She's hotter than me?

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  • Faery_Dust
    Faery_Dust Posts: 246 Member
    I'm gonna be honest - If a girl friend started to get upset with small comments like: "Oh look how fit she is" to celebrities on TV I would probably end the relationship. I couldn't be with someone that emotionally demanding and frail. I like to have a laugh in relationships.

    I notice how you didn't mention if he ever calls you beautiful, or that he loves you and cares about you, and is genuinely a nice person to you. If he doesn't then, meh, that's your call to make. If he does, remember that and remember that he probably means it to.

    Lighten up, and I say that to the rest of you who are calling him a "jerk" even though you don't know what he is ACTUALLY like as boy friend.

    Personally my hubby pointing out someone was fit wouldn't bother me. Saying someone was hotter than me would bother me.

    Even though I KNOW there are millions of hotter women than me, I don't want to hear my hubby say it.

    I know it's just a tiny difference but I am a woman and like to be complicated lol. So for me, he can say other people are hot. But he has to say I am the hottest woman on the earth because he loves me and I've had his babies (even if it's a little white lie lol)
  • Event_Horizon975
    Event_Horizon975 Posts: 226 Member
    YOU are a knockout! and he needs to realize that the people on TV and in magazines aren't as beautiful as the people on TV and in magazines. It's all lighting, movie magic, photographers, airbrushing, heavy makeup, uppers, barbiturates, a team of trainers, a team of chefs, a team of dieticians, a team of life coaches, a management staff, surgeons, botox, and a healthy bank account to pay for it all. If he can provide you that.....then bring on the comparisons my friend.
  • doorki
    doorki Posts: 2,576 Member
    I'm gonna be honest - If a girl friend started to get upset with small comments like: "Oh look how fit she is" to celebrities on TV I would probably end the relationship. I couldn't be with someone that emotionally demanding and frail. I like to have a laugh in relationships.

    I notice how you didn't mention if he ever calls you beautiful, or that he loves you and cares about you, and is genuinely a nice person to you. If he doesn't then, meh, that's your call to make. If he does, remember that and remember that he probably means it to.

    Lighten up, and I say that to the rest of you who are calling him a "jerk" even though you don't know what he is ACTUALLY like as boy friend.

    This! The hens here are so quick to swarm and attack a guy without getting the full story.

    Also, I would tell my wife to stop patronizing me if she tried to tell me that I am hotter than someone like Ryan Reynolds.
  • Rawr1978
    Rawr1978 Posts: 245 Member
    I'm gonna be honest - If a girl friend started to get upset with small comments like: "Oh look how fit she is" to celebrities on TV I would probably end the relationship. I couldn't be with someone that emotionally demanding and frail. I like to have a laugh in relationships.

    I notice how you didn't mention if he ever calls you beautiful, or that he loves you and cares about you, and is genuinely a nice person to you. If he doesn't then, meh, that's your call to make. If he does, remember that and remember that he probably means it to.

    Lighten up, and I say that to the rest of you who are calling him a "jerk" even though you don't know what he is ACTUALLY like as boy friend.

    Personally my hubby pointing out someone was fit wouldn't bother me. Saying someone was hotter than me would bother me.

    Even though I KNOW there are millions of hotter women than me, I don't want to hear my hubby say it.

    I know it's just a tiny difference but I am a woman and like to be complicated lol. So for me, he can say other people are hot. But he has to say I am the hottest woman on the earth because he loves me and I've had his babies (even if it's a little white lie lol)

    this
  • kasimarie29
    kasimarie29 Posts: 128 Member
    YOU are a knockout! and he needs to realize that the people on TV and in magazines aren't as beautiful as the people on TV and in magazines. It's all lighting, movie magic, photographers, airbrushing, heavy makeup, uppers, barbiturates, a team of trainers, a team of chefs, a team of dieticians, a team of life coaches, a management staff, surgeons, botox, and a healthy bank account to pay for it all. If he can provide you that.....then bring on the comparisons my friend.

    ahaha omg i love you XD I'm definitely adding yoU!
  • K_Serz
    K_Serz Posts: 1,299 Member
    Okay, so, my boyfriend has all these little crushes on these women on tv.

    I stopped reading there. Then I LOL'd

    WHO CARES?

