Just lost my way completely, cannot stop eating

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  • CharlieBeansmomTracey
    CharlieBeansmomTracey Posts: 7,682 Member
    If you are close the the weight your body feels is natural - it will be harder to change this even if you have other ideas.

    If you are sure that you need to be lower - why not try a new way of dieting? (Sneak up on your body from a new angle :) )

    You have been calorie-counting (an effective way to diet -as you have shown) for a long time and probably have a set of meals/foods that you fall back on regularly and a set of things that regularly make you fail in your efforts.

    So, try losing weight with a new plan for a while.
    There are many 'diets' that you could try - to make a change. Perhaps select one that restricts some foods and doesn't require the same level of counting or one that counts different things. If you are usually a meat-eater, try a veggie plan. If you eat a very processed diet now - try a whole-foods plan. Whatever you go for, it will be refreshing - and might really help.

    There is more than one way to skin a peach. :)

    umm no. all diets(ways of eating) require a deficit of calories for weight loss. you cannot sneak up on your body. changing her diet MAY change her mindset and I say MAY very strongly.and closer to the weight your body feels is natural? umm no if that were the case people with eating disorders would not get soo thin and people in 3rd workd countries would not lose all that weight either. even if you dont calorie count your body does!
  • CaliMomTeach
    CaliMomTeach Posts: 745 Member
    I have a very similar situation. I started at 193 in July 2016, and lost about 55 pounds. I gained back about 10 pounds by last summer, which I was fine with. Then, I got tired of weighing and logging, and have gained over 20 pounds since then. I just kept eating and eating. Last night, I thought "enough" and I am back to logging and 1200 calories a day. I am suddenly afraid of ending up right back where I started, which I probably will if I don't do something.
  • LynnJ9
    LynnJ9 Posts: 414 Member
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    We can do this! Hugs to you all!
  • goodasgoldilox165
    goodasgoldilox165 Posts: 333 Member
    edited January 2019
    LynnJ9 - that is great!

    Reply to CharlieBeans (The smiles were to indicate that smiling is allowed in reading the original post.)

    On changing eating plan for a while:

    I think that most diets (that work) restrict calories.

    They offer you different restrictions and these may not be magic in themselves but they help you find different foods/meals/approaches to exercise. At the root of this is the fact that by following them, you eat fewer calories and exercise more.

    A change of 'packaging' can work when you feel jaded with one approach. Going back to calorie counting afterwards can seem like liberation.

    It is a bit like changing a heavy suitcase from one hand to the other. The case is just as heavy but carrying it feels easier... for a while.



    On your body allowing you to drop well below a healthy weight (a natural one for your body):

    Not everyone here is aiming for a healthy weight. Weight loss gets slower as you reach 'target', especially if you have selected a target that is too low for you.

    Yes - losing weight will continue if you starve your body of calories and keep doing so - of course it will! However unless you do have a disorder or are placed in a foodless prison you won't find it easy to keep starving yourself into being much lower than a healthy weight for your body. If you try, it is quite likely that you will be overcome with the urge to eat. (Something this thread is about.)
  • CharlieBeansmomTracey
    CharlieBeansmomTracey Posts: 7,682 Member
    LynnJ9 - that is great!

    Reply to CharlieBeans (The smiles were to indicate that smiling is allowed in reading the original post.)

    On changing eating plan for a while:

    I think that most diets (that work) restrict calories.

    They offer you different restrictions and these may not be magic in themselves but they help you find different foods/meals/approaches to exercise. At the root of this is the fact that by following them, you eat fewer calories and exercise more.

    A change of 'packaging' can work when you feel jaded with one approach. Going back to calorie counting afterwards can seem like liberation.

    It is a bit like changing a heavy suitcase from one hand to the other. The case is just as heavy but carrying it feels easier... for a while.



    On your body allowing you to drop well below a healthy weight (a natural one for your body):

    Not everyone here is aiming for a healthy weight. Weight loss gets slower as you reach 'target', especially if you have selected a target that is too low for you.

    Yes - losing weight will continue if you starve your body of calories and keep doing so - of course it will! However unless you do have a disorder or are placed in a foodless prison you won't find it easy to keep starving yourself into being much lower than a healthy weight for your body. If you try, it is quite likely that you will be overcome with the urge to eat. (Something this thread is about.)

    not always true. many people will eat less and less because they see the weight isnt coming off as fast as they want. we know the closer you are to goal the slower the weight loss is. not everyone knows that and not everyone will try and lose slower. there are many posts about women here only needing to lose 10-15lbs a day and on a 2 lbs a week deficit which IS too much.many come here and eat the minimum of 1200 no matter how much they weigh which for most is too little to start out with.

    many people want fast weight loss but they dont know the possible dangers that can stem from losing too fast. many dont care. as for starving yourself into a lower weight that is healthy. many do it,for most its because they have an eating disorder,or an unhealthy relationship with food. Maybe you or I would get hungry but the less you eat the less your body has to work to burn those calories off so your body starts reserving energy and the less you eat the less of an appetite most people have.


