Mfp crushes...
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How about...would you be open to pursuing something more serious if you met the right person?
Many of you seem to say no. But if all the stars aligned...0 -
I refrain from crushes as my mom told me that I could get pregnant.4
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mustacheU2Lift wrote: »xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Ill start. After reading the post I've come to the conclusion that a crush is someone you chat with that you click with. So, that could be multiple people...and of both genders. I crush @AgainWithTheSurfyPants cause we always stay in touch no matter what. Ive even heard her amazing accent....and shes kookie like me....just an example.
Define "click with" further please. A crush is someone that you may want more intimate or emotional relations with, along the lines of a relationship. Object of desire if you will.
The way you describe it, that is more of a friendship. Or, beginnings of one.
I guess i see crush as someone you have an interest/admiration for. And that maybe it does progress into more of a real friendship/relationship. To the point of meeting in real life, carrying on outside of mfp, and so on. I guess if you are talking to someone and you hope it to continue into a romantic relationship or you commit to being exclusive...thats more than a crush right?
Yes, the significant part of a "crush" is it potentially becoming more than just friendship. It was the way you worded your previous one that I was questioning since it seemed like you were calling a friendship a crush. I have a lot of people I'd call friends from here, or other online communities, that I'd enjoy meeting in person. But, because I'm not interested in more than just meeting a friend, it's far from a crush.
It's like the old saying of "You can't have friends of the opposite sex". This was the belief of my ex-wife, and she forbid me from having female friends. Driving those I did have away. For some reason, people have this stupid notion in their head that if you have friends of the opposite sex, all you'd want to do is get in their pants.
This is a bunch of BS, because it's nice to have close friends of the opposite sex for different views, and bounce things off when you have questions of something related to a spouse or SO. But, some don't see this as being a good thing for various reasons. My experience has shown that if a SO has issues with someone having friends of the opposite sex, watch out. They're usually the ones who are most likely to cheat. Or, are extremely jealous, which is unhealthy for any relationship.
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mustacheU2Lift wrote: »xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Avocado_AS5 wrote: »It's all fun until someone buys a plane ticket!
Well, that is taking it to a whole other level. I will say i almost did this a year ago. And if hes lurking i hope he reads it. I found out thankfully sooner rather than later that words like "dumb broad" and "stupid *kitten*" were readily apart of his vocab.
Now I feel like I'm over sharing.
I've purchased a plane ticket to go meet someone before. Was on a different community/forum and we had been talking for quite a few months before we agreed to meet. But, we were both interested seeing if it could go further (it didn't).
Now, it's entirely different if someone is travelling to an area for a completely unrelated event, and there's someone there from the community. This is generally how I meet a lot of people I interact frequently with online. Nothing is intended to come from it, other than putting a face to a (screen)name and saying "Hi" over a meal, drinks, or event. With one of my current hobbies, I tend to travel around the US a few times a year, and have met some pretty cool forum friends. Actually, this just happened a couple weeks ago and I met one of our amazing members here.
I've also done forum meetups or group events. Everything from going to conventions to spending the weekend at the racetrack.
Personally, have little or no interest in finding a relationship online on forums or social sites I'm on. I'd venture to guess that many have the same views. But, quite a few also have ulterior motives as well.
True. But just like IRL things can evolve. And in this scenario i do not mean married people. But if you are single your interactions here, at your job, at church...can lead you to meeting someone special...
Yes, it's all a part of life and how many people meet.mustacheU2Lift wrote: »How about...would you be open to pursuing something more serious if you met the right person?
Many of you seem to say no. But if all the stars aligned...
Just like in real life, things may happen and a relationship may come of it. It's happened here a few times, just like elsewhere. As mentioned before, I've flown to meet someone who I thought might have a serious relationship with.
But, in all reality, chances of a long distance relationship working out from people who have met on a forum is pretty damn slim. Especially here where it seems many of the people just want to (a little more than innocently) flirt and get some kind of validation of "still got it".0 -
xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Ill start. After reading the post I've come to the conclusion that a crush is someone you chat with that you click with. So, that could be multiple people...and of both genders. I crush @AgainWithTheSurfyPants cause we always stay in touch no matter what. Ive even heard her amazing accent....and shes kookie like me....just an example.
