Beautiful Behaviors - May 2017
jessiquoi
Posts: 400 Member
This thread will be for people who are focusing on creating a set of gorgeous habits that support a healthy lifestyle.
Weight loss is a byproduct, and not the focus. We will practice self-care by eating healthy foods, moving our bodies, drinking enough water, and other activities that make us FEEL GOOD without harmful effects.
For example, taking an hour with your current book on your favorite lounge chair is a great way to take care of yourself. Get a massage or facial, spend time with a friend, crafting… all good ways to make us feel good without the harmful effects of immediate gratification activities like overeating or indulging in other unhealthy activities. It’s all about taking care of ourselves and loving ourselves and making ourselves happy EVEN IF we are not at a weight we love right now.
Yes, we want to lose weight, but there’s more to life than that. Sometimes giving yourself a foot massage will keep you from the donut. Sometimes it won’t but you will still feel better.
This is a judgment free zone. Let’s support each other and leave the negativity offline. I’m tired of beating myself up about my size. I want to plan to do the best I can and not feel guilty about life getting in the way.
I’m a big believer in baby steps, and setting realistic goals, and celebrating every little success! No reason we can’t enjoy the journey to a healthier lifestyle, no reason we have to feel “wrong” because we are where we are.
If you like the way this sounds, please introduce yourself in this thread. Share whatever you like and come back often! I look forward to meeting people with similar attitudes towards life.
Weight loss is a byproduct, and not the focus. We will practice self-care by eating healthy foods, moving our bodies, drinking enough water, and other activities that make us FEEL GOOD without harmful effects.
For example, taking an hour with your current book on your favorite lounge chair is a great way to take care of yourself. Get a massage or facial, spend time with a friend, crafting… all good ways to make us feel good without the harmful effects of immediate gratification activities like overeating or indulging in other unhealthy activities. It’s all about taking care of ourselves and loving ourselves and making ourselves happy EVEN IF we are not at a weight we love right now.
Yes, we want to lose weight, but there’s more to life than that. Sometimes giving yourself a foot massage will keep you from the donut. Sometimes it won’t but you will still feel better.
This is a judgment free zone. Let’s support each other and leave the negativity offline. I’m tired of beating myself up about my size. I want to plan to do the best I can and not feel guilty about life getting in the way.
I’m a big believer in baby steps, and setting realistic goals, and celebrating every little success! No reason we can’t enjoy the journey to a healthier lifestyle, no reason we have to feel “wrong” because we are where we are.
If you like the way this sounds, please introduce yourself in this thread. Share whatever you like and come back often! I look forward to meeting people with similar attitudes towards life.
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Hope everyone is having a great day.
Update: My first day on my cut went great! I hit my macronutrient goals. My bf and I completed 117 minutes of biceps, triceps and HIIT treadmill. It felt awesome to push myself and get back into the gym. I hope I can keep the momentum up and stay this excited about changing nutrition and my workouts up.
I'm in a bad mood today because it's raining AGAIN! It's been raining non stop it seems like for 40 days and 40 nights! And 1 person at work just annoys the living daylights out of me. I'm trying to count my blessings. Practice positive vibes, count blessings and meditate - this will be todays' goals, for sure!
Thought of the day: Once you see results, it becomes an addiction. **Don't I know it! I have people in my life who would probably say I'm addicted to working out However, at least it's a positive addiction lol. I have had results with different exercise and different nutrition plans; I enjoy challenging myself. And just when I think I've tried or heard of everything, I learn something new. Keep going9 -
Hey all!
Beautiful behavior of the day.....
Tweaking my calories. I've looked at my diary for the past 2 weeks and see where I can shave off 100 calories or so....and do it easily so it's really not missed. A lot of times it is a swap.
Taking the time to think about whether I am full with a certain meal....and am I eating extra needlessly.
Protein vs. carbs...yadda yadda
Have a great one! Kim8 -
I just had a looooong talk with the guy at work who is also diabetic about his low carb diet. I'm giving it yet another shot this week, and look forward to the same wonderful results I got the first time. except, I'd like to get past the crankiness this time! wish me luck again.6
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Hello Ladies,
@happysherri - I am still trying to get addicted to working out. I was there once upon a time and now I just have to work back to it. Today will be a good test of that...hours of pickleball.
@jessiquoi - you can do it.
Upped my protein for this week. Trying to cut those carbs and sub with the right things.
Still no dt dew...still surprisingly no one has died yet. My husband has stated on occasion that I might need a dt dew or even a one point handed me one. LOL I did not drink it but tried to not be so cranky. Today I am really tired so I am really fighting the urge. I am drinking sparkling water to help with the missing my dt dew. Its helping but I sure am missing that taste.
