What was your first “I’m getting fat” realization?

sriley721

Mine was when we installed security cameras around our house. Seeing myself on the monitor, there was no hiding from my size. It was to the point that I was viewing recorded activity in the driveway from the day before and was alarmed to see a "very large woman" walking around our cars. It was me! I love 30lbs since the cameras were installed. I still dont like to see myself but I will after the next 30lbs.

mortuseon_

Dress I'd had for years (which I wore to graduation) was visibly too tight, especially at the back. My face also looked tubby and in some of the photos I looked vaguely pregnant. I think I was really disappointed that the photos of that day had to be so bad. I did get this amazing edit out of it, though (sadly, our cat could not attend).

freespirit427

Someone/friend asked me if I was pregnant.

When I said I wasn’t they replied with “ when did you let yourself go?”

quiksylver296

freespirit427 wrote: »

Someone/friend asked me if I was pregnant.

When I said I wasn’t they replied with “ when did you let yourself go?”

Wow. With friends like that, who needs enemies???

GOT_Obsessed

mortuseon_ wrote: »

Dress I'd had for years (which I wore to graduation) was visibly too tight, especially at the back. My face also looked tubby and in some of the photos I looked vaguely pregnant. I think I was really disappointed that the photos of that day had to be so bad. I did get this amazing edit out of it, though (sadly, our cat could not attend).

I am really sorry that happened to you and your flet so hirrible. But I gotta say that picture is awesome!

GOT_Obsessed

Wow my typing was horrible, oops!

elisa123gal

trying on all my jeans from the past 9 years did the trick. i put them in two piles. the ones i could still get on..and the ones i could not. I stacked them largest to smallest. That was five weeks ago. I'm into my second pair in the skinny stack. Three more pairs to go until i'm done.

Jtucker19742018

Denial....now ready for action. Noone treated me bad, but my baby is 2 and it's time to get back to my size 6 ( now 10). Pics are still ok, but bathing suit....not so much.

h1udd

Just realised ... I never realised I was “getting” fat .... I more woke up 1 day and seeming had become fat

louisepaul16

Mine was a photo too. I had a photo taken with a friend (this sounds terrible and I do really love her) but she has always been rather on the large side, we went to school together and she’s one of my best friends but has always been larger.

I knew I had been putting on a bit of weight, but we had a photo together, and I was like, double her size. I honestly didn’t recognise myself, I saw myself as a fat person for the first time in my life. That seriously shocked me, so I started my decade long journey with yo-yo dieting.

JanesGame

My fat clothes suddenly became my normal clothes!

cessi909

Cleosweetie wrote: »

@marykaylady2010: Yikes. Please proceed with caution with this guy. His comment is very much a red flag. Please don't normalize it.

I read it like he had an honest conversation with her and was very loving in what he said. I think a partner should be able to address weight gain that is causing physical attraction issues.

yorkyboy72

Having to buy 40" waist trousers. That was enough.

FittnessWorld

When my mom told me she dont see how im this big that she wasnt thay big until after 2 kids

RavenLibra

I arrived when I was considering using the last hole on my belt

HDBKLM

cessi909 wrote: »

Cleosweetie wrote: »

@marykaylady2010: Yikes. Please proceed with caution with this guy. His comment is very much a red flag. Please don't normalize it.

I read it like he had an honest conversation with her and was very loving in what he said. I think a partner should be able to address weight gain that is causing physical attraction issues.

Not that it's up for a vote, but that's also how I interpreted it. The way it was shared in the post, at least, I got the impression that he was trying to share a specific concern that had negative potential for their relationship, and stressed that it didn't mean he'd stopped loving her. It's such dicey territory, isn't it, and I'm guessing he agonised over whether and how to say something before proceeding.

orangegato

Oh man, so many moments over the years, here's just a few:
6th grade girls referring to me as the "fat friend"
In college being asked to sit in the front seat of a car instead of the back b/c of my size
Progressively going up in clothes sizes, having to buy new belts, XXL shirts and size 40 dress pants
Having my kids pat my belly like they were rubbing a buddha belly
Pre-diabetes test result

NoxeemaJackson

I've always been fat, but the kick in the pants this time was my husband told me I was snoring.
I've never snored.
(I'm down 25 pounds, and am snoring much less)

juliedesabrais

I have a twin who I once shared clothes with. Once we were no longer sharing clothes... and my clothes looked like a blanket on her.. I realized I was too big. Also I was in a relationship and he cheated dozens of times. When I started blaming myself for it cause of my weight, I knew I had to do something to boost my confidence.

fuzzy_l0gic

I HAD to grow a beard to hide my chins.