Define "click with" further please. A crush is someone that you may want more intimate or emotional relations with, along the lines of a relationship. Object of desire if you will.
The way you describe it, that is more of a friendship. Or, beginnings of one.
I guess i see crush as someone you have an interest/admiration for. And that maybe it does progress into more of a real friendship/relationship. To the point of meeting in real life, carrying on outside of mfp, and so on. I guess if you are talking to someone and you hope it to continue into a romantic relationship or you commit to being exclusive...thats more than a crush right?
Yes, the significant part of a "crush" is it potentially becoming more than just friendship. It was the way you worded your previous one that I was questioning since it seemed like you were calling a friendship a crush. I have a lot of people I'd call friends from here, or other online communities, that I'd enjoy meeting in person. But, because I'm not interested in more than just meeting a friend, it's far from a crush.
It's like the old saying of "You can't have friends of the opposite sex". This was the belief of my ex-wife, and she forbid me from having female friends. Driving those I did have away. For some reason, people have this stupid notion in their head that if you have friends of the opposite sex, all you'd want to do is get in their pants.
This is a bunch of BS, because it's nice to have close friends of the opposite sex for different views, and bounce things off when you have questions of something related to a spouse or SO. But, some done see this as being a good thing for various reasons. My experience has shown that if a SO has issues with someone having friends of the opposite sex, watch out. They're usually the ones who are most likely to cheat. Or, are extremely jealous, which is unhealthy for any relationship.
I used to work with a guy named Dan who was one of my favorite people to grab lunch with because he was a dork and didn’t get into office gossip. He was one of those super platonic dudes that made me feel like I was hanging out with my cousin. I used to giggle at the way he’d practically shove me over if a hot girl approached because he didn’t want anything making him look not single 😂0 -
I haven't been around long enough to find a crush. Where is the best place to look?0
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caco_ethes wrote: »xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Ill start. After reading the post I've come to the conclusion that a crush is someone you chat with that you click with. So, that could be multiple people...and of both genders. I crush @AgainWithTheSurfyPants cause we always stay in touch no matter what. Ive even heard her amazing accent....and shes kookie like me....just an example.
Define "click with" further please. A crush is someone that you may want more intimate or emotional relations with, along the lines of a relationship. Object of desire if you will.
The way you describe it, that is more of a friendship. Or, beginnings of one.
I guess i see crush as someone you have an interest/admiration for. And that maybe it does progress into more of a real friendship/relationship. To the point of meeting in real life, carrying on outside of mfp, and so on. I guess if you are talking to someone and you hope it to continue into a romantic relationship or you commit to being exclusive...thats more than a crush right?
Yes, the significant part of a "crush" is it potentially becoming more than just friendship. It was the way you worded your previous one that I was questioning since it seemed like you were calling a friendship a crush. I have a lot of people I'd call friends from here, or other online communities, that I'd enjoy meeting in person. But, because I'm not interested in more than just meeting a friend, it's far from a crush.
It's like the old saying of "You can't have friends of the opposite sex". This was the belief of my ex-wife, and she forbid me from having female friends. Driving those I did have away. For some reason, people have this stupid notion in their head that if you have friends of the opposite sex, all you'd want to do is get in their pants.
This is a bunch of BS, because it's nice to have close friends of the opposite sex for different views, and bounce things off when you have questions of something related to a spouse or SO. But, some done see this as being a good thing for various reasons. My experience has shown that if a SO has issues with someone having friends of the opposite sex, watch out. They're usually the ones who are most likely to cheat. Or, are extremely jealous, which is unhealthy for any relationship.
