Why didn't you get married?

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  • threewins
    threewins Posts: 1,455 Member
    Whenever I think of why I never married, I feel sad. I've been engaged once, shacked up with two nice women but never got to marry either of them. I'm 55. I'm going to live with my girlfriend next year. I have a 3 year rule, I'll never propose unless I have lived with a woman for 3 years. That means I'll likely be almost 60 before I get married for the first time.
  • mattig89ch
    mattig89ch Posts: 2,648 Member
    I think that's a good rule to have. Makes sure you really want to live a l ok long time with someone. And forces you to test your relationship.
  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,371 Member
    seltzermint555 wrote: »

    Earlier in this thread, or maybe another recent marriage-related thread (sorry I'm not sure)...someone mentioned living together (without marriage) being great because you wake up every day knowing that person chooses to stay with you. It basically said that if you're not married, you have the choice every day to just leave with minimal complications. For most cohabiting couples, I don't think that is true at all. I think most (not all) couples who live together are somewhat tied in together whether financially, socially, or even just smaller things like a shared pet and/or lease. I think it's more similar to marriage in all senses, if not legally binding. I think most couples who live together have almost as hard a time splitting as a no kids divorce.

    I'm really gunshy. I've cohabited three times since my divorce and I've been careful to keep the legal stuff separate. I owned the house and the pets, no joint finances.
  • HappilyDistracted
    HappilyDistracted Posts: 1,700 Member
    None of them were deserving or worth that level of commitment.
  • ghudson92
    ghudson92 Posts: 2,061 Member
    Because he had too many double standards, was controlling, and the relationship affected my mental health.
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    LiftingSpirits wrote: »
    Just have fun with this. It can be real things that happened to you or just reasons you have for not getting married.

    She was that person who claps when the plane lands.
  • cbstewart88
    cbstewart88 Posts: 453 Member
    1. Never wanted kids. Didn't see a reason.
    2. I was having too much fun on my own.
    3. Love being independent. Like to travel alone.
    4. As my friends got married, they became boring...
    5. Have a hard time compromising.

    Finally took the plunge one month and nine days after my 60th birthday. That was four years ago. Still trying to find my sea legs - LOL.
  • lorri71
    lorri71 Posts: 95 Member
    Because he was with someone else...he drank too much...he was a liar...inconsiderate...selfish...Looks like I made the right decision! 😄
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