    Then when those people eat too little their body starts using fat,lean mass,muscle to use for energy so they continue to still lose weight. some people eat so little and overexercise to lose the weight which is very unhealthy as well. when it comes to weight loss you DONT need to exercise to lose weight, But it is good for your bones,muscles and health. as for those coming here to be a healthy weight. for most I think the ones who are trying to lose are trying to get to a healthy weight I dont know of anyone here who is obese who just wants to lose a little weight but still be in the obese category, and many that want to gain are either trying to build muscle,are underweight and trying to get to a healthy weight as well or a combo of things.
  • vanityy99
    vanityy99 Posts: 2,583 Member
    Have you managed to get back on track?

    I’m 5’2 130lbs trying to get down to 115lbs also.
  • elisa123gal
    elisa123gal Posts: 4,324 Member
    be calm...and rethink what could work for you now, You are burned out on counting calories and I don't blame you. Don't ruin all your hard work..just find a new eating plan or way of eating that takes the pressure off and allows you to reach your goals.
    I don't count calories.. but I have rules of eating that I live by.. I think more about all the things I can eat ..not what I can't. I go out to dinner once a week..makes it so easy to stick to my healthy food all week. So maybe shift your focus to what you can eat to say fit.

  • Sam29a
    Sam29a Posts: 201 Member
    be calm...and rethink what could work for you now, You are burned out on counting calories and I don't blame you. Don't ruin all your hard work..just find a new eating plan or way of eating that takes the pressure off and allows you to reach your goals.
    I don't count calories.. but I have rules of eating that I live by.. I think more about all the things I can eat ..not what I can't. I go out to dinner once a week..makes it so easy to stick to my healthy food all week. So maybe shift your focus to what you can eat to say fit.

    I have tried not counting calories a few times, sometimes just a day or two, once or twice, for a whole week. I tried to just focus on eating healthier, making good choices and eating when I'm hungry. But truthfully, that is a lot more hassle as I have lost the ability to know when I'm actually hungry.
  • vanityy99
    vanityy99 Posts: 2,583 Member
    Sam29a wrote: »
    vanityy99 wrote: »
    Have you managed to get back on track?

    I’m 5’2 130lbs trying to get down to 115lbs also.

    Yes, sort of. Haven't binged since writing this post and have lost around 4 lbs. Pretty sure it was water weight from binging before, but still, happy to see a loss. But I know from past experience that I can sometimes do well for a week or two and then mess up. Fingers crossed I can get through the next few weeks, then I know I won't allow myself to mess up again.

    Oh good.... I know the struggle, keeping my fingers crossed for you.
  • CharlieBeansmomTracey
    CharlieBeansmomTracey Posts: 7,682 Member
    have you kept a journal and wrote down how you are feeling when you want to binge? maybe that will give you some insight as to how you are feeling. are you getting enough sleep? I know when I dont get enough sleep I just want to eat everything in site and Im not a binger I just end up with a huge appetite. maybe keeping a detailed report so to speak will help you to prevent binges in the past and then you can get through this and get your goals accomplished?
  • goodasgoldilox165
    goodasgoldilox165 Posts: 333 Member
    Elisa123's advice is just what I'd suggest too.
    Find a way to make small changes that work for you. New ways of doing the old things can really help.
    I also agree that being positive - so aiming for fitness (rather than just weight loss) can help you feel better and so to be stronger.
    Keep going and you will overcome this.
  • HeliumIsNoble
    HeliumIsNoble Posts: 1,213 Member
    Sam29a wrote: »

    Perhaps that's what it is. I was able to stick to 1100-1300 calories for a long time, over a year and a half, no problem. Now, I try eating that little and just feel ravenous. I then binge and tell myself I'll have whatever I want, get it out of my system, but of course, that never works! I don't exercise and never really have, which seems to be the biggest problem for me. I can't lose much weight on 1200 as it is.

    I think 18 months + of 1100-1300 is key here.

    This is what happens. People push themselves to the limit and lose as fast as possible, and then they run out of willpower and eat all the things. It's partially psychological and partially hormonal.