We are doing a corporate workout challenge at work. It is based on minutes of individual workout time. Our company is also competing against others in the tristate as a charity event. We are a sporting goods company so we should win this. (we got out butts whooped last year - finished 22 out of like 30 teams) We should be a leader in the community when it comes to working out. We have everything at our disposal for free...a gym, basketball courts, free core and boot camp classes, pickleball courts etc. I am going to push myself this month.
Doing the May step challenge also - though I was sick last week so I am down 20,000 steps already that I have to make up. Gonna do it though.
So goals for this week... - keep away from the dt dew
get those extra steps in so I need 12,000 average (then I will make up the other 10,000 next week)
Be conscious of my snack choices
Cook dinner at least 4 or 5 times this week.4 -
My goals this week are to hit my 2000 cals a day with 100g of protein at least.
I also want to do leg training tommorow morning, and arms on thursday.
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cooking for the first time in ages (john does most of the cooking). making chicken breasts in peanut sauce. maybe spinach on the side. i feel weird in my kitchen that isn't a kitchen! my blood sugar was awesome today on day 1 of low carb take 2.
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I put the baby in daycare today and took a day for myself. Went to my new (upgraded!) gym and tried a strength/cardio interval class. Since my injury in January I haven't been. My goal is to take these classes slow until I am sure a move is going to be safe and effective for me.
Then I got a massage! I have super tight leg muscles and some knee pain and I'm going to make a fabulous habit of taking better care of my muscles with massage. My therapist walked on my legs for 45 minutes it was great. I am trying to feel grateful for today, and not guilty for indulging so much... it was such a nice break!5 -
Yay me! I got out of bed for the first time in several days and I still feel good! I took the oxygen off for two hours and puttered around, took a shower, washed my hair, and feel great! Woooo! This is more exercise than I've had in a while and it feels good.
@jessiquoi - good for you! Get those proteins and veggies!
@happysherri - addiction or not, I love the way you describe your workouts. It's as if exercise has the potential to make humans feel really good, and you are going to prove it!
@KimF0715 - I love having our food diary on MFP for exactly the reason you mentioned. It makes it so easy to review and make decisions. Sometimes, even shaving off one calorie, makes the difference we need. You can do it! Yay!
@str8bowbabe - honestly, I don't like to hear about food restrictions, but I think you are making the right decision by limiting the dt dew ( mountain dew, right?). I used to use diet coke to get me "perky". On Monday it only took one can, but by Friday, it took five. Something isn't right about diet sodas. You'll feel better and lose weight faster without them. Good call.
@katadx - yay! You got this!
@wellnesschaser - massage...mmmmm... Now that's a beautiful behavior!
My son just got here with a fresh can of paint. Wonder what are the chances he wants me to paint bee boxes since I'm feeling better???
Love to all.
Lea7 -
@aleahurst Yay you! Be well !!!! ❤️1
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day 2 of low carb take two. yesterday was great, and i walked after dinner also. my blood sugars and total insulin usage responded immediately and favorably. i MUST stick this out until i get over the cravings. i know i can do it. i have to want it more. i'm still kind of mourning eating the way i'm used to. i've never been a big meat eater, getting most of my proteins from legumes etc, but they're full of carbs too so i've cut them out. i'm eating meat and trying to make it more interesting (last night - chicken with peanut sauce). i will get used to this!
how is everyone today?2 -
@KimF0715 - That is how it starts and how it started with me. Being more aware of what you are eating and not necessarily diving in full force but making small changes. Keep going
@jessiquoi - That's awesome. Sounds as if you are and will be having great success! ha ha, kitchen that isn't a kitchen. I am carb cycling, so I have some low carb days too.
@str8bowbabe - That gym sounds awesome and glad you found something you enjoy - pickleball (just makes me want a pickle lol). Go get that challenge, girlie!!!!
@katadx - Great goals. I did legs last night! Legs are my favorite to work.
@wellnesschaser - Wonderful work. When I had depression my therapist said you need to refill your soul to even begin to be able to help others, even your kids. I struggled with feeling guilty when taking time for myself. You conquered this and sounds as if you put your time to good use!!!
@aleahurst - You are a Warrior!!! I am so happy that you feel better and have been able to get up! I am terrible at painting solid things. (it's funny because I'm an artist and used to paint on canvas but I am lousy at painting a wall haha)
Update: I will be crawling in another day, because I murdered LEG Day! I completed 47 minutes of legs last night, solo. My bf had to work and then I tried to get one of my sisters to go but it was last minute. I truly don't mind working out alone but sometimes it's just more fun with a partner.
