What are some of the most positive things your parents passed down to you?

unfilterednate
unfilterednate Posts: 905 Member
edited November 22 in Chit-Chat
Life, love and lineage was a saying around my broke home since before I can remember us being broken.

To this day, I can't help but want to reconstruct my family into an extended one, starting with me and whomever my wife will be.

This has shaped my expectations of family in such a way that I'm pretty diehard for anyone that comes into my circle of trust and I would give you the clothes off my back once you're there...

What about you?
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  • jcstevens86
    jcstevens86 Posts: 3,338 Member
    Pretty much the same deal as you @unfilterednate ....
  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
    Don’t judge. Don’t be critical. Don’t be a jerk.
  • ManBehindTheMask
    ManBehindTheMask Posts: 615 Member
    My inheritance
  • SomebodyWakeUpHIcks
    SomebodyWakeUpHIcks Posts: 3,836 Member
    @MeeseeksAndDestroy Jenny passed something down to Forrest Jr.
  • jcstevens86
    jcstevens86 Posts: 3,338 Member
    HealthyAshes88888 wrote: »
    How not to treat your spouse and children. I'm winning.

    True story
  • RastaLousGirl
    RastaLousGirl Posts: 2,119 Member
    10 deep breathes and a smile. Whatever comes are way, we will get through it.
  • cmacphee3
    cmacphee3 Posts: 278 Member
    How to be silly and not take life too seriously.
  • angel4732
    angel4732 Posts: 14,898 Member
    To treat others as you wish to be treated yourself
  • Just_J_Now
    Just_J_Now Posts: 9,551 Member
    Love! Among all our dysfunction, there was always an abundance of love.
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  • SomebodyWakeUpHIcks
    SomebodyWakeUpHIcks Posts: 3,836 Member
    How to expect a trophy for doing nothing and for giving me a car at 16 without me working.

    #Raisingasocialist

  • evilpoptart63
    evilpoptart63 Posts: 397 Member
    Other than badass genetics? :wink: Probably the importance of loyalty and good sense of humor
  • JillianRumrill
    JillianRumrill Posts: 335 Member
    edited October 2017
    Whenever my dad had to punish me or my brother, he would tell us afterward why he punished us so that we could learn not to do it again. I love my dad, he's an amazing guy. Really friendly and caring. I hope I got his personality. :)
    My mom...uggghh...that anxiety is a *kitten*...and can turn you into one.
  • Tayykisses
    Tayykisses Posts: 265 Member
    edited October 2017
    My dad taught me to forgive, and he is much much better at doing that than I ever will be.

    My mom, however taught me to take no *kitten* from anyone and to "whoop that a*s" if anyone tries me.

    I think I got more of my mom's ideas than my dads, but I'm working on that Lol
  • pudgy1977
    pudgy1977 Posts: 13,499 Member
    Sense of humor and a great work ethic.
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  • JeepHair77
    JeepHair77 Posts: 1,291 Member
    Sarcasm runs rampant from my dad's side of the family. I am forever grateful for that trait.

    They found the perfect balance between supporting me and making me work. Paid for my college education and the cheapest dorm room and meal plan, but if I wanted any life beyond that, I had to get a job. It turned out really well - I finished undergrad debt-free but I knew how to take care of myself and didn't have an entitlement complex and never asked them for anything again.

    This is not something I fully appreciated until I was a parent, and it is HARD to find that balance. My parents did a really, really good job, and I'm trying to follow their example with my kids.
  • busyPK
    busyPK Posts: 3,788 Member
    My dad taught me how to manage money. My mom taught me how to love unconditionally. They both showed me that marriage is hard work, and there is no such thing as a perfect one. They bicker and argue and it wasn't hidden from their kids. It was just life, but after each day they spoke to each other with respect and kissed openly. They stuck it out and are truly best friends.
  • MrSith
    MrSith Posts: 1,636 Member
    Always try to help someone.
  • MrSith
    MrSith Posts: 1,636 Member
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    My parents taught me what not to do by their example.
    Sadly I can't think of anything positivite they taught me, except maybe that I figured out that nobody will ever care about you as much as you can care for and about yourself

    Most people don't even care about themselves
  • JeepHair77
    JeepHair77 Posts: 1,291 Member
    busyPK wrote: »
    My dad taught me how to manage money. My mom taught me how to love unconditionally. They both showed me that marriage is hard work, and there is no such thing as a perfect one. They bicker and argue and it wasn't hidden from their kids. It was just life, but after each day they spoke to each other with respect and kissed openly. They stuck it out and are truly best friends.

    I love this.
  • Athena98501
    Athena98501 Posts: 716 Member
    I need to say first that I'm genuinely happy for anyone who had a happy childhood.

    The one thing I gained from the way I was parented is to value kindness above all other traits a person can possess. If you are strong enough (and perceptive enough), you can see that only weak people want to hurt people. My parents were weak.
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  • peaceout_aly
    peaceout_aly Posts: 2,018 Member
    unfilterednate wrote: »
    Life, love and lineage was a saying around my broke home since before I can remember us being broken.

    To this day, I can't help but want to reconstruct my family into an extended one, starting with me and whomever my wife will be.

    This has shaped my expectations of family in such a way that I'm pretty diehard for anyone that comes into my circle of trust and I would give you the clothes off my back once you're there...

    What about you?

    "Everything happens for a reason" and "there is no such thing as coincidences" were big in my home due to many circumstances occurring and us being able to see the silver lining. This is something I will pass down to my children as well, and have already integrated into my group of friends.
  • Just_Mel_
    Just_Mel_ Posts: 3,992 Member
    I will say that I respect the fact that most parents are just fumbling through doing they best they know how, whether or not it's right or wrong, including my folks. Some are just better at learning and growing than others.
  • KyleGrace8
    KyleGrace8 Posts: 2,205 Member
    I'm going to also say they taught me who not to be and thanks for the genetics...sort of.
  • LeGaCyGiAnT91
    LeGaCyGiAnT91 Posts: 405 Member
    This is a hard question to answer. I have nearly a zero connect with my parents now, which is sad, simply because they aren't experiencing their time as grandparents, but so be it. It is what it is. Not going to change my ways for people who don't really get it.

    Growing up though, I will admit, I was really spoiled. Having a kid of my own now, my parenting techniques are different than how we were raised to an extent. Don't get me wrong, we spoil our kid to no end, but, they know their limits. Things get taken away when they are bad. I have a lot of patience. Throw a fit all you want, not going to make me blink an eye.

    I guess the positives my parents taught me overall though:

    -Don't be a work-a-holic. You can't take money to the grave. My dad wasn't always around growing up due to him working all of the time, but we were spoiled because of it. I think I would have rather had it the other way around though. Spend time with your family. Cherish each moment as if it were your last

    - Tools. You can never be too crafty. My dad has shown me some things that I will always use. It is nice being able to work on your own vehicles.

    - Don't go cheap. This is vague, but their are some things you just can't simply go cheap on.
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