Less Alcohol- June 2018- One Day at a Time

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  • NovusDies
    NovusDies Posts: 8,940 Member
    edited June 2018
    Sinsanati wrote: »
    really having trouble staying AF. Advice?

    I already mentioned finding a different way to occupy yourself during your drinking window. You may need to add accountability to that strategy if it is not working. Get a friend or relative involved in your new activity and tell them why.

    Make a list of the reasons you want to quit for the rest of June. If you drink at home hang the list between you and your source of alcohol to remind yourself later. If the reasons include weight loss hang a picture there too. Prioritize your goal so that when you start your struggle you have more ammunition.

    Remove the temptation. This is only a short term strategy in my opinion but if getting started gives you momentum then you need to stay away from the alcohol outside your home and get rid of the alcohol inside your home (maybe give it to a friend for safe keeping if you intend to drink again).

    I don't want to push you to share if you are uncomfortable but if you do it might help someone that identifies with you a chance at catering advice to your situation.

    ETA: This doesn't replace other advice you were given or may be given. This is to add to the list of ideas that might possibly help. Understand that what works for one person may not work for you. I, personally, don't respond to alternative drinks like tea or mocktails while some people swear by them as an effective aid. I do believe they help some people, maybe even most people, but they don't help me.





  • SpanishFusion
    SpanishFusion Posts: 261 Member
    JenT304 wrote: »
    My dear mother in law of 32 years is in the hospital, probably dying today. My daughter had a beautiful baby girl 10 days ago. Being AF allows me to fully experience the joy and sorrow of these "circle of life" moments. I do not wish to dull either emotion with wine. I need to be fully present for my sad husband and father in law. I need to be on the ball for my daughter and her 2 little girls. I wish all my friends on this thread a good day and success with their personal goals. <3

    Warm thoughts going your way during this difficult time. <3
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,410 Member
    @JenT304 I'm so sorry to hear that. Sending hugs.
  • DogServant
    DogServant Posts: 30 Member
    mhansch wrote: »
    Hello. Alcohol has been the primary reason that I struggle with my weight. I would also like to join and not drink 5 days per week and only low calorie and moderation the others.

    I feel ya! Get after it, and journey forward!!!
  • como_agua
    como_agua Posts: 213 Member
    @JulieAL1969

    big hugs Jewel <3
  • como_agua
    como_agua Posts: 213 Member
    @donimfp

    what? Bourdain!? ohhhhhh no... i absolutely adored him.... :'(
  • Sinsanati
    Sinsanati Posts: 20 Member
    Sinsanati wrote: »
    really having trouble staying AF. Advice?

    Annie Grace's Alcohol Experiment really helped me. She has a daily note and podcast. It really makes you think and realize what alcohol does to you. It is free and an amazing resource.

    thanks! I'll check it out.
  • salleewins
    salleewins Posts: 2,308 Member
    @JenT304 I am very sorry.
  • islandbeez
    islandbeez Posts: 162 Member
    donimfp wrote: »
    I'm a bit low on energy today and feeling a bit blue. I just decided to cancel my "yes" to the "Whine and wine" party tonight. I'm sure that wine would be a little too enticing at this point, and my wisest course is to stay in, drink tea, journal, watch movies, and try to stay out of the TV room when the Cavs are playing! I'd normally push through, but I'm giving myself permission not to. Hopefully back to energy tomorrow. Have a good weekend, all!

    Going to plug The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober again ;-) Catherine Gray talks about loving your self enough to say NO to situations where you know you will be triggered, it gets easier over time but initially she says you have to guard yourself. She has an extremely busy social life and definitely had to navigate some rough waters in the beginning. It's a very inspiring read and her writing style is very enjoyable. Good luck to you!
  • donimfp
    donimfp Posts: 795 Member
    @islandbeez, thank you! Somehow I must have missed that recommendation in the past. I will be checking it out today! The sun is shining. It's Day 9, and my hibernation day yesterday seems to have been just what the doctor ordered. Time for a walk to the farmers market and a good breakfast taco, once I get yesterday's pj's off.
  • kittybenn
    kittybenn Posts: 444 Member
    @snoo61 - Catching up on all the interesting posts and loved this, that you got past beer-thirty. WTG. I think that's a huge step - just changing one habit.
  • kittybenn
    kittybenn Posts: 444 Member
    Wow, @NovusDies, you are a champ for putting that resource list together. Thank you thank you thank you! To have it all in one place is super valuable, especially for new people.
  • kittybenn
    kittybenn Posts: 444 Member
    @JenT304 - deepest condolences. You're right that we should all be so fortunate as to be surrounded by family and leave this life the way your MIL did.
  • snoo61
    snoo61 Posts: 549 Member
    kittybenn wrote: »
    @snoo61 - Catching up on all the interesting posts and loved this, that you got past beer-thirty. WTG. I think that's a huge step - just changing one habit.

    Thanks! I'm surprising myself. Wouldn't have gotten this far without everyone here. :)
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