What I Hate About Watching My Weight/New Lifestyle/Dieting, etc. (A Place to Vent)
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WillingtoLose1001984 wrote: »Packerjohn wrote: »kommodevaran wrote: »What is "naturally fat"?
An imaginary condition that occurs with lack of personal accountability. In very rare cases could be caused by a medical issue, but not likely.
That is really judgmental and I really disagree. So do children lack personal accountability? I have a sister and she is underweight/bordering underweight and her children are as well. I have always been heavy. I was 20-30 lbs overweight from the time I was 8 or so years old. My son is the same way. We were raised in the same household with the same parents. So much of weight is genetic. I did gain a lot, over 100 lbs in 5 months, on medications though. For some reason it just made my appetite become enormous and it was a known drug for weight gain. I've always had a hard time losing weight as well because I feel hungry constantly and I hate feeling hungry. I have lost over 100 lbs with a lot of added activity. While I have a harder time reigning in my appetite, exercise comes more easily for me and I enjoy pretty much anything.
Yep personal responsibility. You say you hate feeling hungry. It's up to you (maybe with some counseling if needed) to realize your feeling isn't actual hunger. Congrats on your weight loss
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Reading through this thread made me realize I’m not alone in my thoughts so thank you all for that. Sometimes you forget others may be going through these things as well, and that not everyone’s journey is as smooth as it appeared to be.17
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sbrooks0387 wrote: »Oh I have a few:
1) watching my husband eat late at night, and it’s always something good like ice cream. I do eat ice cream but it’s earlier in the day, but I still want some when he has it.
2) people springing a surprise dinner idea on me like an hour before dinner. I like to eat most of my calories earlier in the day, unless a big dinner is pre-planned I usually only have around 300 cals for dinner. I have refused these when I just can’t swing it, and don’t feel bad about it.
3) as I have lost weight the same exact exercise burns less calories. I mean it’s good that I am losing but.......
Definitely 1 and 2! Oh my goodness 1 and 2 are very, very difficult to maintain sometimes! I dislike eating past 7pm and 99% of days eat majority of calories from breakfast through after lunch snack!1 -
*sigh* I relate to so many of these feelings. I sometimes resent that I need to portion out my kettle corn. There are still times I wanna just grab the bag and shovel it it mindlessly.12
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My beef lately has been people trying to size me up with my methods and behaviors vs. theirs.
I'm tired of my relatives doing OMAD, vegan, whatever, puffing their chests out about how great their method is, yet they're still gaining weight or still as big as when they started. I had one of my in laws (quite obese himself) try to make my son and I feel bad for eating after breakfast. This guy ate a giant bowl of grits and eggs, but then caved and ate a large chicken nugget combo and a shake from Mc Donald's. I didn't want any, then he got upset and announced he's doing IF because that's what I'm doing.
I wish people would mind their own business, and stop annoying me about what I'm doing and how. I found a way that's working. I'm also tired of the looks I get from my coworkers lately. Always a side eye every time I walk past them. It makes me very self conscious and uncomfortable.23 -
sbrooks0387 wrote: »3) as I have lost weight the same exact exercise burns less calories. I mean it’s good that I am losing but.......
This. Why can't my 5K burn 600 calories any more????
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Probably my biggest beef with all of this is that even though I've had real good success, both in weight loss and maintenance (granted, it's only been a year and a half - 8 months loss, 10 months maintenance), I still get the "what did you do?" questions. The problem is that when I tell them, the responses I get back are that I should have done keto or IF (which I actually do - both in maintenance and during small cuts) and that counting calories is too big of a hassle.
There are so many people I know who could flourish with this if they a) wanted to do it bad enough and b) realized how easy it is to form the habit of weighing stuff.14 -
Evelyn_Gorfram wrote: »I resent the vegetables.
They are demanding little drama queens. They protest canning by turning into metallically-tinged slime, and freezing by turning into pale mush. No, they say, if you want us tasty, we must be fresh.
"Fresh" means they must be fetched home from the store, properly stored in the fridge, washed, chopped - half the time they want peeling, too - cooked, and then cleaned up after. And, if I really want five-a-day; as soon as the next mealtime comes around, I gotta do it again.
