After a bad break up he wants to talk face to face

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  • dniania
    dniania Posts: 251 Member
    _barefoot_ wrote: »
    You need to work on yourself and not be so needy .
    That is a huge turn off on people .
    You need to become more secure with yourself that you don't need to talk to him everyday and be ok with that .
    It's emotionally draining to always feel like you have to " babysit" you're partners feeling .

    Insecurity will always destroy anything you have good with someone .

    I’m trying i really am!!
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  • dniania
    dniania Posts: 251 Member
    kam26001 wrote: »
    He called out of work because he woke up late? lol. Gurl, move on to the next one. He'll never make assistant manager at the Blockbuster Video.


    Lol :#

  • marissafit06
    marissafit06 Posts: 1,996 Member
    If you love him and miss him why would you not meet him?

    He could be stringing her along or want some *kitten*.

    OP - no advice, but wanted to say you have beautiful hair.

    But how would we know that?

    Oh, I see your point. Fair and wise.
  • marissafit06
    marissafit06 Posts: 1,996 Member
    OP might also be dating the wrong types of people who behave in ways that make it hard to feel secure.
  • dniania
    dniania Posts: 251 Member
    _barefoot_ wrote: »
    _barefoot_ wrote: »
    You need to work on yourself and not be so needy .
    That is a huge turn off on people .
    You need to become more secure with yourself that you don't need to talk to him everyday and be ok with that .
    It's emotionally draining to always feel like you have to " babysit" you're partners feeling .

    Insecurity will always destroy anything you have good with someone .

    I understand this.

    What if your partner is the one making you insecure?

    Give up? What if you don't want to give up?

    Then don't I guess.

    Every relationship is different. I don't blame people for riding their various roller coasters...I have my own.

    At least it's exciting. But, once you're *actually broken up*.

    Meh. Screw them.

    From what I gather in this case as every case is different .
    OP has insecurity issues way before her relationship with her now ex b/f .

    Op also admitted she is clingy and that can drive people away as well .

    Thanks for summing it up ! Lol
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  • dniania
    dniania Posts: 251 Member
    Well here is the story we saw each other on Valentine’s Day he bought me a bag full of bath and body works a card and brand new boots! :):):) we spent the whole day together the next week he accused me of “meeting someone” because i went out with my friends and i wasn’t really replying to his texts because i turned my phone off when we went out he’s been distant ever since the day i went out ...and it’s causing me to cling he said he trusts me and isn’t mad but ever since the week after i went out it’s been a complete 360
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    dniania wrote: »
    Well here is the story we saw each other on Valentine’s Day he bought me a bag full of bath and body works a card and brand new boots! :):):) we spent the whole day together the next week he accused me of “meeting someone” because i went out with my friends and i wasn’t really replying to his texts because i turned my phone off when we went out he’s been distant ever since the day i went out ...and it’s causing me to cling he said he trusts me and isn’t mad but ever since the week after i went out it’s been a complete 360

    You would go bat kitten crazy if he turned his phone off on a night out, but it's ok for you to behave that way?
  • dmcnur
    dmcnur Posts: 157 Member
    edited March 2018
    It sounds like there has been problems on and off all the time you have been together. You need to ask yourself "is this what I want from a relationship".
  • dniania
    dniania Posts: 251 Member
    And then in top of that he broke up with me on Tuesday and texted me on Wednesday and texted me again on Thursday ... like if you break up with someone why continue communication
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  • dniania
    dniania Posts: 251 Member
    dmcnur wrote: »
    It sounds like he doesn't trust you and is mad, or it would never have become an issue.

    We hung out since then but he still wasn’t really talking to me then
  • dniania
    dniania Posts: 251 Member
    dniania wrote: »
    And then in top of that he broke up with me on Tuesday and texted me on Wednesday and texted me again on Thursday ... like if you break up with someone why continue communication

    Please don't tell me he broke up with you over texts...

    Yes he broke up with me in a text !
  • marissafit06
    marissafit06 Posts: 1,996 Member
    how long were you dating?
  • dniania
    dniania Posts: 251 Member
    dniania wrote: »
    Well here is the story we saw each other on Valentine’s Day he bought me a bag full of bath and body works a card and brand new boots! :):):) we spent the whole day together the next week he accused me of “meeting someone” because i went out with my friends and i wasn’t really replying to his texts because i turned my phone off when we went out he’s been distant ever since the day i went out ...and it’s causing me to cling he said he trusts me and isn’t mad but ever since the week after i went out it’s been a complete 360

    You would go bat kitten crazy if he turned his phone off on a night out, but it's ok for you to behave that way?

    I wouldn’t go crazy but ... I’d be upset but i wouldn’t assume he was with someone I’d assume he was ignoring me lol
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  • dniania
    dniania Posts: 251 Member
    how long were you dating?

    Would’ve been a year today
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  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    chalk it up to a life experience. these experiences aren't failures, instead they are molding you into the person that will eventually capture someone else's heart (justifiably so).
  • dniania
    dniania Posts: 251 Member
    dniania wrote: »
    Well here is the story we saw each other on Valentine’s Day he bought me a bag full of bath and body works a card and brand new boots! :):):) we spent the whole day together the next week he accused me of “meeting someone” because i went out with my friends and i wasn’t really replying to his texts because i turned my phone off when we went out he’s been distant ever since the day i went out ...and it’s causing me to cling he said he trusts me and isn’t mad but ever since the week after i went out it’s been a complete 360

    Maybe this is actually fixable idk. There's no actual problem.

    He's trying to meet you again.

    Do you want to? Then go for it.

    My gut says because you actually broke up that it won't work. Leave it broken and just move on.

    But that is up to you. If you broke up over this...you will probably imo break up again over something else as well.

    Being clingy and in love is not bad imo.

    That's how I am.

    "If you don't like my cling...then get lost". Only ever had just a few lovers in my life and I like it just that way.

    Be yourself.

    Idk he hasn’t set a date or time to meet i haven’t texted back either
  • Just_Mel_
    Just_Mel_ Posts: 3,992 Member
    I'm glad I'm single.
  • dniania
    dniania Posts: 251 Member
    I'm glad I'm single.

    I’m single too lol
  • aeloine
    aeloine Posts: 2,163 Member
    dniania wrote: »
    I'm glad I'm single.

    I’m single too lol

    Not really, if you've hung out with him and talked to him every day since you've broken up....