I used to work with a guy named Dan who was one of my favorite people to grab lunch with because he was a dork and didn’t get into office gossip. He was one of those super platonic dudes that made me feel like I was hanging out with my cousin. I used to giggle at the way he’d practically shove me over if a hot girl approached because he didn’t want anything making him look not single 😂
He kind of sounds like me, at least in the dork and platonic aspect. The difference is that the close female friends I have now, they're the ones trying to hook me up with a lot of different women and I just sit there and blush. :laugh: 3 -
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xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »
It's like the old saying of "You can't have friends of the opposite sex". This was the belief of my ex-wife, and she forbid me from having female friends. Driving those I did have away. For some reason, people have this stupid notion in their head that if you have friends of the opposite sex, all you'd want to do is get in their pants.
This is a bunch of BS, because it's nice to have close friends of the opposite sex for different views, and bounce things off when you have questions of something related to a spouse or SO. But, some don't see this as being a good thing for various reasons. My experience has shown that if a SO has issues with someone having friends of the opposite sex, watch out. They're usually the ones who are most likely to cheat. Or, are extremely jealous, which is unhealthy for any relationship.
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I wish you were right but my experience has been the opposite. I would love to have male friends but have yet to meet a man that doesnt try to take things beyond friendship. Many guys have told me that they don't believe men and women can be friends either.3 -
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xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »
It's like the old saying of "You can't have friends of the opposite sex". This was the belief of my ex-wife, and she forbid me from having female friends. Driving those I did have away. For some reason, people have this stupid notion in their head that if you have friends of the opposite sex, all you'd want to do is get in their pants.
This is a bunch of BS, because it's nice to have close friends of the opposite sex for different views, and bounce things off when you have questions of something related to a spouse or SO. But, some don't see this as being a good thing for various reasons. My experience has shown that if a SO has issues with someone having friends of the opposite sex, watch out. They're usually the ones who are most likely to cheat. Or, are extremely jealous, which is unhealthy for any relationship.
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I wish you were right but my experience has been the opposite. I would love to have male friends but have yet to meet a man that doesnt try to take things beyond friendship. Many guys have told me that they don't believe men and women can be friends either.
I am one of those men. I think they can be friends but there will be an underlying urge for more. Most guys aren't rapists or predators so they can suppress that urge and just do the friend thing, but it's always there for most guys. Looks plays a big part in this as well as being in a relationship with another person. Also being workplace friends may at least not allow for those feelings of sexual attraction to be brought up.Those factors could possibly allow a real friendship. But 2 single opposite sex people, attractive, get along great, have lots in common and enjoy hanging out with each other......yeah, good luck lying to yourself that given the chance you would not want more.2 -
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Perfect. Just in time for the next influx. Pm me promptly so we can solidify this union.0 -
bhadbahabi wrote: »I refrain from crushes as my mom told me that I could get pregnant.
Me too as my mom told me I could get the UD.0 -
xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »
It's like the old saying of "You can't have friends of the opposite sex". This was the belief of my ex-wife, and she forbid me from having female friends. Driving those I did have away. For some reason, people have this stupid notion in their head that if you have friends of the opposite sex, all you'd want to do is get in their pants.
This is a bunch of BS, because it's nice to have close friends of the opposite sex for different views, and bounce things off when you have questions of something related to a spouse or SO. But, some don't see this as being a good thing for various reasons. My experience has shown that if a SO has issues with someone having friends of the opposite sex, watch out. They're usually the ones who are most likely to cheat. Or, are extremely jealous, which is unhealthy for any relationship.
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I wish you were right but my experience has been the opposite. I would love to have male friends but have yet to meet a man that doesnt try to take things beyond friendship. Many guys have told me that they don't believe men and women can be friends either.
The guys who say that men and women can't be friends are the type of guys who don't think women are good for anything except sex.
Not true. They are honest. And yes they can be friends.....but a lot of the times an underlying unaddressed attraction is there3 -
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xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »
It's like the old saying of "You can't have friends of the opposite sex". This was the belief of my ex-wife, and she forbid me from having female friends. Driving those I did have away. For some reason, people have this stupid notion in their head that if you have friends of the opposite sex, all you'd want to do is get in their pants.
This is a bunch of BS, because it's nice to have close friends of the opposite sex for different views, and bounce things off when you have questions of something related to a spouse or SO. But, some don't see this as being a good thing for various reasons. My experience has shown that if a SO has issues with someone having friends of the opposite sex, watch out. They're usually the ones who are most likely to cheat. Or, are extremely jealous, which is unhealthy for any relationship.
