WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2017

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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,041 Member
    edited August 2017
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    ryenday wrote: »
    Very little is happening here, except the dang twice an hour hot flashes. One of the many reasons I started to prioritize my health and weight in April was the hope (vain hope, it turns out) that I could alleviate hot flashes- but they seem worse than ever. Ok, that is not quite true. The hot flash duration had been 10 to 20 minutes- and that has significantly improved. But the intensity is unchanged and the frequency has never been worse. Sigh. Unless it is to go to the gym pool (the only place the hot flashes don't bother me) I have been close to a shut in - leaving my home only when absolutely necessary or it is a social obligation. I try to keep a happy face front - but honestly it is wearing me down.

    One of the things I noticed was that when I was outside walking or cycling, I didn't have nearly as many hot flashes. I could be going through about 1 every 20 min or so for a while in the office ... and then when I got up to go out for my hour's walk at lunch, I wouldn't have a single one.

    Then they'd be back in the afternoon and on the bus home (that was awful!), but when my husband and I went for our half hour walk to the beach and back in the evening ... none.

    On the weekends, I'd have a bunch getting ready to go out for a bicycle ride ... none or maybe just one on the bicycle ride ... and a bunch when we got in later in the evening.

    So maybe going out for a brisk walk in the evening when it is a little cooler might help ... who knows. They're mysterious things.


    I also take evening primrose oil three times a day (according to what it says on the bottle), black cohosh once a day before bed, valerian once a day before bed, a magnesium, a zinc, a B12, and a D ... and ginger every time I feel nauseated.

    Weirdly, my hot flashes stopped the day I started the black cohosh, just recently. I think that is a complete coincidence. But at the same time, I'm halfway through my second missed period so who knows what's going on.


    M in Oz
  • GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS
    GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS Posts: 2,573 Member
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    Dorie - Your "Prince" sounds like a prince! o:) I fell 'in love with my 'husband's 'voice' before I ever looked up from what I was doing to see his face. Took my breath away. It's a long story; and, I know i have shared it with the other ladies before ... so unless you are curious ... you'll have to make me a friend and PM me. I still have those feelings about him (with maybe the exception of a 'few' moments) and on the 20th we'll be married 45 years.

    My youngest son, who will be 38 on the 31st, just got married for the 1st time 2 years ago this past May to a young lady who is 2 weeks older; who had been divorced since her 11-year-old daughter was (maybe 2-yrs-old, or less). She was talking to me last year when we went out there about 'why she wished she had met him years ago'. I laughed and told her 'that she might not have liked the 'younger version of Will'. She said that he came into their lives at the very moment, second, nanosecond that he did and was her answer to her prayer about finding 'real love'. He has been her "Prince William" since, and will always be that. He had been in an 8-month-long relationship with a woman, that we never met. She had sort of 'drawn a line in the sand about what she 'wanted' him to do. He drew his; and, neither crossed theirs. He came home for a week to hunt with his brother for a week (of course, he and his wife - who have a pretty roller-coaster relationship - were 'on his back' about 'never' getting married and becoming a 'bitter, old man like their uncle [DBnL]. They left to go home and Will talked about 'he'd rather be alone than to be in [their] type of relationship'. I told him that 'when the right one came along; he would 'know' it because it would 'hit him like a ton of brick'. I had asked my Mother and oldest sister the same thing before I met Louis. Well, it did ... she was very protective of her daughter meeting him. They both live in Louisiana; but, she works in Natchez, MS. She and Mallory were sitting at a red light and Will drove up beside them and honked his horn and 'flirted' with Mallory and he was 'trying' to get her to roll down the window. Tami did not look over, she was concentrated on the light changing. Mallory told her 'MOM, look over there in that truck, he is 'so good-looking' and he keeps trying to get you to look at him'. Tami 'knew' it was him, she just had not quite gotten to that point of them 'meeting'; but, then they decided that she would go on their next date together. When he got to the door, Tami asked her 'to let the guy in' ... Will said that Mallory's 'jaw dropped' when she saw him. She is a 'Pistol Pete'. Actually, both of them are. I could not have asked for, or chosen, a better 'family' for him. Tami has been upset that she has not been able to get PG; so 'please say prayers' that 'whatever is meant to be, will be; and, that Tami will 'feel peace' for 'whatever God has in store for her and Will and Mallory. I know it has been 'hard' for her to accept and she get so disappointed each month and they are getting to the age that IVF might not be a choice any more. The nearest specialist are in Jackson, MS and/or Baton Rouge, LA ... both a couple of hours away. It is a grueling procedure with no guarantees. They've decided to just 'put it into God's Hands and have started looking for a place that will be about 1/2-way between each of their jobs (about 30 minutes apart or longer). I know that 'prayers' work. We just need to realize that 'No' might be the answer and so far that has been hard to take. I do believe in God and His miracles. My DBnL (oldest sisters' husband is a testament to that). He had a massive stroke last Halloween and has recovered with very little deficient, no permanent issues.

