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  • Silentpadna
    Silentpadna Posts: 1,306 Member
    bytheplanets wrote: »
    I think you need to focus more on diet and less on working out. I would try to accurately record what you are eating for a couple of days. Then find a way to cut out 500 calories a day.

    For me I found I was having lots of goodies (a croissant here, a cookie there) - cut things like that out. Plus alcohol, instead of a glass or two every night I'm a cut back to about 3 times a week. Pizza - instead of ordering once a week, now its once a month.

    Working out is great obviously, but the real calorie savings come from eating fewer calories.

    Also do you a have a lunch hour? Could you go for a brisk walk?

    Congratulations on the baby btw!

    There is nothing wrong with this advice, but a word of caution. If you do go the route of focusing less on your working out, don't try to be too aggressive with weight loss at the same time. The 500 deficit (1 lb per week) we be the most aggressive I would consider if I wasn't working out along with it. And thumbs up for sure on the brisk walk during lunch break suggestion. You can burn a lot more than you think just doing that.

  • soccerjerseyguy
    soccerjerseyguy Posts: 14 Member
    your workout buddy doesn't have to be your wife. If there's someone relying on you to be there, it's much easier to get up and be there. Same for them. I'd find someone to work out with, and crack the whip on each other!
  • snickerscharlie
    snickerscharlie Posts: 8,578 Member
    JBerg04 wrote: »
    My wife is not someone I can go to the gym with. I am content to spend an hour to an hour and a half lifting weights if I go. She wants to get in and get out and wants to leave after half an hour. I can't do what I want to do in half an hour. So I am forced to cut my workout short, even if we're not doing the same things. That doesn't help fix my problem unfortunately =(

    I think I am going to try and look at waking up earlier and trying to get into a routine where I go work out before work. The gym I can use has showers so that won't be a problem. The biggest challenge I'm looking at if I do this is motivation and sticking with it. How do you guys/gals keep getting up at 4am?

    It honestly depends on how badly you want to reach your goal. :)
  • Tried30UserNames
    Tried30UserNames Posts: 561 Member
    I think a new baby, especially your first, is going to take more time and energy than you can possibly imagine. And you will be sleep deprived; your wife will be both sleep deprived and healing from pregnancy/birth. She's going to need more of your time, not less.

    I'd consider a few things. Perhaps move closer to work to make the commute shorter and free up some time that way. If the gym at work doesn't have anything you need, consider asking the company to buy more equipment or buy your own equipment and keep it at the work gym. Find an accountability friend at work to meet you early each morning for exercise.

    Figure out a way to work out at home. If you have a living room/den, move the furniture aside each day and exercise. That's what I do. Or park the car in the driveway and set up some equipment in the garage or in half the garage. It's Spring/Summer...do you have a yard? You can keep some equipment in a closet and move it out onto the patio each day to work out. You probably don't need as extensive an amount of equipment as you think. Pick up a weight bench and some dumbbells at a local garage sale.

    I would say that it sounds like you want only the most ideal circumstances...1 1/2 hours of intense work on the best equipment. You will find that 1/2 hour on equipment you're using to make do will work well, too. It may be a little more difficult or inconvenient, but it will be effective. Once you've got a baby waking you up a half dozen times a night, ideal pretty much goes out the door.
  • lorrpb
    lorrpb Posts: 11,463 Member
    JBerg04 wrote: »
    Wow. There are a lot of comments and feedback here - more than I expected. I'll address a few of them. Also, thank you for the support!

    As far as the distance from work - This is a newer job for me and the wife and I plan to purchase a house in a better location but it's a year or so away yet. That being said, I don't want to put off my health and wellness any longer than I have to.

    My employer has a small corporate wellness gym in the building, however it's more geared towards beginners and those seeking out cardio. There is no free weight bench press, no squat rack, just a smith machine (yuck!) for bench and squat, etc. So as nice as it would be to work out at lunch, it just isn't viable with the current facilities they have. There is a LifeTime Fitness not far away which would give me everything I'm looking for and everything I need. The cost of a membership is not an issue.

    I have the P90X discs at home, the issue with home is that's usually where I unwind and relax, rather than have a focused mindset, such as when I'm at the gym to lift and that is my whole intent of being there.

    In reference to food and diet, this is the part that actually concerns me the least. I know what it takes to manage healthy food choices, we actually cook many meals at home during the week and eat good food options. The only issue here is portion control. I will take the advice of pre-portioning the meals we cook and apply that to the current meal as well as leftovers for lunches. (Thank you!)

    To the individual who referenced discipline - I can appreciate the perspective and understand that you're giving a straight answer, no fluff. For that, I thank you. Every once in a while we all need a kick in the *kitten* to get moving again. That doesn't necessarily make us weak, it just means we lost sight of the bigger picture.

    I am going to move forward with getting up earlier in the morning and seeing how that type of a routine will work with my schedule. This way I won't have to sacrifice my evenings with my family and when my child arrives I will still have that time at home with them.

    It sounds like you have it figured out: Join LifeTime fitness, do the P90X at home, preportion your food, and set a schedule. This is the discipline that will benefit you. Your motivation is the little one on the way. Motivation gets us going and helps us focus, but habit/discipline keeps us going. I don't think about whether I feel motivated on any given day, I just do what I've planned to do because that's what I've decided to do to accomplish my goals. You can do this!
  • cerise_noir
    cerise_noir Posts: 5,468 Member
    bytheplanets wrote: »
    I think you need to focus more on diet and less on working out. I would try to accurately record what you are eating for a couple of days. Then find a way to cut out 500 calories a day.

    For me I found I was having lots of goodies (a croissant here, a cookie there) - cut things like that out. Plus alcohol, instead of a glass or two every night I'm a cut back to about 3 times a week. Pizza - instead of ordering once a week, now its once a month.

    Working out is great obviously, but the real calorie savings come from eating fewer calories.

    Also do you a have a lunch hour? Could you go for a brisk walk?

    Congratulations on the baby btw!

    I was going to suggest exactly this.

    Also, look up "You Are Your Own Gym". Excellent bodyweight workout.
  • mandyneedtolose
    mandyneedtolose Posts: 398 Member
    Congrats on the baby on the way! Cut out processed carbs is where I'd start. That can help for most people. You can lose weight without exercise, its doable. Focus on your foods - more veggies & protein! You mentioned you work a desk job, I too do the same. You can get a under the desk cycle thing ( I have no clue what the actually name is lol) It fits under your desk and you can cycle away .. It has helped me to get some movement in. Having a support system also is a help. I have 4 kids at home, so I am doing this solo and it can get hard. I come here for questions, support and motivation! You can do this! :)
  • BigGuy47
    BigGuy47 Posts: 1,768 Member
    Tried30UserNames wrote: »
    I think a new baby, especially your first, is going to take more time and energy than you can possibly imagine. And you will be sleep deprived; your wife will be both sleep deprived and healing from pregnancy/birth. She's going to need more of your time, not less.
    First child. Priorities change. Your life changes. Brace yourself young man and begin the mental preparation for the trials you're about to endure.

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