This is my third day of low carbs and so far it's not as hard as I thought it would be (although this is only the third day). I expected sugar cravings and low energy but I really have not had much of either - although, I did fit some Halo Top ice cream into my macros. Tomorrow is HIGH Carb day!!! I'm excited but need to make sure that I get "good" carbs. **I'm doing carb cycling, I am practicing a 3:1 (3 low carb days and 1 high carb day) So far I am fluctuating down 2 lbs from Sunday. I'm sure that is water, but whatevz
Thought of the day: Sometimes you are meant for the sidelines and other times you need to take action. **This is not always easy to figure out. We don't want to get involved or seem nosey, yet sometimes you can make the situation better. I normally try and stay out of things and of course, I hate drama. However, I finally took action on a situation and it is now getting looked at because the situation was not right and was effecting others. I prayed a lot on it and had a strong feeling of you can't always stay out of things and wait for someone else to fix the problem. I felt the urge to take the action and made the call.
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@happysherri Thank you! I want to do so much more in life (with my business, getting lean again, family stuff) but I read recently that we have to invest in ourselves! I like this MFP community because hats why most of us are here!
@jessiquoi Great thread!2 -
So, who's doing what for mother's day this weekend, and are you worried about going off program?
i'll be seeing my daughter and my mom friday and saturday, driving home to maryland on sunday. mom cooks on the healthy side, so i'm sure i'll be all right.3 -
@wellnesschaser, thanks, and welcome!0
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@happysherri, isn't Halo Top the best fake ice cream around?1
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OP, are you diabetic? Feel free to add me, I am type 2 diabetic.
Today I woke up and did an Insanity Max 30 workout, a good workout for the first time in forever. I forgot how much of a mood booster physical activity is!2 -
@jessiquoi - I probably won't even get to see my kids on mother's day because one is finishing her finals in college and the other is working 2 jobs and still going to high school. My mother passed away 3 years ago this month. I will probably have a half way lazy day, definitely go to the gym, I may try and see if my sisters want to go to lunch or dinner? Not sure, but I probably won't be eating a bunch because I am truly trying to stay strict on my carb cycling. Since I know I will only be practicing this for a month or 2, I believe I will be able to keep to it. This is why I set smaller goals because I can see an end in sight and stick to things better. Happy early mother's day to the moms2
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So, who's doing what for mother's day this weekend, and are you worried about going off program?
i'll be seeing my daughter and my mom friday and saturday, driving home to maryland on sunday. mom cooks on the healthy side, so i'm sure i'll be all right.
We are spending Mothers Day hiking in the Garden of the Gods in IL. I cant wait.
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My mother is back in my old city and I'm moving back on the 18th! We are having a late mothers day supper that evening! I can't wait to be able to see her more often.4
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Good morning, everyone! starting day 3 of my low carb adventure take 2. so far, two good days with improved blood sugars and less insulin usage. AND I'm not cranky yet which is a good thing!
this morning, john made me an omelet before I went to work. I didn't have the heart to tell him it's too early for me to eat (I leave at 6:30) because he had already started it by the time I came downstairs. he's so supportive of my efforts, I'm very lucky. (he's also supportive of my binges lol but that's another story.) so now I'm sitting here at my desk stuffed to the gills with just a little bit of heartburn, knowing I have to tell him when I get home not to cook for me so early in the morning. this should be the worst of my problems, as my mother would say!
so I'm in the office, which means it's an easier day for me food wise... there's nothing for me to grab and munch while I work unless I go down to the lobby, which has a Tim Horton's, and I'm not going to do that until lunch time.
@katadx good luck with your move!
@str8bowbabe Garden of the Gods sounds like a beautiful place! enjoy.
@happysherri I'm really interested in your carb cycling. I think i'll google it today.
what did you do today to set yourself up for success? as I'm typing this, I have to answer honestly "nothing". I haven't been good at planning since my move... not having a kitchen is really starting to bum me out. my meals aren't planned at all, except for my meals at work, because I always get the exact same thing at tim Horton's. I'm not even wearing my fitbit, and I'm not carrying a water bottle around. I really need to kick myself in the butt a little. ok, starting tomorrow, I will wear my fitbit, and i'll track my water consumption starting today!
have a good one,
jess2 -
Thanks for inviting me to the new May Beautiful Behaviors!
I had a great wake-up this morning to a 1.5 lb loss! It seems like the loss has slowed down lately, but it was just because I lost so much right away. I at at a 25.5 lb loss. I want to be under 180 by June and I am at 181.5.
