What is the most supportive thing someone has done for you on your journey?
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The most supportive thing my husband has done is buying me a stationary bike when I said my bad knee was too bad to walk as much as I wanted to. We are very deep in debt and he could have said no, because we've bought exercise equipment in the past and I've not used it.
He didn't say anything about that though, we went shopping, I found a bike at Walmart that I wanted, he pulled out his credit card, and we bought it.
My mom also often gives us food that she gets given to her, like cookies and stuff, he knows I'm avoiding sugar, so he takes that food and puts it in his office (so I won't see it and be tempted to eat it anyway) and eats it all.8 -
My husband is not supportive, and I have given up on him. However, my best friend/ workout buddy is super supportive, and is always at the finish line of every race to meet me when I cross, and even though he is much more fit than I am he is always patient when I struggle with basic exercises and cheers me on through our workouts.11
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I belong to one of the groups on here and one particular person is super supportive always5
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My husband does SO many supportive things to aid in my goals - anything from moving our heavy bed from one place to another so that I can have more space in our bedroom to exercise (we live with many people and sometimes our bedroom is the only available spot) to changing his food desires to match mine so that I don't have to continue cooking two meals for one household. He listens to me cry about the struggle. He watches me as I sit in the mirror for many minutes at once looking for that body change. He listens to me about my gym time - even when he is not in the mood. He is patient and understanding of HOW much I need this. He lets me be free - he doesn't get in the way of my hustle. I take care of him, but he knows how to take care of himself when I need to take care of me for a while.
My husband loved my body when I was super fat. But he is oddly very happy now that my waistline is looking different from the curvature of my hips! hahahahaha9 -
One year, my mom, being aware of my healthy lifestyle change, instead of buying me cake for my birthday, she bought me a mixed fruit tray and a mixed veggie tray. Sometimes I feel like my mom is upset that I'm changing on her, but she actually has decided to become vegan as well! She says that it was easier for her to make that change since someone (me) is doing it with her....I'll take it. Praise the Lord!7
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hydechildcare wrote: »That so super sweet. I love my husband and he is super supportive, though he doesn't understand the calorie counting either. His favorite word is you can't have that. I am working on him to use the word shouldn't because I can have what ever I want. He eats really healthy so he supports me in by cooking and help shopping for healthier foods to eat. He more than happy to get up for a walk when I don't want to go by myself. He is my support we are just working on wording. Some one telling me I can't have something makes me want to do it even more.
I hear what you're saying about the wording. Oh how words hold so much power. 'Sticks and stones my *kitten*!' LOL. Your husband, in the way he supports you, reminds me of mine. Sounds like you were fortunate to be partnered with a good man. :-)1 -
My fiance is excellent at reigning me in from fast food and restaurants. Without him, I'd be a balloon.
He has lost over 100lbs while we've been together, and now he has abs! He's become very active and fit, he's definitely an inspiration to me.
So... his support has been just existing around me, haha.
Oh this is beautiful!!!!!1 -
emcclure013 wrote: »Took a while, but my husband is really getting behind me now because he sees how important it is for me to stick with it. Every night I walk a mile or two with the dog, and every night I invite him to come along. He always says no, and I figure it's his choice and I'll never force him to come along. Last night I made it about 3 blocks out and I heard someone running behind me - it was my husband. He ran to catch up because he changed his mind and wanted to come along. We went about 2 miles and it was just lovely having some company.
Oh I'm in love with love! He loves you and he gets it! I'm so happy for you all! And you loved him enough to not push him!!! Yes!!!!3 -
Tacklewasher wrote: »My wife tries to be supportive, but she is also one who buys into whatever has shown up in her FB feed that day so I did have to tell her to back off and let me do it my way.
She knows I will weigh stuff. If she makes something new, she knows to give me the recipe. I'm teaching her to just send me the URL so I can import it.
She has seen 100+ lbs drop off so she knows what I'm doing is working and is very happy.
Some of the folks at work are really good about cheering me to run.
LOL, at least wifey is trying, right? Sometimes, we do have to respectfully tell our spouses to give us a little breathing room. I hope she has been listening, but I hope you aren't too harsh with her. Sounds like she cares a lot for you.
Good for your coworkers. The support is always nice to have around.1 -
aggiepringle6665 wrote: »Just telling me they see changes in my body.
Yes!!! A lot of times, just knowing that SOMEONE else other than ourselves can see the changes gives us some sort of validation.0 -
YepItsKriss wrote: »Lol, these stories are the reason i justify my choice to kick my boyfriend to the curb after 6 months and focus on me again by returning here..
