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YepItsKriss wrote: »Also for the record @Nutritionislife - Assuming that people who consume these foods are doomed to health related problems is very unhelpful advice even if your goal is to offer better nutrition.
Through my entire weight loss starting at 300 pounds, i ate chocolate, red meat, take out, and i am nothing but healthy, in fact i even restored my body from being a very serious diabetic. Do not paint everyone with the same brush.
If only we all could eat that and loose weight. The problem is not all of us are 300 pounds. Youre right dont paint me with your brush either.11 -
Nutritionislife wrote: »gebeziseva wrote: »Nutritionislife wrote: »YepItsKriss wrote: »@Nutritionislife - you lost 28 pounds by creating a deficit, whatever foods you picked to do that are irrelevant.
You eat 1500 calories with a 500 deficit = 1lbs loss
I eat 1500 calories with a 500 calorie deficit = 1lbs loss
Don't confuse nutrition with the math.
OP can eat what will keep her on track, the math stays the same.
I sure did. But what has been the quality of my food choice? Not snickers. Theres a difference, go read a nutrition book.
Snickers is nutritious.
Lol.
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Nutritionislife wrote: »YepItsKriss wrote: »Also for the record @Nutritionislife - Assuming that people who consume these foods are doomed to health related problems is very unhelpful advice even if your goal is to offer better nutrition.
Through my entire weight loss starting at 300 pounds, i ate chocolate, red meat, take out, and i am nothing but healthy, in fact i even restored my body from being a very serious diabetic. Do not paint everyone with the same brush.
If only we all could eat that and loose weight. The problem is not all of us are 300 pounds. Youre right dont paint me with your brush either.
This doesn't just apply to people who are starting at 300 pounds. I began my weight loss at about 150 pounds and I was able to eat things like chocolate and takeout while I was losing weight. I had steady progress because I focused on consistently being in a calorie deficit.
People can eat just about anything and maintain a calorie deficit. There is no food that will, in and of itself, cancel or invalidate a calorie deficit, even if one is starting at a lower weight.
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janejellyroll wrote: »Nutritionislife wrote: »gebeziseva wrote: »Nutritionislife wrote: »YepItsKriss wrote: »@Nutritionislife - you lost 28 pounds by creating a deficit, whatever foods you picked to do that are irrelevant.
You eat 1500 calories with a 500 deficit = 1lbs loss
I eat 1500 calories with a 500 calorie deficit = 1lbs loss
Don't confuse nutrition with the math.
OP can eat what will keep her on track, the math stays the same.
I sure did. But what has been the quality of my food choice? Not snickers. Theres a difference, go read a nutrition book.
Snickers is nutritious.
Lol.
It has peanuts, eggs, milk, and chocolate. None of those foods lose their nutritional value from being combined together in bar form.
Well, to be fair, the Almond Snickers is the one I think is the perfect candy.
I know you weren't talking to me.
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YepItsKriss wrote: »@Nutritionislife - you have been on your journey 3 months now and by the looks of your pictures you are having good success, thats awesome, i am proud of you, but please use caution is specifically geared advice, the OP is already struggling with her food choices in a over eating perspective, people who are struggling will feel over whelmed when they feel that they have to abandon their entire lifestyle. People who love red meat for instance may feel like it isn't worth doing if they can't enjoy what they like to lose weight. That is why all fad diets and lose weight quick options most often fail.
You're right. Thats exactly what im trying to say. Focus on eating healthy, its not all about counting calories only. For weightloss yes, but id hate to see somebody skinny and unhealthy. Fill your body with good things. I just gave her advice on what ive been doing because she asked me, but of course its not for everyone.7 -
cmriverside wrote: »janejellyroll wrote: »Nutritionislife wrote: »gebeziseva wrote: »Nutritionislife wrote: »YepItsKriss wrote: »@Nutritionislife - you lost 28 pounds by creating a deficit, whatever foods you picked to do that are irrelevant.
You eat 1500 calories with a 500 deficit = 1lbs loss
I eat 1500 calories with a 500 calorie deficit = 1lbs loss
Don't confuse nutrition with the math.
OP can eat what will keep her on track, the math stays the same.
I sure did. But what has been the quality of my food choice? Not snickers. Theres a difference, go read a nutrition book.
Snickers is nutritious.
Lol.
It has peanuts, eggs, milk, and chocolate. None of those foods lose their nutritional value from being combined together in bar form.
Well, to be fair, the Almond Snickers is the one I think is the perfect candy.
I know you weren't talking to me.