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I wish you were right but my experience has been the opposite. I would love to have male friends but have yet to meet a man that doesnt try to take things beyond friendship. Many guys have told me that they don't believe men and women can be friends either.
I am one of those men. I think they can be friends but there will be an underlying urge for more. Most guys aren't rapists or predators so they can suppress that urge and just do the friend thing, but it's always there for most guys. Looks plays a big part in this as well as being in a relationship with another person. Also being workplace friends may at least not allow for those feelings of sexual attraction to be brought up.Those factors could possibly allow a real friendship. But 2 single opposite sex people, attractive, get along great, have lots in common and enjoy hanging out with each other......yeah, good luck lying to yourself that given the chance you would not want more.
I am perfectly capable of being just friends with guys I find attractive. It is the men that are incapable.1 -
xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »
It's like the old saying of "You can't have friends of the opposite sex". This was the belief of my ex-wife, and she forbid me from having female friends. Driving those I did have away. For some reason, people have this stupid notion in their head that if you have friends of the opposite sex, all you'd want to do is get in their pants.
This is a bunch of BS, because it's nice to have close friends of the opposite sex for different views, and bounce things off when you have questions of something related to a spouse or SO. But, some don't see this as being a good thing for various reasons. My experience has shown that if a SO has issues with someone having friends of the opposite sex, watch out. They're usually the ones who are most likely to cheat. Or, are extremely jealous, which is unhealthy for any relationship.
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I wish you were right but my experience has been the opposite. I would love to have male friends but have yet to meet a man that doesnt try to take things beyond friendship. Many guys have told me that they don't believe men and women can be friends either.
I am one of those men. I think they can be friends but there will be an underlying urge for more. Most guys aren't rapists or predators so they can suppress that urge and just do the friend thing, but it's always there for most guys. Looks plays a big part in this as well as being in a relationship with another person. Also being workplace friends may at least not allow for those feelings of sexual attraction to be brought up.Those factors could possibly allow a real friendship. But 2 single opposite sex people, attractive, get along great, have lots in common and enjoy hanging out with each other......yeah, good luck lying to yourself that given the chance you would not want more.
I am perfectly capable of being just friends with guys I find attractive. It is the men that are incapable.
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xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »
It's like the old saying of "You can't have friends of the opposite sex". This was the belief of my ex-wife, and she forbid me from having female friends. Driving those I did have away. For some reason, people have this stupid notion in their head that if you have friends of the opposite sex, all you'd want to do is get in their pants.
This is a bunch of BS, because it's nice to have close friends of the opposite sex for different views, and bounce things off when you have questions of something related to a spouse or SO. But, some don't see this as being a good thing for various reasons. My experience has shown that if a SO has issues with someone having friends of the opposite sex, watch out. They're usually the ones who are most likely to cheat. Or, are extremely jealous, which is unhealthy for any relationship.
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I wish you were right but my experience has been the opposite. I would love to have male friends but have yet to meet a man that doesnt try to take things beyond friendship. Many guys have told me that they don't believe men and women can be friends either.
We're both right, in that they both do occur. Just, our experiences have been different. I have had some female friends take advantage of me as well. I'm usually very open to meeting people, and being cordial with. But, I'm also very guarded in regards to letting someone in whether it be good friends and especially any potential romantic interest with.0 -
xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »
It's like the old saying of "You can't have friends of the opposite sex". This was the belief of my ex-wife, and she forbid me from having female friends. Driving those I did have away. For some reason, people have this stupid notion in their head that if you have friends of the opposite sex, all you'd want to do is get in their pants.
This is a bunch of BS, because it's nice to have close friends of the opposite sex for different views, and bounce things off when you have questions of something related to a spouse or SO. But, some don't see this as being a good thing for various reasons. My experience has shown that if a SO has issues with someone having friends of the opposite sex, watch out. They're usually the ones who are most likely to cheat. Or, are extremely jealous, which is unhealthy for any relationship.