    Its friggin TV!!!!
  • Event_Horizon975
    Event_Horizon975 Posts: 226 Member
    YOU are a knockout! and he needs to realize that the people on TV and in magazines aren't as beautiful as the people on TV and in magazines. It's all lighting, movie magic, photographers, airbrushing, heavy makeup, uppers, barbiturates, a team of trainers, a team of chefs, a team of dieticians, a team of life coaches, a management staff, surgeons, botox, and a healthy bank account to pay for it all. If he can provide you that.....then bring on the comparisons my friend.

    ahaha omg i love you XD I'm definitely adding yoU!

    LOL - I keep it real girl. I've never understood over-obsession with celebrity. They have acne, and cellulite just like the rest of us Joes. Don't let anyone fool you!
  • CakeFit21
    CakeFit21 Posts: 2,521 Member

    Oh actually i did in a comment say that he is great to me other than that smal part of him hurting my feelings. He's wonderful actually.

    haha, ok. If you say so.

    I have no time in my life for people who hurt my feelings. Not even a little.
  • rosemaryhon
    rosemaryhon Posts: 507 Member
    ...neither of us have done anything more than said hurtful things to eachother and I'm sure all couples do that...


    Just to say no, not all couples do that.
  • DonnaLeeCattes
    DonnaLeeCattes Posts: 492 Member
    It's okay that some of you don't agree with what I post. I'm not looking to please evverybody. And I defend my boyfriend because I'm in love with him...
    I know I'm not the only one that does it.

    No, people complain about their significant others only to defend said person from "attacks" on here all the time. People want advice until they realize that they actually don't.

    So True!!
  • sugboog29
    sugboog29 Posts: 630 Member
    I guess my husband and I have an interesting relationship. If I see a woman I know he will find attractive I point her out! Freaked my daughter out one day doing that!! His "perfect" woman is Raquel Welch....I will NEVER look like her...and I know that. He does tell me how beautiful I am and how sexy he finds me and I love him for that. Ask him if he thinks they are really that perfect! Tell him none of them can EVER compare to you cause you are one of a kind....perfect in your own way!
  • c_tap77
    c_tap77 Posts: 189 Member
    My husband and I both have celebrities we think are incredibly attractive--but that doesn't mean that we want that other person more than each other.

    Am I the most physically attractive girl??? Absolutely not!!!!! And if my husband told me I was the hottest girl in the world, I would know he's lying--but that doesn't mean that he doesn't find me beautiful and I know without a doubt that he would pick me over all of those other girls anyways because of the other qualities I bring to the table--just because I'm not a Victoria's Secret bombshell doesn't mean I'm not a great catch!!!!

    The same goes for how I feel about my husband! Don't get me wrong, I think he's very handsome--but I didn't fall in love with him based on his looks. I fell in love with him because of his personality :) But that doesn't mean I'm suddenly going to stop thinking __________(fill in the blank celebrity--there's too many to pick one) is really sexy.

    Don't stress about it too much. It's human nature and the fact that he's comfortable enough to talk about it with you is (in my humble opinion) a good sign. If it was something to be concerned about he certainly wouldn't be so open with you about it :)
  • atb0821
    atb0821 Posts: 458 Member
    oh, his behavior is completely normal for someone who hasn't been told, in complete seriousness, to knock it the eff off. Guys would pull it on me until I told them to try to get those girls. I had a rather big ego when I met my bf, so he already figured out not to say anyone was better than me.
    if this guy hasn't been told it bugs her, he's assuming it's fine to do.

    Exactly this. My husband used to do that same thing all the time. I guess his ex's in the past weren't bothered by it, or didn't stand up for themselves to tell him it bothered them. I finally exploded on him one day and asked him to stop pointing out every single hot female on the planet. He was surprised it bothered me....it had never even crossed his mind that it might be a bad thing. But since I asked him to please stop, he hasn't done it since out of respect for me. So you might just need to tell him straight up.
  • DonnaLeeCattes
    DonnaLeeCattes Posts: 492 Member
    how you got so plumpy?
    Your only 19 and it would seem you have been with this guy since you where 14, so are you comparing your weight to when you where 14?
  • kasimarie29
    kasimarie29 Posts: 128 Member
    My husband and I both have celebrities we think are incredibly attractive--but that doesn't mean that we want that other person more than each other.

