WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2017
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Morning, my chickens,
Allie - ask your lawyer if she can add in to your list that Tom pays her fees if he and/or his lawyer drag the process out or obstruct it. It's a real thing - it's called "acting in bad faith." I think that's what she's talking about by "counsel fees," but not sure. They've already prolonged the process quite a bit. When this goes through, and you are able to get what you deserve, you should be able to easily afford your lawyer fees. I think of you each time I hear the words to "Moving On" by Rascal Flatts.
Toni - I'm so sorry--it's incredibly hard to look at someone and think, "If you really loved me, you would..." and you fill in the blank with whatever is hurting you. Especially if you've already tried to get them to change the behavior. It's not a good place to be in your head or in your heart. For me, love has always meant "that condition in which the happiness of another is essential to your own." (Heinlein). I don't think it's too much to also expect it in return, but we all come to our own place in each relationship.
Tere - those shoes are the ones that I look at in the stores and think, "never in a million years," and shake my head. I'm too clumsy to wear heels like that, and honestly, probably went through two years in my entire life when I was willing to wear heels at all. They're beautiful, but deadly to my knees and ankles. My heels under my wedding dress were little kitten heels, if I'm being honest. Of course, I was also wearing capri-length yoga pants under my wedding dress, too, which may tell you something.
It's been a productive week, to say the least, work-wise. One of two major events of the year coming up this weekend, and a few more things to do for that before I head up Saturday morning. It's for the benefit of the camp, and held there. The CEO liked my idea of moving it into town next year, and bringing "A Taste of Camp" to the city. She's going to present the idea to the Board this week. The Girl Scout facility in Midland has a beautiful grass courtyard that would work well, and it would bring the event to the donors, instead of the other way around. Might just enliven the whole process, we'll see.
Love y'all,
Back to work (I do love working at home!)
Lisa in West Texas7 -
spikeyhair wrote: »20 min weights vid then 30 min Leslie Sansone with weights plus 70 squats (have to do 220 today)
Naughty yesterday too many carbs and wine but the that's my Tuesday date day with DH back on track today bit stressed about cataract op on Sat but counting my blessings as my BF son has a tumour on the brain thought he was getting better but it's grown. He's in his fifties I think with wife and 3 kids. Those who pray please say one for him
Kate UK
Kate - don't you have a gallbladder removal coming up as well? So sorry to hear about your BF's son - prayers for him and the family. You are doing so well using the Leslie Sansone videos. I'll dig mine out when the rains start here this fall. I was always amazed to see how many steps registered from just walking within a small space!
Lanette
SW WA State1 -
And the witching hour has begun ..2
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Katla and KJ You have NO IDEA how much I would like to speak to my son about how he approaches Griffin. I don't dare. One time I asked him if I could make a small suggestion about something I had observed about his communication with my daughter-in-law. He went ballistic and without me really knowing what was up, "invited" me to a therapy session with him, where he and his "therapist" proceeded to beat up on me. I was supposed to just listen and echo back what he was saying to me to be sure I understood my crime. It was a total ambush.
This is the same guy that wrote a letter to me after my partner and I started our relationship that was nothing short of ugly. He accused me of abandoning my family and friends for my partner (patently false) and used rhetoric that was damaging to our relationship with him. I have never figured out where that vitriol came from, but it was extremely damaging to my partner and I, and we have been very wary ever since.
Since then, my daughter-in-law has found her spine and holds her own with him. She can bring him to his knees, and believe me, that is a good thing. She is remarkable. My son truly adores his wife and children and they adore him, despite of his faults. Griffin just wants to please his dad, ever since he was a tiny boy, and it just doesn't happen very often. Not sure he adores me, despite our great relationship when he was a boy. I love him so much but as I said, I don't like the adult him very much. He turned from such a wonderful little boy into such an *kitten*. Part of the problem is, he is very intelligent and he IS right so much of the time, that when he gets on his Badger suit and starts haranguing it is just unbearable, because he is "right" in quotes, but he isn't really right because his approach is so wrong.
Ugh.
Glad to get that off my chest.
Karen in Virginia
p.s. this is a photo taken yesterday of my grandkids and their momma:
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Stockholm in the old town.