I also prefer almonds to peanuts. I recently had some almond butter cups that were amazing!4 -
No matter what you weigh, you can still lose weight eating Snickers every now and then if you are in a calorie deficit for the day. If you only have 100 calories left for the day, don't eat the snickers. If you have 500 calories left, go for it if that's what you are craving and want to use your calories on. If you have 300 calories left and good self control, cut it in half, put the other half in the fridge and only eat half of it. Don't have a 20 pack of snickers in your cupboard if you know you won't have the willpower to resist. But if you go to the grocery store and buy a single bar and eat it when you have room for it, why not?! I'm the type of person who goes crazy if I deprive myself of the foods I crave. It makes me feel like I'm missing out and I'm far more likely to fail. Everyone is different, so no one can say "never eat a Snickers if you want to lose weight" and have it be accurate.5
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YepItsKriss wrote: »Nutritionislife wrote: »YepItsKriss wrote: »@Nutritionislife - you have been on your journey 3 months now and by the looks of your pictures you are having good success, thats awesome, i am proud of you, but please use caution is specifically geared advice, the OP is already struggling with her food choices in a over eating perspective, people who are struggling will feel over whelmed when they feel that they have to abandon their entire lifestyle. People who love red meat for instance may feel like it isn't worth doing if they can't enjoy what they like to lose weight. That is why all fad diets and lose weight quick options most often fail.
You're right. Thats exactly what im trying to say. Focus on eating healthy, its not all about counting calories only. For weightloss yes, but id hate to see somebody skinny and unhealthy. Fill you body with good things. I just gave her advice on what ive been doing because she asked me, but of course its not for everyone.
and we are not saying you shouldn't be supportive in good nutrition, but don't put the idea in someones head that they can't eat this or that because its going to cause health problems. weight loss is stressful enough in itself, new people need to focus on getting started, let them get a routine, after that nutrition will often follow, but if you pile on the homework on the first day of school, chances are it's probably gonna make someone bail out.
Yep, and you can meet your nutritional needs while still having Snickers or red meat . . . it isn't an either/or.
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Nutritionislife wrote: »YepItsKriss wrote: »@Nutritionislife - you have been on your journey 3 months now and by the looks of your pictures you are having good success, thats awesome, i am proud of you, but please use caution is specifically geared advice, the OP is already struggling with her food choices in a over eating perspective, people who are struggling will feel over whelmed when they feel that they have to abandon their entire lifestyle. People who love red meat for instance may feel like it isn't worth doing if they can't enjoy what they like to lose weight. That is why all fad diets and lose weight quick options most often fail.
You're right. Thats exactly what im trying to say. Focus on eating healthy, its not all about counting calories only. For weightloss yes, but id hate to see somebody skinny and unhealthy. Fill your body with good things. I just gave her advice on what ive been doing because she asked me, but of course its not for everyone.
How would you define skinny and unhealthy?
I'm at a BMI of 21-22, I had a box of Hot Tamales and buttered/coconut oil popcorn the other night. I do that a couple times a month usually. My blood results have been in the normal range for many years, no medications other than thyroid - and I'm in my mid-sixties. My BP and cholesterol numbers are within range and I eat a lot of saturated fat. A. Lot. I go through a pound of butter by myself in about a month. Same with cheese and full fat yogurt, I eat a lot of it. I buy at least one half gallon of ice cream a month...and I live alone.
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I eat pizza, candy, Taco Bell, etc. when I have room for it in my daily calories, and I just had my blood drawn for insurance purposes (I get $1000 off annually if I get a blood panel done) and the lady said I had the best numbers she had seen all day. I'm not thin. I'm 139 lbs at 5'2". Still overweight. But you can be "healthy" and still eat these foods. If that's what will keep you on track, go for it! If you're the type of person who can't indulge because that makes it harder for you, then don't. It's all personal. But the point is, you can indulge every now and then and still be "healthy".8
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cmriverside wrote: »Nutritionislife wrote: »YepItsKriss wrote: »@Nutritionislife - you have been on your journey 3 months now and by the looks of your pictures you are having good success, thats awesome, i am proud of you, but please use caution is specifically geared advice, the OP is already struggling with her food choices in a over eating perspective, people who are struggling will feel over whelmed when they feel that they have to abandon their entire lifestyle. People who love red meat for instance may feel like it isn't worth doing if they can't enjoy what they like to lose weight. That is why all fad diets and lose weight quick options most often fail.