I swam this morning in the slower lane and did some non-freestyle. It gave my rotator cuff muscle a little bit of a rest and wore me out. Maybe I burned some extra calories by doing something a little different.
I have to go into the office soon for a meeting... sigh... I never get much done there.
I am getting another massage later today to work out my messy muscles since last week's was very painful.
I am going out to brunch with my older son and I will probably overeat.
I am thinking of taking my younger son to get a pedicure with me later that day.
So yesterday, I ate a bigger lunch, since I had a track meet to go to in early evening and knew I would have a late dinner. I am thinking I may need to start eating more for lunch. Maybe that will help. Then I got Chipotle for dinner. I ate about 2/3 and gave the rest to the dogs. I was full and didn't push eating it all.
Have a great week everyone!
Nicki2 -
Hey all!
I'm still in it....battling....LOL
Last night wasn't great. Wendy's french fries through the drive thru for dinner. I NEVER do that. But that's how busy life got. I did not have a minute to eat.
Honestly, if I eat fast food twice in a year...that's about the average.
I still managed to stay under calorie goal, but my nutrition was in sad shape.
Back on my feet today with those superfoods!!!!
Have a good one!
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Ladies,
I have to share this. I am feeling pretty defeated today and well almost betrayed or sabotaged not sure quite the word to use. Last night my hubby calls and asks if I want to go to dinner. Yea! We don't get to eat dinner together throughout the week very often. He asked where and I told him the little pizza joint up the street. I told him we could order their grilled chicken and salad bar. He yeah that sounds good. I got there after him so he had already ordered. He had a pitcher of beer sitting there and already a big order of breadsticks. I thought, well maybe he was just hungry so he got those until we got our meal. Next thing I know a huge pizza is set down in front of us. I asked him why he ordered pizza and he said he thought I really didn't want chicken and salad. Instead of starting a fight, I ate the pizza and the breadsticks and then went home feeling so defeated that I ate oreos and milk too. How do you handle this? He was upset that I didn't drink any beer but I didn't want it. I just want to cry because I worked so hard on Tuesday getting back the calories I overate on Monday and now I am in the same boat today. Going to work out at lunch and probably try to get a treadmill workout in later tonight to hopefully repair some of the damage. I cant help feeling terrible. I cant help feeling a like upset at my husband. Both of us have high cholesterol and he is already taking meds every day for it. I don't want to live my life like that. I guess I should have just ate something else but then he would have been upset with me and himself. He works so hard and deserves to relax and enjoy but I just didn't want to do that. Anyway...rant over. Back to trying to get things under control.2 -
@str8bowbabe I feel for you. there's so much going on in your post! first thing, you ate oreos because you were upset. we all do that at time if we're stress eaters, and even the pizza added to that won't throw you off forever, it's just one night. jump right back on! I do the same thing, and I try to get around it by segregating the "bad" behavior from the rest of my day/week.
second, your husband did sabotage you even though he probably thought he was treating you with kindness, so unless you know otherwise, assume his meaning was kind and forgive him. definitely have a talk with him about how serious you are now and how it is difficult for you to resist food that's right in front of you. maybe it will help, at least you will try to keep the lines of communication open and clear the air. my fiancé and I live together, and he is supportive of me when I want to eat well, but equally supportive when I binge, meaning he'll jump right in and say YES when I even mention a "bad" food. it's tough. we can't rely on others to do our work for us, but talking it out does help.
third, what could you have done differently? could you have ordered the chicken and salad for yourself and let him take the leftover pizza home for another meal? you say he would have been upset about this, but now YOU'RE upset about this... i think this comes under the heading of taking good care of yourself.
bottom line... shake it off! today is a new day, and we get to start over. I hope you regain control! hugs, jess6 -
@jessiquoi
Oh please do not think I am really mad at him. I know he meant well and though I was upset at first, I knew he thought he was helping. Yes I could have eaten something else but then all of that food would have set in the frid and went to waste and that is something I am just OCD about. Don't waste food. I feel like I am just throwing out excuses here. LOL Trust me. It will not happen again. He will just have to eat all the pizza and breadsticks like he drank all the beer. I am already planning my workout for lunch and I went this morning and got stuff for healthy lunches for the next couple of days while I am at work. It was a bad night that lingered in my head until the morning. Im not over it but I am using that to fuel me to do better today. Thanks.6 -
@katadx - That's awesome that you will get so much time with your mother. My mother was so happy and positive, it was impossible to be sad around her. I truly miss her. I hope this mother's day is not hard for me, my grief is random.