    He fell 'in love' with BOTH of them. She thinks 'he hung the moon and stars'. Was quite disappointed that her name would not also change when they got married. They are still in the honeymoon stage; and, I don't think that is ever going to stop.

    When you 'fall in love with someone', it should be like you want to be with them as much as possible and you can't wait to see them again when you are apart.

    You go, GIRL! Have fun and enjoy the getting to know one another stage.

    Allie - I have a rolling trunk, very lite-weight for all your 'angels in your pockets'. I'm sending it on to all them, to give you a 'word'. Put them (or a saying or quote) into a jar; and, pull one out every morning and read it, claim it. If you need to take more than one, take as many as you possibly need. Pull them out, read them - claim them, and put them back into another jar. I did this for my oldest granddaughter when she went off to college. She 'loved' it. She is a very 'driven' young lady and I thought it would help 'calm her down on those days that maybe she had a big test coming up'. She will graduate this December - with honors and a 'biology' degree. My quote to you (don't really know where it came from ... "God will NOT walk you to something, that He will NOT walk you THROUGH it!". Copy it and type it and the ones that the 'other' ladies send to you. OK, LADIES ... "Send Allie" a 'word', a 'quote', a 'thought' or 'saying' for her "Jar".


    NSV today. No change in 'anything' ... and I am taking a steroid for a week. YEAH!!!!!!!

    My Nutritionist's son (a Senior) was a classmate of the young lady that got killed in the wreck on Saturday while 'texting and driving'. She had always told him, every morning when he left to go off to school that she 'loved him, be careful ... and hugged him'. He is her only child. She said that he came home yesterday (Mon) and told her that the girl's mom came to the 'memorial service' they held before school and although she cried, she went up to every single student and their parents and told them 'don't EVER text and drive - learn from our tragedy and make sure you buckle up before you even put you car into gear'. Said that her boyfriend came to school (service) and he was just 'off the charts' upset.

    So, then after mixing up where I was 'supposed' to meet my BF for lunch. I went and got my hair cut (in Lee Co.) and the hairdressers were talking about it ... everybody in the county (not just that one but also the outlying counties) are just 'stunned'. Besides 'texting and driving' she was NOT buckled up. She was texting and ran off the road, then over-corrected and lost control and went into a spin and hit the other vehicle and then ran off the other side. The other driver saw what she was doing and tried to avoid it, but, couldn't. The 70-ish-year-old man was seriously hurt and happened to be the County Coroner. His 50-ish-year-old passenger was hurt; but, I think she said that he had been discharged from the hospital. While I was there, the phone rang and she answered it. It was 'obvious' that she got really, really upset with whoever called. She came back to the chair and told her sister, that [inserted name] wanted to 'get her hair fixed at 2:30 today for the 3:00pm funeral. In other words ... school is letting out 'early' so the students that want to, can go to the funeral. She told her there was 'no way that she could do her hair at that time and her be able to get back to the funeral on time. I 'took it' that it might have been a 'classmate'. When she told her that, the person said that she still wanted to come anyway as, 'it wouldn't matter if she walked in late'. She was furious. It is a shop that takes 'walk-ins'. She told her sister, 'if she shows up ... make sure you stall long enough that she won't be able to 'walk in late'; let her just 'miss it'. Gee, that is about like the someone wearing 'white' to a wedding. That is just NOT done; at least not in the South. It is considered 'poor taste and trying to steal the attention from the bride'. For anybody to show up to a 'funeral' late is the epitome of HORRIBLE proportions. Even 'if' the immediate family is seated in a 'room' or 'area' off the chapel. She was 'livid'.