You're right. Thats exactly what im trying to say. Focus on eating healthy, its not all about counting calories only. For weightloss yes, but id hate to see somebody skinny and unhealthy. Fill your body with good things. I just gave her advice on what ive been doing because she asked me, but of course its not for everyone.
How would you define skinny and unhealthy?
I'm at a BMI of 21-22, I had a box of Hot Tamales and buttered/coconut oil popcorn the other night. I do that a couple times a month usually. My blood results have been in the normal range for many years, no medications other than thyroid - and I'm in my mid-sixties. My BP and cholesterol numbers are within range and I eat a lot of saturated fat. A. Lot. I go through a pound of butter by myself in about a month. Same with cheese and full fat yogurt, I eat a lot of it. I buy at least one half gallon of ice cream a month...and I live alone.
If you have no problems in your blood or other health issues, no medications and your body feels strong and you are happy. That is awesome for you that you are able to eat that way with awesome outcomes!1 -
I eat pizza, candy, Taco Bell, etc. when I have room for it in my daily calories, and I just had my blood drawn for insurance purposes (I get $1000 off annually if I get a blood panel done) and the lady said I had the best numbers she had seen all day. I'm not thin. I'm 139 lbs at 5'2". Still overweight. But you can be "healthy" and still eat these foods. If that's what will keep you on track, go for it! If you're the type of person who can't indulge because that makes it harder for you, then don't. It's all personal. But the point is, you can indulge every now and then and still be "healthy".
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Hey OP! I hope you're still reading through all of this. This is my advice to you.
Take two weeks. Don't change ANYTHING. Eat what you're eating, do what you're doing. Just log EVERYTHING as accurately as you can. Do it in the app, on paper, whatever. Be brutally honest with yourself. Then, in two weeks look at those logs, and find something to fix.
For me, it was a giant bowl of cereal every day. IDK What it was about growing up the 90s but when I eat cereal it is in like a water trough. And I was doing that every day. So, I tried to eat a smaller bowl of cereal. Left me feeling pretty unsatisfied, so I quit eating cereal every morning. I still keep it in the house for the kids, and when I do have it once or twice a month, its a water trough, but I make it work. Any way, I fixed that problem. Then, I added a walk the next week. Once a day, usually after dinner, but whenever I could work it in, I walked. The next week, I fixed something else.
Start small. You have a LONG way to go, and as you've learned from losing and regaining +, if it isn't forever, it isn't going to last. I can have oatmeal instead of cereal for breakfast every morning forever. I can make sure I squeeze in a walk every day forever. I log in every day. When I'm not honest with my logging, I see it on the scale!
I know the struggle. I was 270, going to school full time, working full time nights, and had two kids at home. Eventually, I found how to make it work. You have to find the way to make it work for you. Also, don't discredit the impact of 3 ten minute walks throughout the day instead of one 30 - you can break your activity up. You may not get the cardio endurance part of it, but it will still benefit you!18 -
You guys are honestly amazing ! I read every single thread on this post and want to say there has been some amazing advice on here ! Just to clarify everything with you guys since I wasn’t too descriptive in my post ... in concern with my eating habit / diet ... it has been mainly fast food .... i haven’t been counting calories in over a year easy . If I had to estimate I would have been eating easy 3,000 calories a day no exaggeration .. 1 typical day would look like this : chick filet with a large waffle fry , 12 nuggets large coke and extra sauce , lunch in and out and dinner mcdonalds .. for 1 year straight my diet * resembled * this ... why did I do that to myself .. well compulsion ... I’m a compulsive eater I would have already eaten a buffet before I realized what I had done .... I won’t say I’m a binge eater because I don’t eat huge masses of food in one sitting I just eat super super high calorie foods through out the day ... NOW ... how did I loose the weight before u may ask??? CALORIE COUNTING !!! I was literally counting everything but I worked out during it aswell ... cardio mainly running on the tredmile elliptical ect ..... it worked for me . I was loosing weight at a reasonable pace ( 3 pounds a week usually ) I felt great amazing happy omg I was on top of the world lol size 12 jeans ... medium shirts ... everyone noticed I was happy ....... but I don’t know what happen one day I had wing stop and then I just couldn’t stop ...... once I have food that’s not the “ healthiest it’s like a trigger “ I don’t think I could have cheat meals during a diet or life style change in the early phase of my weight loss .... my personal experience . Yeah I gained over 50 Pounds in 1 year .... not proud at all and now I don’t fit into any clothes , I totally lost my menstrual cycle completely , I can’t walk like I used to I’m miserable .... sleepless days ( I sleep during the day since I work graveyard ) it’s just a complete mess I’m only 19 I should not deal with these type of health issues and I recognize it.... honestly when I first started my weight loss I had no concrete plan I just winged it .... found my flow but NOW I’m lost I don’t know what to do I’m scared to fail I can’t reach 300 thinking about that scares me so much how last year I was 219 now I’m 290 that is scary to me ... wow now that I remmeber I gained more than 50 wow even worse ..... if u read through this I thank you !9
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* Just for laughs * I don’t like snickers you guys hahah !!!!12
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You already know what to do
You just have to decide that is sufficiently important for you to come up with the organisational plan required and then the commitment to implement it.