    Am I the most physically attractive girl??? Absolutely not!!!!! And if my husband told me I was the hottest girl in the world, I would know he's lying--but that doesn't mean that he doesn't find me beautiful and I know without a doubt that he would pick me over all of those other girls anyways because of the other qualities I bring to the table--just because I'm not a Victoria's Secret bombshell doesn't mean I'm not a great catch!!!!

    The same goes for how I feel about my husband! Don't get me wrong, I think he's very handsome--but I didn't fall in love with him based on his looks. I fell in love with him because of his personality :) But that doesn't mean I'm suddenly going to stop thinking __________(fill in the blank celebrity--there's too many to pick one) is really sexy.

    Don't stress about it too much. It's human nature and the fact that he's comfortable enough to talk about it with you is (in my humble opinion) a good sign. If it was something to be concerned about he certainly wouldn't be so open with you about it :)

    thank you
  • kasimarie29
    kasimarie29 Posts: 128 Member
    how you got so plumpy?
    Your only 19 and it would seem you have been with this guy since you where 14, so are you comparing your weight to when you where 14?

    I started gaining weight at 15 when I was put on different meds.
  • m00tmike
    m00tmike Posts: 248 Member
    This man is clearly an idiot. No offense. My wife and I talk about attractive people but we never put them ahead of each other. You need to be #1 in every regard for him. Dudes are stupid. Sorry.
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    He's probably still going to say that, no matter what size you are. Maybe you could comment on all the hot guys you are seeing ;-)

    That said, don't lose weight just to look good for him, because you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Lose weight for yourself and your health, and don't expect him to change.

    This ^^ It's pointless to compete with images on TV or in movies/magazines. They are made-up and photographed/filmed by professionals to show the good and hide the bad. They are not real life.
  • beckieboomoo
    beckieboomoo Posts: 590 Member

    I have no problem with my hubby pointing out sexy women, I know which famous women he finds attractive and he knows who I like. He would just never say they were hotter than me. I mean..... who can be hotter than the person you are madly in love with??

    totally agree 100% my Mr hardly points out famous women but sometimes i will point them out to him, but at end of the day he says am the most prettiest girl in the world.... I use to be mean and say that's only cause you love me, he says lies and told me
    That's the first time he saw me (before we met) he was stunned because of how beautiful i was and he never seen anyone sopretty .... Am lucky i know :)
  • DonnaLeeCattes
    DonnaLeeCattes Posts: 492 Member
    how you got so plumpy?
    Your only 19 and it would seem you have been with this guy since you where 14, so are you comparing your weight to when you where 14?

    I started gaining weight at 15 when I was put on different meds.
    meds can do that. I gained some from med change too.
    I wish you the best dear.
  • kasimarie29
    kasimarie29 Posts: 128 Member
    how you got so plumpy?
    Your only 19 and it would seem you have been with this guy since you where 14, so are you comparing your weight to when you where 14?

    I started gaining weight at 15 when I was put on different meds.
    meds can do that. I gained some from med change too.
    I wish you the best dear.

    thank you
  • ebgbjo
    ebgbjo Posts: 821 Member
    Sorry. I am not in agreement with a lot of people here. I would not let this just roll of my back. No man should ever say ANYONE is hotter than the woman he is with, especially to that woman. You deserve to be respected by your man and no woman should ever allow a man to make her feel as though she isn't good enough for him.
    You ARE gorgeous! Your eyes are amazing.
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    ...neither of us have done anything more than said hurtful things to eachother and I'm sure all couples do that...


    Just to say no, not all couples do that.

    This. I have never in my life said something intentionally hurtful to a boyfriend. I've never called one of them a *kitten* or an *kitten*. I've never called one of them stupid. I've never even told a boyfriend to shut up. I would not put up with him speaking to me like that, so I certainly wouldn't do it to him.

    It really saddens me to see what girls view as perfectly normal relationship behavior these days.
  • Rawr1978
    Rawr1978 Posts: 245 Member
    oh, his behavior is completely normal for someone who hasn't been told, in complete seriousness, to knock it the eff off. Guys would pull it on me until I told them to try to get those girls. I had a rather big ego when I met my bf, so he already figured out not to say anyone was better than me.
    if this guy hasn't been told it bugs her, he's assuming it's fine to do.

