The Mojo Thread
PrincessTinyheart
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Everyone talks about how confidence is sexy... But how do you get that? Do you just tell people you're sexy and act like you are until everyone just takes it for granted that it's true and starts agreeing with you? How and where do YOU get your confidence and mojo?
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I get mine from feeling good about myself, I don't tell anyone that's how I feel or that I am sexy/confident. If you have to tell people that you are sexy or confident then you are you trying to convince yourself more than them.
I also find confidence in stepping outside of my comfort zone and trying new things. Pushing myself to do something I would have never thought I would be doing. Even if I don't do the best at it, it boosts my confidence knowing that I tried.2 -
I don't tell people anything for starters, what they see is what they get. Getting older has done many things to me, one I don't care what anyone thinks and two I have had a long road to get where I am today, so going back is not an option, so I guess this is what I live by everyday.3
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Fake it until you make it.3
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Screw all dat. Just put 10% of your money in yer 401(k) for da win.2
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PrincessTinyheart wrote: »
Think about someone you think is confident. Mimick them.1 -
PrincessTinyheart wrote: »
I was kinda joking when I quoted that. But sometimes like today, I am kinda faking it cause I don't feel good today (under the weather).
Seriously, its has taken me many years, acceptance of yourself, your flaws, all the good and bad, is when things start to fall into place. Confidence radiates when we don't try. Be 100% your self, people see your confidence and there are things about you that inspire others, you just have to trust that.
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I like to hang out in the baby formula section at Walmart for a good 20-30 min. I always leave feeling like I got a fighting chance in this world.
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The pretending you're someone else thing works for me.0
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PrincessTinyheart wrote: »
I was kinda joking when I quoted that. But sometimes like today, I am kinda faking it cause I don't feel good today (under the weather).
Seriously, its has taken me many years, acceptance of yourself, your flaws, all the good and bad, is when things start to fall into place. Confidence radiates when we don't try. Be 100% your self, people see your confidence and there are things about you that inspire others, you just have to trust that.
Fake it till you make it actually worked for me for public speaking. I just tell myself to pretend to be someone people should be listening to and they do. I have had people ask me how I dont get nervous, but I do, really nervous. Guess I just hide it well.0 -
I get it from a good pair of shoes and a winged eye0
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4legsRbetterthan2 wrote: »PrincessTinyheart wrote: »
I was kinda joking when I quoted that. But sometimes like today, I am kinda faking it cause I don't feel good today (under the weather).
Seriously, its has taken me many years, acceptance of yourself, your flaws, all the good and bad, is when things start to fall into place. Confidence radiates when we don't try. Be 100% your self, people see your confidence and there are things about you that inspire others, you just have to trust that.
Fake it till you make it actually worked for me for public speaking. I just tell myself to pretend to be someone people should be listening to and they do. I have had people ask me how I dont get nervous, but I do, really nervous. Guess I just hide it well.
If I ever have to speak in public you can go as me! 0 -
I'm not confident about anything, my mind changes constantly. I almost always feel awkward and I'm scared a lot.
I am becoming more comfortable in my lack of confidence (I see it as being objective, open to variables and neutral), awkwardness and ok with being how I am. I've stopped trying to become what I'm not (confident, outgoing, skilled, whatever) just makes me feel bad about myself to think about it.
The fake it 'till you make it doesn't work for me, I feel like a liar and it stresses me to lie.1 -
I'm not confident about anything, my mind changes constantly. I almost always feel awkward and I'm scared a lot.
I am becoming more comfortable in my lack of confidence (I see it as being objective, open to variables and neutral), awkwardness and ok with being how I am. I've stopped trying to become what I'm not (confident, outgoing, skilled, whatever) just makes me feel bad about myself to think about it.
The fake it 'till you make it doesn't work for me, I feel like a liar and it stresses me to lie.
Although it's sad to hear that another person feels this way too, it's at least a little comforting to know I'm not the only one. I wish that wasn't the case... I like to believe that I'm the only one out there and nobody else goes through this.
It doesn't help when you have low self esteem and everyone around you acts like they are beautiful and sexy and amazing and you are expected to act the same way because you're a woman and are being constantly force fed the idea that confidence is sexy and you should OWN IT, but you don't know how because you don't have IT...
Well, at least we have running flirtatious jokes about making pancakes and having a good credit score to fall back on0 -
Hi Princess
I don’t agree...I find somebody that’s not full of confidence but can smile and have time to chat, as sexy as someone who is over confident.
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Just be who you are.. some of us are more confident than others, its all part of our individual uniqueness.. Ive never thought about where my confidence came from, it's always just been there.1
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Confidence is trust...belief....faith..I think we all have that to some degree.0
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I guess it depends on what confidence means to you. Me? I have complete confidence that I suck at many things, being a good person specifically. So now a days aka 'recently' I'm just trying to have little bits of confidence, little bits at a time that I'm probably ok at being a person, at best have confidence that I can become a better person.
Sure, I don't want to feel like my *kitten* looks huge when I leave the house or that I'm dueling with a big zit, but anymore my innerds are more important than my otterds.0 -
Hi Princess
I don’t agree...I find somebody that’s not full of confidence but can smile and have time to chat, as sexy as someone who is over confident.
Be yourself it’s good
Ha! I can truly say that smiling and chatting has never made me sexy. But I like the thought of this being a possibility somewhere in the world you are an inspiration to so many of us! 0 -
I guess it depends on what confidence means to you. Me? I have complete confidence that I suck at many things, being a good person specifically. So now a days aka 'recently' I'm just trying to have little bits of confidence, little bits at a time that I'm probably ok at being a person, at best have confidence that I can become a better person.
I love this.
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God give no one person everything.1
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I am sure you have a lot of other great qualities.0
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Lol I did not mean it like that. Just trying to stay positive and who doesn't like a good pancake
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I had something of a setback to my confidence yesterday, and writing it out makes it look kind of petty and childish, but at the time it was embarrassing.
My belly dance teacher brought several costumes to our class to give away. They are old costumes of hers and she found them while packing to move. She is around 5'3 or so, petite but curvy figure. Everyone in my class is either shorter than me but with different shapes and builds, or around my height but with a slim "model" figure. And then there's me... with over-proportioned everything
only a few pounds overweight but 5'11" with over-sized chest, shoulders, hips, etc.
There was nothing there for me. The skirts and pants were too short and small in the hips, the tops were too small... the fact that everyone else in the class found thing that either fit perfectly or could be altered easily kind of hit home that I'm something of a freak, or at least it reinforced the feeling that I am, one that I've always had about myself. I've never liked my looks anyway, and the pitying looks from the other members of the troupe justify reinforced it.
I know in the grand scheme of things this is nothing. I get it. But it was still hurtful and embarrassing just the same, and it made me realize that, as close as I am to my goal weight right now, it won't make a difference. I'll still feel ugly.
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In high school I assumed nobody liked me and that worked beautifully. To completely isolate me and make me feel like a sore thumb, that is.
I figure if the legal system sees people as innocent until proven guilty, I’ll do the same or similar and assume people like me until they tell me otherwise.
This works especially well in the upper Midwest where everyone is too polite to tell you what they really feel.1
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