cyber bullying is. A difference of opinion is not the same as bullying :flowerforyou:
Makes me sad that the phrase is thrown around so easily.
I've noticed it's usually proceeded by the poster saying the same thing over and over on the same post, no-one quotes or agrees with them so suddenly they are the victim of bullying...0 -
ignoring most of what's above
OP, I'd be stung too if that happened to me. In fact, it has, and worse was said. I remember thinking - 'what is it about me that inspires such horrible behaviour'? And the answer to that (for me and you) is absolutely nothing. They probably went half a block and yelled something else at a grandmother. They just use people as objects for their own amusement and it has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU except you happened to be there at the time, honestly.
Please meditate for a minute on how profoundly stupid those boys/men/cretins must be, and how good it is you're not either of them.0 -
Thats what being bullied as a kid does to you. Creates a thick skin.
I see where you're coming from on that one, but some people have different responses and coping mechanisms to the same experiences. And the point I and others are trying to make here is that THIS is supposed to be a supportive website, and attacking the OP is not helping at all. You think she doesn't realize she's more sensitive than some would think she should be? She does. Is pointing it out using harsh language going to change that? Nope. All it's going to do is make her even more upset than she was when she made the cry for help in the first place.0 -
Ok, tell that to the mods when they send you a message for your behavior after you've been reported...
Are you threatening people now? That if they don't "talk" the way You want them to, you are going to frivousky report people? Seems adult-like I guess.0 -
It really makes me sad that there are ADULTS that think that cyber bullying is ok...
Get over yourself.
Exhibit A....smh
It makes me sad that there are ADULTS who have no idea what cyber bullying is. A difference of opinion is not the same as bullying :flowerforyou:
Makes me sad that the phrase is thrown around so easily.
I've noticed it's usually proceeded by the poster saying the same thing over and over on the same post, no-one quotes or agrees with them so suddenly they are the victim of bullying...
I wasn't even talking about ME I was talking about THE OP. I did NOT make this post! I wasn't talking about anyone bullying ME. I was talking about the OP who probably isn't even reading this anymore! How is making fun of her and calling her an "attention *kitten*" supposed to help? She obviously needs to get some counselling or something to help her issues so why does it make you feel better to push her even further down?! It pisses me off when people attack others when they are already at a low point. Do you really want to be the person to push someone over the edge? One of my best friends killed themselves after something similar to this. If you must know THAT is why I feel the need to stand up for people like this. Yes, this is the internet and people are mean BUT that doesn't mean that I don't have the right to point out that it's wrong. Last time I checked this website was about motivation and support, not tearing each other down. Hopefully the mods help will keep it the way it's supposed to be. I will continue to tell people when they are in the wrong, even if I am one of the only ones that feels that way. Luckily, I have a thicker skin than the OP and I don't give a rat's behind what you think about ME but I DO care when you're hurting someone else who may not be as strong as I am.0 -
It really makes me sad that there are ADULTS that think that cyber bullying is ok...
Get over yourself.
Exhibit A....smh
It makes me sad that there are ADULTS who have no idea what cyber bullying is. A difference of opinion is not the same as bullying :flowerforyou:
Makes me sad that the phrase is thrown around so easily.
I've noticed it's usually proceeded by the poster saying the same thing over and over on the same post, no-one quotes or agrees with them so suddenly they are the victim of bullying...
I wasn't even talking about ME I was talking about THE OP. I did NOT make this post! I wasn't talking about anyone bullying ME. I was talking about the OP.
That's nice dear :flowerforyou:0 -
I'm HONESTLY not fishing for any compliments and would much rather people were honest with me
Seriously allow me to doubt that...you need to speak to someone about your self esteem issues IRL darlin...posting 2 threads (a second one because you didn't like the way the other was going?) on an internet forum to have random people explain to you "what did they mean by this?" is a bit much.
Self esteem issues are one of the hardest things to overcome and you aren't going to resolve them online. Best of luck to you.0 -
Judging from your profile pic and the fact that you wear UK-10 / US-6, I think they misspoke, and wanted to know if you wanted their sausage, not bacon.0
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To the OP:
1) I highly recommend counseling. Seriously. It's not a panacea, but it can be tremendously helpful.
2) Based on your profile pic, I'd guess it's at least as likely that they were body-shaming in the other direction. i.e. "Eat some bacon!" because they thought you were too skinny.
3) good luck0 -
to the OP. I think you are taking it the wrong way, Im pretty sure they meant, what are you doing walking down he road. Why arent you in the kitchen cooking the bacon. they were being sarcastic because of the lack of bacon, or you cooking it.0
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Maybe there was a cop nearby.0
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Hey, I give massive props to those of us who were victims of childhood bullying and came out swinging. We're fighters. And we need to advocate for those who weren't able to cope as well as we did, NOT attack them.0
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well from your profile pic i cant imagine for one minute how they could be calling you fat.