@jessiquoi - I love that your hubby is so supportive yet doesn't pick at you when you need to splurge. When I eat a huge omelette for breakfast, I'm usually not hungry for lunch Carb cycling has been good so far.
@nickiphillips1 - Congratsssss!!! on the loss, that's some hard work there. So glad to hear that you are getting quality time with your kiddos, it's harder as they grow.
@KimF0715 - If the fries fit within your day and you hit under calorie goal, I say that's a success! Sure it's healthier to eat nutritious foods, but weight loss is really just calorie in vs calories out. Keep fighting, sounds as if you are progressing and that's what counts.
@str8bowbabe - You are probably being too hard on yourself. If I see that I am going to have a "splurge" meal unplanned - I normally will just "go for it" and Enjoy it! We are human and unless you are some crazy olympian athlete or professional competitive body builder - we all are going to eat yummy foods (I don't consider them bad). And then it sounds as if you already know how to pick your self up and keep going, so Great Job -there!!!
Update: The bf and I completed 60 minutes of lifting focusing chest last night. The funny thing was I was going to make it a rest night but my bf got home late and said 'are you gonna make me go by myself'. Usually it's the other way around, me encouraging others, however this time he encouraged me to go. I'm glad I went.
Carb cycling: Currently I am on day 4 and guess what???.... It's my first HIGH Carb day! -little excited Although I do have to concentrate on getting "nutritious" carbs, I'm ready. I am doing a 3:1, meaning 3 low carb days and 1 high carb day. There are different variations depending on your body type and your willpower lol. I am 75% Mesomorph, so 3:1 carb cycling should work best for my body type. Of course, we all know that all of this fitness journey is trial and error - even when you think you have it down something changes. So far, I feel great, which is odd, because I lean toward feeling tired most days. I plan on trying to continue this for about 3-4 weeks before reevaluating and changing it up or going to maintaining weight. I have fluctuated down about 3 lbs since Sunday (again, I think that's water and bloating).
Thought for the day: Goal Digger (like gold digger) *I crack myself up. I've realized that setting a goal no matter how small is great, but you have to put a plan in place to help you reach it. As I read all of your posts, you all don't just list the struggles but you go on to explain how you will resolve them. Planning is important and while we all know things don't always go as planned, we can try. And I've found the more I practice this, the more things go as planned. Practice makes perfect and this includes willpower and motivation. I don't think people ever plan to practice willpower nor motivation, but those things are very important.
Happy Thursday! ...............High Carb Day!!! lol5 -
@str8bowbabe I'm so sorry you had a difficult day. It is so hard to resist unplanned for food, especially when it's been ordered and paid for already. I'm guessing your hubby probably meant well and was just upset that you weren't enjoying the meal. Do you think he could tell you were unhappy during the meal? Maybe you could find a chance to tell him that it is difficult for you to stay on track with those foods, and being guilted for not eating something (like the beer) makes things worse in the end and cause things you wouldn't have normally done like eating the oreos. Being straightforward while still giving him the benefit of the doubt will maybe help this not happen so much in the future. Also, please don't be too hard on yourself at the gym! You could cause an injury or develop an overexercising habit. Remember to love and forgive yourself as well as your husband! I hope today is better for you.0
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@nickiphillips1 - I love the new picture! Who's the lucky dog?1
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@str8bowbabe - there is a world of difference between the tone your initial "sabotage" post and the tone of your later one! Honestly, you sound like the type who can vent and get over it, but then observe and make notes for the future. BRAVO!!! That's a winner! And everything Jess said. Ditto. I would have said close to the same things. You are doing great!
@happysherri - you goal digger, you. You crack *me* up, too! What is a mesomorph?
@KimF0715 - I am going to look up the nutritional value of fries. I'll bet they have some redeeming value.
@jessiquoi - one step at a time, girl. You are handling it already! Do you have anything non-food planned as a reward for low carb eating?
@nickiphillips1 - pedicure, mmmm! Is it a reward for weight loss?
Okay. I got caught outside doing yard work without my oxygen by the oxygen delivery man! He says, "I guess I got here in the nick of time".
I sometimes take it off because I'm just tired of wearing it. But I was moving really slowly. And coughing. So, I'm glad he showed up (a day early) with my portable supplies. I got right on it. I'm better now. Letting it go too long can lead to stroke, so I try not to be stubborn about wearing it.
My beautiful behavior was to putter about in my new flip flops!!!! $0.98 at Walmart. My Birkenstocks wore out. ($90). My Vionic slides wore out ($75). Now, we'll see how fast I can go through a pair of rubber flip flops! I love em.
Love to all.
Lea7
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