She's hotter than me?

bootsiejayne

Oh, Milla Jojovich is hot.

ebgbjo

I honestly feel like I've put out the wrong vibe about my boyfriend. he's really not as bad as some of you may think now. he's really good to me despite the ocassional comment that may hurt my feelings...

The problem is, emotional abuse it worse than physical abuse. You say you have low self esteem, well, you are letting your boyfriend keep your esteem low by knocking you down instead of building you up. He is emotionally abusing you by telling you that you aren't hot enough for him, basically. And what exactly does this guy of YOURS look like??

MissAubreyA

So the only two choices are to constantly gush over others' appearances or pretend everyone else is ugly? Those are the only choices??

Nope. Just hyperbole to emphasize a point. There doesn't seem to be a lot of room for discussing the gray area on this board, so I went with the short version.

kasimarie29

I honestly feel like I've put out the wrong vibe about my boyfriend. he's really not as bad as some of you may think now. he's really good to me despite the ocassional comment that may hurt my feelings...

The problem is, emotional abuse it worse than physical abuse. You say you have low self esteem, well, you are letting your boyfriend keep your esteem low by knocking you down instead of building you up. He is emotionally abusing you by telling you that you aren't hot enough for him, basically. And what exactly does this guy of YOURS look like??

He's never said I'm not hot enough for him. he's always telling me that I'm beautfiul and sexy and what not.
and idk how to upload pics on here but he's really tall, buff in the arms, blue eyes blonde hair.. umm idk lol I think hes absolutely gorgeous.. I have apic of us on my account.

rml_16

I honestly feel like I've put out the wrong vibe about my boyfriend. he's really not as bad as some of you may think now. he's really good to me despite the ocassional comment that may hurt my feelings...

The problem is, emotional abuse it worse than physical abuse. You say you have low self esteem, well, you are letting your boyfriend keep your esteem low by knocking you down instead of building you up. He is emotionally abusing you by telling you that you aren't hot enough for him, basically. And what exactly does this guy of YOURS look like??

He didn't tell her that. She's 19 and I'm guessing he's around that age as well. He's commenting on the attractiveness of celebrities, not telling his GF she's ugly.

My SO finds Jenna Elfman very attractive. She's 5'10" (at least), athletic shape, blond. I'm 5'3", curly red hair, hourglass figure. The fact that I will never look like Jenna doesn't mean he doesn't also find me attractive.

He's also told me that if he had the chance to leave me for Salma Hayek, he would. But we both know he's not serious and especially because that opportunity is as likely to come as me looking like Jenna Elfman one day.

Also, despite his saying those things, he has also told me that I have the body shape that "all men" lust after. Now, I know that isn't true, but he's really speaking about himself, which is the only opinion that matters in this case (besides my own).

doorki

I honestly feel like I've put out the wrong vibe about my boyfriend. he's really not as bad as some of you may think now. he's really good to me despite the ocassional comment that may hurt my feelings...

The problem is, emotional abuse it worse than physical abuse. You say you have low self esteem, well, you are letting your boyfriend keep your esteem low by knocking you down instead of building you up. He is emotionally abusing you by telling you that you aren't hot enough for him, basically. And what exactly does this guy of YOURS look like??

HOLY CRAP! Jumping to conclusions is great and leaping to the worst case scenarios always solves problems lol. No where in her statement did she say that he said sh is not hot enough for him. Men are capable of seeing all types on beauty and physical attributes are only a small portion of a healthy relationship. Honesty is another......

ninerbuff

Okay, so, my boyfriend has all these little crushes on these women on tv. We've been together for just about forever so it doesn't really bother me. What does bother me is hearing "sorry, but she's the hottest woman in the world." No girl wants to hear that right? Well, should I just let it roll off my back and let it be motivation to get in shape? Cuz I know I would be just as pretty as some of these women if I would just lose some weight. I have a nice face, and a nice shape(not trying to be stuck up by no means), but I'm just overweight... I carry my weight well but i have a lil too much of it. if I lose like 50 lbs, I feel like he wouldn't keep saying that to me. Maybe he's just trying to motivate me??

By the way, I have been having a tad bit of trouble staying on my new healthy life style change here lately. If you'd like to add me and help out with that, feel free

It's a man thing. Don't try to figure it out. And "hot" is subjective. It changes with age and interests.

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ebgbjo

SHE said she has low self esteem. He is feeding into it. She already that he apologizes afterwards when she says it hurts her to hear that. So, he knows it hurts her, yet he keeps on doing it?! He is a jerk, plain and simple. Someone with low self esteem isn't going to get better self esteem with a loved one saying such things. Saying "I'm sorry" then doing the same thing over and over again is NOT being sorry.

I have been in her shoes before. And YES, it is a form of emotional abuse to have someone you love put you down by constantly pointing out how others look better, especially when they know you have low self esteem.

I honestly feel like I've put out the wrong vibe about my boyfriend. he's really not as bad as some of you may think now. he's really good to me despite the ocassional comment that may hurt my feelings...

The problem is, emotional abuse it worse than physical abuse. You say you have low self esteem, well, you are letting your boyfriend keep your esteem low by knocking you down instead of building you up. He is emotionally abusing you by telling you that you aren't hot enough for him, basically. And what exactly does this guy of YOURS look like??

HOLY CRAP! Jumping to conclusions is great and leaping to the worst case scenarios always solves problems lol. No where in her statement did she say that he said sh is not hot enough for him. Men are capable of seeing all types on beauty and physical attributes are only a small portion of a healthy relationship. Honesty is another......

BusyRaeNOTBusty

I think it's a little silly to assume that your spouse is going to find you the most attractive person in the world. What happens when you get old? I think it's better to be more realistic. Realize that he finds you attractive and more importantly he loves you for things beyond physical beauty.