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Motorsheen wrote: ».
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Thanks for all your input guys. So far I haven't heard from her. Last time we texted was just told each other Happy New Year. We also go to the same church so tomorrow will be interesting....
Dress nice. Smile a lot, not necessarily at her. Leave before she does and don’t approach her, but if you do make eye contact, give a polite head nod and that’s it.
She got into her car and left after the first service. I know she saw me pull up with my truck and parked. I don't know....feels like it's already over.
I’m sorry. That’s not a fun way to start the new year. Guess the only thing left to do now is go get as hot as possible. And happy. Nothing kills ‘em like seeing you hot and happy
In all seriousness, she’ll sense a beaten down puppy dog if you seem to be waiting around on her and that’s not a good thing. Don’t just wait to hear from her first, don’t even respond if she does. Or do, but keep it wind and weather and never initiate.
The fact that she avoided you at church means she’s hoping you get the hint but she’s afraid you won’t.5 -
skctilidie wrote: »Inability to listen. For example, if you specifically ask me "do you like this particular food item?" and I respond that I very much dislike it and do not eat it, do not then cook it for me 2 days later and be upset that I do not want it.
Looks for validation and praise every time he does basic tasks like washing dishes, laundry, or grocery shopping - because he so rarely does any of the above or any other housekeeping task.
Related: hoards anything, but especially not being able to bother to throw away food that's long past the stage of disgusting and is bordering on unrecognizable. (Most recent specific example - why is there, among other gross things, half a pie with a best by date of months ago that's now mostly covered with mold sitting in a half-open box on your counter? How long has it been there? Are you aware there's a trash can 3 steps away? I might have an answer to the question of why you're having such a hard time with ants and mice...)
Daily selfies, especially if they're always posted to multiple social media platforms.
Constantly commenting gushing praise on half-naked/fully-naked women's photos on social media while claiming "oh, I'm totally serious about us and our relationship and I'll get jealous and anxious if you even talk to another guy, but these are my friends and I *have to* support my friends, so you just have to accept that it's not something I'm ever going to stop doing"...even better when done while apparently not noticing that these oh so important friends never respond to any of his own photos or posts.
Updates their relationship status on facebook to say you're in a relationship with each other when you've been out exactly 1 time, then calls in a panic because they're afraid you're going to break up with them when you hide that status. Didn't think an official breakup was necessary after 1 afternoon, but yes, now I most certainly am.
Gets irritated at me for going to the gym - followed by ranting at me about how he refuses to exercise in any way because his dad liked to work out and they didn't have a great relationship. Uh, ok? Afraid we're not very compatible then.
(Sheesh, apparently I needed to vent a bit about the fun that is attempting to date at 40.
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Wow. Um. Just. Wow. I think I'd be happier without all the dating hoopla of life if this was my experience. Eek. Tell me this wasn't all rolled into one guy? Even so.
Lol, no - not one guy, just a combination of experiences that make me leery of trying again!
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If he never accidentally hits like on a really old wall post3
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skctilidie wrote: »Inability to listen. For example, if you specifically ask me "do you like this particular food item?" and I respond that I very much dislike it and do not eat it, do not then cook it for me 2 days later and be upset that I do not want it.
Looks for validation and praise every time he does basic tasks like washing dishes, laundry, or grocery shopping - because he so rarely does any of the above or any other housekeeping task.
Related: hoards anything, but especially not being able to bother to throw away food that's long past the stage of disgusting and is bordering on unrecognizable. (Most recent specific example - why is there, among other gross things, half a pie with a best by date of months ago that's now mostly covered with mold sitting in a half-open box on your counter? How long has it been there? Are you aware there's a trash can 3 steps away? I might have an answer to the question of why you're having such a hard time with ants and mice...)
Daily selfies, especially if they're always posted to multiple social media platforms.
Constantly commenting gushing praise on half-naked/fully-naked women's photos on social media while claiming "oh, I'm totally serious about us and our relationship and I'll get jealous and anxious if you even talk to another guy, but these are my friends and I *have to* support my friends, so you just have to accept that it's not something I'm ever going to stop doing"...even better when done while apparently not noticing that these oh so important friends never respond to any of his own photos or posts.
Updates their relationship status on facebook to say you're in a relationship with each other when you've been out exactly 1 time, then calls in a panic because they're afraid you're going to break up with them when you hide that status. Didn't think an official breakup was necessary after 1 afternoon, but yes, now I most certainly am.
Gets irritated at me for going to the gym - followed by ranting at me about how he refuses to exercise in any way because his dad liked to work out and they didn't have a great relationship. Uh, ok? Afraid we're not very compatible then.
(Sheesh, apparently I needed to vent a bit about the fun that is attempting to date at 40. )
I feel like you either dodged one giant bullet... or a bunch of tiny ones depending on if this is all ONE person or several different people you're referring to.
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I’m just one giant red flag to be fair 🚩3
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Thanks for all your input guys. So far I haven't heard from her. Last time we texted was just told each other Happy New Year. We also go to the same church so tomorrow will be interesting....
Dress nice. Smile a lot, not necessarily at her. Leave before she does and don’t approach her, but if you do make eye contact, give a polite head nod and that’s it.
She got into her car and left after the first service. I know she saw me pull up with my truck and parked. I don't know....feels like it's already over.
I’m sorry. That’s not a fun way to start the new year. Guess the only thing left to do now is go get as hot as possible. And happy. Nothing kills ‘em like seeing you hot and happy
In all seriousness, she’ll sense a beaten down puppy dog if you seem to be waiting around on her and that’s not a good thing. Don’t just wait to hear from her first, don’t even respond if she does. Or do, but keep it wind and weather and never initiate.
The fact that she avoided you at church means she’s hoping you get the hint but she’s afraid you won’t.
Great advice and I agree. She’s avoiding to lighten the blow. Someone said awhile back that they have found they usually found somebody else. That very well be the case but no matter what if this is how she leaves you hanging during a “break” then she shouldn’t expect you to wait around.
Don’t chase anyone who doesn’t want you and don’t wait for anyone who wouldn’t wait for you. Let this be the best year!6 -
if her legs/arms fall asleep very often0
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SunnyBunBun79 wrote: »Getting into a relationship based on just the first honeymoon phase of dating. If you havent seen them angry or upset or failed at something, you havent seen their true behavior.
Learning this1 -
If he stares at me while I eat.3
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Can you wipe your chin first
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If he expects me to eat without getting food all over my face.3
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Ahhhh just let me wipe that little spot for you there
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SunnyBunBun79 wrote: »Getting into a relationship based on just the first honeymoon phase of dating. If you havent seen them angry or upset or failed at something, you havent seen their true behavior.
that's the reason I want them to watch me play Playstation but they are not interested. Guess I am the only one who cares about our relationship2 -
SunnyBunBun79 wrote: »Getting into a relationship based on just the first honeymoon phase of dating. If you havent seen them angry or upset or failed at something, you havent seen their true behavior.
Get them to help you decorate a Christmas tree; hand them the tangled mess of lights. That'll tell you so much about them. 3 -
If they do impromptu video call in the bedroom and don't warn you as you come out of the shower4
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happimess01 wrote: »If they do impromptu video call in the bedroom and don't warn you as you come out of the shower
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twitchandshout wrote: »happimess01 wrote: »If they do impromptu video call in the bedroom and don't warn you as you come out of the shower
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well, if it was you who came out of the shower, I'd probably get a raise the next day😏2
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