Mfp crushes...
mustacheU2Lift
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No this is not a tag or person above you thread. So, hopefully you anti fun and games still click in. I saw a post that made me think. Mfp crushes ya or nah? What is a crush? Have you recipeocated a crush? Does it ever move to more serious?
Hey its Friday. We need a new thread
Hey its Friday. We need a new thread
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Ill start. After reading the post I've come to the conclusion that a crush is someone you chat with that you click with. So, that could be multiple people...and of both genders. I crush @AgainWithTheSurfyPants cause we always stay in touch no matter what. Ive even heard her amazing accent....and shes kookie like me....just an example.3
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Another thought. It is completely different though if you are being mislead with statements like i only talk to you, you are my only crush, we should meet up...no need for half truths, lies, cover ups...because most likely on mfp thats never true unless you have taken it to a more irl situation.0
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Yup, I have a variety of MFP crushes. One that has remained while others come and go though is @slimgirljo15 because she is just all around amazing. Others are as brief and fleeting as the moments when there are no new posts in the selfie thread2
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Totally agree. Crushes happen even on a friendship level. I have a few of those! There are the traditional ones. You know where you have the butterflies when they message you and al that. If they’re lying about feelings or who they are talking to. Usually they’re a catfish or just a bad person. That’s not right.4
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CoffeeAndContour wrote: »Crushes are okay and not the same to me as emotionally caring for someone. That’s when I’ll take a hard pass.
With that being said there are people here I genuinely care for but I consider them friends.
Yeah. But we can crush on friends right? If not I will have to retract my crush declaration1 -
CoffeeAndContour wrote: »Crushes are okay and not the same to me as emotionally caring for someone. That’s when I’ll take a hard pass.
With that being said there are people here I genuinely care for but I consider them friends.
So you care for you friends (emotionally caring) but its a no strings attached/ no risks? But as far as a "love" interest where emotions could be involved you avoid?0 -
Another question...are these crushes really more just validation? And then shouldnt we find it in ourselves?2
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It's all fun until someone buys a plane ticket!13
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Avocado_AS5 wrote: »It's all fun until someone buys a plane ticket!
Well, that is taking it to a whole other level. I will say i almost did this a year ago. And if hes lurking i hope he reads it. I found out thankfully sooner rather than later that words like "dumb broad" and "stupid *kitten*" were readily apart of his vocab.
Now I feel like I'm over sharing.
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Or until someone ambushes you coming out of a mid town Manhattan gym.....5
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CoffeeAndContour wrote: »Versicolour wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »Crushes are okay and not the same to me as emotionally caring for someone. That’s when I’ll take a hard pass.
With that being said there are people here I genuinely care for but I consider them friends.
Yeah. But we can crush on friends right? If not I will have to retract my crush declaration
Yes. I crush the heck out of @kinetixtrainer2
I mean who wouldn’t? But I don’t plan to try to make him fall in love with me anytime soon
Too late
You’re simply amazing Meg!2 -
I don't get all those ...the one above you threads. They just seem like a waste of time to me. I enjoy meeting new people and usually add anyone to my friend list if requested. I am not a fan of people looking for just one thing on MFP. It just seems creepy to me and it happens on both sides. So back to Crushes, no it has not happened and probably won't mostly because it's not what I came here for.3
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Wow mfp has their notification game down today.1
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I crush you ^^^0
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CoffeeAndContour wrote: »Versicolour wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »Crushes are okay and not the same to me as emotionally caring for someone. That’s when I’ll take a hard pass.
With that being said there are people here I genuinely care for but I consider them friends.
Yeah. But we can crush on friends right? If not I will have to retract my crush declaration
Yes. I crush the heck out of @kinetixtrainer2
I mean who wouldn’t? But I don’t plan to try to make him fall in love with me anytime soon
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mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Ill start. After reading the post I've come to the conclusion that a crush is someone you chat with that you click with. So, that could be multiple people...and of both genders. I crush @AgainWithTheSurfyPants cause we always stay in touch no matter what. Ive even heard her amazing accent....and shes kookie like me....just an example.
Define "click with" further please. A crush is someone that you may want more intimate or emotional relations with, along the lines of a relationship. Object of desire if you will.
The way you describe it, that is more of a friendship. Or, beginnings of one.4 -
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I think the problem lies with the majority of social media being turned into a dating platform. I don’t think most of us came here with intentions of making a romantic connection with someone. This isn’t a dating website. However, there are the few people out there who do, and end up turning it that way. Often times when that sentiment isn’t reciprocated they become angry. I had an incident on FB fairly recently with a gentleman who friended me. He immediately started to try and get Romaric with me. When I curved him he was really angry and said “so are we going to do this or not?” I was like “we we going to do what?” And he brought up dating etc. Why is it that accepting a friend request should automatically mean that I’m interested in you beyond that? I think romance can certainly blossom in unexpected places and if you’re open to it that’s cool. I don’t think it’s ok for people to try and force it on someone because they’re being friendly. Unsolicited anything is usually not ok. At least to me.4
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xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Ill start. After reading the post I've come to the conclusion that a crush is someone you chat with that you click with. So, that could be multiple people...and of both genders. I crush @AgainWithTheSurfyPants cause we always stay in touch no matter what. Ive even heard her amazing accent....and shes kookie like me....just an example.