    OH, and then she said she saw on FACEBOOK, that Jenn (DDnL#1) was taken to the ER last night. I 'think' I handled it well by telling her that I don't check FB often. Then, ... acted like it was no 'big' deal. Lawzy Mercy! This is an example of 'texting too much' (information). I 'try' NOT to post much. I'm trying to just 'put a smiley face or emoticon. Apparently, she was just 'dehydrated'. I know that she has been 'fighting' her weight for a long time and she might have the taking something OTC ... to try to 'jump start' her "diet" as she always refers to it. Both Taylor and I have tried to tell her that 'losing weight is a change in life-style'. She hasn't made that commitment (yet).

    It is so sad that it seems like every year a young person gets killed right as the school year begins or ends. Please tell your children (even the adult ones) do NOT text and drive. It is GA law that there will be 'no distracted driving'. There are putting it into action ... have been 'warning' people for the last year or two ... signs on highways: "Click it, or Ticket it" ... for unrestrained people in a car. I don't know WHAT they will have to do to try to curb this texting and driving. I think they are going to start pulling people over and giving them tickets of $500+, not even going to tolerate what is considered 'hands-free'. Apparently, they are able to tell this (I hope I don't get pulled over for 'singing in the car'). At least my radio doesn't shake the car stopped beside me at a red light. I think that I have maybe told Louis enough to 'let Trey answer his cellphone when it rings'. He said last night that 'our' DDnL#1 ... next door is a 'accident waiting to happen'. Scares the bejewels out of me ... especially when our granddaughters are in the car with her.

    This is a 'vent' ... sort of. When Taylor was still 'in HS'. She said they were running late and they made it to school in 6 minutes 'flat' [she timed it]. The school is a good 20 minute drive, going the speed limit'. Taylor said they were 'all white-knuckling the seats'. Our middle granddaughter might not EVER drive now. I don't know if she 'knew' the girl; but, she does have friends that go to the school there. I am 'just beside myself'. This has really gotten to me for some reason. Maybe it is because my 'babies' at about that age group.

    Sorry - but; also watch the show (??? America's Got Talent ???) and the young black woman who was the sole survivor of a plane wreck where the students that went to a 'private' school (not in the country) were coming home for Christmas. They chose her to go on to the Finals. So much talent ... it is going to be a 'hard' decision. Waiting for the 'new' "The Voice" to start.

    Becca - Look for a PM ... questions re: FB - I am FB-challenged! LOL!!!

    Love all you ladies! Y'all have made this 'journey' I am on a lot easier and I am learning so very much from all of you.

    Lenora
  • GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS
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    ;) Teri - LOVE the shoes ... I'd break my neck if I tried to wear them. But, I still think there are times that 'heels' make the outfit (or 'look').
  • GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS
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  • MartiB856
    MartiB856 Posts: 85 Member
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  • trulydivyn725
    trulydivyn725 Posts: 92 Member
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    Quick drive by as I head to bed...been a long day, but full of smiles too...my "prince" as you ladies have dubbed him has made it bearable!! I'll try to catch up everything in the morning, but for now, sweet dreams when you get there...or if you're already there...or if you're awake and in another country, enjoy your day!

    Much love and respect from Vegas,
    Dorrie aka TrulyDivyn
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 2,862 Member
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  • GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS
    GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS Posts: 2,573 Member
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    Karen in Virginia - I feel the same way about my oldest son ... a 'lot has to do with how 'his' wife feels about me'. I love my son ... I don't understand my DDnL#1 ... I feel sometimes I get 'dragged into things that I don't want to know about'. But, BOTH my boys know that 'if' I 'disagree' with them about something ... I will 'let them know how I feel' ... On the other hand ... Louis hears it all day from one of them ... and then he 'lets off steam' ... to me. Hey, I don't know 'nuthin', I don't want to know 'nuthin', then I hear .... "STUPID, STUPID, STUPID" and I just want to 'knock him out' .. not because he is calling ME 'stupid' ... I just want the 'bitchin' .. too stop. I am so happy that I have Cracker ... she calms both of us down. She will go over and sit in front of him and just stare at him until he stops and suddenly ... she's in his lap and licking his face.

