What are some of the most positive things your parents passed down to you?
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my father Died when I was a year old, so my mother had to raise five children in an Era women were really only had certain jobs, it was the 70's so no day care, I would come home to an empty house. MY mother worked her butt off trying to keep the house and feed five children, there were good times and bad. But she did it, she kicked butt when it wasn't the norm for a single lady, she had taught me, you work hard and drive forward, you pull your own weight. Work ethic is everything, and family comes first.
she died a few years ago, so those that have parents still alive, cherish your time with them, life is way to short.
I also had two brothers pass one from Cancer, one from a gun shot wound in a bar fight. IF anything, go live life, enjoy it, it can change on a dime.8 -
Definitely not good Parenting skills!
I've learned that on my own!
On a positive note.. My Mom's side of the Family doesn't start to grey until their late 60s -early 70s and all look very young for their age! :bigsmile:
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My father always told me to never depend on a man because they will enter my life and leave as they please. He taught me to do basic maintenance on my vehicle. He taught me self-reliance. He taught me the importance of hard work. He had an excellent work ethic. He taught me that family comes above all else, i.e. their well-being, their survival. He never failed to work his hardest at providing for my mom and his two children - me and my brother.
My mom taught me to learn patience (I still struggle with this). That one exudes patience with everyone around them especially those they love. That there is strength in walking away from a situation that is bad rather than exist within it, slowly dying. This was perhaps the hardest for me as I found it extremely difficult to walk away from my ex. That day took a piece of me.
My dad was very traditional, old-fashioned. He expected me to greet any and all, not shrink and hide away - this is still hard for me as I'm very much an introvert, but i do it anyway. He was strong willed, very independent and I know my mom was the love of his life. He always made sure she was comfortable, taken care of, that she got into the car first, that she had food readily available so that she and his kids never went hungry. He taught me manners and etiquette through his actions.
My mom taught me what it means to be strong. That should something not go as planned to always have an alternative. That strength happens after you fall.
Oh and my dad always told me, "why are you cooking only for yourself when there are other people around you that may be hungry? ". Lol thinking about that always makes me laugh.
Sorry for the long post.
P.S. another thing my mother tells me even now, "forgive even your enemies before the day ends. Never close your eyes in sleep, Sylvia, until you resolve any issue with another soul that plagues your conscience". This can be very hard at times, definitely easier said than done. ♡5 -
Thanks for all the honesty and well thoughtful posts.
. It is appreciated.
As the posts roll in you can tell that old adage "it takes a village to raise a child" coming into view.. as many parents struggle to figure it all out.. I often wonder how much more positive impressions and subjects would we have known if or communities were just a little bit closer knit..4 -
My father always told me to never depend on a man because they will enter my life and leave as they please. He taught me to do basic maintenance on my vehicle. He taught me self-reliance. He taught me the importance of hard work. He had an excellent work ethic. He taught me that family comes above all else, i.e. their well-being, their survival. He never failed to work his hardest at providing for my mom and his two children - me and my brother.
My mom taught me to learn patience (I still struggle with this). That one exudes patience with everyone around them especially those they love. That there is strength in walking away from a situation that is bad rather than exist within it, slowly dying. This was perhaps the hardest for me as I found it extremely difficult to walk away from my ex. That day took a piece of me.
My dad was very traditional, old-fashioned. He expected me to greet any and all, not shrink and hide away - this is still hard for me as I'm very much an introvert, but i do it anyway. He was strong willed, very independent and I know my mom was the love of his life. He always made sure she was comfortable, taken care of, that she got into the car first, that she had food readily available so that she and his kids never went hungry. He taught me manners and etiquette through his actions.
My mom taught me what it means to be strong. That should something not go as planned to always have an alternative. That strength happens after you fall.
Oh and my dad always told me, "why are you cooking only for yourself when there are other people around you that may be hungry? ". Lol thinking about that always makes me laugh.
Sorry for the long post.
What Wonderful Parents! You are Truly Blessed!
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unfilterednate wrote: »Thanks for all the honesty and well thoughtful posts.. It is appreciated.
As the posts roll in you can tell that old adage "it takes a village to raise a child" coming into view.. as many parents struggle to figure it all out.. I often wonder how much more positive impressions and subjects would we have known if or communities were just a little bit closer knit..
I agree. I think communities need to be more human.
P.s. i am liking this thread1 -
Lessons taught by parents-
People are more important than money. Family is important.
Make a plan.
Don't be late. Be early.
No snooze alarms.
Don't be mean, yell, hit or curse at people. Don't hate people. Try some understanding and patience.
Work hard. Do your best.
Be loyal. Respect traditions.
Take educational opportunities seriously.
When you go out in the world, present yourself as best you can. Put your best foot forward.
Mistakes happen. If you mess up, try to fix it.
Do it yourself. Don't pay people to do things for you or ask for favors all the time.
"It just doesn't matter". A lot of that *kitten* you could just let go.
Learning what to do or not do by seeing mistakes parents made-
Don't live beyond your means. Save up for things. Make a budget.
Don't buy stuff just because it is cheap. It is not a good deal if it just gathers dust or breaks.