Define "click with" further please. A crush is someone that you may want more intimate or emotional relations with, along the lines of a relationship. Object of desire if you will.
The way you describe it, that is more of a friendship. Or, beginnings of one.
I guess i see crush as someone you have an interest/admiration for. And that maybe it does progress into more of a real friendship/relationship. To the point of meeting in real life, carrying on outside of mfp, and so on. I guess if you are talking to someone and you hope it to continue into a romantic relationship or you commit to being exclusive...thats more than a crush right?0 -
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I get casual crushes and intense crushes. I've made it a practice to not do the intense crush thing anymore because ultimately people get hurt feelings. No one is really going to move across the country or the world for that matter, to get truly involved. It's just not realistic.
It's easier to give zero fvcks.8 -
Oh really? What's the closest train station near ur gym? Lol 😋0 -
You are very right about that!Avocado_AS5 wrote: »I get casual crushes and intense crushes. I've made it a practice to not do the intense crush thing anymore because ultimately people get hurt feelings. No one is really going to move across the country or the world for that matter, to get truly involved. It's just not realistic.
It's easier to give zero fvcks.
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mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Another question...are these crushes really more just validation? And then shouldnt we find it in ourselves?
Yaaaaassssss!!!!!!!!! Indeed
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deweese7717 wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Another question...are these crushes really more just validation? And then shouldnt we find it in ourselves?
Yaaaaassssss!!!!!!!!! Indeed
Haha, heeey you. Where you been? I validate you
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mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Avocado_AS5 wrote: »It's all fun until someone buys a plane ticket!
Well, that is taking it to a whole other level. I will say i almost did this a year ago. And if hes lurking i hope he reads it. I found out thankfully sooner rather than later that words like "dumb broad" and "stupid *kitten*" were readily apart of his vocab.
Now I feel like I'm over sharing.
I've purchased a plane ticket to go meet someone before. Was on a different community/forum and we had been talking for quite a few months before we agreed to meet. But, we were both interested seeing if it could go further (it didn't).
Now, it's entirely different if someone is travelling to an area for a completely unrelated event, and there's someone there from the community. This is generally how I meet a lot of people I interact frequently with online. Nothing is intended to come from it, other than putting a face to a (screen)name and saying "Hi" over a meal, drinks, or event. With one of my current hobbies, I tend to travel around the US a few times a year, and have met some pretty cool forum friends. Actually, this just happened a couple weeks ago and I met one of our amazing members here.
I've also done forum meetups or group events. Everything from going to conventions to spending the weekend at the racetrack.
Personally, have little or no interest in finding a relationship online on forums or social sites I'm on. I'd venture to guess that many have the same views. But, quite a few also have ulterior motives as well.
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mustacheU2Lift wrote: »No this is not a tag or person above you thread. So, hopefully you anti fun and games still click in. I saw a post that made me think. Mfp crushes ya or nah? What is a crush? Have you recipeocated a crush? Does it ever move to more serious?
Hey its Friday. We need a new thread
For some people it does get more serious. People have met on MFP and gotten married, but there is a very slim chance of that happening. Most people are not willing or able to pack up and move to be with someone and most of us have some distance in between. That being said I think developing a crush can be normal. Most of us are here for the same reason and have had some similar issues in our pasts that have led us to need a site like this. It is easy to connect with people that you think understand you. Some of those are innocent crushes and some are more serious. I have had crushes on both men and women here. There are some amazing people here. I see so many people working hard whether it be at their job, as a parent , to be a better human or in their fitness goals. How could I not crush on some of you people??
I crush you for this (in a good way, not physically with my excess body weight)1 -
xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Avocado_AS5 wrote: »It's all fun until someone buys a plane ticket!
Well, that is taking it to a whole other level. I will say i almost did this a year ago. And if hes lurking i hope he reads it. I found out thankfully sooner rather than later that words like "dumb broad" and "stupid *kitten*" were readily apart of his vocab.
Now I feel like I'm over sharing.
I've purchased a plane ticket to go meet someone before. Was on a different community/forum and we had been talking for quite a few months before we agreed to meet. But, we were both interested seeing if it could go further (it didn't).
Now, it's entirely different if someone is travelling to an area for a completely unrelated event, and there's someone there from the community. This is generally how I meet a lot of people I interact frequently with online. Nothing is intended to come from it, other than putting a face to a (screen)name and saying "Hi" over a meal, drinks, or event. With one of my current hobbies, I tend to travel around the US a few times a year, and have met some pretty cool forum friends. Actually, this just happened a couple weeks ago and I met one of our amazing members here.
I've also done forum meetups or group events. Everything from going to conventions to spending the weekend at the racetrack.
Personally, have little or no interest in finding a relationship online on forums or social sites I'm on. I'd venture to guess that many have the same views. But, quite a few also have ulterior motives as well.
True. But just like IRL things can evolve. And in this scenario i do not mean married people. But if you are single your interactions here, at your job, at church...can lead you to meeting someone special...0
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