DanK1988

When my cousin told me I had the exact build of Haley Joel Osment in Entourage. So funny but it was true. I'm losing weight but we still refer to it.

Marykaylady2010

I knew I was going to get some kickback from saying my bf said I was getting fat. Just a few facts we had a conversation 2 years ago where we agreed that we wouldn’t let each other get too heavy it’s unhealthy, and he tortured himself for weeks before he had the guts to say something. He is very supportive and proud of me in so many was and thanked me for being an adult about some much needed criticism.

orangegato

Also forgot to add - snoring and getting diagnosed with sleep apnea.

Saragirl2

HDBKLM wrote: »

cessi909 wrote: »

Cleosweetie wrote: »

@marykaylady2010: Yikes. Please proceed with caution with this guy. His comment is very much a red flag. Please don't normalize it.

I read it like he had an honest conversation with her and was very loving in what he said. I think a partner should be able to address weight gain that is causing physical attraction issues.

Not that it's up for a vote, but that's also how I interpreted it. The way it was shared in the post, at least, I got the impression that he was trying to share a specific concern that had negative potential for their relationship, and stressed that it didn't mean he'd stopped loving her. It's such dicey territory, isn't it, and I'm guessing he agonised over whether and how to say something before proceeding.

I think this would make an excellent thread. It seems it's hit a nerve with some of us. "How my weight affects my relationship with my partner?"

nirreha

Went shopping for the first time in forever and picked up a few items in my usual size to try on, but couldn't actually get any of them on once I made it to the fitting room. Definitely an eye opener.

HDBKLM

bump

goalsforever03

My kids asking if I have a baby in my belly

pcw65

At 6' 2" I was 190-195 for most of my early years until I hit 40. I then spent 5+ years hovering around 210 ignoring it because "I can drop this in 2-3 weeks, no sweat". Then 220 became my constant weight "I am not fat, just a few easily lost pounds" as I hit 50. Last month I was at the doc and she announced 230 as she weighed me...and it struck me that I had crept up 40 pounds! It was slow, slow enough not to really register.

My wife was watching a TV show that very evening, Fit to Fat to Fit, and I really identified with some of the behavioral traits the trainers saw when they put on weight. Moods, depression, no confidence, no energy etc. It was that combined with a look in the mirror the following morning (where the hell did that belly come from?!!?) that did it.

anonuser369

murp4069 wrote: »

sdogg626 wrote: »

MelanieCN77 wrote: »

It was always a photo caught me by surprise. My confidence has always been quite high, I used to joke that I had body promorphia in that I could always thought I looked better than I actually did.

Omg, I totally have this too but I always just called it "reverse body dysmorphia" lol. I always look great in my head and even fine in the mirror...but then I see a photo and I'm like woah, who is that fatty?!

This is so me!!

Me too.

BoxerBrawler

I was having lunch at my desk at work, enjoying the hell out of my big plate of Indian food! In my mind, everything I was eating was super healthy and nutritious... I mean it was all veggies and yummy sauces, how could it be bad? A co-worker who also got the Indian food walked by my desk and commented "Oh I love this kind of food, too bad it's so fattening and bad for you!" She chuckled and walked away. It stopped me in my tracks. I just couldn't believe it was bad for me. So I began to research... went on Google and typed in something like "How many calories or how much fat in Indian food". I was shocked and horrified to see what I was actually putting into my body. The sheer amount of food that I was consuming, huge portion size, the amount of fat and the number of calories not to mention the sodium... as I sat there reading it I started to realize that I was basically shoveling the food into my mouth without even taking the time to really taste it or even think about if I was hungry or not. I could suddenly feel the sides of my butt as it rubbed against the arms of my chair. It was that "ahaa" moment. I thought... how long is this going to go on, how fat and how unhealthy am I going to let myself get? I was disgusted with myself. I threw the rest of the container with the food in the trash and drank water for the rest of the day while I did research on "losing weight" and "healthy diets". I absorbed as much information as I could in just a few hours. So I hadn't weighed myself in over 10 years, didn't even own a scale. I hadn't exercised in a very long time, but on the way out of my building that day I stopped and I weighed myself and couldn't believe my eyes when the scale read 190 LBs! Five years or so prior to that I was at 135 when I got married. I was thoroughly disgusted. The very next morning I changed absolutely everything about myself.... forward to a year later with a solid nutrition plan in place and a daily exercise routine, I was down to 113 LBs. I tore myself down to rock bottom and rebuilt, recreated myself over the next couple of years. Today... I'm a master licensed nutritionist, a group X and private trainer, a boxing coach, a first rank orange belt in Muay Thai and am prepping for a body building competition this July.