Don't watch so much tv. Get up and move more.
Communicate your feelings. You are not a bad person if you are angry or sad.
Work should not be your whole life. Have some hobbies. Have friends. Spend time with your family.
You don't have to put up with a toxic job or people.
You can love someone without telling them or being physically affectionate but it is nicer to say it and show it more directly on a regular basis.
It is okay to ask for help. It is okay to call an electrician or pay someone to mow the lawn. It is okay to seek medical care before you are seriously ill.
It is okay to be late sometimes or not plan everything. The world will still turn.
Sometimes you should stand up and be more loud about things that are wrong.2 -
Not necessarily my parents but my son.....if you are cold go and stand in the corner of the room it's 90 degrees 5
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FabulousFantasticFifty wrote: »My father always told me to never depend on a man because they will enter my life and leave as they please. He taught me to do basic maintenance on my vehicle. He taught me self-reliance. He taught me the importance of hard work. He had an excellent work ethic. He taught me that family comes above all else, i.e. their well-being, their survival. He never failed to work his hardest at providing for my mom and his two children - me and my brother.
My mom taught me to learn patience (I still struggle with this). That one exudes patience with everyone around them especially those they love. That there is strength in walking away from a situation that is bad rather than exist within it, slowly dying. This was perhaps the hardest for me as I found it extremely difficult to walk away from my ex. That day took a piece of me.
My dad was very traditional, old-fashioned. He expected me to greet any and all, not shrink and hide away - this is still hard for me as I'm very much an introvert, but i do it anyway. He was strong willed, very independent and I know my mom was the love of his life. He always made sure she was comfortable, taken care of, that she got into the car first, that she had food readily available so that she and his kids never went hungry. He taught me manners and etiquette through his actions.
My mom taught me what it means to be strong. That should something not go as planned to always have an alternative. That strength happens after you fall.
Oh and my dad always told me, "why are you cooking only for yourself when there are other people around you that may be hungry? ". Lol thinking about that always makes me laugh.
Sorry for the long post.
What Wonderful Parents! You are Truly Blessed!
Thank you ♡0 -
My same son (I have 4) sang to me in Abbas money money money tune....mummy mummy mummy is lovely in myhi world, it melted my heart2 -
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Mum taught me to feel good about myself I should eat because it's always there to make me feel good when things are bad and dad taught me to be submissive. I wonder if that's why I comfort eat and get treated like a mug?3
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Coming from a broken home doesn't leave you many positive things to carry over into your adult life. My parents made MANY mistakes and did the best they could under their circumstance. I do however, knew at a very young age that that's a cycle I needed to break. So I guess doing the opposite of what they did was a lesson I've carried through life lol. Now as they are older & wiser, they have given me great advice when I needed their wisdom. I also love the fact that they are cultivating some of those good things into my kids as well 3
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Pride and the ability to nag1
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Mostly lots of 'Do Not's but my dad taught me take *kitten* from no one, my mom taught me be nice to everyone and my stepdad taught me even if you live together it is possible to never talk to eachother.4
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How to be completely independent2
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To leave things the same or better than you found them4
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Critical thinking skills, sarcasm, and compassion. My dad definitely emulated the type of man I would want in my life later on. My parents are pretty rad.4
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Sticking together. My parents got married when they were in college and my mom got pregnant. Statistically they had no chance of making it and I know they had struggles. But 46 years later, they are happily married best friends w/ an amazing life.4
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respect others was the biggest rule. my dad told me if I didn't like living at home I go. I went for 2 hours and came home. that was the last time I left.1
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My dad taught me: first and foremost, trust my gut. Always. Also: I'm capable of doing anything a guy can do, there are some things that I should expect a man I'm in a relationship to do - generally basic respect items, have a level head with money and practice what I preach.
My mom taught me to not give up myself for my family whether it's career, health or social life and that when things go bad women are typically the link that's strongest in many ways other than physical.
Their relationship taught me that ending something amicably is much better than raising kids in a house where disdain is not hidden at all and respectful, open communication is paramount.1 -
My mom taught me there is no room for toxic people in my life.
This is funny because she is a toxic person7 -
Stop sitting around the house. Go out and play.1
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Respect for my elders, cleanliness, importance of being able to cook for ones self.0
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Manners cost nothing and often mean everything.
Be thankful for the roof over your head, the food on your table and the clothes on your back.
You are loved.0 -
Great genetics, the most important thing possible, and my mother regularly asserted, and demonstrated, that "If you are not happy where you are now, you probably won't be happy anywhere."
Still being happy after 3/4 of a century!!1 -
They were both role models for me. Models of the type of person I DID NOT want to become. So far I have done well. My greatest fear is that some small part of either one will creep into my personality...0
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My Father? How not to be a bigoted racist feckwit.
My Mother? Not to live your life in fear of the unknown.
If only they'd had those lessons themselves.1 -
How to manage finances
Making every situation fun is a mindset, not a circumstance
Laughter makes everything better. Don't take life, or yourself too seriously
Before you speak, put yourself in the other person's shoes and say only what you would want to hear (ie do unto others as you would have them do unto you)
Stand up for the people you love
Love people for who they are, even when that is irritating2
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