Selfie psychology
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The selfie, a daily positive affirmation. After I workout and breathe, put myself together for the morning it’s a mirror moment, of self love. A reminder, when my eyes look sad to take more time for myself and put in more self work. I use it for self reflecting.
Validations can be nice, not necessarily by strangers. Validations by strangers, can be a confirmation, of where’s the love by those who claim to have love for you?
Do others selfies bother me, not one bit.5 -
Motorsheen wrote: »My handlers, P.R. head & security team lead have all advised me aginst posting selfies.
They all seem to be concerned about stalkers from the American Upper Midwest or the East Coast of Australia
Dis me
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I rarely take a selfie. Not sure what is says about me. I am confident in my looks so that's not the issue. I just don't see a need for it. If someone wants to see what I look like, sure, why not but other than that it seems needy to me, I guess.1
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If I get my hair done, and it's all smooth and shiny, I take a *kitten* tonne. I feel a bit awkward sitting in my car trying to get the 'right light and angle' but I just take my glasses off and I'm kinda in my own little world (I can't see you so you can't see me!). Then I shamelessly take several more when I get home. I probably like only like 1 out of every 15.
I randomly took a few in a row that I liked on the weekend, just one offs! No makeup, air dried hair...it was a good camera night! Wine was involved!
If I'm on vacation or in a town that I don't know anyone, I'll shamelessly take several out in public, on the streets, restaurants etc. Who cares? I justify it by wanting to 'capture myself in the scenery'!
Filters, yes and no. I do both. Sometimes I take a cute pic/video, but have a zit or my hair looks awful...but I realize it after the fact and still like the pic/video so I'll keep it. Some pics/videos you can't recreate the moment!
I have no shame touching up a zit from an otherwise ok-ish pic. I wear makeup to do the same sometimes.
I took a picture with a filter that distorted my face a little while ago and felt awful after. I look like a Kardashian in it (not bashing the K crew, just saying I look super glamorous and pretty in it in a kinda unrecognizable way)
After taking the pic, I started thinking maybe I need plastic surgery...if only my nose was tweaked, my cheekbones enhanced, my lips plumped, my eyebrows bolder...it kinda *kitten* me up mentally. I just kept thinking about what could be tweaked, still do when I think about it. It's captivating in an unhealthy way.
I deleted the app, kept the pics tho.6 -
I was very awkward about having my picture taken for a long time during young adulthood. I had taken some self portraits before, when I was doing portrait photography, but those were not meant to be pretty. After that I think the only selfies I got were when I changed my phone and wanted to test the camera, when somebody else took them or when I was really nicely dressed (like for going to an event). Oh, and I had some when I was testing my bridal makeup and dress - those too.
My selfie-ing got wind in its sails here. Here, it ALL went downhill quickly
I guess it helps with confidence. It's also like „hey, if they can, then I can, too”, and „nobody knows me here”. Mostly the latter. I profoundly dislike the same-face-same-angle selfie, so it's also an exercise in creativity. And in a nice way, it helps lift my spirits.3 -
I do not get selfie 'woo-ed'. I do not do selfies :-)0
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I do selfies. Or, I used to. Not so much now. I can’t really figure why. Most people know what I look like at this point.
Or not.2 -
I haven’t ever looked into a selfie or the reasoning behind it. To me it’s just a photograph you’ve had to take yourself .. any filters or edits just enhance it slightly3
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I find it weird when people post selfies of themselves on facebook and then you know they are waiting for the "omg you look so good, etc. etc. etc. I never respond to selfies on facebook because I know they just want validation and to me get validation from somewhere else please. Take a course, volunteer, do something good, etc.3
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I find it weird when people post selfies of themselves on facebook and then you know they are waiting for the "omg you look so good, etc. etc. etc. I never respond to selfies on facebook because I know they just want validation and to me get validation from somewhere else please. Take a course, volunteer, do something good, etc.