Heather UK
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LANETTE- thanks for the prayers. I do the LS vids on youtube, I have got some actual discs but youtube means I can do exercise in spare bedroom while DH is in lounge where tv is. I still haven't heard about gall bladder op, wouldn't surprise me if they give me a date when I'm on holiday even though I told them when I would be away.
Kate UK
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(((Tracie)))
Michele fresh lychee are sweet but not overly so. I think your right the canned ones probably have sugar added. The closest fruit the remind me of are grapes without skins. Same texture and similar flavor. YUM!
Tere fun shoes!
Karen sounds like that is how your son copes with his anxiety about his son. My DH tends to do the same thing. It is sad because right now you darling grandson needs someone to really listen. That is part of what his attempt was about. It sounds like your DS needs some education and support too on how to help his son. What he is doing is not it. Easy to see from a distance, but not when you are in the thick of it. Wrote this before reading your second post. I am sorry you DS is so difficult to talk to Again I am thinking of you darling grandson and daughter. It is their needs that need to come first not your son's. He is an adult and has many more resources to see his needs met. They do not.
Joyce understand your need to stay out of it. Good move.
M in Oz thanks for sharing the pictures.
Heather you bring back good memories from my visit there. I remember the air feeling so much drier there then here where I live and twilight at night because of the long days.
Quotes for Allie As long as you do no harm to yourself or others there is no wrong way to handle a crisis.
Of course one of my favorites: Just because you see the hook does not mean you have to bite."
I have a good friend who is is in the middle of moving after 40 years. Overwhelming to say the least. I did help her one day sort through some books. I couldn't figure out why it was hard for me to help her. Then I thought about all the classrooms I had to move from. The kindergarten class room I inherited from a hoarder that took me two weeks of my own time to clean out with no help. Sharing a classroom with a hoarder. Trying to clean out my mom's house of 60 years when my brother had it hoarded. My own issues with clearing out and letting go. I have this bad habit or I am just about to get rid of something and then suddenly figure out a use for it. It doesn't matter it had been sitting unused for five years. All the times we helped DS move. Our own moves. I concluded I am moved out.
I took her out to lunch to get her away from all the mess. They are completely renovating their home before selling it under the advice of a realtor. Let's just say I don't want his number when we move. He promised them for every dollar the spend he will be able to get them two dollars. I think he is just trying to get an easy home to sell with them spending all the money and work. My friends loves cake, so I bought her a cupcake. She wanted us to share. When it came time she didn't eat any of it and didn't take her half home. I will not buy a dessert to share with her again. Margaret 4 -
margaretturk wrote: »(((Tracie)))
Michele fresh lychee are sweet but not overly so. I think your right the canned ones probably have sugar added. The closest fruit the remind me of are grapes without skins. Same texture and similar flavor. YUM!
The best lychee I've ever had were right off the tree in Queensland on a cycling tour I did with a friend in 2004. It was December, and blistering hot and we were tired and thirsty so we stopped at this little shop with lychee trees around it. They had picked some and had them in big bags. I got something cold to drink and a bag of lychees ... and devoured the lot! :G
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machka - happy birthday to your husband. What a neat tradition -- riding your age. Feel better fast
The cycling birth age tradition is a bit of fun ... and also gives me extra calories to work with!!
Thank you to you ... and everyone ... for the well wishes. I saw the Dr today who gave me a certificate for the rest of the week. That's good because it means I'll rest and hopefully get better.
It's been another soup and tea day.
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Old MS riding pic. I'm at $875!!!!! Almost there!
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KetoneKaren wrote: »Katla and KJ You have NO IDEA how much I would like to speak to my son about how he approaches Griffin. I don't dare. One time I asked him if I could make a small suggestion about something I had observed about his communication with my daughter-in-law. He went ballistic and without me really knowing what was up, "invited" me to a therapy session with him, where he and his "therapist" proceeded to beat up on me. I was supposed to just listen and echo back what he was saying to me to be sure I understood my crime. It was a total ambush.
This is the same guy that wrote a letter to me after my partner and I started our relationship that was nothing short of ugly. He accused me of abandoning my family and friends for my partner (patently false) and used rhetoric that was damaging to our relationship with him. I have never figured out where that vitriol came from, but it was extremely damaging to my partner and I, and we have been very wary ever since.
