How to approach girls in the gym???
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Don’t.
Aside from the fact that I look like a sweaty bum, I’m there to work out.
If you’re really that interested, hang around til the person is done and shoot your shot then.2 -
I'm siding with the minority. Even if I'm not interested in the guy, I take it as a compliment that they say something (provided it's not creepy).
Probably is best to wait till they're done their workout though, like others said. Nothing more annoying than being in the zone and someone interrupts! If my headphones are in, don't talk to me...unless you're dying or something.1 -
So, say you flirt with a chick at the gym. Things go well and you go on a few dates or hook up. Eventually, things fizzle or end badly. Then one of you has to quit the gym as to avoid seeing the other. That would be sad to quit your happy place.
Make sure she's worth it bro.18 -
Motorsheen wrote: »in the gym... no.
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just wait for them in the parking lot
inside their car
in the backseat.
Remember when I said...be cool? Yeah, well this is super not cool....
Well.... if you don't ask, the answer is "no".0 -
laprimaJenny wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »in the gym... no.
instead
just wait for them in the parking lot
inside their car
in the backseat.
I’ve had a strange man approach me once outside a Tim Hortons. I was on the phone with my mother and he knocked on my window. He said “your gorgeous, can I have your number?” Obviously, since I was freaked out I declined and drove away quickly.
Point is, it could happen.
that poor, strange guy was a fool.
did he really think that he could compete with Tim Horton?3 -
Smile and say hi.
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Do not and ha ha.
To that I'll add Dumb *kitten*.1 -
I'm going to add to my previous comment ... after seeing how many people are telling you not to do it. (I find that kinda depressing actually).
Life is way too short. Take risks and take chances. Talk to the girl with resting *kitten* face if you really want to, because hey, maybe she's wishing you would. Maybe she's had her eye on you for the past month. On the other hand...maybe she hasn't, and she'll laugh in your face...but who the hell cares? You won't know unless you try...you don't get anywhere in life unless you try. I think most people on these forums are well aware of that.17 -
I'm confused.... most of you haven't even said a good way to approach girls in the gym. OP asked a question.
For example:
You could say... “Well, since we keep running into each other by accident, why don’t we run into each other on purpose for once over a cup of coffee?”
I'm sure that's something...
If that doesn't work try these:
Do you have any tape? Because I'm totally ripped.
This elliptical isn't the only thing getting my heart rate up.
I got stopped by a police officer on the way here. He told me it was illegal to carry these guns in public.
Do you have a band-aid? Because I'm cut!17 -
Usually the answer is absolutely not.
I'm married at this point- but I have a hard and fast "don't date people at the gym" because when it goes south- then the gym is weird- and I don't want my gym to be weird- ever.
Being said- I have had some great conversations- and just chilling and chatting- that starts with the head nod. Just start slow.5 -
Girls in general, don't. You don't want to be "that" guy that everyone avoids, because it's annoying.
A specific girl? That might be different. Start with a friendly hi, and seewhere it goes. Try to avoid catching her in the middle of a workout, or anywhere she might feel uncomfortable.3 -
... had a naughty meme, deleted it so I wouldn't get reported lol
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I'm married and have been for 25 years but this thread is making me sad. The consensus is there is zero appropriate way to show an interest in someone at a place which indicates a shared interest? I guess the only option is to go online. I just hope my husband and I both live long healthy shared lives, because y'all's dating scene is something I don't ever want to have to mess with.
The way to approach a girl at the gym is the same way you would approach a guy at the gym. Stop trying to make a thing of it right off and get to know the person first.11 -
From the front, smiling and ready to retreat at the first sign that she's not interested.
If she's there to exercise and not socialize have some respect for that.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YP-De6pudm4
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It’s 2018 dude .... just don’t try to pick up girls. Definitely not at the gym, they are there to workout, definitely not at the supermarket, they are trying to shop for groceries, definitely not at the library, they are there to look at books. At a bar ?? ... no, they are there with their girlfriends. Car wash ... err no !!! Getting their car cleaned, coffee shop ?? ... really, interrupt a caramel, skinny latte ?? No. Basically you missed your chance dude .... if you are not married already, it’s game over !!!!30
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The amount of people saying you should never try to pick anyone up at a gym makes me sad. I mean, I'm happily engaged, but I'd be flattered if somebody thought I looked good enough at the gym to pursue me further. Unless you get propositioned literally everywhere you go, relax a little! It's fine to say no if someone asks for your number.