A special diva mention goes to spinach and other leafy greens which, upon being heaped-to-overflowing in my 12-inch skillet, sautee down to one - count it, one - single serving. What would I have to use to cook three servings at once - a snow saucer?
Don't forget about that drama queen avocado, I believe there's a 2.76 second window between unripened and overripened.45 -
It's like that old French saying about proper ripeness: "You must stay up all night to eat a pear an avocado."Evelyn_Gorfram wrote: »I resent the vegetables.
They are demanding little drama queens. They protest canning by turning into metallically-tinged slime, and freezing by turning into pale mush. No, they say, if you want us tasty, we must be fresh.
"Fresh" means they must be fetched home from the store, properly stored in the fridge, washed, chopped - half the time they want peeling, too - cooked, and then cleaned up after. And, if I really want five-a-day; as soon as the next mealtime comes around, I gotta do it again.
A special diva mention goes to spinach and other leafy greens which, upon being heaped-to-overflowing in my 12-inch skillet, sautee down to one - count it, one - single serving. What would I have to use to cook three servings at once - a snow saucer?
Don't forget about that drama queen avocado, I believe there's a 2.76 second window between unripened and overripened.
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I hate the ups and downs. My weight has fluctuated over the years and when it goes back up after major loss it discourages the hell out of me. I hit plateaus or there is a change in my life that make staying focused hard.7
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Not many beefs really....
Clothes shopping - I dislike shopping in general but clothes shopping is awful and shopping for jeans is my idea of cruel and unusual punishment and should probably be banned under the Geneva Convention. You can't imagine the pleasure I got when I realised that the pair of jeans my 26 YO son was discarding fitted the smaller me perfectly.
Exposure to so much nonsense from people who mostly hadn't actually managed to lose weight and their either dumb or narrow-minded advice "you can't eat that and lose weight" to "sugar/fat/cereal/fruit/whatever is today's Devil Food on my Facebook feed will make you fat" to "it must be a lifestyle change" or other parroted phrases that don't stand up to scrutiny let alone be applicable to everyone.
The simple just having to eat less food for a while - I like my food and get enormous enjoyment from it, socially as well as taste.
But the number one beef is the phrase "you're lucky".
Nope - strangely the harder I try the luckier I get.
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What I just really can't understand, is people wanting to be/get healthy or lose weight, but at the same moment do not eat ANY fruits/vegetables whatsoever. I mean; wtf. How do you think you will lose weight if you are just not eating the healthy stuff? Bonus points for people not eating fruits/veggies, but do drink loads of Coke/eat loads of junk food.42
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My beef is with generally, not being able to eat whatever I want, whenever I want, as much as I want. Which is all for a good cause.
I never pay much attention to ads on the internet, so not a problem, and political ads are dominating television now, which I really despise. On the plus side, political ads disgust me so much that I lose my appetite.14 -
What I just really can't understand, is people wanting to be/get healthy or lose weight, but at the same moment do not eat ANY fruits/vegetables whatsoever. I mean; wtf. How do you think you will lose weight if you are just not eating the healthy stuff? Bonus points for people not eating fruits/veggies, but do drink loads of Coke/eat loads of junk food.
Because weight loss and eating nutritious foods are two different things. Related sometimes, but are not necessarily dependant on each other. You can lose weight by not eating a nutritious diet by eating fewer calories, and you can eat nutritious foods without losing weight by not eating at a calorie deficit. It's possible that these people aren't really prioritizing their nutrition, or that what they eat around you is not what they eat when they're home.
For example, when I go out, I don't make special nutrition considerations and just eat whatever I feel like eating, just like everybody else. It makes it look as if that's all I eat, but in reality, I'm one of the few people who have gained weight eating TONS of fruits and vegetables and rarely drinking soda.32 -
I hate being told how "lucky" I am to have lost weight, when it's taken hard work and dedication.
Commitment for years, day in & day out.
I also hate "wasting calories" on food I don't enjoy. If restricting calories then I'm focused on making the most of them & loving my meals. Occasionally I've eaten foods and regretted wasting my calories. This is much less frequent now, fortunately. I've even stopped eating after a mouthful or 2, if a food seems a waste of calories compared to taste.22 -
I resent the ones out there who have 1900 calories (or more) a day for maintenance even though they are similar or lower weight, height and age as me.