Since then, my daughter-in-law has found her spine and holds her own with him. She can bring him to his knees, and believe me, that is a good thing. She is remarkable. My son truly adores his wife and children and they adore him, despite of his faults. Griffin just wants to please his dad, ever since he was a tiny boy, and it just doesn't happen very often. Not sure he adores me, despite our great relationship when he was a boy. I love him so much but as I said, I don't like the adult him very much. He turned from such a wonderful little boy into such an *kitten*. Part of the problem is, he is very intelligent and he IS right so much of the time, that when he gets on his Badger suit and starts haranguing it is just unbearable, because he is "right" in quotes, but he isn't really right because his approach is so wrong.
Ugh.
Glad to get that off my chest.
Karen in Virginia
p.s. this is a photo taken yesterday of my grandkids and their momma:
Just hugs, Karen.
Felicia
Willamette Valley, Oregon2 -
The waves are loud tonight. There's only about a 1 metre swell at most, so it must be the direction they're coming in that makes them sound loud.
But I love it when they are loud ... love the sound of waves. 3 -
Well guess who didn't show up to the deposition ,Tom and his lawyer..ughhh it's all going to come back and bite him in the butt.2
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grandmallie wrote: »Well guess who didn't show up to the deposition ,Tom and his lawyer..ughhh it's all going to come back and bite him in the butt.
Yes, it will. Hang in there.
Janetr okc0 -
Allie I agree he is playing games with you. Breathe and have your lawyer handle it. Agree time to have him move out and change your locks before he does it to you. It is his problem to find a place to live. Margaret 1
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grandmallie wrote: »Well guess who didn't show up to the deposition ,Tom and his lawyer..ughhh it's all going to come back and bite him in the butt.
This is ridiculous! I'm so sorry, Allie. Dragging it out isn't going to make it any easier for him.
Felicia
Willamette Valley, Oregon0 -
My August Goals:
~ Stay under 1500 calories daily - not including exercise ---
8/1 = 1,289 8/2 = 1,151 8/3 = 1,295 8/4 = 1,780 8/5 = 1,390
8/6 = 1,323 8/7 = 1,454 8/8 = 1,275
~ Walk 5k steps daily ---
8/1 = no app 8/2 = no app 8/3 = 3,980 8/4 = 4,675 8/5 = 7,306
8/6 = 3,374 8/7 = 3,132 8/8 = 2,852
~ Plexus regimen ---
8/1 = yes 8/2 = yes 8/3 = yes 8/4 = yes 8/5 = yes
8/6 = no 8/7 = yes 8/8 = yes
~ WATER equal or exceeding 64 ounces ---
8/1 = 80 oz 8/2 = 72 oz 8/3 = 64 oz 8/4 = 70 oz 8/5 = ??
8/6 = ?? 8/7 = 66 oz 8/8 = 70 oz
Much love and respect from Vegas,
Dorrie aka TrulyDivyn
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Becca How did your kids do in the apartment hunting? Hope they were successful. Glad you are enjoying their visit.
One of you lovely ladies posts anchors. What do they mean? I'm sure as a newcomer, that I missed that.
Have a great week everyone! Pray for our fires to stop please. thanks! Bear Lady Weez'[/quote]
Lady Weed, they found an apartment complex they like! More expensive than the place we have! I am happy for them! I post the anchors, just to save my place where I read to! Stay safe from the fires!
Becca
Oregon
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Karen in VA ~ Thanks for sharing about your relationship with you son. My husband can be very over bearing…loud, in your face, etc…so I know what you mean. I decided many, many years ago that therapists were a waste of my money.
Pip ~ That is a great picture of you and Kirt with short hair. I like that on both of you.
Alison ~ So sorry you’ve been bamboozled again. Shame on T.
My DH’s BnL (who I have mentioned before as being widowed for over 40 yrs) is really giving us problems. My DH is the one he counts on to come when he is having health problems. Lately, he keeps calling to say he can’t get out of bed because his blood pressure is low and he feels dizzy. This is the third time my husband has had to go make sure he is all right. Second time this week. He has not bothered to call his doctor to let him know. DH told him he needs to get this taken care of because he may not always be there to come. He is 73 so not that old in our day and time.
Carol in GA
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