My friend constantly vents to me about his girl ... at this point what do I say to him?
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I thought you all could figure it out0
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@MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »abitoftrouble wrote: »SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »@abitoftrouble wrote: »abitoftrouble wrote: »Let him live his life. Nothing you say to him is going to make him change his mind.
I am letting him live his life but he vents like .. what am I supposed to do ?
Honestly, I would simply say I'm not going to listen to you complain about a problem that you're not willing to fix.
You stole that from my conversation with you yesterday.
I believe you have me mistaken for some other mentally challenged middle aged dude
My name is MeeseeksAndDestroy...
I did not tag you
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If you tell him to shut up about it, will he find something else to b**** about?1
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Ironandwine69 wrote: »If you tell him to shut up about it, will he find something else to b**** about?Ironandwine69 wrote: »If you tell him to shut up about it, will he find something else to b**** about?
Lol
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MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »@MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »abitoftrouble wrote: »SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »@abitoftrouble wrote: »abitoftrouble wrote: »Let him live his life. Nothing you say to him is going to make him change his mind.
I am letting him live his life but he vents like .. what am I supposed to do ?
Honestly, I would simply say I'm not going to listen to you complain about a problem that you're not willing to fix.
You stole that from my conversation with you yesterday.
I believe you have me mistaken for some other mentally challenged middle aged dude
My name is MeeseeksAndDestroy...
I did not tag you
I did not tag you
I did not tag you
You've shown impressive restraint
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TannedTiger wrote: »
Be generous and do it for him.
He's got a good point.
That's what good friends do.0 -
My guy friend has a girlfriend , they've been together for one year and he is miserable. He is very affectionate and she doesn't give him any affection back he likes to cuddle ,kiss,hold hands etc and she never initiates any of that.
He pays all of the bills and she only pays her half of the rent and she makes a lot more money than he does and he buys the washing powder ,dish detergent etc so basically she only pays for one thing. He finds it weird that she goes to her moms house every single day.
When he calls her he says that she acts like he's bothering her. Also he says he has tried to break up with her once before and she went to his bestfriend and tried to talk him into getting them back together.... he talks about leaving her then calls me and complains about how he feels about her and how he dislikes her personality ...
why won't he leave her then? I'm trying to be a good friend and be supportive but I don't get him
You say, "Friend, please do not get me involved in your relationship. If you have a problem in your relationship the best thing for you to do is talk to her honestly about your feelings on these issues or find a couple's therapist to help you guys talk things out."2 -
My guy friend has a girlfriend , they've been together for one year and he is miserable. He is very affectionate and she doesn't give him any affection back he likes to cuddle ,kiss,hold hands etc and she never initiates any of that.
He pays all of the bills and she only pays her half of the rent and she makes a lot more money than he does and he buys the washing powder ,dish detergent etc so basically she only pays for one thing. He finds it weird that she goes to her moms house every single day.
When he calls her he says that she acts like he's bothering her. Also he says he has tried to break up with her once before and she went to his bestfriend and tried to talk him into getting them back together.... he talks about leaving her then calls me and complains about how he feels about her and how he dislikes her personality ...
why won't he leave her then? I'm trying to be a good friend and be supportive but I don't get him
I'd suggest to him to break up with her, it sounds like a bad match. I'd tell him that he deserves to be happier.
If he comes up with another excuse maybe he is one of those people who just doesn't like to be alone and would rather be in a crappy relationship then none at all, I know several people that just don't like to be single.
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My guy friend has a girlfriend , they've been together for one year and he is miserable. He is very affectionate and she doesn't give him any affection back he likes to cuddle ,kiss,hold hands etc and she never initiates any of that.
He pays all of the bills and she only pays her half of the rent and she makes a lot more money than he does and he buys the washing powder ,dish detergent etc so basically she only pays for one thing. He finds it weird that she goes to her moms house every single day.
When he calls her he says that she acts like he's bothering her. Also he says he has tried to break up with her once before and she went to his bestfriend and tried to talk him into getting them back together.... he talks about leaving her then calls me and complains about how he feels about her and how he dislikes her personality ...
why won't he leave her then? I'm trying to be a good friend and be supportive but I don't get him
I'd suggest to him to break up with her, it sounds like a bad match. I'd tell him that he deserves to be happier.
If he comes up with another excuse maybe he is one of those people who just doesn't like to be alone and would rather be in a crappy relationship then none at all, I know several people that just don't like to be single.My guy friend has a girlfriend , they've been together for one year and he is miserable. He is very affectionate and she doesn't give him any affection back he likes to cuddle ,kiss,hold hands etc and she never initiates any of that.