Instead of understanding the importance of me wanting to get my weight off, he was constantly critical of everything i did. If i wasn't hungry he made a huge issue out of it and wouldn't relent until i ate something. If i wanted to eat smaller portions, he lectured me about how my not eating as much as him was not good for me, he would get up and put more food on my plate, if i didn't want to eat what he put there, he would get frustrated and mad at me because i was making everything an issue. If we went out to eat, after i ate my meal, he would offer me more and if i said no, he would give me ultimatums about either eating it or doing something i hated. On my own choice if i was to eat something, he would decide if i could of made a better choice and lecture me about not making the right one. Other days he would just up and decide we were gonna eat better and exercise together, I would commit and make a calorie goal and he would just eat a half a tub of ice cream a day, keep offering it to me and when i would say no, i made a goal, im going to stick to it, he would say "you can still have this stuff, cause youre going to exercise" -- he was the type that believed that going to the gym was the reason why people were fit and not over weight, and he believed my weight would fall off me within a couple weeks. When he had too much to drink one night, his comment to me was that i broke my promise and got fat. So that was that. I left.
SO.. the best thing anyone ever did for me? Him staying away from me and allowing me to become a person again.
Wise lady you are. Sometimes, we have to be our own support before we can take good support from anyone else. No where else but up for you!1 -
PrincessSlytherin wrote: »I know when it boils down to it, only we can male or break our journey. It is still nice though when someone else does something to show their support of our decisions.
Mine actually happened this morning. My boyfriend does not understand anything about calories or calorie counting. I've tried to explain it to him but his eyes just glaze over. He is lucky that he has the innate ability to only eat when he's hungry and not overeat.
Normally, I eat a bowl of cereal before I take him to work. This morning I woke up to him handing me a bowl of cereal in bed because he wanted to let me sleep in. It was sweet, so I figured I'd just write this one off because I couldn't log what he gave me.
On our way out the door he pointed out a piece of paper where he had the weights for the cereal and milk. When I asked him why he did that he just shrugged and said "well I see you weighing your food all the time and I don't understand it, but it seems important to you so I figured it didn't take that much work to do it for you."
It felt nice to know that he supports me even though he has no clue what I am doing. He knows it's important to me and that's enough reason for him to help out.
Oh y'all need to get married! Sounds like he's a keeper! :-)3 -
My wife is allowing me to take time off work to focus strictly on my health and weightloss, she is supporting me throughout this whole journey and holding down the bills. Means so much to me and I won't let her or myself down. XO5
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I'm single and have no significant other or prospects. Neither my parents nor my sister are being particularly encouraging - they won't discuss the journey with me, and will quickly change the subject if I bring it up. They make it clear they don't like my new way of cooking - even if they loved the dish before they found out how I made it......
My brother is better; he just had weight loss surgery a month ago, his wife a year ago, so we can swap some recipes and such.
But what has encouraged me (besides my friends here at MFP) is about 3 weeks ago, a guy who works in the same office as I do stopped by. He said that he hadn't seen me in a while and he was amazed at how different I was looking and wanted to let me know - and he was curious as to how much I'd lost and how. Then about 2 weeks later, the mail room guy came around - he said he'd been talking to the first guy who told him that he had to come up and see me because of how much I had lost. The mail room guy was also very encouraging.
It was very, very nice to have people noticing my efforts and being complimentary and encouraging! It really made my day!13 -
I love these stories!
I was in the middle of a 3 week Daniel Fast when I fell and broke my foot. Because I live upstairs it was difficult for me to get around and my friend and her husband opened their home to me for a few days until I was more confident on my ability to get up and down the stairs.
They both changed their own diets for those three days so that we all ate the same foods and so that I wouldn't have to struggle with temptation, or have to go off my eating plan. It was pretty great
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TorresCarmeniifym wrote: »My wife is allowing me to take time off work to focus strictly on my health and weightloss, she is supporting me throughout this whole journey and holding down the bills. Means so much to me and I won't let her or myself down. XO
Oh wow!0 -
GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »Such wonderful stories in this thread!
I think the most supportive thing to happen to me is my husband, a natural night owl, putting up with the alarm going off at 4:30 every morning when I get up to exercise. He's always woken up by it and always good humored about it. He falls right back to sleep, so I'm sure that helps.