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I wish you were right but my experience has been the opposite. I would love to have male friends but have yet to meet a man that doesnt try to take things beyond friendship. Many guys have told me that they don't believe men and women can be friends either.
I am one of those men. I think they can be friends but there will be an underlying urge for more. Most guys aren't rapists or predators so they can suppress that urge and just do the friend thing, but it's always there for most guys. Looks plays a big part in this as well as being in a relationship with another person. Also being workplace friends may at least not allow for those feelings of sexual attraction to be brought up.Those factors could possibly allow a real friendship. But 2 single opposite sex people, attractive, get along great, have lots in common and enjoy hanging out with each other......yeah, good luck lying to yourself that given the chance you would not want more.
I am perfectly capable of being just friends with guys I find attractive. It is the men that are incapable.
I only speak from a male perspective
Well obviously
I am just giving my female one.0 -
Will_Workout_for_food wrote: »xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »
It's like the old saying of "You can't have friends of the opposite sex". This was the belief of my ex-wife, and she forbid me from having female friends. Driving those I did have away. For some reason, people have this stupid notion in their head that if you have friends of the opposite sex, all you'd want to do is get in their pants.
This is a bunch of BS, because it's nice to have close friends of the opposite sex for different views, and bounce things off when you have questions of something related to a spouse or SO. But, some don't see this as being a good thing for various reasons. My experience has shown that if a SO has issues with someone having friends of the opposite sex, watch out. They're usually the ones who are most likely to cheat. Or, are extremely jealous, which is unhealthy for any relationship.
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I wish you were right but my experience has been the opposite. I would love to have male friends but have yet to meet a man that doesnt try to take things beyond friendship. Many guys have told me that they don't believe men and women can be friends either.
I am one of those men. I think they can be friends but there will be an underlying urge for more. Most guys aren't rapists or predators so they can suppress that urge and just do the friend thing, but it's always there for most guys. Looks plays a big part in this as well as being in a relationship with another person. Also being workplace friends may at least not allow for those feelings of sexual attraction to be brought up.Those factors could possibly allow a real friendship. But 2 single opposite sex people, attractive, get along great, have lots in common and enjoy hanging out with each other......yeah, good luck lying to yourself that given the chance you would not want more.
I am perfectly capable of being just friends with guys I find attractive. It is the men that are incapable.
what about boys?
Boys, men same thing. Lol. I would love a boy to prove me wrong.0 -
xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »
It's like the old saying of "You can't have friends of the opposite sex". This was the belief of my ex-wife, and she forbid me from having female friends. Driving those I did have away. For some reason, people have this stupid notion in their head that if you have friends of the opposite sex, all you'd want to do is get in their pants.
This is a bunch of BS, because it's nice to have close friends of the opposite sex for different views, and bounce things off when you have questions of something related to a spouse or SO. But, some don't see this as being a good thing for various reasons. My experience has shown that if a SO has issues with someone having friends of the opposite sex, watch out. They're usually the ones who are most likely to cheat. Or, are extremely jealous, which is unhealthy for any relationship.
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I wish you were right but my experience has been the opposite. I would love to have male friends but have yet to meet a man that doesnt try to take things beyond friendship. Many guys have told me that they don't believe men and women can be friends either.
I am one of those men. I think they can be friends but there will be an underlying urge for more. Most guys aren't rapists or predators so they can suppress that urge and just do the friend thing, but it's always there for most guys. Looks plays a big part in this as well as being in a relationship with another person. Also being workplace friends may at least not allow for those feelings of sexual attraction to be brought up.Those factors could possibly allow a real friendship. But 2 single opposite sex people, attractive, get along great, have lots in common and enjoy hanging out with each other......yeah, good luck lying to yourself that given the chance you would not want more.
I actually agree with this. I have male friends but every single one of them at one point or another tried to cross a line. I can take a hint no matter how subtle and it made me a little uncomfortable. Admittedly, had I not been married at the time, who knows.0 -
Pour_Decisions wrote: »xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »
It's like the old saying of "You can't have friends of the opposite sex". This was the belief of my ex-wife, and she forbid me from having female friends. Driving those I did have away. For some reason, people have this stupid notion in their head that if you have friends of the opposite sex, all you'd want to do is get in their pants.
