I feel like a failure

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  • janejellyroll
    janejellyroll Posts: 25,763 Member
    gebeziseva wrote: »
    @Nutritionislife - you lost 28 pounds by creating a deficit, whatever foods you picked to do that are irrelevant.

    You eat 1500 calories with a 500 deficit = 1lbs loss
    I eat 1500 calories with a 500 calorie deficit = 1lbs loss

    Don't confuse nutrition with the math.
    OP can eat what will keep her on track, the math stays the same.

    I sure did. But what has been the quality of my food choice? Not snickers. Theres a difference, go read a nutrition book.

    Snickers is nutritious.

    Lol.

    It has peanuts, eggs, milk, and chocolate. None of those foods lose their nutritional value from being combined together in bar form.

    Well, to be fair, the Almond Snickers is the one I think is the perfect candy.






    I know you weren't talking to me. :blush:

    I also prefer almonds to peanuts. I recently had some almond butter cups that were amazing!
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  • janejellyroll
    janejellyroll Posts: 25,763 Member
    @Nutritionislife - you have been on your journey 3 months now and by the looks of your pictures you are having good success, thats awesome, i am proud of you, but please use caution is specifically geared advice, the OP is already struggling with her food choices in a over eating perspective, people who are struggling will feel over whelmed when they feel that they have to abandon their entire lifestyle. People who love red meat for instance may feel like it isn't worth doing if they can't enjoy what they like to lose weight. That is why all fad diets and lose weight quick options most often fail.

    You're right. Thats exactly what im trying to say. Focus on eating healthy, its not all about counting calories only. For weightloss yes, but id hate to see somebody skinny and unhealthy. Fill you body with good things. I just gave her advice on what ive been doing because she asked me, but of course its not for everyone.

    and we are not saying you shouldn't be supportive in good nutrition, but don't put the idea in someones head that they can't eat this or that because its going to cause health problems. weight loss is stressful enough in itself, new people need to focus on getting started, let them get a routine, after that nutrition will often follow, but if you pile on the homework on the first day of school, chances are it's probably gonna make someone bail out.

    Yep, and you can meet your nutritional needs while still having Snickers or red meat . . . it isn't an either/or.

    (I know you weren't arguing that it was).
  • Nutritionislife
    Nutritionislife Posts: 25 Member
    @Nutritionislife - you have been on your journey 3 months now and by the looks of your pictures you are having good success, thats awesome, i am proud of you, but please use caution is specifically geared advice, the OP is already struggling with her food choices in a over eating perspective, people who are struggling will feel over whelmed when they feel that they have to abandon their entire lifestyle. People who love red meat for instance may feel like it isn't worth doing if they can't enjoy what they like to lose weight. That is why all fad diets and lose weight quick options most often fail.

    You're right. Thats exactly what im trying to say. Focus on eating healthy, its not all about counting calories only. For weightloss yes, but id hate to see somebody skinny and unhealthy. Fill your body with good things. I just gave her advice on what ive been doing because she asked me, but of course its not for everyone.

    How would you define skinny and unhealthy?

    I'm at a BMI of 21-22, I had a box of Hot Tamales and buttered/coconut oil popcorn the other night. I do that a couple times a month usually. My blood results have been in the normal range for many years, no medications other than thyroid - and I'm in my mid-sixties. My BP and cholesterol numbers are within range and I eat a lot of saturated fat. A. Lot. I go through a pound of butter by myself in about a month. Same with cheese and full fat yogurt, I eat a lot of it. I buy at least one half gallon of ice cream a month...and I live alone.

    If you have no problems in your blood or other health issues, no medications and your body feels strong and you are happy. That is awesome for you that you are able to eat that way with awesome outcomes!
  • Nutritionislife
    Nutritionislife Posts: 25 Member
    bapity88 wrote: »
    I eat pizza, candy, Taco Bell, etc. when I have room for it in my daily calories, and I just had my blood drawn for insurance purposes (I get $1000 off annually if I get a blood panel done) and the lady said I had the best numbers she had seen all day. I'm not thin. I'm 139 lbs at 5'2". Still overweight. But you can be "healthy" and still eat these foods. If that's what will keep you on track, go for it! If you're the type of person who can't indulge because that makes it harder for you, then don't. It's all personal. But the point is, you can indulge every now and then and still be "healthy".

    True
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  • Rickster1967
    Rickster1967 Posts: 485 Member
    You already know what to do

    You just have to decide that is sufficiently important for you to come up with the organisational plan required and then the commitment to implement it.

    Motivation is the key. You have to find that yourself.