Honestly I hope I never have to deal with the current dating scene because I'd die alone, it seems like the only appropriate place to talk to strangers is online now?
To the OP: Go for it, but don't be creepy. Start with a head nod and smile, maybe say hi as you walk past them. It;'s pretty easy to tell if someone is up for chatting or wants to be left alone.8 -
Treat them like...uhm...you know, a human being? Talk to them if you actually got a reason, just like you would with other male members? I'm generally not a huge fan of having lengthy conversations there since I wanna be in and out real quick but I'm not opposed to someone saying hi.
However, your question kinda makes me think that this'd be the "I is man, u is girl, I like boobs" kind of a deal, in which case I'd say...just don't. Keep your eyes to yourself and just don't bother.9 -
I make myself real wide, flare my lats our like a cobra. Then I raise my hands up so they think I’m taller. Then I approach. Then I yell real loud so they know I’m in their territory ..... oh wait I’m just describing what happens if you come across a bear in the woods. Whatever. Prolly works the same.
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I make myself real wide, flare my lats our like a cobra. Then I raise my hands up so they think I’m taller. Then I approach. Then I yell real loud so they know I’m in their territory ..... oh wait I’m just describing what happens if you come across a bear in the woods. Whatever. Prolly works the same.
When I was still going to the gym I had a few guys who would chat to me. I was still married at the time though, so oblivious to whether they were trying to chat me up or just being friendly.1 -
If you see someone you like, don't approach them. Just catch their eye and nod and smile ever so slightly and go about your business... and ignore her after that at the gym that day. Do that consistently unless she smiles at you and she blushes. Then, stay where you are and just say something like, have a great day, workout, or whatever. Than ignore her and go about your business. You can still wave hello or something, but, don't approach her. Let her approach you after that. If she's interested, she will. If not, all you have done is practiced "charm" - keep doing that where ever you go and you'll soon notice that women are more relaxed around you and will start approaching you. It's about having healthy boundaries, respecting their space, and letting them know that you respect them and are comfortable enough in your own skin to just let them be.10
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It’s 2018 dude .... just don’t try to pick up girls. Definitely not at the gym, they are there to workout, definitely not at the supermarket, they are trying to shop for groceries, definitely not at the library, they are there to look at books. At a bar ?? ... no, they are there with their girlfriends. Car wash ... err no !!! Getting their car cleaned, coffee shop ?? ... really, interrupt a caramel, skinny latte ?? No. Basically you missed your chance dude .... if you are not married already, it’s game over !!!!
This is sad but kinda true. Is online really the only way to meet someone? I’m screwed
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If you have a gym crush, it's fine to talk to her. People meet people everywhere.
In between sets or when she is getting coffee, the best approach is to act like a NORMAL person (not a creeper), and ask her about her lifting program (do NOT give advice).
I've had it happen to me (I'm married and not interested), but if I were single I wouldn't be opposed to dating someone from the gym. Keep in mind if things get ugly, you might have to switch gyms.
ETA: You'd have to be the one switching gyms if it were me. I would tell all the women that you were bad in bed...lots and lots of gym gossip.4 -
I really dont see what the big deal is. Just smile, if she doesn't respond, move on. If she does, its a win win scenario
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Don’t.2
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Save it for the bar so there is alcohol and bad judgment involved. Hope you can feel the sarcasm.
At least your in a healthy place with something in common.1 -
"Excuse me miss. Does my towel smell like chloroform to you?"6
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Just stare at me on and off but then mostly on. I'll look back at you and you hold eye contact on me without looking away and then smile slightly.
I'll come up to you and say "Why are you staring at me? And are you laughing at me?"
And then you say, like, "I just think you're pretty. I wasn't, like, laughing at you."
And then I'll say, "Oh. Okay. I thought you were laughing at me but I guess you were just smiling. Do you like my outfit?"
Then, you should say, "Yes, it's beautiful. And why are you even here? You don't need a gym."
And I'll be like "Oh sure Rico Suave. Don't act like you don't notice that I have over 100 pounds to loose!"
And they you should go "Hey, nothing wrong with that Anna Nicole. I like 'em phat and fluffy all the way."
Then me and you can just skip the workout, skip the shower, and we'll just, like, walk out hand in hand and go get some ice cream or something.
Very specific. I don't understand romance, but I would love to botch this sometime. "Hey Anna Nicole, you don't belong here. Let's eat ice cream."10
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