Maybe my husband is attracted to bigger women???
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This thread's kind of wacky. 2/10 would not bang. just look at a litle. and finger somewhat.0
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This thread's kind of wacky. 2/10 would not bang. just look at a litle. and finger somewhat.
lol... huh?0 -
Looking at your profile, he's busy. If he's anything like my husband, if he's told you once, it doesn't occur to him you would like to hear it again. Your new awesomeness has just become familiar to him. (We have 5 adult children, and I used to home school them as well).0
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Have the two of you taken a break from the kids? Get way, either an over nighter or a long dinner date if that isn't possible. So he can meet the new you. The only way you will know what is going on with him is if you talk to him about it in neutral territory. Let him know how you feel about the new you and what you want the future to be like (happy, healthy, fit, energized, etc.)
My husband actually prefers thinner women but he loves me when I am thin and he loves me when I am fat, like I am now. We have been together almost 40 yrs now. He watches his weight and just doesn't allow himself to get fat, his mom's influence. He realizes I am just not wired that way. He loves me, the body wrapped around my inner self just isn't that important to him.
Yes, I am very lucky!0 -
Have the two of you taken a break from the kids? Get way, either an over nighter or a long dinner date if that isn't possible. So he can meet the new you. The only way you will know what is going on with him is if you talk to him about it in neutral territory. Let him know how you feel about the new you and what you want the future to be like (happy, healthy, fit, energized, etc.)
My husband actually prefers thinner women but he loves me when I am thin and he loves me when I am fat, like I am now. We have been together almost 40 yrs now. He watches his weight and just doesn't allow himself to get fat, his mom's influence. He realizes I am just not wired that way. He loves me, the body wrapped around my inner self just isn't that important to him.
Yes, I am very lucky!
no, I don't know if we have ever had a night away from the kids... would be nice...0 -
Have you checked his internet browsing history? Does he like adult sites that cater to guys that like bigger women? If he deletes his history, try a key logger, and see what he's typing.0
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It's not him, it's you. Stop needing him to validate you. You made this miraculous transformation for YOU. He loved you as much then as he does now. His love and affection for you wasn't rooted in your physical appearance.0
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Have you checked his internet browsing history? Does he like adult sites that cater to guys that like bigger women? If he deletes his history, try a key logger, and see what he's typing.
no, hes not into anything like that. no deleted history, I check the history all the time since we have teenagers... hes not into porn stuff or anything like that... he doesn't have time for that kinda stuff anyways... he works full time, hes also a full time student, and all 5 of our kids play sports...0 -
what's his number?
KIDDING0 -
It's not him, it's you. Stop needing him to validate you. You made this miraculous transformation for YOU. He loved you as much then as he does now. His love and affection for you wasn't rooted in your physical appearance.
I know... I just wish I felt like he wanted me every once in a while, instead of feeling like a walking womb with a vacuum
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It might be too that because he sees you every day and if the weight loss has been gradual maybe he doesn't see it as such a big deal. Was he ever a 'pervert' (your words not mine lol!) if he was never a sexual person you can't really expect him to be now right? As long as he is consistent I wouldn't worry at all. By the way you look amazing!!!!0
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what's his number?
KIDDING
lol...0 -
Is he receiving his carnal needs elsewhere, perhaps? Is he taking longer showers, or other time in the bathroom?
no, hes not into anything like that. no deleted history, I check the history all the time since we have teenagers... hes not into porn stuff or anything like that... he doesn't have time for that kinda stuff anyways... he works full time, hes also a full time student, and all 5 of our kids play sports...Have you checked his internet browsing history? Does he like adult sites that cater to guys that like bigger women? If he deletes his history, try a key logger, and see what he's typing.
Has he had trouble with endurance when you are intimate? Maybe he has performance anxiety.0 -
It might be too that because he sees you every day and if the weight loss has been gradual maybe he doesn't see it as such a big deal. Was he ever a 'pervert' (your words not mine lol!) if he was never a sexual person you can't really expect him to be now right? As long as he is consistent I wouldn't worry at all. By the way you look amazing!!!!
it was actually really quick... from 246 to 160 since last September! and yes, he was once a pervert, long ago... 0 -
Is he receiving his carnal needs elsewhere, perhaps? Is he taking longer showers, or other time in the bathroom?
no, hes not into anything like that. no deleted history, I check the history all the time since we have teenagers... hes not into porn stuff or anything like that... he doesn't have time for that kinda stuff anyways... he works full time, hes also a full time student, and all 5 of our kids play sports...Have you checked his internet browsing history? Does he like adult sites that cater to guys that like bigger women? If he deletes his history, try a key logger, and see what he's typing.
Has he had trouble with endurance when you are intimate? Maybe he has performance anxiety.
honestly, neither one of us can use the bathroom without a kid either walking in, or trying to get in... lol... my 7 year old has mastered picking locks with a bobby pin! as for performance issues... I don't think that's an issue... I think hes just tired and overworked, and I was expecting too much...0 -
I agree with the idea that he may be insecure. Easy fix: give him as much attention as you possibly can!! Just reassure him that you're not going anywhere, and action speak louder than words... so maybe spend some quality time with his one eyed trouser snake?
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thanks again for all of the input! it has really helped. I have to head out now, gotta drop the 3 older ones at church, then head to the gym... I really appreciate everyones help!0
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I haven't read through the other posts, so pardon me if I'm echoing sentiments. My guess is that he's scared of your weight loss...you're looking good and he feels like "holy ****, she's not the same woman", 'Do I need to lose weight now?" "Will she leave me?" Some folks feel threatened by change.0
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Is he older than you by much? I find a lot of my friends who's husband's are say 10 years older are so tired after working all day and dealing with kids when they come home they fall asleep too early for anything to happen
when in doubt talk to him.
Wow that's an amazing weight loss, you should share your tips! 0 -
To summarize:
When they were young, they were more sexually active.
They have 5 kids now and can't even take a crap without a kid walking in.
They aren't very sexually active.
She's never been comfortable with her body and still isn't.
She doesn't initiate any sexual behavior and never has.
She's thinner and hoped he'd be fired up and pervy, but nothing has changed.
Not sure how this is about the husband liking bigger women.0
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