    I'm sorry your grandson was in the hospital. No fun to be there. It's hard on everybody. My DDnL#1 has FB as her 'Homepage' and her cell is 'on' 24/7/365. I have come close to picking it up and shoving it ... into my purse. Then I look over at my son and see his 'eyes' and the color they have changed to and I just bite my tongue. Children!!!! Especially 'grown' children. Both Louis and I had different kinds of parents; but, overall ... we were basically brought up the same way. Both of us have tried to take the 'best' of what we learned from our parents and throw out the 'bad'; but, seems like the older we get, the more like our parents we have become ... to a degree. Sometimes I think we 'see' in someone, what maybe we don't much like about ourselves. Occasionally, you want to 'snatch them up' like when they were little themselves and put then in the middle of the kitchen floor on one particular tile and make them hug one another until they stop harping or arguing. Or put them both in the same T-shirt ... with the notation ... 'this is our stop arguing space'. Saw that on FB, I think. I stay 'in trouble' on FB ... so now I just skim over it and write a 'snail email' to them.

    Lenora
  • jmkmomm
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    Tree, the shoes are beautiful but I would break my neck, well every bone in my body if I wore them. I might break some one else's bone with them trying to catch me. Is that the dress you wore with the shoes. Equally as beautiful.

    Karen in Virginia, I have a sister who knows everyone. She has had every illness, if some one has had a surgery, she has has ten on me. Her doctor has pleaded with her to put away her tablet and Merck Manuel so as not to diagnose herself. And her daughter inherited the same trait. My niece is an excellent cook but oh does she love to brag about it. She was raised here is southwestern Indiana but married in Arkansas and has become a true southern cook. Her with ft shows her love of cooking. I know we will need an extra cook in the kitchen for our family Christmas and Jenny would be an excellent one there and she is cousin to my daughter. They were good friends growing up here just miles apart. But Michlle can hardly take Jenny's superior attitude. Part of the problem is mIchelle's own low self esteem due to her weight. She is still bitter about her divorce from a guy who cheated on her. And the other cook in e kitchen is Jenny's sister in law. But her own brother can hardly stand her. They will just amicably be in the same room for Chritsmas and that is all. I don't want to get involved and tells home that they can't be in the kitchen because I want them to be friends and cousins once again.

    Ok, that is off my chest. WOW! The things we just blurt out for no reason.

    Joyce, Indiana where tomorrow is back to school day
  • Katla49
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    Re: You're a good judge of character. I think your old co-worker may be hard to persuade to get moving. Here's wishing you luck in your attempts to get her to walk with you. :star:

    Becca: The temperature here is okay but the air quality is awful tonight due to smoke from Canada & the Mt. Jefferson wilderness area. Our full moon looks orangey brown. It is less brown now that it is higher in the sky. I hadn't heard about the boat theft before you mentioned it. Thieves are everywhere. :sad:

    Tere: You're a brave woman to strap on those heels. They look like beautiful torture devices--glamorous, but painful. My mama used to say that you have to suffer to be beautiful. I've never been that motivated to be beautiful. :ohwell: I bet you look great, though. :star:

    Karen in VA: I'm glad your grandson is home from the hospital. I hope someone can get your son to ease up on the poor kid. My mom was full of pithy sayings. One of them was, "You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar." Your son seems to put too much vinegar out for his own son. Would he listen to you if you tried to tell him? :flowerforyou:

    Air quality here is getting worse by the minute. Too many fires.
    Tomorrow DH has to take his car back to the VW dealer. They've messed something up and the instruments don't display properly. :ohwell:

    Katla in beautiful NW Oregon

    “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,041 Member
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    trulydivyn725 wrote: »
    ~ Ladies - you don't have to wait any longer - the date was a HUGE success - many more to come I believe!!