Honestly when people post a lot of different things on FB they want validation. Like if they've done a good deed and post about it. They are seeking attention too.6 -
Avocado_AS5 wrote: »I find it weird when people post selfies of themselves on facebook and then you know they are waiting for the "omg you look so good, etc. etc. etc. I never respond to selfies on facebook because I know they just want validation and to me get validation from somewhere else please. Take a course, volunteer, do something good, etc.
Honestly when people post a lot of different things on FB they want validation. Like if they've done a good deed and post about it. They are seeking attention too.
I just want to selfie while I’m volunteering at a homeless shelter and researching a cure for sars, is that as bad? I really like to double down on my validation6 -
Having not read any of the replies.....
Instant gratification, use to have to wait to see if it was a good picture now its boom, i dont like that one, delete, take a new one. Then add in all the filters and auto corrects......
People dont see the real them anymore, so to speak, its more about oh i like that pic, lemme send it out to the masses (text/snap/IG/etc)
then a person likes or comments, there fore reinforcing the behavior.1 -
It is funny to think about. yes I think posting a lot of selfies means that person is seeking attention and validation. And if there's someone who posts selfies all the time, I unfollow them because that's annoying AF. But I am also seeking attention and validation when I post anything. Every time I post something on instagram, a picture of my kids, my garden, whatever, I go back and check many times to see if anyone liked it. Why? I think instagram and facebook are bad for my mental health lol.1
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I agree its for validation, attention, or seeking approval. I used to hate selfies, or having my picture taken in general. Because even though people do it for validation, or attention they also don't want to be judged in a negative way. I realized that I was my own worst critic. When you take a picture of yourself, (or picture is taken of you) The first thing you look for is flaws, and that's all you see. That's all you focus on.
I started taking more pictures when I began working out. Posting them on fb in this "look at me, putting in work" kind of manner. I want people to see what i'm doing, I want people to be proud of it, I want them to see the progression, maybe even inspire people to do the same. I stopped posting them, and people asked if I stopped going, so a sense of accountability. I'm not just going to post "went to the gym today" But If you don't like selfies. Then you must not like when people share their mfp diaries, or when people post their weight loss. The list goes on, and on. It's all the same.
As far as the psychological aspect of it. Below is a good video. Its controversial, but makes sense. Start at 3:48
I don't see anything wrong with selfies, or attention/validation through social media in general. As long as not getting a good response, or not getting the attention you seek doesn't lead to self pity, or depression. That's when it becomes an issue. It's very common in the younger community.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=As8XkJNaHbs 2 -
I selfie because people ask me to2
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I never selfied until i joined here. I never fully bought into it, but did partake some. Less and less interested in doing it as the "newness" wore off.1
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CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »I selfie because people ask me to
*ASKS*I never selfied until i joined here. I never fully bought into it, but did partake some. Less and less interested in doing it as the "newness" wore off.
Umm.... *ASKS*0 -
SabAteNine wrote: »CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »I selfie because people ask me to
*ASKS*I never selfied until i joined here. I never fully bought into it, but did partake some. Less and less interested in doing it as the "newness" wore off.
Umm.... *ASKS*
Hey, you never open and look at at all my special private pics I send!0 -
SabAteNine wrote: »CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »I selfie because people ask me to
*ASKS*I never selfied until i joined here. I never fully bought into it, but did partake some. Less and less interested in doing it as the "newness" wore off.
Umm.... *ASKS*
Hey, you never open and look at at all my special private pics I send!
You mean there's special private pics lost in the dreaded PM limbo?!? FREAKING DAMN IT. I feel cheated.0 -
I selfie because there was a point in my life where I hated what I saw in the mirror. It has taken many years to learn self love. So when I selfie now, I do it because I feel good, in my eyes I look good and It's a reminder of how far I've come.
The luster of selfying on this site has lost its appeal to me so I don't do it as often anymore.3
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