Motivation is the key. You have to find that yourself.
But at 19 years old you have a huge advantage physiologically. Eating the right amount of food and doing a bit of exercise will see you drop weight easily. Self sabotage, binge eating and all that will scupper you2 -
LOL, OP.
What we're saying is that Wing Stop happens. Ya just pick yourself up and keep moving. It's a process of learning how to forgive and to move forward. We all have days that are 3000+ calories and that we didn't exactly plan. It doesn't derail the whole process, it's one day.
Get back at it. Relax and do your best, realizing that it isn't a perfect process. None of us are perfect, wait...what IS perfect, anyway?5 -
Well, it sounds like you know what the problem is. Now to fix it. And while you get in the habit of maybe not eating fast food every meal, you can make small swaps. Small instead of large. I utilize the kids menu often!5
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I would think about how much messing with my circadian rhythm and sleep is changing the difficulty level in eating well and keeping off weight. It sounds like you have a lot to think about.champion818 wrote: »Wow , where do I start ... Well when I first started this my fitness pal thing I was 240 then I lost weight and was 219 and now I’m up to 290 ..... 1 year later . It’s like I can’t keep to one thing . I always find myself eating the wrong things .... I work graveyard shifts now so I haven’t had the time for working out . Being close to almost 300 pounds terrifies me honestly I’m only 19 years old that’s waaaaay to excessive ... I couldn’t live with myself like that . I feel my skin tearing everyday literally burning I see my skin becoming full of stretch mark it’s crazy I’m literally gaining weight so fast my skins tearing apart I can’t deal with this ... how should I go about loosing this weight the right way now . I’m turning 20 soon ... I don’t want to be 300 ... my goal is 180 it is my healthy ideal weight that my doctor and I want to be at . Any help !?
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champion818 wrote: »You guys are honestly amazing ! I read every single thread on this post and want to say there has been some amazing advice on here ! Just to clarify everything with you guys since I wasn’t too descriptive in my post ... in concern with my eating habit / diet ... it has been mainly fast food .... i haven’t been counting calories in over a year easy . If I had to estimate I would have been eating easy 3,000 calories a day no exaggeration .. 1 typical day would look like this : chick filet with a large waffle fry , 12 nuggets large coke and extra sauce , lunch in and out and dinner mcdonalds .. for 1 year straight my diet * resembled * this ... why did I do that to myself .. well compulsion ... I’m a compulsive eater I would have already eaten a buffet before I realized what I had done .... I won’t say I’m a binge eater because I don’t eat huge masses of food in one sitting I just eat super super high calorie foods through out the day ... NOW ... how did I loose the weight before u may ask??? CALORIE COUNTING !!! I was literally counting everything but I worked out during it aswell ... cardio mainly running on the tredmile elliptical ect ..... it worked for me . I was loosing weight at a reasonable pace ( 3 pounds a week usually ) I felt great amazing happy omg I was on top of the world lol size 12 jeans ... medium shirts ... everyone noticed I was happy ....... but I don’t know what happen one day I had wing stop and then I just couldn’t stop ...... once I have food that’s not the “ healthiest it’s like a trigger “ I don’t think I could have cheat meals during a diet or life style change in the early phase of my weight loss .... my personal experience . Yeah I gained over 50 Pounds in 1 year .... not proud at all and now I don’t fit into any clothes , I totally lost my menstrual cycle completely , I can’t walk like I used to I’m miserable .... sleepless days ( I sleep during the day since I work graveyard ) it’s just a complete mess I’m only 19 I should not deal with these type of health issues and I recognize it.... honestly when I first started my weight loss I had no concrete plan I just winged it .... found my flow but NOW I’m lost I don’t know what to do I’m scared to fail I can’t reach 300 thinking about that scares me so much how last year I was 219 now I’m 290 that is scary to me ... wow now that I remmeber I gained more than 50 wow even worse ..... if u read through this I thank you !
