Engagement rings
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Moon_Stone wrote: »Do you want a watch because you need to check how long the relationship is going to last?
The ring should be about wanting to make the other person happy, what they like, showing you understand that person, not hey what do I get out of this.
It’s not about the ring being super expensive in my opinion or ostentatious to shout, look he’s loaded. It’s about the symbol of the ring symbolizing the relationship is strong, solid and lasting the rest of time. Also abit that the guy isn’t a mooch and a cheapskate. Buying something really cheap that’s going to rust and turn your finger green because of the fake gold or whatever you bought isn’t special or romantic. Get it right because the ring is a test in my opinion. If you buy something that you like and she doesn’t, the ring represents you don’t understand her.
Not a fan of the ruby ring but my opinion doesn’t matter because it’s about what you like and makes you happy.
And if she picks her own ring because he’s afraid to choose, that probably means something too.1 -
If you have that many doubts and conditions about giving a woman a ring then maybe you're not meant to marry the woman?
Although I do think flashy diamond rings are overrated, myself.
Some women truly don't care about fancy rings. I had one when I was married the first time at 26 and I honestly felt like the attention from other women about my ring was strange. I didn't particularly think it was even pretty or my style.
For my second go-round in my thirties, I told my boyfriend (now husband) I would prefer a simple silver band or something else very simple. He got me a green amethyst on a silver band. The gemstone is cut in such a way that it sparkles. I have never cared about jewelry and I love it. I also love that it was so inexpensive...he got it from an etsy seller who handmade the ring. I now have 2 of the same ring in different sizes since I have lost a lot of weight since our engagement in 2013. I didn't want a separate wedding ring/band.
He actually bought his own rings, he has one for "dress" (still inexpensive) and a silicone band for when he's working on projects or exercising. I would have happily bought them for him, of course. We spend our money on other things.
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Moon_Stone wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »Moon_Stone wrote: »Do you want a watch because you need to check how long the relationship is going to last?
The ring should be about wanting to make the other person happy, what they like, showing you understand that person, not hey what do I get out of this.
It’s not about the ring being super expensive in my opinion or ostentatious to shout, look he’s loaded. It’s about the symbol of the ring symbolizing the relationship is strong, solid and lasting the rest of time. Also abit that the guy isn’t a mooch and a cheapskate. Buying something really cheap that’s going to rust and turn your finger green because of the fake gold or whatever you bought isn’t special or romantic. Get it right because the ring is a test in my opinion. If you buy something that you like and she doesn’t, the ring represents you don’t understand her.
Not a fan of the ruby ring but my opinion doesn’t matter because it’s about what you like and makes you happy.
And if she picks her own ring because he’s afraid to choose, that probably means something too.
This happened to a friend. Her husband thought he was being romantic but it’s actually a sore spot.
sometimes it’s predictive of future behavior too which, I’m sure, some people are fine with1 -
your_future_ex_wife wrote: »Moon_Stone wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »Moon_Stone wrote: »Do you want a watch because you need to check how long the relationship is going to last?
The ring should be about wanting to make the other person happy, what they like, showing you understand that person, not hey what do I get out of this.
It’s not about the ring being super expensive in my opinion or ostentatious to shout, look he’s loaded. It’s about the symbol of the ring symbolizing the relationship is strong, solid and lasting the rest of time. Also abit that the guy isn’t a mooch and a cheapskate. Buying something really cheap that’s going to rust and turn your finger green because of the fake gold or whatever you bought isn’t special or romantic. Get it right because the ring is a test in my opinion. If you buy something that you like and she doesn’t, the ring represents you don’t understand her.
Not a fan of the ruby ring but my opinion doesn’t matter because it’s about what you like and makes you happy.
And if she picks her own ring because he’s afraid to choose, that probably means something too.
This happened to a friend. Her husband thought he was being romantic but it’s actually a sore spot.
sometimes it’s predictive of future behavior too which, I’m sure, some people are fine with
That's why the whole thing is bs. You pick the wrong stupid expensive rock and you're screwed.
You ask for her help to pick the stupid expensive rock and you're screwed.
You don't get her a stupid expensive rock and you're screwed.
You know how you don't get screwed? You become ace sexual like me4 -
samtarlyonadiet wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »Moon_Stone wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »Moon_Stone wrote: »Do you want a watch because you need to check how long the relationship is going to last?
The ring should be about wanting to make the other person happy, what they like, showing you understand that person, not hey what do I get out of this.
It’s not about the ring being super expensive in my opinion or ostentatious to shout, look he’s loaded. It’s about the symbol of the ring symbolizing the relationship is strong, solid and lasting the rest of time. Also abit that the guy isn’t a mooch and a cheapskate. Buying something really cheap that’s going to rust and turn your finger green because of the fake gold or whatever you bought isn’t special or romantic. Get it right because the ring is a test in my opinion. If you buy something that you like and she doesn’t, the ring represents you don’t understand her.
Not a fan of the ruby ring but my opinion doesn’t matter because it’s about what you like and makes you happy.
And if she picks her own ring because he’s afraid to choose, that probably means something too.
