Worst part of losing weight?

JeromeBarry1

PeachesNcreamgal wrote: »

The worst part? I cant stop fantasising about food!! also cant stop checking out online food stores for desserts! this level of food porn is killing me

I bought some petites and also a couple of fruitcakes for Christmas. The petites weighed 30 grams and were 130 calories of all the worst and nastiest stuff you can tremble at. I had 30 grams of fruitcake every day for 3 months and lost weight doing it.

sunny_d22

JaydedMiss wrote: »

shadus wrote: »

New pants every month, meh.

spending a bunch on new job clothes and having them falling down a week later after a particularly strange week body shrinking wise. they were so tight and then suddeny just.....not....literally same week.

I've been buying some new clothes, but I'm thinking about not buying anymore until I lose these final 10 pounds I'm working on losing. My size is still changing and changing a lot. I have a lot of shorts for summer that are big, but still wearable.

smantha32

lilawolf wrote: »

HeliumIsNoble wrote: »

vespiquenn wrote: »

This might be an odd one, but I don't know if it's just that I'm more confident or it actually has to do with looks. But since I started my fitness journey, I have had to deal with many aggressive males. I've been sexually assaulted in a bar, followed in dark areas, etc. This never happened before, so I can't really figure out what to attribute it to. Either way, I really hate it because I don't like being fearful of places or people.

Don't want to 'like' this, but I have noticed similar.

Neither of you should "have to" but have you ever thought about doing Krav Maga or a similar self defense oriented martial art? It really helps with the confidence, and also so that you don't carry yourself like a victim. I've never been followed or attacked in any way despite traveling and being out on my own a lot. I think that has a lot to do with how aware I am, the calm eye contact I make, etc...

I've been thinking about taking Krava Maga. I know someone who got very fit taking those classes.

DietPrada

I also hate being "rewarded for eating less" by being robbed of calories. Like, well done, you've worked hard, now work harder. Screw it. I was also irrationally angry when my Doctor told me to take fish oil, 5 capsules a day, and I realised that was 100 calories. When my allowance is 1450. I'd rather have bad joints.

And today I'm wearing my favourite dress, wrap around and pretty forgiving in the weight department, but now it's too big. I've spent the whole day adjusting the top so it doesn't gape. SMH.

heiliskrimsli

kshama2001 wrote: »

vespiquenn wrote: »

lilawolf wrote: »

HeliumIsNoble wrote: »

vespiquenn wrote: »

This might be an odd one, but I don't know if it's just that I'm more confident or it actually has to do with looks. But since I started my fitness journey, I have had to deal with many aggressive males. I've been sexually assaulted in a bar, followed in dark areas, etc. This never happened before, so I can't really figure out what to attribute it to. Either way, I really hate it because I don't like being fearful of places or people.

Don't want to 'like' this, but I have noticed similar.

Neither of you should "have to" but have you ever thought about doing Krav Maga or a similar self defense oriented martial art? It really helps with the confidence, and also so that you don't carry yourself like a victim. I've never been followed or attacked in any way despite traveling and being out on my own a lot. I think that has a lot to do with how aware I am, the calm eye contact I make, etc...

Sorry, you lost me at "carrying yourself as a victim." But yes, I have taken self-defense classes. That has nothing to do with it. But I'm glad you haven't encountered this.

It wasn't specifically called "carrying yourself as a victim" but this was covered in my self defense class. And in the Girl Scouts.

I'm thinking back over my history with harassment and note it dropped precipitously while I was in the military so wonder if I developed some sort of "don't mess with me vibe" while I was in there. I was in a macho specialty and was the only female in my tech school class and duty station sections. I received a lot of attention, but no harassment, except from a supervisor who didn't think women should be in the military, so not the sort of harassment under discussion. I did observe this, though.

I also wonder how working with machine guns, shotguns, and WMDs changed me.

There's a lot about how people carry themselves, how they walk, how they stand, how they look at the world, that tells other people whether they would be a less risky or more risky target for attack. People who lack situational awareness, who are walking with shoulders hunched staring at the ground while moving very slowly give off more of a prey vibe than someone whose carriage is straight up, head forward, looking at their surroundings, and moving more purposefully, making eye contact with others.

Even facial expression is a signal to other people, and if you can master the facial expression that looks like you're capable of killing someone, you're less a target than a person whose face reads fear or an inability/unwillingness to fight back.

Opportunity criminals like muggers are predators and they're looking for easy prey. You've learned how to project that you are not prey, and it's one of the first things that gets taught in self defense classes.

That is not to say that self defense classes are magic and make one invincible to any foe, and should make a person take unnecessary risks, but it is good to have some tools at your disposal to make you a less desirable attack target to the muggers of the world.

RUNucbar

My dad telling me to stop using a scale because it will lead to an unhealthy obsession. I stop weighing for a few weeks and gain a little. He tells me that just means I'm doing it on purpose.

Him, he's the worst bit. And people who think wanting to change is somehow odd. Other people really

RUNucbar

heiliskrimsli wrote: »

Even facial expression is a signal to other people, and if you can master the facial expression that looks like you're capable of killing someone, you're less a target than a person whose face reads fear or an inability/unwillingness to fight back.

Another bad bit is walking round town to find new clothes. I hate shopping and spending money but I do have 'resting b-face' so those overly enthusiastic street leaflet / salespeople leave me alone. It's a bad thing about losing weight but the air of Get. Out. Of. My. Way is a positive

CSARdiver

emmaling142 wrote: »

My dad telling me to stop using a scale because it will lead to an unhealthy obsession. I stop weighing for a few weeks and gain a little. He tells me that just means I'm doing it on purpose.

Him, he's the worst bit. And people who think wanting to change is somehow odd. Other people really

Successful people take responsibility and take control. This is a threat to those mired in a victim mindset - if you can lose weight and eat "bad" foods, then this means that the problem isn't the food, but your behavior - many simply cannot accept that.

Counting calories is no different than balancing a checkbook, but while we would consider someone unaware of their finances foolish, the same doesn't carry over in weight management.