Have you ever reached a certain weight......

hesn92

I also think my preference has changed. I am good with the weight I am now but back when I was in my early twenties I would have thought I was too chubby. Lol. Back then I was 160 and thought that was fat and lost weight all the way down to 135, and now I’m 155 and totally fine with it.

New_Heavens_Earth

At 137 I actually thought I was pretty okay but kept pushing for a magic number. Half of my acquaintances said I looked great, others said I was too small in a not nice way (cultural issues of "big and thick" being preferred were at play). The sabotage, along with depression, got to me and I regained close to 15 lbs which I'm trying to work off. I'm 147 in my profile picture, and I think I look alright but not exactly there.

Kst76

New_Heavens_Earth wrote: »

At 137 I actually thought I was pretty okay but kept pushing for a magic number. Half of my acquaintances said I looked great, others said I was too small in a not nice way (cultural issues of "big and thick" being preferred were at play). The sabotage, along with depression, got to me and I regained close to 15 lbs which I'm trying to work off. I'm 147 in my profile picture, and I think I look alright but not exactly there.

Why do people say " you don't look good" to somebody that is losing weight. I belive its jealousy that now you all of sudden is a threat to them somehow.

AnnPT77

Kst76 wrote: »

New_Heavens_Earth wrote: »

At 137 I actually thought I was pretty okay but kept pushing for a magic number. Half of my acquaintances said I looked great, others said I was too small in a not nice way (cultural issues of "big and thick" being preferred were at play). The sabotage, along with depression, got to me and I regained close to 15 lbs which I'm trying to work off. I'm 147 in my profile picture, and I think I look alright but not exactly there.

Why do people say " you don't look good" to somebody that is losing weight. I belive its jealousy that now you all of sudden is a threat to them somehow.

Meh. Sometimes people really worry that we're sick - not used to seeing people at a normal weight, not used to seeing us specifically at a normal weight, and - speaking only for myself here - I had some facial loose skin after losing, for a while, that made me look a bit haggard (I'm 62; takes a while for the skin to catch up - it's fine now). Are some resentful or threatened? Sure. IME, not all. YMMV.

New_Heavens_Earth

AnnPT77 wrote: »

Kst76 wrote: »

New_Heavens_Earth wrote: »

At 137 I actually thought I was pretty okay but kept pushing for a magic number. Half of my acquaintances said I looked great, others said I was too small in a not nice way (cultural issues of "big and thick" being preferred were at play). The sabotage, along with depression, got to me and I regained close to 15 lbs which I'm trying to work off. I'm 147 in my profile picture, and I think I look alright but not exactly there.

Why do people say " you don't look good" to somebody that is losing weight. I belive its jealousy that now you all of sudden is a threat to them somehow.

Meh. Sometimes people really worry that we're sick - not used to seeing people at a normal weight, not used to seeing us specifically at a normal weight, and - speaking only for myself here - I had some facial loose skin after losing, for a while, that made me look a bit haggard (I'm 62; takes a while for the skin to catch up - it's fine now). Are some resentful or threatened? Sure. IME, not all. YMMV.

True. In my case that was the smallest they've ever seen me and weren't used to it, plus as mentioned, cultural preference. I also come from a family where obesity is the norm.

Kst76

AnnPT77 wrote: »

Kst76 wrote: »

New_Heavens_Earth wrote: »

At 137 I actually thought I was pretty okay but kept pushing for a magic number. Half of my acquaintances said I looked great, others said I was too small in a not nice way (cultural issues of "big and thick" being preferred were at play). The sabotage, along with depression, got to me and I regained close to 15 lbs which I'm trying to work off. I'm 147 in my profile picture, and I think I look alright but not exactly there.

Why do people say " you don't look good" to somebody that is losing weight. I belive its jealousy that now you all of sudden is a threat to them somehow.

Meh. Sometimes people really worry that we're sick - not used to seeing people at a normal weight, not used to seeing us specifically at a normal weight, and - speaking only for myself here - I had some facial loose skin after losing, for a while, that made me look a bit haggard (I'm 62; takes a while for the skin to catch up - it's fine now). Are some resentful or threatened? Sure. IME, not all. YMMV.

Then you simply ask. " I noticed you lost weight. I hope everything is ok.?" Then you say after its been confirmed that the person is not sick " you look great".
You dont tell people they look sick or whatever.
I think thats rude.

Cassandraw3

You also have to consider you may have gained/lost muscle since then. 150 lbs with 20% body fat vs 150 lbs with 30% body fat look vastly different. I have gained a lot of weight back from when I was down to my thinnest 4-5 years ago. I'm 5'4 and at my thinnest I was 120 lbs and size 0 doing all cardio (running and biking). If I were to try to get back down to that now, people would think I was anorexic due to the muscle I have now from strength training and lifting (my lean mass now is ~110-115 lbs). Body measurements and body fat percentage are much better indicators of health than weight.

workinonit1956

Yes. I have a photo (looking at it now, it’s on my mantle) from about 30 odd years ago. I’m at 150 in it, and I’m 149.5 today. I guess things have shifted over the years, lol, but I’m most definitely not happy with this weight now and am going for another 15 pounds....I think 15 should be about right. At this point I’m kinda flying by the seat of my pants.

LivingtheLeanDream

I'm now the same weight I was 30 years ago, my body is actually in better shape now and I'm also two sizes smaller than I was way back then. Having more muscle has contributed to that.

HoneyBadger302

I don't weigh much less than I did back in November (maybe 5 pounds lost, currently 153), but I look dramatically different. My clothes fit different. I'm haven't dropped a full size yet, but pants that were tight before, need a belt now. My skin is smoother and the fat is less prominent.

Honestly with my current muscle mass I don't think my original goal (5'7", 128) is reasonable anymore, so I've revised it. I'll get to my new goal (140) and just reassess at that time (well, I kind of reassess constantly, but pretty sure my new goal is very reasonable).

cwolfman13

temazur wrote: »

I think it has more to do with muscle composition. Two people can be the same height, weigh nearly the same, but look different based on muscle mass. So someone who does some weight training next to someone who does no weight training, the person who does the weight training might look "thinner". YMMV.

I know when I actually lift weights (and not hard core, just a few times a week) and hit certain weights things fit me better than the did at that weight previously without weight training.

And people can look completely different with the same BF% too...

A lot of people need to look past the scale...very often, losing more weight isn't going to get them where they want to be...a lot of people need to add muscle mass to get the physiques they're wanting.