This is a bunch of BS, because it's nice to have close friends of the opposite sex for different views, and bounce things off when you have questions of something related to a spouse or SO. But, some don't see this as being a good thing for various reasons. My experience has shown that if a SO has issues with someone having friends of the opposite sex, watch out. They're usually the ones who are most likely to cheat. Or, are extremely jealous, which is unhealthy for any relationship.
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I wish you were right but my experience has been the opposite. I would love to have male friends but have yet to meet a man that doesnt try to take things beyond friendship. Many guys have told me that they don't believe men and women can be friends either.
I am one of those men. I think they can be friends but there will be an underlying urge for more. Most guys aren't rapists or predators so they can suppress that urge and just do the friend thing, but it's always there for most guys. Looks plays a big part in this as well as being in a relationship with another person. Also being workplace friends may at least not allow for those feelings of sexual attraction to be brought up.Those factors could possibly allow a real friendship. But 2 single opposite sex people, attractive, get along great, have lots in common and enjoy hanging out with each other......yeah, good luck lying to yourself that given the chance you would not want more.
I actually agree with this. I have male friends but every single one of them at one point or another tried to cross a line. I can take a hint no matter how subtle and it made me a little uncomfortable. Admittedly, had I not been married at the time, who knows.
what good is having a line if you're not going to cross it?
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mustacheU2Lift wrote: »
Perfect. Just in time for the next influx. Pm me promptly so we can solidify this union.
I would but my PM's don't work. I think I waited too long to verify my email and it didn't like that.
Dang it. Wow. Our crush lasted all of 5 min
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Motorsheen wrote: »Pour_Decisions wrote: »xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »
It's like the old saying of "You can't have friends of the opposite sex". This was the belief of my ex-wife, and she forbid me from having female friends. Driving those I did have away. For some reason, people have this stupid notion in their head that if you have friends of the opposite sex, all you'd want to do is get in their pants.
This is a bunch of BS, because it's nice to have close friends of the opposite sex for different views, and bounce things off when you have questions of something related to a spouse or SO. But, some don't see this as being a good thing for various reasons. My experience has shown that if a SO has issues with someone having friends of the opposite sex, watch out. They're usually the ones who are most likely to cheat. Or, are extremely jealous, which is unhealthy for any relationship.
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I wish you were right but my experience has been the opposite. I would love to have male friends but have yet to meet a man that doesnt try to take things beyond friendship. Many guys have told me that they don't believe men and women can be friends either.
I am one of those men. I think they can be friends but there will be an underlying urge for more. Most guys aren't rapists or predators so they can suppress that urge and just do the friend thing, but it's always there for most guys. Looks plays a big part in this as well as being in a relationship with another person. Also being workplace friends may at least not allow for those feelings of sexual attraction to be brought up.Those factors could possibly allow a real friendship. But 2 single opposite sex people, attractive, get along great, have lots in common and enjoy hanging out with each other......yeah, good luck lying to yourself that given the chance you would not want more.
I actually agree with this. I have male friends but every single one of them at one point or another tried to cross a line. I can take a hint no matter how subtle and it made me a little uncomfortable. Admittedly, had I not been married at the time, who knows.
what good is having a line if you're not going to cross it?
...... stupid ol' lines.
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xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »
It's like the old saying of "You can't have friends of the opposite sex". This was the belief of my ex-wife, and she forbid me from having female friends. Driving those I did have away. For some reason, people have this stupid notion in their head that if you have friends of the opposite sex, all you'd want to do is get in their pants.
This is a bunch of BS, because it's nice to have close friends of the opposite sex for different views, and bounce things off when you have questions of something related to a spouse or SO. But, some don't see this as being a good thing for various reasons. My experience has shown that if a SO has issues with someone having friends of the opposite sex, watch out. They're usually the ones who are most likely to cheat. Or, are extremely jealous, which is unhealthy for any relationship.
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I wish you were right but my experience has been the opposite. I would love to have male friends but have yet to meet a man that doesnt try to take things beyond friendship. Many guys have told me that they don't believe men and women can be friends either.
