Pissing me off
skeeewur
Posts: 11 Member
So I've been good at weighing myself once a week and whenever it's my time to hop on the scale and I see that I've actually lost a couple pounds my girlfriend jokingly decides to get on the weight too and she keeps losing weight too. However I have been eating super healthy and counting calories while she hasn't been trying to lose weight and eats SO unhealthy. It makes me question whether or not it's worth it and it honestly makes me sad that her weight is dropping when she's overweight too but isn't trying to lose weight
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So you are jealous because she is losing weight without putting in the same perceived effort as you are?20
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You'll often come up short when you compare yourself to other people.
Stay in your own lane.41 -
You'll make it in the long run, she won't.24
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I'm in a similiar situation with my boyfriend. I'm putting it down to main meals since we have the same and I cook so everything has been healthy. He does still have chocolate, crisps and milkshakes which i've been avoiding but he's still losing weight.
It really is unfair but I don't mind since we both need to lose weight (though I need to lose more).3 -
there was a time I lost weight unintentionally eating 1 bowl of cereal for breakfast, skipping lunch, and fast food dinner. Was working long hours. i ate like crap, wasn't trying to lose weight, but did just because the calorie math happened to work out that way. You don't have to eat healthfully, or intentionally lose weight to lose weight. in the end it's about what your bodies uses and how much extra is has to store or use from its stores. It sounds terribly unfair to those of us putting effort in, but one can, in fact, lose weight unintentionally.7
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ijsantos2005 wrote: »You'll make it in the long run, she won't.
who says?17 -
my opinions is this...
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rainbowbow wrote: »ijsantos2005 wrote: »You'll make it in the long run, she won't.
who says?
I said it. Why?2 -
In my experience, you can lose weight and still have an unhealthy diet if you are overweight...
But if you want to get mean lean... It's all got to go11 -
ijsantos2005 wrote: »rainbowbow wrote: »ijsantos2005 wrote: »You'll make it in the long run, she won't.
who says?
I said it. Why?
Because there's no reason behind it. Why should she succeed but her friend fail? :16 -
rainbowbow wrote: »ijsantos2005 wrote: »rainbowbow wrote: »ijsantos2005 wrote: »You'll make it in the long run, she won't.
who says?
I said it. Why?
Because there's no reason behind it. Why should she succeed but her friend fail? :
Because to do anything meaningful or important requires effort and consistency. Thus is life.
If I were a betting man, I would put my money on OP. The odds are against her friend.5 -
Look up "squishy fat and whooshes" - it will explain so much.2
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I get the frustration. BUT....
You'll do much better focusing on yourself and what works best for you. You're responsible for your own health.5 -
We are all different. Don't compare as aggravating as it can be. Are you exercising? Retaining water for muscle repair? Eating higher sodium foods? Etc, etc, etc.
I work my tail off in the gym and eat right and I feel like it is going slow, so slow. Don't compare...it's added stress that's keeping your eye off the prize.2 -
jessicafordy9 wrote: »I'm in a similiar situation with my boyfriend. I'm putting it down to main meals since we have the same and I cook so everything has been healthy. He does still have chocolate, crisps and milkshakes which i've been avoiding but he's still losing weight.
It really is unfair but I don't mind since we both need to lose weight (though I need to lose more).
Men tend to lose weight faster than women because they have more lean muscle.3 -
jessicafordy9 wrote: »I'm in a similiar situation with my boyfriend. I'm putting it down to main meals since we have the same and I cook so everything has been healthy. He does still have chocolate, crisps and milkshakes which i've been avoiding but he's still losing weight.
It really is unfair but I don't mind since we both need to lose weight (though I need to lose more).
Men tend to lose weight faster than women because they have more lean muscle.
And naturally higher TDEEs meaning they can more easily create a larger deficit. In theory.5 -
The same thing happened between me and husband when I first started logging and going to the gym regularly. He dropped some weight very quickly even though he wasn't exercising at all, most likely due to the fact that I cook our meals so his portions were controlled in a way they hadn't been previously. Following that initial whoosh, he has stalled, probably because he refuses to track how much he's actually eating and he's still not exercising. At the same time, I have caught up and surpassed his success, probably because I exercise regularly, am consistent and track what I'm doing instead of leaving it all to happy coincidence or luck.
It's not that I'm pleased by this or that I want husband to fail or be fat, it's that it takes a modicum of effort to maintain as ljsantos2005 alluded. If we could stay slim without paying attention to what we eat, neither of us would have gotten heavy in the first place. I understand where OP is coming from but, rather than being jealous of the easy loss husband experienced compared to my own, I am grateful that he's down a few pounds at all--any improvement is laudable.8 -
So you are annoyed because she can just eat smaller portions of "junk" and lose weight while you feel you have to restrict/change more to lose weight?
Everyone loses weight be reducing calorie intake or burning more calories.
Some people go on restrictive eating plans and exercise a bunch and others just get smaller portions of what they usually eat and don't do much exercise.
You do you.
My dh lost 30+ lbs without calorie counting or exercising. He just consistently ate less. I couldn't do that so I had to track food and exercise.4
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