Engagement rings

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  • Jamie2663
    Jamie2663 Posts: 779 Member
    I wanted to start our life. Instead of dropping an insane amount of money on a wedding, ring, and honeymoon we decided to worry less on one day that neither of us were going to remember all the small details. My ring is simple. Something I don't have to worry about taking off anytime I want to do something and something I never took off until it became too big, but everyone is different.
  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    the_conspicuous_quesadilla wrote: »
    Can i just buy "said future sweetheart" a car and forget the ring? :D

    Diamonds are literally virtually worthless. For a diamond ring I maaay want something. For a car i would expect absolutely nothing in return, just want her to have dependable transportation.

    This might work if you also warm it up, clean off the snow, defrost the windows, dig out the tires and take care of oil changes.

    I just realized I’m high maintenance. 😬
  • Jamie2663
    Jamie2663 Posts: 779 Member
    edited May 2019
    your_future_ex_wife wrote: »
    the_conspicuous_quesadilla wrote: »
    Can i just buy "said future sweetheart" a car and forget the ring? :D

    Diamonds are literally virtually worthless. For a diamond ring I maaay want something. For a car i would expect absolutely nothing in return, just want her to have dependable transportation.

    This might work if you also warm it up, clean off the snow, defrost the windows, dig out the tires and take care of oil changes.

    I just realized I’m high maintenance. 😬

    I just about died lol...also filling the tank with gas.....
  • TravisJHunt
    TravisJHunt Posts: 533 Member
    I'll put it this way, the ring I bought my wife was probably less expensive than the ones given by my closest 20-25 friends. 15 years later my wife and are both still happily married with two kids a good life together. The top 10% most expensive rings purchased in our group, they are all divorced. And probably at least 50% of the remaining ones. So I'm not saying a cheap ring gets a lasting relationship, but finding someone who loves you for you, and not some fancy ring is what does. Hollywood would be another prime example where everyone has to have the most outrageous ring, yet most of their marriages are likely to fail in the first 5 years. Find a woman that would rather spend the money on you as a couple, doing things, building things that will last, and that will translate into a marriage that will last.
  • TravisJHunt
    TravisJHunt Posts: 533 Member
    your_future_ex_wife wrote: »
    the_conspicuous_quesadilla wrote: »
    Can i just buy "said future sweetheart" a car and forget the ring? :D

    Diamonds are literally virtually worthless. For a diamond ring I maaay want something. For a car i would expect absolutely nothing in return, just want her to have dependable transportation.

    This might work if you also warm it up, clean off the snow, defrost the windows, dig out the tires and take care of oil changes.

    I just realized I’m high maintenance. 😬

    Not really, I do this all the time for my wife. Not that she expects me to, or needs me to. I'm just the first to leave in the mornings and we live in a very cold climate. She takes my two precious children to day care before heading to work so I make sure its cleaned off and warmed up for them. I also do the maintenance, tire changes, etc.

    And my wife is the furthest thing from high maintenance. She doesn't even wear makeup!
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  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    1. OK
    2. Too much property nails a soul to the earth when it would rather fly
    3. I’ll help
    4. Oof
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  • tcunbeliever
    tcunbeliever Posts: 8,219 Member
    I think there's a problem with anyone feeling pressured into anything ever. Maybe just find someone who has the same ideas about what engaged and married life should be like.

    I'm pretty traditional and definitely wanted a ring, but I don't like diamonds, so I gave a list of my favorite stones in order of preference. Then we picked out wedding rings to match though to be fair I don't remember who paid for those or if we split the cost. He didn't get an engagement gift, but he did get a very nice cigar case for a wedding gift, and I also got a necklace to match the ring.

    There doesn't have to be a ring. There doesn't have to be a diamond. There probably does need to be some level of compatibility with regards to expectations.
  • CoffeeAndContour
    CoffeeAndContour Posts: 1,466 Member
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    CoffeeAndContour wrote: »
    I just got engaged last night. My ring is bigger than I would have thought I would like, but perfect all the same, because it was bought with love from someone who loves me, and that’s really what is important. It didn’t have to be a diamond at all and it still would be special to me.

    Congratulations. That's one lucky guy.

    Thank you, my friend :blush:
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  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    the_conspicuous_quesadilla wrote: »
    your_future_ex_wife wrote: »
    1. OK
    2. Too much property nails a soul to the earth when it would rather fly
    3. I’ll help
    4. Oof

    I see you're not materialistic. Oustanding :D

    😁 I just have too much already.
  • ForAFitFuture2017
    ForAFitFuture2017 Posts: 7 Member
    I think rings are a must. It doesn't matter what it is made of, just as long as there is one. My mom and dad had wedding bands form Walmart, but they loved each other. Men should protect the woman and let her know that he "owns her" but in a loving way that says you are a free moral agent, but I will always look out for you, have your back, and be the foundation you can lean on and look to. Women are support for the man (they all need it!), and there to be the gentler, softer one that balances out the chest-beating Tarzans of the world. They all need a Jane (whether they think so or not!). I know women want to be independent yada yada yada, just my opinion here, a guy should be willing to "put a ring on it" and the woman should only say yes if she truly genuinely wants to spend the rest of her life with the man. I have been proposed to and said no, because I just didn't love the person. It's okay to tell them no. He asks a question, she says yes or no. People complicate the matter so much. It's as simple as "do you love them or not" as in "If you can not possibly think about ever living on a deserted island for the rest of your life without them". Love is a choice not a feeling.
    Romance is a feeling. There has to be both to make it work.

    And where did this "she owes me something" thing come from? Dude, you are making her change her last name, move away, pick up your clothes for the rest of your lives, listen to your football games and pick up the cheetos that end up everywhere, sweep the mud out of the hall your big boots track in, cook dinner for the 'buddies' that came over to watch the game. You guys can be big galoots sometimes. You can be loud, leave coffee cups everywhere, be insensitive about our weight, our hair, race the guy at the stoplight, OCD the garage so there is even a place for the broom to hang on the wall, but leave your underwear and socks strewn everywhere.
    She owes you nothing. Be proud of her. It's hard to be a woman in the nowadays world. With all the thin people displayed everywhere that there is an advertisement, we are thrown so many unrealistic goals. It's all about makeup and stylish clothes, and flashy cars, and perfectly organized houses, and starbucks, and Instagram, and Snapchat, and filters, and thigh gaps. It's hard to feel like you are unable to achieve the level of 'perfection' that is displayed in the outside world. Trust me, we girls do think about it, a lot. And yes, it makes us insecure. We cry a lot. We can't help it. We are tenderhearted. That's our DNA. Everyone is made differently. And it takes two to tango. If you love each other, you will inevitably balance each other out.

    I'm being honest, it's hard to find a guy when you are striving for an above the 2019 norm relationship.
    Whatever happened to nights under the stars on the backporch, with the radio playing through the window?
    When you are all old and wrinkly and walking with a walker, that Rolex or wedding ring won't matter a bit.

    All that matters is when you are growing hair out your ears and you can't find your glasses and shes all saggy and grey haired and her teeth are glued in and your hearing aid is whistling....if, in that moment, you still love her as much as the day you said I do, and she still smiles the way she did that first night, then you, dear sir, have done it right. And you should be proud of both of you.

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