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You cannot say what’s untrue since you are not a man, and you don’t know what it’s like on the male side of using the apps.
I did too. I got 3 or 4 matches after a month. Results were a failure as anticipated.just_Tomek wrote: »Because of this thread I just signed on on tinder.
here's the trend:
1. Girl replies hi
2. Girl feels a (likely) instant sense of fear and distrust
3. Girl decides it is best not to communicate any further and the approach is ghosting
I'm thinking that if you're under 35 whereabouts - girls see Tinder as some kind of game, and guys take the thing for serious
Absolutely untrue.
Do I have to screenshot it for you?
You saying men are serious is directly opposite of my experience though. More women than men tend to want to actually date or find a relationship. More guys tend to look for casual flings. This is generally true. Doesn’t mean there aren’t exceptions.
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A lot of women sign up with expectations such as finding a long term relationship, they also set their standards extremely high, and in a way this makes them out to be not taking it for real with unrealistic standards (ie. not practically giving anyone a chance). The end result is that they’re just there to lurk and seek attention. I’m not saying this is you, you’re probably realistic and mature... but this seems to be most people, you can even see it in the profile descriptions that they seek the ideal fairytale; stamping down the words “prince perfect” and “long term”. It ends up making you think that they’re crazy.
You cannot say what’s untrue since you are not a man, and you don’t know what it’s like on the male side of using the apps.
I did too. I got 3 or 4 matches after a month. Results were a failure as anticipated.just_Tomek wrote: »Because of this thread I just signed on on tinder.
here's the trend:
1. Girl replies hi
2. Girl feels a (likely) instant sense of fear and distrust
3. Girl decides it is best not to communicate any further and the approach is ghosting
I'm thinking that if you're under 35 whereabouts - girls see Tinder as some kind of game, and guys take the thing for serious
Absolutely untrue.
Do I have to screenshot it for you?
You saying men are serious is directly opposite of my experience though. More women than men tend to want to actually date or find a relationship. More guys tend to look for casual flings. This is generally true. Doesn’t mean there aren’t exceptions.
Long term does not suggest crazy. The fact that you think so makes me think you’re the crazy one.
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Desiring a long term relationship is absolutely fine, and healthy of course. But explicitly stating that you want a long term instantly is nuts. Don’t you think that it makes more sense to seek short term relationships initially to see if there’s a good chemistry? And then eventually build it into a long term in *reality*?
A lot of women sign up with expectations such as finding a long term relationship, they also set their standards extremely high, and in a way this makes them out to be not taking it for real with unrealistic standards (ie. not practically giving anyone a chance). The end result is that they’re just there to lurk and seek attention. I’m not saying this is you, you’re probably realistic and mature... but this seems to be most people, you can even see it in the profile descriptions that they seek the ideal fairytale; stamping down the words “prince perfect” and “long term”. It ends up making you think that they’re crazy.
You cannot say what’s untrue since you are not a man, and you don’t know what it’s like on the male side of using the apps.
I did too. I got 3 or 4 matches after a month. Results were a failure as anticipated.just_Tomek wrote: »Because of this thread I just signed on on tinder.
here's the trend:
1. Girl replies hi
2. Girl feels a (likely) instant sense of fear and distrust
3. Girl decides it is best not to communicate any further and the approach is ghosting
I'm thinking that if you're under 35 whereabouts - girls see Tinder as some kind of game, and guys take the thing for serious
Absolutely untrue.
Do I have to screenshot it for you?
You saying men are serious is directly opposite of my experience though. More women than men tend to want to actually date or find a relationship. More guys tend to look for casual flings. This is generally true. Doesn’t mean there aren’t exceptions.
Long term does not suggest crazy. The fact that you think so makes me think you’re the crazy one.
Saying one wants something long term doesn’t mean they expect it instantly. You’re doing an awful lot of assuming. Anything before a relationship is just dating.
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Desiring a long term relationship is absolutely fine, and healthy of course. But explicitly stating that you want a long term instantly is nuts. Don’t you think that it makes more sense to seek short term relationships initially to see if there’s a good chemistry? And then eventually build it into a long term in *reality*?
A lot of women sign up with expectations such as finding a long term relationship, they also set their standards extremely high, and in a way this makes them out to be not taking it for real with unrealistic standards (ie. not practically giving anyone a chance). The end result is that they’re just there to lurk and seek attention. I’m not saying this is you, you’re probably realistic and mature... but this seems to be most people, you can even see it in the profile descriptions that they seek the ideal fairytale; stamping down the words “prince perfect” and “long term”. It ends up making you think that they’re crazy.