This happened to a friend. Her husband thought he was being romantic but it’s actually a sore spot.
sometimes it’s predictive of future behavior too which, I’m sure, some people are fine with
That's why the whole thing is bs. You pick the wrong stupid expensive rock and you're screwed.
You ask for her help to pick the stupid expensive rock and you're screwed.
You don't get her a stupid expensive rock and you're screwed.
You know how you don't get screwed? You become ace sexual like me
Good point. I think it’s about knowing your partner, his/her wants & needs, and figuring out if you’re compatible
ETA: for the record, I was very happy at the time to pick out my own ring1 -
Also,fwiw, a ring is not the jewelry I’d choose in future1
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marriage is a beautiful thing and everyone should do it at least twice.
but this is 2019 guys...and they should be proposing to us. it's only fair. and so help me if she picks out an ugly cheap ring for me i will not hesitate to just pack my things and LEAVE
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You should have a ring for every fingermarriage is a beautiful thing and everyone should do it at least twice.
but this is 2019 guys...and they should be proposing to us. it's only fair. and so help me if she picks out an ugly cheap ring for me i will not hesitate to just pack my things and LEAVE
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Just my opinion, but I notice that the FIRST thing girlfriends want to see is the ring. And once they do, it's like they make a judgement on how much that man loves you. If he gave you a simple gold or silver band with no diamond, what would the reaction be you think?
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Pardon my French, but who the *kitten* cares? Stop perpetuating that ridiculous and outdated sentiment.
My husband and I spent minimal on rings, married at the courthouse (with my and his immediate fam in attendance), and had a lovely vacation in Hawaii just after. The ring nor the “ceremony” caused us any debt and very minimal stress, and we loved the simplicity of it and I wouldn’t have changed a thing.0 -
the_conspicuous_quesadilla wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »Also,fwiw, a ring is not the jewelry I’d choose in future
Earrings or a necklace type of gal?
That’s an excellent guess0 -
There're many women who don't need any diamonds to be happy.
Personally I don't like the way you put the question. I give the best gifts I can find to people I love without expecting anything in return no matter how much it costs me.
Now tell me what you will give her in return for a child labor? Cut off your arm?2 -
There're many women who don't need any diamonds to be happy.
Personally I don't like the way you put the question. I give the best gifts I can find to people I love without expecting anything in return no matter how much it costs me.
Now tell me what you will give her in return for a child labor? Cut off your arm?
I don’t the question was meant in a hostile way0 -
the_conspicuous_quesadilla wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »the_conspicuous_quesadilla wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »Also,fwiw, a ring is not the jewelry I’d choose in future
Earrings or a necklace type of gal?
That’s an excellent guess
Bracelet or watch? Can I have a clue? Phone a family member?
I thought about some like this but it’s not quite me.
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I just got engaged last night. My ring is bigger than I would have thought I would like, but perfect all the same, because it was bought with love from someone who loves me, and that’s really what is important. It didn’t have to be a diamond at all and it still would be special to me.10
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CoffeeAndContour wrote: »I just got engaged last night. My ring is bigger than I would have thought I would like, but perfect all the same, because it was bought with love from someone who loves me, and that’s really what important. It didn’t have to be a diamond at all and it still would be special to me.
CONGRATULATIONS!!!2 -
your_future_ex_wife wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »I just got engaged last night. My ring is bigger than I would have thought I would like, but perfect all the same, because it was bought with love from someone who loves me, and that’s really what important. It didn’t have to be a diamond at all and it still would be special to me.
CONGRATULATIONS!!!
Thank you
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your_future_ex_wife wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »I just got engaged last night. My ring is bigger than I would have thought I would like, but perfect all the same, because it was bought with love from someone who loves me, and that’s really what important. It didn’t have to be a diamond at all and it still would be special to me.
CONGRATULATIONS!!!
Congratulations! 🤗 🥂1 -
the_conspicuous_quesadilla wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »the_conspicuous_quesadilla wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »the_conspicuous_quesadilla wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »Also,fwiw, a ring is not the jewelry I’d choose in future
Earrings or a necklace type of gal?
That’s an excellent guess
Bracelet or watch? Can I have a clue? Phone a family member?
I thought about some like this but it’s not quite me.
How 'bout we let the moon and the stars be our crown, the earth our footstool. We can sit back and gaze at the wonder that lies before us somewhere in the mountains, and let the bliss of our new-found love clothe us. Because really, who needs jewelry?
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the_conspicuous_quesadilla wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »the_conspicuous_quesadilla wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »the_conspicuous_quesadilla wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »the_conspicuous_quesadilla wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »Also,fwiw, a ring is not the jewelry I’d choose in future
Earrings or a necklace type of gal?
That’s an excellent guess
Bracelet or watch? Can I have a clue? Phone a family member?
I thought about some like this but it’s not quite me.
How 'bout we let the moon and the stars be our crown, the earth our footstool. We can sit back and gaze at the wonder that lies before us somewhere in the mountains, and let the bliss of our new-found love clothe us. Because really, who needs jewelry?
meh
You have to admit it was somewhat derivative.0
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