    But at 19 years old you have a huge advantage physiologically. Eating the right amount of food and doing a bit of exercise will see you drop weight easily. Self sabotage, binge eating and all that will scupper you
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  • davidylin
    davidylin Posts: 228 Member
    Wow , where do I start ... Well when I first started this my fitness pal thing I was 240 then I lost weight and was 219 and now I’m up to 290 ..... 1 year later . It’s like I can’t keep to one thing . I always find myself eating the wrong things .... I work graveyard shifts now so I haven’t had the time for working out . Being close to almost 300 pounds terrifies me honestly I’m only 19 years old that’s waaaaay to excessive ... I couldn’t live with myself like that . I feel my skin tearing everyday literally burning I see my skin becoming full of stretch mark it’s crazy I’m literally gaining weight so fast my skins tearing apart I can’t deal with this ... how should I go about loosing this weight the right way now . I’m turning 20 soon ... I don’t want to be 300 ... my goal is 180 it is my healthy ideal weight that my doctor and I want to be at . Any help !?
    I would think about how much messing with my circadian rhythm and sleep is changing the difficulty level in eating well and keeping off weight. It sounds like you have a lot to think about.
  • mysteps2beauty
    mysteps2beauty Posts: 493 Member
    Haven't read all the
    I challenge you not to excercise for 3 months but to educate yourself and make changes in your nutrition only. I was talking about caloric intake, types of meals for 1,200 calories and different challenges 5'1" females deal with but of course i still have tips. 1 pound shows much more on us short people quicker. Anyways...
    1. Drink water, nothing else..youll save lots of hidden calories just by that.
    2. Read about and learn about your body type such as caloric intake, nutrient and vitamin info
    3. Set goals, write them down and measure your body
    4. Breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince, dinner like a pauper
    5. Find at least 2 snacks for each taste...like sweet, salty, cold. Have them available always
    6. No red meats or cheese, maybe once a month
    7. Dont have cheat days, have a cheat meal; but not every day! Maybe 2 times a month.
    8. Drink a beer or some liquor if you want it, once in a while.
    9. Find new ways to make food you love, create things that fit your taste.
    10. Use correct serving sizes and this app...you will fall in love with proper nutrition
    By the time you really learn and apply all this, 3-4 months will pass easily. After you've learned what works for you and you have dropped some good amount of weight. Excercise is important, Id say out of 100% 70-80% is nutrition. I would get overwhelmed sometimes with gym and nutrition but learn one thing at a time. Nutrition should be priority, it is most important. Good luck.

    most of this is unnecessary woo.

    OP - eat the calories that MFP tells you to - no need to arbitrarily avoid certain foods or stop exercising for 3 months. eat at a deficit and you will lose weight over time - it's as simple as that.

    Haven't read all the comments here, but I like this one....Have you heard the saying you can't exercise away a bad diet?

    Learning portion control is key. It's like budgeting. If you only have $20 a week to spend, you are going to find a way to make it stretch. Calories are the same. Also, your palate has to be tweaked. And it will when you start limiting sugar, salt and fat. That's why logging here on MFP is so helpful. After a period of time, that soda will taste too sweet. I used to drink coffee with cream and sugar. I trained myself in 2 weeks to enjoy black coffee. Now, I abhor sugar or cream in my coffee and saved 200 calories, in just one drink! Use mustard not mayonnaise on your sandwiches. Balsalmic vinegar or lemon and olive oil, instead of salad dressings. The things you love to eat, find a way to make them with less calories. It absolutely can be done. But you have to choose to do it.

    I agree about lack of sleep....it has a direct impact on weight gain. :Perhaps you can take one less class a semester to gain back time to do healthy things for yourself. If you are working FT to me that means you are not getting financial aid which has a FT student status requirement. So, one less class.

    You've done it before, and you can still do it again. Baby steps, one meal change at a time. When your tummy rumbles, wait a little longer to fill it. This will change over time too.
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    You are going to school AND working a graveyard shift. That all takes a toll and it is VERY DIFFICULT to be in top form (treadmill, calorie counting) on top of all that. You aren't a failure. Nobody is a failure at 19. You're a failure at playing Superwoman.

    In my opinion, all women should fail at Superwoman so we can go back to being human.

    I like the @JeromeBarry1 diet plan. You can do that for a while and lose weight without doing much else.

    The loss of your period while gaining weight is concerning. You may have undiagnosed PCOS.

    Sorry about that. I really DON'T want to add to your worries. For many women, having the PCOS diagnosis at least helps them come up with a plan.
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  • RunStart34
    RunStart34 Posts: 164 Member
    bapity88 wrote: »
    Add me to the "Snickers are amazing" group. Second only to Reese's peanut butter cups.

    How right you are!! These are the treats I give myself to keep going on my weight loss. I don't deprive myself but it does make me more motivated to stay on course. If I didn't treat myself to one of these I would have broken down a long time ago. LOL