What makes a guy hesitant to show interest ?

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  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    A pet peeve of mine is guys who ask me what women want. Every woman is different and we are all very, very human.

    Same thing here. How can every guy respond the same way? My guess he has history, something spooked him, and he backed off. But the only way you will know is if you ask him.
  • Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings
    Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings Posts: 5,545 Member
    CoffeeAndContour wrote: »
    Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings wrote: »
    CoffeeAndContour wrote: »
    dniania wrote: »
    spanish_liza wrote: »
    Cause he don’t like you Plain and simple
    If a guy likes you he’s making it known ..
    bbell1985 wrote: »
    Maybe because he's just not that into you.

    Guys who want me try to get in there. Guys who don't, don't call back.
    CoffeeAndContour wrote: »
    if he's interested in you, he'll show he's interested in you.

    Okay but he showed interest and then backed off ?

    perhaps he was interested and is no longer. this would be a good questions to ask him ;)

    Only been on a date or two? Do not ask him.

    I'm confused. She's only been on two dates with him?

    I suppose Im being presumptuous... OP, some context would be helpful.
  • bojack3
    bojack3 Posts: 1,483 Member
    Was it online dating?
  • km8907
    km8907 Posts: 3,861 Member
    He's keeping his options open.
  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,182 Member
    1. Shy. He'll get over that.
    2. Smart. He's a wise man.
  • JJordon
    JJordon Posts: 857 Member
    I'm constantly told chemistry is a two way street.

    Maybe, for OP's guy, he felt no chemistry and kept it movin'.
  • Svanel
    Svanel Posts: 6,255 Member
    Ask him.
  • DWBalboa
    DWBalboa Posts: 37,239 Member
    km8907 wrote: »
    DWBalboa wrote: »
    Because men are damned if they do damned if they don't. If a man shows interest in a woman and she doesn't reciprocate those feelings he's a creep or a perv. God forbid the interest was in a co-worker, now it's sexual herasment.
    Bloody hell it's just easier to stay celibate and play it safe and easy.
    Of course, I never do anything safe and easy.

    Who hurt you?

    That's a story for another day or should I say another forum.
    I've just seen it back fire on too many fellas.
    Not to mention too many training sessions. Manly because of the guy in the White House. Oppps he did it again.....
  • bbell1985
    bbell1985 Posts: 4,572 Member
    DWBalboa wrote: »
    km8907 wrote: »
    DWBalboa wrote: »
    Because men are damned if they do damned if they don't. If a man shows interest in a woman and she doesn't reciprocate those feelings he's a creep or a perv. God forbid the interest was in a co-worker, now it's sexual herasment.
    Bloody hell it's just easier to stay celibate and play it safe and easy.
    Of course, I never do anything safe and easy.

    Who hurt you?

    That's a story for another day or should I say another forum.
    I've just seen it back fire on too many fellas.
    Not to mention too many training sessions. Manly because of the guy in the White House. Oppps he did it again.....
    DWBalboa wrote: »
    km8907 wrote: »
    DWBalboa wrote: »
    Because men are damned if they do damned if they don't. If a man shows interest in a woman and she doesn't reciprocate those feelings he's a creep or a perv. God forbid the interest was in a co-worker, now it's sexual herasment.
    Bloody hell it's just easier to stay celibate and play it safe and easy.
    Of course, I never do anything safe and easy.

    Who hurt you?

    That's a story for another day or should I say another forum.
    I've just seen it back fire on too many fellas.
    Not to mention too many training sessions. Manly because of the guy in the White House. Oppps he did it again.....

    Que?
  • dniania
    dniania Posts: 251 Member
    DWBalboa wrote: »
    Because men are damned if they do damned if they don't. If a man shows interest in a woman and she doesn't reciprocate those feelings he's a creep or a perv. God forbid the interest was in a co-worker, now it's sexual herasment.
    Bloody hell it's just easier to stay celibate and play it safe and easy.
    Of course, I never do anything safe and easy.

    That escalated quickly :o
  • bbell1985
    bbell1985 Posts: 4,572 Member
    dniania wrote: »
    DWBalboa wrote: »
    Because men are damned if they do damned if they don't. If a man shows interest in a woman and she doesn't reciprocate those feelings he's a creep or a perv. God forbid the interest was in a co-worker, now it's sexual herasment.
    Bloody hell it's just easier to stay celibate and play it safe and easy.
    Of course, I never do anything safe and easy.

    That escalated quickly :o

    lol
  • DWBalboa
    DWBalboa Posts: 37,239 Member
    denny_mac wrote: »
    dniania wrote: »
    DWBalboa wrote: »
    Because men are damned if they do damned if they don't. If a man shows interest in a woman and she doesn't reciprocate those feelings he's a creep or a perv. God forbid the interest was in a co-worker, now it's sexual herasment.
    Bloody hell it's just easier to stay celibate and play it safe and easy.
    Of course, I never do anything safe and easy.

    That escalated quickly :o

    Yeah, he went right to the finish. You gotta let it build. There's gotta be some conversational back and forth. Give and take. Just like at a good meal, you don't start with dessert. He saw the appetizer and went right to the chocolate death brownie.

    She wanted the truth, and I just told it. No need to beat around the bush.
  • go_cubs
    go_cubs Posts: 1,183 Member
    He was showing interest then he wasn’t ?


    Lol I’m sorry but it doesn’t take a genius to figure that one out



    On to the next one honey
  • dniania
    dniania Posts: 251 Member
    Maid_of_Mischief1 wrote: »
    OP, I remember you posting threads about your breakup, are you talking about the same guy? If so, do you not remember what I told you about that? Unless he has champagne coming out of his "kitten" and can make you shake like a broken washing machine, he's replacable. NEXT... :D Don't waste your time trying to figure out if a guy likes you or not, if he's interested you would know.

    Lol no i moved on :(

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