    Exactly this. My husband used to do that same thing all the time. I guess his ex's in the past weren't bothered by it, or didn't stand up for themselves to tell him it bothered them. I finally exploded on him one day and asked him to stop pointing out every single hot female on the planet. He was surprised it bothered me....it had never even crossed his mind that it might be a bad thing. But since I asked him to please stop, he hasn't done it since out of respect for me. So you might just need to tell him straight up.
    I don't mind occasional comments, i do it more than he does...but if he ever said, "she's the hottest thing," it crosses a respect line. It would make me 1. Feel like he's settling, 2. The other girl probably has time and money to look that way. I do not
    Just an example: when we first started out, we were talking about various hot chics. I said I wwnted to try to doll myself up like one. His response was, "you dont have to. These girls look good, yes, but where natural beauty comes in, you win."
    Sorry, but that's really something I feel every woman should be told.
  • JenniBaby85
    JenniBaby85 Posts: 855 Member
    Don't ever try to compare yourself to others, you're beautiful, and don't get in shape for your boyfriend. Do it for you! Be the best you that you can be and love and respect yourself for it!
  • kasimarie29
    kasimarie29 Posts: 128 Member
    I honestly feel like I've put out the wrong vibe about my boyfriend. he's really not as bad as some of you may think now. he's really good to me despite the ocassional comment that may hurt my feelings...
  • youngdreamer
    youngdreamer Posts: 65 Member
    I would honestly just swoon over all of your celebrity male crushes. Don't get mad, get even. What slightly irks me is when regular people don't understand... not even ~THEY~ look that way. It's all a lie.
  • Okay, so, my boyfriend has all these little crushes on these women on tv. We've been together for just about forever so it doesn't really bother me. What does bother me is hearing "sorry, but she's the hottest woman in the world." No girl wants to hear that right? Well, should I just let it roll off my back and let it be motivation to get in shape? Cuz I know I would be just as pretty as some of these women if I would just lose some weight. I have a nice face, and a nice shape(not trying to be stuck up by no means), but I'm just overweight... I carry my weight well but i have a lil too much of it. if I lose like 50 lbs, I feel like he wouldn't keep saying that to me. Maybe he's just trying to motivate me??

    By the way, I have been having a tad bit of trouble staying on my new healthy life style change here lately. If you'd like to add me and help out with that, feel free :)

    My husband and I say crap like that all the time. And I know that it isn't the popular opinion, but I think it is more disrespectful to lie to your partner by pretending that no one else in the world is remotely attractive.

    He and I went through this exact same thing a few years ago when I gained about 75 pounds being pregnant. So when I noticed that my sensitivity had changed to his comments, I talked to him about it. Told him that I was feeling insecure, and so I needed him to tone it down a little for a while. He did, I lost the weight, and all was well.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    My husband and I say crap like that all the time. And I know that it isn't the popular opinion, but I think it is more disrespectful to lie to your partner by pretending that no one else in the world is remotely attractive.

    So the only two choices are to constantly gush over others' appearances or pretend everyone else is ugly? Those are the only choices??
  • kasimarie29
    kasimarie29 Posts: 128 Member
    Okay, so, my boyfriend has all these little crushes on these women on tv. We've been together for just about forever so it doesn't really bother me. What does bother me is hearing "sorry, but she's the hottest woman in the world." No girl wants to hear that right? Well, should I just let it roll off my back and let it be motivation to get in shape? Cuz I know I would be just as pretty as some of these women if I would just lose some weight. I have a nice face, and a nice shape(not trying to be stuck up by no means), but I'm just overweight... I carry my weight well but i have a lil too much of it. if I lose like 50 lbs, I feel like he wouldn't keep saying that to me. Maybe he's just trying to motivate me??

    By the way, I have been having a tad bit of trouble staying on my new healthy life style change here lately. If you'd like to add me and help out with that, feel free :)

    My husband and I say crap like that all the time. And I know that it isn't the popular opinion, but I think it is more disrespectful to lie to your partner by pretending that no one else in the world is remotely attractive.

    He and I went through this exact same thing a few years ago when I gained about 75 pounds being pregnant. So when I noticed that my sensitivity had changed to his comments, I talked to him about it. Told him that I was feeling insecure, and so I needed him to tone it down a little for a while. He did, I lost the weight, and all was well.

    see? thank you. it's nice to have advice from someone who's been through the same thing.