In your life described here, I suggest these few simple changes to get started:
Chick Fil-A no fries 6 nuggets large water or black coffee and no sauce. That's 1000 calories gone from your typical breakfast.
In-N-Out burger and fries. (I have only eaten In-N-Out once and I think there's only one size of fries, if you have a choice, choose the smaller. Water or unsweet tea or black coffee.
McDonalds Chicken sandwich, side salad, no dressing. Water or unsweet tea.
Any of the drink recommendations can be any zero-calorie product.
If I spent that much money on food every day, I'd be a financial bankrupt. I do not know how people manage to enrich the food service industry as lavishly as people do. Still, if you must waste money on these 3, you can do so and lose weight at this stage of your life. Eventually you'll lose so much weight that the lunch fries have to stop, then the breakfast nuggets. Don't worry about that yet.
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Haven't read all theMuscleflex79 wrote: »Nutritionislife wrote: »I challenge you not to excercise for 3 months but to educate yourself and make changes in your nutrition only. I was talking about caloric intake, types of meals for 1,200 calories and different challenges 5'1" females deal with but of course i still have tips. 1 pound shows much more on us short people quicker. Anyways...
1. Drink water, nothing else..youll save lots of hidden calories just by that.
2. Read about and learn about your body type such as caloric intake, nutrient and vitamin info
3. Set goals, write them down and measure your body
4. Breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince, dinner like a pauper
5. Find at least 2 snacks for each taste...like sweet, salty, cold. Have them available always
6. No red meats or cheese, maybe once a month
7. Dont have cheat days, have a cheat meal; but not every day! Maybe 2 times a month.
8. Drink a beer or some liquor if you want it, once in a while.
9. Find new ways to make food you love, create things that fit your taste.
10. Use correct serving sizes and this app...you will fall in love with proper nutrition
By the time you really learn and apply all this, 3-4 months will pass easily. After you've learned what works for you and you have dropped some good amount of weight. Excercise is important, Id say out of 100% 70-80% is nutrition. I would get overwhelmed sometimes with gym and nutrition but learn one thing at a time. Nutrition should be priority, it is most important. Good luck.
most of this is unnecessary woo.
OP - eat the calories that MFP tells you to - no need to arbitrarily avoid certain foods or stop exercising for 3 months. eat at a deficit and you will lose weight over time - it's as simple as that.
Haven't read all the comments here, but I like this one....Have you heard the saying you can't exercise away a bad diet?
Learning portion control is key. It's like budgeting. If you only have $20 a week to spend, you are going to find a way to make it stretch. Calories are the same. Also, your palate has to be tweaked. And it will when you start limiting sugar, salt and fat. That's why logging here on MFP is so helpful. After a period of time, that soda will taste too sweet. I used to drink coffee with cream and sugar. I trained myself in 2 weeks to enjoy black coffee. Now, I abhor sugar or cream in my coffee and saved 200 calories, in just one drink! Use mustard not mayonnaise on your sandwiches. Balsalmic vinegar or lemon and olive oil, instead of salad dressings. The things you love to eat, find a way to make them with less calories. It absolutely can be done. But you have to choose to do it.
I agree about lack of sleep....it has a direct impact on weight gain. :Perhaps you can take one less class a semester to gain back time to do healthy things for yourself. If you are working FT to me that means you are not getting financial aid which has a FT student status requirement. So, one less class.
You've done it before, and you can still do it again. Baby steps, one meal change at a time. When your tummy rumbles, wait a little longer to fill it. This will change over time too.2 -
You are going to school AND working a graveyard shift. That all takes a toll and it is VERY DIFFICULT to be in top form (treadmill, calorie counting) on top of all that. You aren't a failure. Nobody is a failure at 19. You're a failure at playing Superwoman.
In my opinion, all women should fail at Superwoman so we can go back to being human.
I like the @JeromeBarry1 diet plan. You can do that for a while and lose weight without doing much else.
The loss of your period while gaining weight is concerning. You may have undiagnosed PCOS.
Sorry about that. I really DON'T want to add to your worries. For many women, having the PCOS diagnosis at least helps them come up with a plan.4 -
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Add me to the "Snickers are amazing" group. Second only to Reese's peanut butter cups.
How right you are!! These are the treats I give myself to keep going on my weight loss. I don't deprive myself but it does make me more motivated to stay on course. If I didn't treat myself to one of these I would have broken down a long time ago. LOL0
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