    ...

    Next date has been confirmed for Friday night - a wine and canvas paint thing...I don't drink, but I've been assured by him it's not necessary or required when attending these things. We are painting "monochrome bonzai type trees with pink flowers" - so I asked him if he meant cherry trees, and he had a puzzled look on his face...I promise, I did NOT try to take charge and look it up - I'm just gonna go with it since I've never been!!

    Thank you to all who've been interested enough to ask/comment. What happens from here is anyone's guess, but as always, I'm taking it one day at a time...

    Busy Monday in Vegas,
    Dorrie aka TrulyDivyn

    Sounds great!! If you can spend 26 hours together with no one looking at their watches and making excuses to leave, that's a really good sign! :)

    I hope your next date goes well too ... and on into the future. :)

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,041 Member
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    lhscapil wrote: »
    Machka - glad you finally got Oracle downloaded. I'm very proud of you and other ladies on this list who are still taking classes! :) Your marsupials are so interesting.... fascinating to see the different types of animals on each continent. Did Australia and NZ ever have any mastodon or buffalo/bovine native critters that you know of?


    Thanks! I've been going to school almost consistently since I was 5 ... I just love learning. :) I do take a year off now and then ... and then get restless and want to get back at it.


    I am not aware of any mastodon or buffalo/bovine creatures here.

    I just checked, and this site is quite interesting ... https://www.learnaboutwildlife.com/wildlifeAustraliaMammals.html


    Meanwhile, I'm at home, drinking cups and cups of hot tea, eating chicken noodle soup, and creating a massive pile of ER (Entity-Relationship) diagrams for a much bigger homework assignment than I had anticipated. It's more detailed and complex than I had hoped.

    Next up will be converting all these ER diagrams to Relational Models using Relational Algebra (which I still need to get my head around) ... and finally writing the SQL code to create tables.

    Due Monday at midnight. :astonished:



    And we're hosting & supporting a long cycling event this weekend. So my husband and I have been preparing everything for that as well. :astonished::astonished:


    Thanks for all the well-wishes. I am feeling some better ... just sound like a cross between a mouse and a male koala singing his mating song. :lol:(And yes, I have actually heard them do this!)

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BMXBV9oLbVk


    M in Oz

  • spikeyhair
    spikeyhair Posts: 2,078 Member
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    Kate UK <3
  • spikeyhair
    spikeyhair Posts: 2,078 Member
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    20 min weights vid then 30 min Leslie Sansone with weights plus 70 squats (have to do 220 today)

    Naughty yesterday too many carbs and wine but the that's my Tuesday date day with DH back on track today bit stressed about cataract op on Sat but counting my blessings as my BF son has a tumour on the brain thought he was getting better but it's grown. He's in his fifties I think with wife and 3 kids. Those who pray please say one for him

    Kate UK :'(
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 9,756 Member
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    Morning ladies
    Slept well and working 9-6 today and up with Faith..
    i cant remember who asked but yes my lawyer said they keep this up she will ask them to pay counsel fee's
    Don't know how long the deposition will be , and that is costing me 375.00 an hr. And we haven't even gotten to the court part yet.Yes to be a fly on the wall at the deposition.. but dont want to know the nitty gritty if you know what I mean..
    will check in with you all tonight once I get Faith settled
  • klanders30
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    allie keep going, one step at a time, you're moving on--its very clear--you are moving on!

    Heading to a 2.5 mile hike with a young colleague today. Little nervous, cause it sounds like a big hike, she's younger than me and I am trying to grow and understand her better--she's been tough to get along with. I will either grow to understand her better today, or not (my DD says I'd better watch my footing In More ways than one). :#

    You ladies are the best! Love checking in with you all.

    Chris hope you get rid of the sniffles and have a fun second date-but watch out for those pierrogies, calorie bombs!!!

    NYKAREN
  • KJLaMore
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    NYKaren- Enjoy your hike! Maybe it is just a young colleague looking for some one to vent to or to get out and enjoy the fresh air with?! But watch your footing! ;);)

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