You cannot say what’s untrue since you are not a man, and you don’t know what it’s like on the male side of using the apps.
I did too. I got 3 or 4 matches after a month. Results were a failure as anticipated.just_Tomek wrote: »Because of this thread I just signed on on tinder.
here's the trend:
1. Girl replies hi
2. Girl feels a (likely) instant sense of fear and distrust
3. Girl decides it is best not to communicate any further and the approach is ghosting
I'm thinking that if you're under 35 whereabouts - girls see Tinder as some kind of game, and guys take the thing for serious
Absolutely untrue.
Do I have to screenshot it for you?
You saying men are serious is directly opposite of my experience though. More women than men tend to want to actually date or find a relationship. More guys tend to look for casual flings. This is generally true. Doesn’t mean there aren’t exceptions.
Long term does not suggest crazy. The fact that you think so makes me think you’re the crazy one.
Saying one wants something long term doesn’t mean they expect it instantly. You’re doing an awful lot of assuming. Anything before a relationship is just dating.
This ^^^^
I would absolutely put long term relationship as my reason for being on the site, if that’s what I wanted.
You’d be amazed how that would be a deterrent for guys who aren’t there for the same reason. Weeds out the losers. 🥰3 -
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Desiring a long term relationship is absolutely fine, and healthy of course. But explicitly stating that you want a long term instantly is nuts. Don’t you think that it makes more sense to seek short term relationships initially to see if there’s a good chemistry? And then eventually build it into a long term in *reality*?
A lot of women sign up with expectations such as finding a long term relationship, they also set their standards extremely high, and in a way this makes them out to be not taking it for real with unrealistic standards (ie. not practically giving anyone a chance). The end result is that they’re just there to lurk and seek attention. I’m not saying this is you, you’re probably realistic and mature... but this seems to be most people, you can even see it in the profile descriptions that they seek the ideal fairytale; stamping down the words “prince perfect” and “long term”. It ends up making you think that they’re crazy.
You cannot say what’s untrue since you are not a man, and you don’t know what it’s like on the male side of using the apps.
I did too. I got 3 or 4 matches after a month. Results were a failure as anticipated.just_Tomek wrote: »Because of this thread I just signed on on tinder.
here's the trend:
1. Girl replies hi
2. Girl feels a (likely) instant sense of fear and distrust
3. Girl decides it is best not to communicate any further and the approach is ghosting
I'm thinking that if you're under 35 whereabouts - girls see Tinder as some kind of game, and guys take the thing for serious
Absolutely untrue.
Do I have to screenshot it for you?
You saying men are serious is directly opposite of my experience though. More women than men tend to want to actually date or find a relationship. More guys tend to look for casual flings. This is generally true. Doesn’t mean there aren’t exceptions.
Long term does not suggest crazy. The fact that you think so makes me think you’re the crazy one.
Saying one wants something long term doesn’t mean they expect it instantly. You’re doing an awful lot of assuming. Anything before a relationship is just dating.
This ^^^^
I would absolutely put long term relationship as my reason for being on the site, if that’s what I wanted.
You’d be amazed how that would be a deterrent for guys who aren’t there for the same reason. Weeds out the losers. 🥰
I agree. Isn't putting down something like "casual" or "dating" (or whatever the term is) viewed as a euphemism for "I'm open to hookups"? Best to be honest about your end goal and not attract a bunch of people who are only looking for ONS.5 -
It's important to remember that guys don't think exactly the same way that women do. Stating "long term" puts pressure on you to be the perfect man, it makes us run 100 miles even though we may also desire a long term relationship. I talked to guys about this before.
Desiring a long term relationship is absolutely fine, and healthy of course. But explicitly stating that you want a long term instantly is nuts. Don’t you think that it makes more sense to seek short term relationships initially to see if there’s a good chemistry? And then eventually build it into a long term in *reality*?
A lot of women sign up with expectations such as finding a long term relationship, they also set their standards extremely high, and in a way this makes them out to be not taking it for real with unrealistic standards (ie. not practically giving anyone a chance). The end result is that they’re just there to lurk and seek attention. I’m not saying this is you, you’re probably realistic and mature... but this seems to be most people, you can even see it in the profile descriptions that they seek the ideal fairytale; stamping down the words “prince perfect” and “long term”. It ends up making you think that they’re crazy.
You cannot say what’s untrue since you are not a man, and you don’t know what it’s like on the male side of using the apps.