i have no idea what they are referring to on this though. its just immature men. ignore one bad comment. embrace all the positive ones :-)
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Boys and bacon. You know what, I strongly believe it was just a way of flirting. Your beautiful!0
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Hi everyone
So I was walking down the road this morning in shorts and a top when 2 guys yell from their van "oi love hows the bacon!" By this I can only assume they were calling me fat. I got home a few minutes ago and can't stop crying. A brief summary of my background is that I lost a lot of weight very quickly due to under eating and over-exercising. I then went travelling for 10 weeks and pretty much gained it all back which for anyone who has lost then gained weight knows, its freakin' tough!! I was feeling very low for a long time but finally decided in May to do something about it. Since then I have been losing weight sensibly. (eating well and going to the gym 5x a week for an hour and a half - 2 hours, not 7 days a week for 3-4 hours like before). The progress is slow and frustrating but I've actually started to feel a little better about myself these past couple of weeks and have started to notice improvements. Now I just feel awful again. I don't know how much I weigh as I got far too obsessed with the scales so ditched them last year, but I wear a clothes size 10 (that's UK size so a US size 6) If I had to guess I'd say I'm about 135Ibs. I KNOW I'm not a stick insect but I don't get how anyone can basically just yell at a girl "hey fatty" and not realise how it's deep that's gonna cut. Urh
All the girl is say is she was upset (Understandable is it can be taken as an insult! and not all of us do have think skin that life!!!) and that she didnt know what it means! Yes at the end of the day you could say who cares they are only a couple of idiot! BUT there is no need for insult she didnt bloody insult anyone! Its a fitness site for god sake! Not lets gather together and be massive arseholes site!!!0 -
OK, here's what happened (imho).
My husband was an *kitten* when he was younger (like high school. he's nicer now). He said he and his friends thought it was hilarious to yell things just like that to thin girls who were outside exercising. They would actually target thin girls--not heavy ones. They thought it was hilarious to "get in their heads." If I would have known him back then, I would have kicked him in the testicles. As hard as I could.
If it matters, my husband is now 295 lbs. himself. Ahhh, karma, right?! LOL. Seriously, though. You're thin. They were probably just trying to make you feel bad. You're clearly not overweight.0 -
No one is an arsehole, the guys did not call her fat. they were just reminding her of her place in the kitchen.,,cooking bacon for the football game on the tele...not on the road ..
All the girl is say is she was upset (Understandable is it can be taken as an insult! and not all of us do have think skin that life!!!) and that she didnt know what it means! Yes at the end of the day you could say who cares they are only a couple of idiot! BUT there is no need for insult she didnt bloody insult anyone! Its a fitness site for god sake! Not lets gather together and be massive arseholes site!!!
HAHAHAHAHAH Funny! Nice to know the bloke in the van turned up as I was talking about the arsehole on HERE!!!!0 -
I have to say what's really upsetting me about this is the fact that I have two young daughters aged 18 and 22. This girl is 21 years old. If one of my girls came home crying because if a comment some idiot had made (whether she took it the wrong way or not) I'd be horrified and even more distraught to think she may have logged onto a site like this to receive some of these horrible comments. The young lady has CLEARLY stated that she struggles with he esteem issues and also clearly explained why she made two posts. Yes it may look "attention seeking" but clearly she was in need of instant comfort and needed that support. I was bullied a lot when I was young and if back then I knew I could log onto a website and get some positive feedback like hell would I have. Lay off guys.0
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Look, can we all just stop talking about bacon? I already had breakfast and I have to wait a few more hours till I can eat lunch.
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I would have been like... "Bacon? Where? It's mine!!!! MINE!!!"
But when you're over weight it's easy to fall back to being the funny chick to advert the sadness you're feeling now OP.
It seems you recognize that you have self image issues but know- You look down right pretty to me and I'm a know it all...on the internet so everything I say is right...and I say you're gorgeous.0 -
I assume they were trying to flirt with you, but don't have the confidence required to do it correctly.
You are so correct.... Boy's in men's Bodies0 -
I think they were just saying they loves your back side:)0
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I would have been like... "Bacon? Where? It's mine!!!! MINE!!!"
But when you're over weight it's easy to fall back to being the funny chick to advert the sadness you're feeling now OP.
It seems you recognize that you have self image issues but know- You look down right pretty to me and I'm a know it all...on the internet so everything I say is right...and I say you're gorgeous.
You're a sweetheart.0 -
They most likely said "how's it shakin" IMO....because there is no way you are fat in any way at all. But don't give so much credit to stupid people, regardless of what they may or may not have said. They are not worth your tears.
HAHA THIS. Who calls girls bacon?0 -
She's 21. Give her a break. It bothered her by someone shouting to her out of their vehicle.
Maybe when the guys in the van mature they will figure out that shouting from the van is something that doesn't show much class.
Not everyone reacts to the same to each situation. It's great that some can just let it roll off their backs! Just because you can, doesn't mean everyone does.0 -
Don't cry, dear. They were flirting, albeit in a rude manner. Don't give them another thought!0
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When I was walking to a hotel from a baseball game in Pittsburgh a group of guys were stuck in traffic and yelled out "That's a hugggge b!tch."
I was walking a little behind but my whole family was there and heard it. I tried so hard to keep my chin up and the tears away. I think I was more embarrassed than anything. When I got back to the hotel room I locked myself in the bathroom and cried for a really long time.
That was the first time I had been yelled at like that and it broke my heart. My cousin told me that he must have insecurities in his own life, which may be true, but it didn't hurt any less. I think he was just trying to get a laugh with his friends at my expense.0 -
When I was walking to a hotel from a baseball game in Pittsburgh a group of guys were stuck in traffic and yelled out "That's a hugggge b!tch."
I was walking a little behind but my whole family was there and heard it. I tried so hard to keep my chin up and the tears away. I think I was more embarrassed than anything. When I got back to the hotel room I locked myself in the bathroom and cried for a really long time.
That was the first time I had been yelled at like that and it broke my heart. My cousin told me that he must have insecurities in his own life, which may be true, but it didn't hurt any less. I think he was just trying to get a laugh with his friends at my expense.
*hugs* well, glad you didn't let them hold you back from your success
. Hi5!!! 0
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