My friend constantly vents to me about his girl ... at this point what do I say to him?

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trytpbme1
trytpbme1 Posts: 107 Member
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My guy friend has a girlfriend , they've been together for one year and he is miserable. He is very affectionate and she doesn't give him any affection back he likes to cuddle ,kiss,hold hands etc and she never initiates any of that.
He pays all of the bills and she only pays her half of the rent and she makes a lot more money than he does and he buys the washing powder ,dish detergent etc so basically she only pays for one thing. He finds it weird that she goes to her moms house every single day.
When he calls her he says that she acts like he's bothering her. Also he says he has tried to break up with her once before and she went to his bestfriend and tried to talk him into getting them back together.... he talks about leaving her then calls me and complains about how he feels about her and how he dislikes her personality ...
why won't he leave her then? I'm trying to be a good friend and be supportive but I don't get him
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  • SomebodyWakeUpHIcks
    SomebodyWakeUpHIcks Posts: 3,836 Member
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    Is she hot?
  • trytpbme1
    trytpbme1 Posts: 107 Member
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    abitoftrouble wrote: »
    Let him live his life. Nothing you say to him is going to make him change his mind.

    I am letting him live his life but he vents like .. what am I supposed to do ?
  • trytpbme1
    trytpbme1 Posts: 107 Member
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    SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »
    Is she hot?

    She's okay she's not ugly
  • NorthCascades
    NorthCascades Posts: 10,968 Member
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    abitoftrouble wrote: »
    Let him live his life. Nothing you say to him is going to make him change his mind.

    I bet I could think of something...
  • SomebodyWakeUpHIcks
    SomebodyWakeUpHIcks Posts: 3,836 Member
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    @abitoftrouble wrote: »
    trytpbme1 wrote: »
    abitoftrouble wrote: »
    Let him live his life. Nothing you say to him is going to make him change his mind.

    I am letting him live his life but he vents like .. what am I supposed to do ?

    Honestly, I would simply say I'm not going to listen to you complain about a problem that you're not willing to fix.

    You stole that from my conversation with you yesterday.
  • tsortsor
    tsortsor Posts: 830 Member
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    Bang his gf
  • PrincessMel72
    PrincessMel72 Posts: 1,094 Member
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    I'd let him know that while I realize he's venting, the problems aren't going to go anywhere and if he truly wants to be happy, he needs to move on from her.
  • tsortsor
    tsortsor Posts: 830 Member
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    OP guy or girl?
  • trytpbme1
    trytpbme1 Posts: 107 Member
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    tsortsor wrote: »
    OP guy or girl?

    Female
  • trytpbme1
    trytpbme1 Posts: 107 Member
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    _har_T_Swallow wrote: »
    there's nothing wrong with their relationship. he's just trying to get with you too.


    I doubt it lol
  • SomebodyWakeUpHIcks
    SomebodyWakeUpHIcks Posts: 3,836 Member
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    abitoftrouble wrote: »
    SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »
    @abitoftrouble wrote: »
    trytpbme1 wrote: »
    abitoftrouble wrote: »
    Let him live his life. Nothing you say to him is going to make him change his mind.

    I am letting him live his life but he vents like .. what am I supposed to do ?

    Honestly, I would simply say I'm not going to listen to you complain about a problem that you're not willing to fix.

    You stole that from my conversation with you yesterday.

    I believe you have me mistaken for some other mentally challenged middle aged dude

    Could be. The list is long.
  • trytpbme1
    trytpbme1 Posts: 107 Member
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    indigoblue9572 wrote: »
    I'd let him know that while I realize he's venting, the problems aren't going to go anywhere and if he truly wants to be happy, he needs to move on from her.


    Thanks nicely said I can't wait to say this the next time he brings this up
  • DasItMan91
    DasItMan91 Posts: 5,753 Member
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    abitoftrouble wrote: »
    trytpbme1 wrote: »
    abitoftrouble wrote: »
    Let him live his life. Nothing you say to him is going to make him change his mind.

    I am letting him live his life but he vents like .. what am I supposed to do ?

    Honestly, I would simply say I'm not going to listen to you complain about a problem that you're not willing to fix.

    This, tell him to stop complaining to you about his relationship problems.
  • tsortsor
    tsortsor Posts: 830 Member
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    Your guy friend wants to get with you
  • Just_J_Now
    Just_J_Now Posts: 9,551 Member
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    _har_T_Swallow wrote: »
    there's nothing wrong with their relationship. he's just trying to get with you too.

    Yup. Why else would a guy have bitchsessions about his girlfriend to his female friend. Either this or he has not yet come out of the closet. :o

    p.s. I'm kidding. I'm sleepy and silly right now.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,841 Member
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    Had a friend that did the same things for almost 20 years. I would always ask if there was ANYTHING he liked about his wife and why he stayed married. Finally got divorced and although he is much happier, most of that has to do with his attitude change towards his new SO.

    Funny how looking at the good in people shadows the bad, and vice versa.
  • trytpbme1
    trytpbme1 Posts: 107 Member
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    tsortsor wrote: »
    Your guy friend wants to get with you

    Well why would he complain about his gf and not leave her I doubt it lol
  • Chieflrg
    Chieflrg Posts: 9,097 Member
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    Maybe tell him to post on a fitness site to get answers...

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