I hate people assuming I can eat out anywhere now just because I am at maintenance. 1300 calories a day just doesn't go well with restaurant food.
Last is like many already stated, the ones who are trying to tell me I need to use their eating plan when they are still struggling with too much weight yet I've reached maintenance.
Rant over...........31 -
anothermfpuser wrote: »Explaining to people once the weight is gone that you are still 'watching' calorie intake. It's the benefit (or curse) of the learning process from logging.
eta.. And explaining... yes I still workout and do it because I enjoy it.
yep this. Having to explain the proper order of cause and effect when it comes to weight. As in: "No, I don't not have to watch my calories because I'm thin (as if I was blessed with some miracle unicorn metabolism that lets me eat all the things). I'm (relatively) thin because I DO watch my calories." Up there with explaining to my fellow cyclists post-ride that "No- my 4'10" 112 lb self most definitely did NOT burn enough calories on that 30 mile hill ride to eat a plate of burger and fries/order of chicken wings and a beer in the pub afterward)."
I hate that one. I was at an event that was a wine flight + heavy appetizer, and one of the women at our table made a comment about how she was surprised how full she felt, since it was "only" wine and cheese and crackers/bread. I pointed out to her that we'd easily consumed 600 calories between all of the components, and her jaw dropped as she said that "YOU count calories?"
Well, yes. That's part of how/why I look like I do.20 -
MonkeyMel21 wrote: »I just hate that it’s never ending. I really enjoy working out, I’ve got that part down. I do NOT enjoy paying constant attention to what I eat in order to maintain my weight. It’s like I can never truly relax, constant vigilance.
Almost everything worthwhile that you do in life is "never-ending", requires consistency and vigilance, and is not enjoyable. Shaving, brushing your teeth, going to work, childcare tasks, chores, etc., - yet you do these day-in and day-out and after they became habits you rarely dwell on them or allow them to make you unhappy.
Fitness and nutrition are no different - you put a plan together and just do it consistently, and at some point, it is the new normal and it no more of a burden than any other adult responsibility that you regularly perform.23 -
I hate that as soon as people know I have celiac disease, they assume that's why I'm thin. These are the same people who were there for me 8 years ago when I was diagnosed and overweight (and had been having symptoms since I was in my 20"s), watched me lose 20 lbs. while I figured out what was safe to eat, watched me gain it all back plus more as soon as I did, then watched me work hard to lose 50 lbs. over the past couple of years. But it's all down to celiac. <eyeroll>12
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Cooking. I hate cooking. I hate planning to cook, prepping to cook, cleaning up the cooking....it's the most miserable chore I do. I've cut down eating out to 3-5 times a week and gotten meal prep down to a couple of hours most weeks, but still dread kitchen time every Sunday. I just miss having food that I actually look forward to eating. But I'm much closer to looking how I'd like to look, so I guess I'll take it!21
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Going through this process makes you realize just how massive the misinformation/disinformation campaign on weight management is. Nearly everything we've been taught or told is wrong.
You don't even have to delve deep to understand that the majority of diet plans are not designed for participant success, but for planned obsolescence.
" You have to understand, most of these people are not ready to be unplugged. And many of them are so inert, so hopelessly dependent on the system, that they will fight to protect it." - Morpheus35 -
amusedmonkey wrote: »What I just really can't understand, is people wanting to be/get healthy or lose weight, but at the same moment do not eat ANY fruits/vegetables whatsoever. I mean; wtf. How do you think you will lose weight if you are just not eating the healthy stuff? Bonus points for people not eating fruits/veggies, but do drink loads of Coke/eat loads of junk food.
Because weight loss and eating nutritious foods are two different things. Related sometimes, but are not necessarily dependant on each other. You can lose weight by not eating a nutritious diet by eating fewer calories, and you can eat nutritious foods without losing weight by not eating at a calorie deficit. It's possible that these people aren't really prioritizing their nutrition, or that what they eat around you is not what they eat when they're home.