I did too. I got 3 or 4 matches after a month. Results were a failure as anticipated.just_Tomek wrote: »Because of this thread I just signed on on tinder.
here's the trend:
1. Girl replies hi
2. Girl feels a (likely) instant sense of fear and distrust
3. Girl decides it is best not to communicate any further and the approach is ghosting
I'm thinking that if you're under 35 whereabouts - girls see Tinder as some kind of game, and guys take the thing for serious
Absolutely untrue.
Do I have to screenshot it for you?
You saying men are serious is directly opposite of my experience though. More women than men tend to want to actually date or find a relationship. More guys tend to look for casual flings. This is generally true. Doesn’t mean there aren’t exceptions.
Long term does not suggest crazy. The fact that you think so makes me think you’re the crazy one.
Saying one wants something long term doesn’t mean they expect it instantly. You’re doing an awful lot of assuming. Anything before a relationship is just dating.
This ^^^^
I would absolutely put long term relationship as my reason for being on the site, if that’s what I wanted.
You’d be amazed how that would be a deterrent for guys who aren’t there for the same reason. Weeds out the losers. 🥰
Where do you get your information?..... Ladies, this young man is on his own. He does not speak for my gender.11 -
I don't know why anyone would feel pressured to be the perfect man. It's a two way street, spend time with someone and if you both like each other you do it again till it either works or doesn't work. ONS must be a young guy thing, I'm in my 30's now and would rather find someone i can do fun *kitten* with.7
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Deadman_Diggingup wrote: »
It's important to remember that guys don't think exactly the same way that women do. Stating "long term" puts pressure on you to be the perfect man, it makes us run 100 miles even though we may also desire a long term relationship. I talked to guys about this before.
Desiring a long term relationship is absolutely fine, and healthy of course. But explicitly stating that you want a long term instantly is nuts. Don’t you think that it makes more sense to seek short term relationships initially to see if there’s a good chemistry? And then eventually build it into a long term in *reality*?
A lot of women sign up with expectations such as finding a long term relationship, they also set their standards extremely high, and in a way this makes them out to be not taking it for real with unrealistic standards (ie. not practically giving anyone a chance). The end result is that they’re just there to lurk and seek attention. I’m not saying this is you, you’re probably realistic and mature... but this seems to be most people, you can even see it in the profile descriptions that they seek the ideal fairytale; stamping down the words “prince perfect” and “long term”. It ends up making you think that they’re crazy.
You cannot say what’s untrue since you are not a man, and you don’t know what it’s like on the male side of using the apps.
I did too. I got 3 or 4 matches after a month. Results were a failure as anticipated.just_Tomek wrote: »Because of this thread I just signed on on tinder.
here's the trend:
1. Girl replies hi
2. Girl feels a (likely) instant sense of fear and distrust
3. Girl decides it is best not to communicate any further and the approach is ghosting
I'm thinking that if you're under 35 whereabouts - girls see Tinder as some kind of game, and guys take the thing for serious
Absolutely untrue.
Do I have to screenshot it for you?
You saying men are serious is directly opposite of my experience though. More women than men tend to want to actually date or find a relationship. More guys tend to look for casual flings. This is generally true. Doesn’t mean there aren’t exceptions.
Long term does not suggest crazy. The fact that you think so makes me think you’re the crazy one.
Saying one wants something long term doesn’t mean they expect it instantly. You’re doing an awful lot of assuming. Anything before a relationship is just dating.
This ^^^^
I would absolutely put long term relationship as my reason for being on the site, if that’s what I wanted.
You’d be amazed how that would be a deterrent for guys who aren’t there for the same reason. Weeds out the losers. 🥰
Where do you get your information?..... Ladies, this young man is on his own. He does not speak for my gender.
K - you are stellar
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If I might put my two cents in here as well, long term also means different things to different people. My idea of a longer term relationship is 6 months to a year. Others it might be 1-2 years, and others might be longer.2
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mattig89ch wrote: »If I might put my two cents in here as well, long term also means different things to different people. My idea of a longer term relationship is 6 months to a year. Others it might be 1-2 years, and others might be longer.
I’m 61. To me, long term is a life sentence. ☠️8 -
I'm just gonna plant myself here. Don't mind me. :laugh:
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I understand your view, but (while I can't say for certain) I think it puts guys off.
Desiring a long term relationship is absolutely fine, and healthy of course. But explicitly stating that you want a long term instantly is nuts. Don’t you think that it makes more sense to seek short term relationships initially to see if there’s a good chemistry? And then eventually build it into a long term in *reality*?