We're both right, in that they both do occur. Just, our experiences have been different. I have had some female friends take advantage of me as well. I'm usually very open to meeting people, and being cordial with. But, I'm also very guarded in regards to letting someone in whether it be good friends and especially any potential romantic interest with.
True. I have to disagree with you about the people who dont want their SO having a bunch of opposite sex friends being jealous or controlling.
I have always been that girl that just trusts her man, is not jealous, and super chill. Female friends inevitably cause a problem somehow. I feel that for the most part there is some ulterior motive there on the man's part.....or sometimes on the woman's part if the guy is really fine.0 -
mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »Pour_Decisions wrote: »xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »
It's like the old saying of "You can't have friends of the opposite sex". This was the belief of my ex-wife, and she forbid me from having female friends. Driving those I did have away. For some reason, people have this stupid notion in their head that if you have friends of the opposite sex, all you'd want to do is get in their pants.
This is a bunch of BS, because it's nice to have close friends of the opposite sex for different views, and bounce things off when you have questions of something related to a spouse or SO. But, some don't see this as being a good thing for various reasons. My experience has shown that if a SO has issues with someone having friends of the opposite sex, watch out. They're usually the ones who are most likely to cheat. Or, are extremely jealous, which is unhealthy for any relationship.
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I wish you were right but my experience has been the opposite. I would love to have male friends but have yet to meet a man that doesnt try to take things beyond friendship. Many guys have told me that they don't believe men and women can be friends either.
I am one of those men. I think they can be friends but there will be an underlying urge for more. Most guys aren't rapists or predators so they can suppress that urge and just do the friend thing, but it's always there for most guys. Looks plays a big part in this as well as being in a relationship with another person. Also being workplace friends may at least not allow for those feelings of sexual attraction to be brought up.Those factors could possibly allow a real friendship. But 2 single opposite sex people, attractive, get along great, have lots in common and enjoy hanging out with each other......yeah, good luck lying to yourself that given the chance you would not want more.
I actually agree with this. I have male friends but every single one of them at one point or another tried to cross a line. I can take a hint no matter how subtle and it made me a little uncomfortable. Admittedly, had I not been married at the time, who knows.
what good is having a line if you're not going to cross it?
...... stupid ol' lines.
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I don't know if I should cross that line or just run around it.
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Motorsheen wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »Pour_Decisions wrote: »xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »
It's like the old saying of "You can't have friends of the opposite sex". This was the belief of my ex-wife, and she forbid me from having female friends. Driving those I did have away. For some reason, people have this stupid notion in their head that if you have friends of the opposite sex, all you'd want to do is get in their pants.
This is a bunch of BS, because it's nice to have close friends of the opposite sex for different views, and bounce things off when you have questions of something related to a spouse or SO. But, some don't see this as being a good thing for various reasons. My experience has shown that if a SO has issues with someone having friends of the opposite sex, watch out. They're usually the ones who are most likely to cheat. Or, are extremely jealous, which is unhealthy for any relationship.
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I wish you were right but my experience has been the opposite. I would love to have male friends but have yet to meet a man that doesnt try to take things beyond friendship. Many guys have told me that they don't believe men and women can be friends either.
I am one of those men. I think they can be friends but there will be an underlying urge for more. Most guys aren't rapists or predators so they can suppress that urge and just do the friend thing, but it's always there for most guys. Looks plays a big part in this as well as being in a relationship with another person. Also being workplace friends may at least not allow for those feelings of sexual attraction to be brought up.Those factors could possibly allow a real friendship. But 2 single opposite sex people, attractive, get along great, have lots in common and enjoy hanging out with each other......yeah, good luck lying to yourself that given the chance you would not want more.
I actually agree with this. I have male friends but every single one of them at one point or another tried to cross a line. I can take a hint no matter how subtle and it made me a little uncomfortable. Admittedly, had I not been married at the time, who knows.
what good is having a line if you're not going to cross it?
...... stupid ol' lines.
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I don't know if I should cross that line or just run around it.
Youve got 6 weeks to figure it out.1
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