For example, when I go out, I don't make special nutrition considerations and just eat whatever I feel like eating, just like everybody else. It makes it look as if that's all I eat, but in reality, I'm one of the few people who have gained weight eating TONS of fruits and vegetables and rarely drinking soda.
this. I pounce on all the triggery tasty things when I'm out, but they don't come into my house. (ie: yes- I'll be the first one crying out "ICE CREAM!!!" on a ride, but I also pretty much only eat it when I'm doing at least a 15 mile ride or 4 mile run).8 -
Cooking. I hate cooking. I hate planning to cook, prepping to cook, cleaning up the cooking....it's the most miserable chore I do. I've cut down eating out to 3-5 times a week and gotten meal prep down to a couple of hours most weeks, but still dread kitchen time every Sunday. I just miss having food that I actually look forward to eating. But I'm much closer to looking how I'd like to look, so I guess I'll take it!
ditto. I eat a lot of soup/potatoes/etc made in ~5kg batches (and yep- that's about the max of what'll fit into an electric pressure cooker).2 -
All that fast food advertising on MFP... And those fast food outlets who make sure that shopping centres stink of burned oil, burned chicken, burned chips first thing in the morning...9
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collectingblues wrote: »anothermfpuser wrote: »Explaining to people once the weight is gone that you are still 'watching' calorie intake. It's the benefit (or curse) of the learning process from logging.
eta.. And explaining... yes I still workout and do it because I enjoy it.
yep this. Having to explain the proper order of cause and effect when it comes to weight. As in: "No, I don't not have to watch my calories because I'm thin (as if I was blessed with some miracle unicorn metabolism that lets me eat all the things). I'm (relatively) thin because I DO watch my calories." Up there with explaining to my fellow cyclists post-ride that "No- my 4'10" 112 lb self most definitely did NOT burn enough calories on that 30 mile hill ride to eat a plate of burger and fries/order of chicken wings and a beer in the pub afterward)."
I hate that one. I was at an event that was a wine flight + heavy appetizer, and one of the women at our table made a comment about how she was surprised how full she felt, since it was "only" wine and cheese and crackers/bread. I pointed out to her that we'd easily consumed 600 calories between all of the components, and her jaw dropped as she said that "YOU count calories?"
Well, yes. That's part of how/why I look like I do.
yep.
I actually have a cheat sheet card for crackers/cheese/pepperoni/mini salami since they are out at many larger dance events (and minimal time to log on the spot; also was a while before I finally found a cheddar/colby listing in cubic inches - so I had to do the math).4 -
cheryldumais wrote: »I resent the ones out there who have 1900 calories (or more) a day for maintenance even though they are similar or lower weight, height and age as me.
I hate people assuming I can eat out anywhere now just because I am at maintenance. 1300 calories a day just doesn't go well with restaurant food.
Last is like many already stated, the ones who are trying to tell me I need to use their eating plan when they are still struggling with too much weight yet I've reached maintenance.
Rant over...........
on the bright side: saving a ton of money on eating out WAY less often than I used to (a 1900 long cardio day won't go very far with restaurant food either)... which brings me to another pet peeve of mine: the "it's so expensive to eat healthy" whiny people. No, No it's not... we got fat eating EXTRA food we no longer have to buy. ..And a lot of that extra food for quite a few of us wasn't exactly cheap (ie restaurants, tasty luxury items, etc).24 -
When people ask my advise on what I do and I tell them (keto) and they act like I ran their dog over. I have to listen to a million reasons why it won't work for them and how this isn't sustainable. Hey you asked, I told.17
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Cooking. I hate cooking. I hate planning to cook, prepping to cook, cleaning up the cooking....it's the most miserable chore I do. I've cut down eating out to 3-5 times a week and gotten meal prep down to a couple of hours most weeks, but still dread kitchen time every Sunday. I just miss having food that I actually look forward to eating. But I'm much closer to looking how I'd like to look, so I guess I'll take it!
ditto. I eat a lot of soup/potatoes/etc made in ~5kg batches (and yep- that's about the max of what'll fit into an electric pressure cooker).
Yep--only I'm a Crock Pot kind of girl! It's generally either some kind of soup or a combo of baked meat, frozen veg and rice in a bowl...repeated ad infinitum.2 -
I've enjoyed reading so many comments, there are plenty I could list but most of the time I just get on with doing what it takes to stay slim. Been maintaining my weight for 5 years, it does get easier so take heart.19
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