A lot of women sign up with expectations such as finding a long term relationship, they also set their standards extremely high, and in a way this makes them out to be not taking it for real with unrealistic standards (ie. not practically giving anyone a chance). The end result is that they’re just there to lurk and seek attention. I’m not saying this is you, you’re probably realistic and mature... but this seems to be most people, you can even see it in the profile descriptions that they seek the ideal fairytale; stamping down the words “prince perfect” and “long term”. It ends up making you think that they’re crazy.
You cannot say what’s untrue since you are not a man, and you don’t know what it’s like on the male side of using the apps.
I did too. I got 3 or 4 matches after a month. Results were a failure as anticipated.just_Tomek wrote: »Because of this thread I just signed on on tinder.
here's the trend:
1. Girl replies hi
2. Girl feels a (likely) instant sense of fear and distrust
3. Girl decides it is best not to communicate any further and the approach is ghosting
I'm thinking that if you're under 35 whereabouts - girls see Tinder as some kind of game, and guys take the thing for serious
Absolutely untrue.
Do I have to screenshot it for you?
You saying men are serious is directly opposite of my experience though. More women than men tend to want to actually date or find a relationship. More guys tend to look for casual flings. This is generally true. Doesn’t mean there aren’t exceptions.
Long term does not suggest crazy. The fact that you think so makes me think you’re the crazy one.
Saying one wants something long term doesn’t mean they expect it instantly. You’re doing an awful lot of assuming. Anything before a relationship is just dating.
It makes you seem overly serious, and it also spells out that you want to make a family with "long term".
It puts too much of a requirement on someone who doesn't even know much about you, and who also can't even be sure to be entirely what you want. Even though you both might desire that long term commitment.
Just saying, it's probably good to leave it out on the profile or it will scare guys away.
And I understand that you don't want those one-night-stand guys, but it's better to study them, rather than carve in stone what you're looking for. Do as you will, though. Our opinions can differ and that's fine.
Desiring a long term relationship is absolutely fine, and healthy of course. But explicitly stating that you want a long term instantly is nuts. Don’t you think that it makes more sense to seek short term relationships initially to see if there’s a good chemistry? And then eventually build it into a long term in *reality*?
A lot of women sign up with expectations such as finding a long term relationship, they also set their standards extremely high, and in a way this makes them out to be not taking it for real with unrealistic standards (ie. not practically giving anyone a chance). The end result is that they’re just there to lurk and seek attention. I’m not saying this is you, you’re probably realistic and mature... but this seems to be most people, you can even see it in the profile descriptions that they seek the ideal fairytale; stamping down the words “prince perfect” and “long term”. It ends up making you think that they’re crazy.
You cannot say what’s untrue since you are not a man, and you don’t know what it’s like on the male side of using the apps.
I did too. I got 3 or 4 matches after a month. Results were a failure as anticipated.just_Tomek wrote: »Because of this thread I just signed on on tinder.
here's the trend:
1. Girl replies hi
2. Girl feels a (likely) instant sense of fear and distrust
3. Girl decides it is best not to communicate any further and the approach is ghosting
I'm thinking that if you're under 35 whereabouts - girls see Tinder as some kind of game, and guys take the thing for serious
Absolutely untrue.
Do I have to screenshot it for you?
You saying men are serious is directly opposite of my experience though. More women than men tend to want to actually date or find a relationship. More guys tend to look for casual flings. This is generally true. Doesn’t mean there aren’t exceptions.
Long term does not suggest crazy. The fact that you think so makes me think you’re the crazy one.
Saying one wants something long term doesn’t mean they expect it instantly. You’re doing an awful lot of assuming. Anything before a relationship is just dating.
This ^^^^
I would absolutely put long term relationship as my reason for being on the site, if that’s what I wanted.
You’d be amazed how that would be a deterrent for guys who aren’t there for the same reason. Weeds out the losers. 🥰
I feel it is important to be honest. If it puts some guys off, then fine. I’m 37 years old and have no time to waste on guys looking for a casual fling.
It doesn’t mean I’m trying to marry every man I meet. I’m not overly serious. People who know me IRL will realize this.
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Deadman_Diggingup wrote: »
It's important to remember that guys don't think exactly the same way that women do. Stating "long term" puts pressure on you to be the perfect man, it makes us run 100 miles even though we may also desire a long term relationship. I talked to guys about this before.
Desiring a long term relationship is absolutely fine, and healthy of course. But explicitly stating that you want a long term instantly is nuts. Don’t you think that it makes more sense to seek short term relationships initially to see if there’s a good chemistry? And then eventually build it into a long term in *reality*?
