Weight loss for 19 year old girl
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fitnessfreak2537 wrote: »@fitnessfreak2537 I'm going to suggest an impediment to getting help. Of course this is a guess; I could be way off. If my guess hits home, consider how you might approach getting help differently. You would not have reached out otherwise.
I'm going to call this the good kid syndrome. I have it. The good kid pulls good grades, is smart and seemingly problem free. The parents justifiably boast on the kid's success and have high hopes for her future.
Somehow along the way the kid gets lost. She needs to get off the success train or slow down but failure is not something she is used to or even interested in finding out. She is also smart enough to hide her pain and deflect society's safeguards.
This kid is ready to implode. But it is easier to go along as of nothing is wrong. Disaster is certain.
All that is left is to decide how long the recovery will take.
Talking to a Columbia counsellor now will speed up your recovery. I'm trying to save you years of recovery.
My implosion cost me twenty years. I'm wiser for it but at what cost?
That's me exactly and I don't know how to handle it.
If you don't feel comfortable talking to your family first, I would start with talking to someone at the colleges counseling or medical center. You are at a fantastic school that has great resources, and this is a problem that happens frequently in colleges. You are an adult and they legally cannot tell your parents without your permission. If you can find a professional to support you, having the talk with your family will be easier.
I also suggest reaching out to a friend, teacher, team mate, or coach that you trust. You will be surprised how much support is there for you if you ask. Sometimes the simple act of letting someone else know we are struggling lift a huge weight from our shoulders because we know we are not alone.
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OP, I suffered from "good kid syndrome" too. My problem wasn't an eating disorder, but other than that, oh yeah I identify with @jgnatca wrote!
OP, it's okay not to be perfect. It's okay to need help. I know it's hard to ask for help, but you need to. You aren't a failure or a disappointment or a burden. I'm glad you opened up to us. We don't even know you, but we all want you to be healthy and safe. So imagine how much more your family and friends want you to be healthy and safe. Please reach out to them.4 -
BlueSkyShoal wrote: »OP, I suffered from "good kid syndrome" too. My problem wasn't an eating disorder, but other than that, oh yeah I identify with @jgnatca wrote!
OP, it's okay not to be perfect. It's okay to need help. I know it's hard to ask for help, but you need to. You aren't a failure or a disappointment or a burden. I'm glad you opened up to us. We don't even know you, but we all want you to be healthy and safe. So imagine how much more your family and friends want you to be healthy and safe. Please reach out to them.
Thank you. I'm currently being treated as an inpatient in a hospital back home in Boston for anorexia. Thank you everyone for helping me. I appreciate it more than you'll ever know.
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fitnessfreak2537 wrote: »As your performance drops eventually your coach will notice. It is your choice whether you pick the help you get or it gets forced on you.
You can either get help with your thinking while you are still at a healthy weight or spend years or never repairing the damage. (Heart, gall bladder, digestion, teeth, muscle tone, hair).
Are you going to college or anything? There should be free counselling there.
I am currently attending Columbia, majoring in biology and following a pred-med course.
How are you going to take care of others as a doctor when you can't take care of yourself? Are you going to suggest to patients that they loathe themselves, call themselves names and starve when they are at a healthy weight? No? Good. Then it's also not OK to tell yourself those things or do that to yourself. Physician, heal thyself.
If you're a college student you pay for the campus counseling center through your student fees, whether or not you use the service. So, you can afford it. And the services are confidential. You can choose to not go, but you have access to an affordable service through the campus.
Your body will not let you continue on this course. You can seek support now and begin working on retraining your mind, like you work on training your body, or do it when your body forces you to. Your road back will be so much harder and take more time, the longer you wait.
If you want to help people through medicine, you must first take care of yourself.0 -
fitnessfreak2537 wrote: »BlueSkyShoal wrote: »OP, I suffered from "good kid syndrome" too. My problem wasn't an eating disorder, but other than that, oh yeah I identify with @jgnatca wrote!
OP, it's okay not to be perfect. It's okay to need help. I know it's hard to ask for help, but you need to. You aren't a failure or a disappointment or a burden. I'm glad you opened up to us. We don't even know you, but we all want you to be healthy and safe. So imagine how much more your family and friends want you to be healthy and safe. Please reach out to them.
Thank you. I'm currently being treated as an inpatient in a hospital back home in Boston for anorexia. Thank you everyone for helping me. I appreciate it more than you'll ever know.
Very glad to see this update that you're getting help. Get better and get healthy soon.3 -
While sorry to hear you got sick enough to need treatment; extremely glad to hear that you ARE getting the treatment that you need.
Please take care of yourself.2 -
fitnessfreak2537 wrote: »BlueSkyShoal wrote: »OP, I suffered from "good kid syndrome" too. My problem wasn't an eating disorder, but other than that, oh yeah I identify with @jgnatca wrote!
OP, it's okay not to be perfect. It's okay to need help. I know it's hard to ask for help, but you need to. You aren't a failure or a disappointment or a burden. I'm glad you opened up to us. We don't even know you, but we all want you to be healthy and safe. So imagine how much more your family and friends want you to be healthy and safe. Please reach out to them.
Thank you. I'm currently being treated as an inpatient in a hospital back home in Boston for anorexia. Thank you everyone for helping me. I appreciate it more than you'll ever know.
That's amazing news. I'm so happy you took the step. I wish you so much success on your path. Be easy on yourself.2 -
Gosh I'm so glad to hear this. I didn't see this thread when you originally posted it, and was so worried for you reading it now! Wishing you the best with your recovery.fitnessfreak2537 wrote: »BlueSkyShoal wrote: »OP, I suffered from "good kid syndrome" too. My problem wasn't an eating disorder, but other than that, oh yeah I identify with @jgnatca wrote!
OP, it's okay not to be perfect. It's okay to need help. I know it's hard to ask for help, but you need to. You aren't a failure or a disappointment or a burden. I'm glad you opened up to us. We don't even know you, but we all want you to be healthy and safe. So imagine how much more your family and friends want you to be healthy and safe. Please reach out to them.
Thank you. I'm currently being treated as an inpatient in a hospital back home in Boston for anorexia. Thank you everyone for helping me. I appreciate it more than you'll ever know.
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