Similar here. I'm up around 5. Wife would be in bed until 10 if she could. But I let the dogs out and then they come back in, jump on the bed and curl up with her. By 5:10 I can hear all 3 of them snoring.2 -
Loving this! My partner and I sat down about a month ago and figured out how we could balance my workouts with our home life (he's a stay/work at home daddy, and doesn't get out much; I work outside the home, ring tower bells twice a week and Zumba once a week) so I wasn't taking advantage of his good nature and general support. He is also an owl who doesn't grumble at his 6am-rising lark. He is even (mostly) good-natured about my new earlier bedtime....1
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The most supportive thing was my buddy no longer asking me to go to the Brazilian steakhouse every month. We only experience death-by-meat once a year now.4
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Well my whole family in their own way.
Hubby for not having a fit when I spend a good chunk of change (still within budget!) on new, smaller, sexier workout and casual clothes. He gets a nice fashion show though
He's turning our spare room into my home gym. He's okay with half our fridge being produce, and he's supporting my decision to start the loose skin removal consults. He also lets me vent my insecurities about my weight and body with a loving ear and shoulder. I patiently offer advice and guide him in his journey to health.
My 24 y/o daughter and I talk about the gym, Target and Trader Joe's runs, and clothes that fit better. She's around here somewhere, but won't give me her username. It was her who introduced me to MFP. Thank you, baby girl
My 13 y/o son jogs, shoots hoops, and throws footballs with me as part of his sports training. And likes shopping for new workout gear. We also talk and walk out our frustrations, instead of turning to tv or food.
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It really is so nice to hear wonderful stories about such supportive spouses. You are so blessed! Where I do go to find guys like that? lol1
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My husband watched me weigh out some ice cream the other night! He did not shake his head or mock me for doing it, he simply said "you are so disciplined and you're doing everything to achieve your goal and its inspiring".
He has lost 70 pounds and on a mission to lose another 10. He has not logged one calorie during his weight loss and while my methods carry over to him (I help him with what to eat during the day, we eat the same at night and weekends, etc.. ) he just understands what I am doing and why I am doing it. 20 years together and I am equally proud of him as he is with me!
OP your story is truly awesome and you are super lucky. Love this!!!
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My husband is very supportive of me. He tells me how proud he is of me and that I am doing great. When I conquer an extremely hard workout, his response "that's what I'm talking about!" He also likes to help me find new recipes.3
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the most supportive things is my fiance loves me, regardless of my weight.
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Hey everyone! When I made this thread I didn't expect to get so many awesome responses. Since starting this thread I showed it to my boyfriend and he is still confused why him doing that for me is so huge to me. So clueless, so adorable
Also, please keep posting your stories here! I love hearing them and it is so inspiring to know that we are surrounded by such awesome people.5 -
My BF is... well, he's REALLY fit, always was. We met at the gym, but then I fell off the wagon. He was the one that encouraged me to get back to it because he wanted to share more experiences with me without me hurting. It's been tough for him because he really does need to eat a lot more than I do, and I've been keeping calories dense foods out of my apartment. He invited me over for "bread pizza" tonight but just texted me a picture of salmon. Much easier on the calorie bank.
P.S. bread pizza is homemade bread with mushrooms, garlic, cheese, etc. on top. He makes killer bread but this is NOT something I can "afford" right now.
He's also been splitting meals with me when we go out. I know that he goes home and eats after, but it really helps me stay in check.2 -
That my family didn't laugh when l said I was going to start running and actually asked how it went!1
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Tacklewasher wrote: »GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »Such wonderful stories in this thread!
I think the most supportive thing to happen to me is my husband, a natural night owl, putting up with the alarm going off at 4:30 every morning when I get up to exercise. He's always woken up by it and always good humored about it. He falls right back to sleep, so I'm sure that helps.
Similar here. I'm up around 5. Wife would be in bed until 10 if she could. But I let the dogs out and then they come back in, jump on the bed and curl up with her. By 5:10 I can hear all 3 of them snoring.
Tacklewasher - I just had to check your profile to make sure you weren't my husband - he could write the EXACT same post.
Great hearing everyone's stories!0 -
My husband is super supportive, and I am supportive of him as well. Works best as a team!
A couple things he has done for me is telling me that if hiring a trainer makes me happier and boosts my journey, then he'll pay for a trainer (he does not believe in them). He's also motivating on days I want to quit. Sometimes he gives me the tough guy "get to the gym" speech, which works great! It's nice to know that someone is cheering you on!0
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