He pays all of the bills and she only pays her half of the rent and she makes a lot more money than he does and he buys the washing powder ,dish detergent etc so basically she only pays for one thing. He finds it weird that she goes to her moms house every single day.
When he calls her he says that she acts like he's bothering her. Also he says he has tried to break up with her once before and she went to his bestfriend and tried to talk him into getting them back together.... he talks about leaving her then calls me and complains about how he feels about her and how he dislikes her personality ...
why won't he leave her then? I'm trying to be a good friend and be supportive but I don't get him
You say, "Friend, please do not get me involved in your relationship. If you have a problem in your relationship the best thing for you to do is talk to her honestly about your feelings on these issues or find a couple's therapist to help you guys talk things out."
Thank you I loved both of you guys's advice
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Try and break up? That's new1
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Is he coming to you just to complain or is he looking for advice? If he's just complaining, just be his friend and let him vent.1
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browneyedgirl749 wrote: »Is he coming to you just to complain or is he looking for advice? If he's just complaining, just be his friend and let him vent.
really good point
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browneyedgirl749 wrote: »Is he coming to you just to complain or is he looking for advice? If he's just complaining, just be his friend and let him vent.
I honestly don't know but he says the same thing every time we hang out he asked me for advice a couple of weeks ago but ever since then it's been the same routine0 -
Kevoofthehoradrim wrote: »Try and break up? That's new
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Because breaking up with a girlfriend or a boyfriend of one year, with whom you have no kids... isn't that hard. You don't need to get the other person's signed agreement in their heart's blood before you can end the relationship. You just say, "this isn't working for me any more".Kevoofthehoradrim wrote: »Try and break up? That's new
How is that new?
They're renting, no mortgage, too.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ABXtWqmArUU
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Tell him to break up with her if he's that miserable. That's pretty much all you can do.. every single time he complains, lol.1
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Isn't there a song by The Offspring about this?2
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My guy friend has a girlfriend , they've been together for one year and he is miserable. He is very affectionate and she doesn't give him any affection back he likes to cuddle ,kiss,hold hands etc and she never initiates any of that.
He pays all of the bills and she only pays her half of the rent and she makes a lot more money than he does and he buys the washing powder ,dish detergent etc so basically she only pays for one thing. He finds it weird that she goes to her moms house every single day.
When he calls her he says that she acts like he's bothering her. Also he says he has tried to break up with her once before and she went to his bestfriend and tried to talk him into getting them back together.... he talks about leaving her then calls me and complains about how he feels about her and how he dislikes her personality ...
why won't he leave her then? I'm trying to be a good friend and be supportive but I don't get him
He should get a cat.1 -
HeliumIsNoble wrote: »
Because breaking up with a girlfriend or a boyfriend of one year, with whom you have no kids... isn't that hard. You don't need to get the other person's signed agreement in their heart's blood before you can end the relationship. You just say, "this isn't working for me any more".Kevoofthehoradrim wrote: »Try and break up? That's new
How is that new?
They're renting, no mortgage, too.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ABXtWqmArUUTell him to break up with her if he's that miserable. That's pretty much all you can do.. every single time he complains, lol.
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My guy friend has a girlfriend , they've been together for one year and he is miserable. He is very affectionate and she doesn't give him any affection back he likes to cuddle ,kiss,hold hands etc and she never initiates any of that.
He pays all of the bills and she only pays her half of the rent and she makes a lot more money than he does and he buys the washing powder ,dish detergent etc so basically she only pays for one thing. He finds it weird that she goes to her moms house every single day.
When he calls her he says that she acts like he's bothering her. Also he says he has tried to break up with her once before and she went to his bestfriend and tried to talk him into getting them back together.... he talks about leaving her then calls me and complains about how he feels about her and how he dislikes her personality ...
why won't he leave her then? I'm trying to be a good friend and be supportive but I don't get him
He should get a cat.
Why a cat lol
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If you act like a doormat, you'll get treated like a doormat.0
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Cameron_1969 wrote: »If you act like a doormat, you'll get treated like a doormat.
That's true !!1 -
When he calls and complains about her just change the subject, don't even entertain it. He's choosing not to leave a bad situation, at this point he deserves what happens to him.0
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Actions speak louder than words. I would tell him to stop talking and start walking. Keep it simple.0
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Cerealsensei wrote: »When he calls and complains about her just change the subject, don't even entertain it. He's choosing not to leave a bad situation, at this point he deserves what happens to him.Actions speak louder than words. I would tell him to stop talking and start walking. Keep it simple.
Thanks for the advice guys
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