My friend constantly vents to me about his girl ... at this point what do I say to him?
My guy friend has a girlfriend , they've been together for one year and he is miserable. He is very affectionate and she doesn't give him any affection back he likes to cuddle ,kiss,hold hands etc and she never initiates any of that.
He pays all of the bills and she only pays her half of the rent and she makes a lot more money than he does and he buys the washing powder ,dish detergent etc so basically she only pays for one thing. He finds it weird that she goes to her moms house every single day.
When he calls her he says that she acts like he's bothering her. Also he says he has tried to break up with her once before and she went to his bestfriend and tried to talk him into getting them back together.... he talks about leaving her then calls me and complains about how he feels about her and how he dislikes her personality ...
why won't he leave her then? I'm trying to be a good friend and be supportive but I don't get him
He pays all of the bills and she only pays her half of the rent and she makes a lot more money than he does and he buys the washing powder ,dish detergent etc so basically she only pays for one thing. He finds it weird that she goes to her moms house every single day.
When he calls her he says that she acts like he's bothering her. Also he says he has tried to break up with her once before and she went to his bestfriend and tried to talk him into getting them back together.... he talks about leaving her then calls me and complains about how he feels about her and how he dislikes her personality ...
why won't he leave her then? I'm trying to be a good friend and be supportive but I don't get him
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Is she hot?4
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abitoftrouble wrote: »Let him live his life. Nothing you say to him is going to make him change his mind.
I am letting him live his life but he vents like .. what am I supposed to do ?0 -
SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »Is she hot?
She's okay she's not ugly0 -
abitoftrouble wrote: »Let him live his life. Nothing you say to him is going to make him change his mind.
I bet I could think of something...0 -
@abitoftrouble wrote: »abitoftrouble wrote: »Let him live his life. Nothing you say to him is going to make him change his mind.
I am letting him live his life but he vents like .. what am I supposed to do ?
Honestly, I would simply say I'm not going to listen to you complain about a problem that you're not willing to fix.
You stole that from my conversation with you yesterday.
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Bang his gf2
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I'd let him know that while I realize he's venting, the problems aren't going to go anywhere and if he truly wants to be happy, he needs to move on from her.1
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OP guy or girl?0
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_har_T_Swallow wrote: »there's nothing wrong with their relationship. he's just trying to get with you too.
I doubt it lol
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abitoftrouble wrote: »SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »@abitoftrouble wrote: »abitoftrouble wrote: »Let him live his life. Nothing you say to him is going to make him change his mind.
I am letting him live his life but he vents like .. what am I supposed to do ?
Honestly, I would simply say I'm not going to listen to you complain about a problem that you're not willing to fix.
You stole that from my conversation with you yesterday.
I believe you have me mistaken for some other mentally challenged middle aged dude
Could be. The list is long.
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indigoblue9572 wrote: »I'd let him know that while I realize he's venting, the problems aren't going to go anywhere and if he truly wants to be happy, he needs to move on from her.
Thanks nicely said I can't wait to say this the next time he brings this up
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abitoftrouble wrote: »abitoftrouble wrote: »Let him live his life. Nothing you say to him is going to make him change his mind.
I am letting him live his life but he vents like .. what am I supposed to do ?
Honestly, I would simply say I'm not going to listen to you complain about a problem that you're not willing to fix.
This, tell him to stop complaining to you about his relationship problems.0 -
Your guy friend wants to get with you2
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_har_T_Swallow wrote: »there's nothing wrong with their relationship. he's just trying to get with you too.
Yup. Why else would a guy have bitchsessions about his girlfriend to his female friend. Either this or he has not yet come out of the closet.
p.s. I'm kidding. I'm sleepy and silly right now.1 -
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Had a friend that did the same things for almost 20 years. I would always ask if there was ANYTHING he liked about his wife and why he stayed married. Finally got divorced and although he is much happier, most of that has to do with his attitude change towards his new SO.
Funny how looking at the good in people shadows the bad, and vice versa.1 -
Maybe tell him to post on a fitness site to get answers...4
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He wants to have you on the side1
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Or he is waiting for you to show interest before he leaves the other3
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He wants to have you on the side
Oh wow thanks guys for answering
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Some ppl like to piss and moan about everything. I'd follow @abitoftrouble advice here but you know him better than us. Go in direct and hard and tell him to stop complaining if he isn't going to do anything about it or go softy softy and try talk him round.1
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Tell him you are sick of him complaining about his girl and he can dump her or not but you are done listening to it. Then when he starts complaing make one conversation topic change. "How about the cubs this year? " if continues to complain stand up say you will see him later and walk away.1
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I think you knew that.. you just wanted justification/ confirmation before u jumped in1
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abitoftrouble wrote: »
Sure0 -
abitoftrouble wrote: »abitoftrouble wrote: »
Sure
Well now that's better, isn't it. Nice PP
It was clear, which is good, right?0
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