What is your key to a long successful marriage ?

donyellemoniquex3

My parents have been married for 24 years. They say humor =}

benol1

Love and respect in equal measure.
And knowing when to keep one's mouth shut.

ninerbuff

For the man- conforming

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xapril77x

^^^ truth

Skeletor666

Never getting married.
Marriage is the transfer of wealth from men to women.

http://www.lifesitenews.com/news/young-men-giving-up-on-marriage-women-arent-women-anymore/

aquarabbit

Only been with my guy 5 years (married for 2 as of the 10th), but we're friends with a lot of other couples (some are still together and some aren't) and I would say humor, not trying to change the other person, making time to do things together (even just sitting and talking), and accepting that sometimes, you'll annoy each other and that it's better to be prepared for it rather than think everyday is going to be a fairy tale. And that the relationship changes and evolves just like everything else in a person's life.

SueGeer

Me being always right.......and him knowing it! :laugh: Done 29 years in September

Nicolee_2014

I'm not married YET. I've been with my partner for 8 years & I hope we are together for the rest of our lives. I think being individual people is part of the success.

I cannot stand couples who cannot do ANYTHING without their partners. My brother & his gf are like conjoined twins & they wonder why they fight constantly.

ssm_1972

Even Google is searching the key..............

sam308lbs

"If you have someone to clean your house and do your shopping, and you get some action on a regular basis, the only reason you need a wife is if you have some sick compulsion to give away half your stuff"

jdad1

The key to a good long marriage is learning, and remembering, that life is not all about you. All to often a spouse continues to live as they are the only thing that matters.

xapril77x

Me being always right.......and him knowing it! :laugh: Done 29 years in September

same here! been together 10 yrs, married 8... Congrats on 29 yrs!

Dunkirk

Our 30th wedding anniversary in October. My keys are: marrying the right person, having fun together, knowing when to zip the lip - even when I don't want to, mutual honour and respect, choosing the appropriate time to talk about issues - even if it means waiting days, choosing not to take offense or be hurt when something said or done unintentionally, have more than 3 children - you are out numbered and have to get along.

ssm_1972

First of all, what is "successful marriage" ? How you define ??

SRHelicity

I cannot stand couples who cannot do ANYTHING without their partners. My brother & his gf are like conjoined twins & they wonder why they fight constantly.

I think every couple is different. I've had people tell me the same thing (i.e. "ugh, why do you always hang out together like you're attached at the hip?!), and I've known many couples who didn't want to spend much time together split up. I'm not sure there's much association, but I only have a handful of anecdotes for that assessment.

My wife and I started dating in high school 13 years ago; we dated for 6 years and thus have been married for the past 7 years. We've been an "attached at the hip" couple in that we almost always do everything together. Why? Because she's my best friend, and I love doing things together with her. It works for us. *shrug*

Respect each other. Respect that neither of you is perfect and learn to live with those imperfections. Pull your fair share of weight around the house (house chores, child duties, etc.).

rikwaynik

We will have 32 years later this month. We've never had his and her chores. We both do what needs to be done. We both like our space and that works for us. Be willing to say when you're wrong and be willing to compromise sometimes, even when you "know" you're right. Lastly, you have to have the attitude that this is a lifetime commitment. So when things go bad (and they will), you will put forth more effort to get past those times. You won't have to worry about anyone getting anyone else's money in a divorce settlement, only when death do you part.

GlitterrMagpie

Don't sweat the small stuff.

LaserMum

When I was single I would always say "Marriage is an institution and I'm not quite mad enough to be institutionalized." :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

I wish I'd listened to my own advice. I've now been married 25 years. I didn't even get a card or present on our silver wedding anniversary. Only good thing is my wonderful daughter.

My advice to anyone thinking of getting married? DON'T DO IT!!!

leilaphoenix

I notice nobody has mentioned good sex...

mspoopoo

marrying the right person, not just the arm candy or best sex partner.
mutual respect
willing to work as a team
having things in common
actually liking each other
similar values

fitmom07

I've been with my husband for over 8 years and been married 6 years. I have to say the thing that has made us last is being open and honest with each other. We always work things out. My parents have been married about 37 years and I've lost count of my grandparent's, I think maybe 62 years?! They are my inspiration.