A lot of women sign up with expectations such as finding a long term relationship, they also set their standards extremely high, and in a way this makes them out to be not taking it for real with unrealistic standards (ie. not practically giving anyone a chance). The end result is that they’re just there to lurk and seek attention. I’m not saying this is you, you’re probably realistic and mature... but this seems to be most people, you can even see it in the profile descriptions that they seek the ideal fairytale; stamping down the words “prince perfect” and “long term”. It ends up making you think that they’re crazy.
You cannot say what’s untrue since you are not a man, and you don’t know what it’s like on the male side of using the apps.
I did too. I got 3 or 4 matches after a month. Results were a failure as anticipated.just_Tomek wrote: »Because of this thread I just signed on on tinder.
here's the trend:
1. Girl replies hi
2. Girl feels a (likely) instant sense of fear and distrust
3. Girl decides it is best not to communicate any further and the approach is ghosting
I'm thinking that if you're under 35 whereabouts - girls see Tinder as some kind of game, and guys take the thing for serious
Absolutely untrue.
Do I have to screenshot it for you?
You saying men are serious is directly opposite of my experience though. More women than men tend to want to actually date or find a relationship. More guys tend to look for casual flings. This is generally true. Doesn’t mean there aren’t exceptions.
Long term does not suggest crazy. The fact that you think so makes me think you’re the crazy one.
Saying one wants something long term doesn’t mean they expect it instantly. You’re doing an awful lot of assuming. Anything before a relationship is just dating.
This ^^^^
I would absolutely put long term relationship as my reason for being on the site, if that’s what I wanted.
You’d be amazed how that would be a deterrent for guys who aren’t there for the same reason. Weeds out the losers. 🥰
Where do you get your information?..... Ladies, this young man is on his own. He does not speak for my gender.
Thank God.
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I have no horse in this race.
I can only input that if I met my husband and most of the most AMAZING people I've ever met online (not on dating sites or apps, mind you), there is hope for anyone. Trust me.
My question to those of you using these websites and apps: Have you ever considered just kicking back, taking it easy and getting to know people online outside of a site built for dating/hookups? You know, building a relationship/friendship with someone and then seeing what happens?
Just a thought.3 -
I don’t speak for all. But I’m not entirely on my own.Deadman_Diggingup wrote: »
It's important to remember that guys don't think exactly the same way that women do. Stating "long term" puts pressure on you to be the perfect man, it makes us run 100 miles even though we may also desire a long term relationship. I talked to guys about this before.
Desiring a long term relationship is absolutely fine, and healthy of course. But explicitly stating that you want a long term instantly is nuts. Don’t you think that it makes more sense to seek short term relationships initially to see if there’s a good chemistry? And then eventually build it into a long term in *reality*?
A lot of women sign up with expectations such as finding a long term relationship, they also set their standards extremely high, and in a way this makes them out to be not taking it for real with unrealistic standards (ie. not practically giving anyone a chance). The end result is that they’re just there to lurk and seek attention. I’m not saying this is you, you’re probably realistic and mature... but this seems to be most people, you can even see it in the profile descriptions that they seek the ideal fairytale; stamping down the words “prince perfect” and “long term”. It ends up making you think that they’re crazy.
You cannot say what’s untrue since you are not a man, and you don’t know what it’s like on the male side of using the apps.
I did too. I got 3 or 4 matches after a month. Results were a failure as anticipated.just_Tomek wrote: »Because of this thread I just signed on on tinder.
here's the trend:
1. Girl replies hi
2. Girl feels a (likely) instant sense of fear and distrust
3. Girl decides it is best not to communicate any further and the approach is ghosting
I'm thinking that if you're under 35 whereabouts - girls see Tinder as some kind of game, and guys take the thing for serious
Absolutely untrue.
Do I have to screenshot it for you?
You saying men are serious is directly opposite of my experience though. More women than men tend to want to actually date or find a relationship. More guys tend to look for casual flings. This is generally true. Doesn’t mean there aren’t exceptions.
Long term does not suggest crazy. The fact that you think so makes me think you’re the crazy one.
Saying one wants something long term doesn’t mean they expect it instantly. You’re doing an awful lot of assuming. Anything before a relationship is just dating.
This ^^^^
I would absolutely put long term relationship as my reason for being on the site, if that’s what I wanted.
You’d be amazed how that would be a deterrent for guys who aren’t there for the same reason. Weeds out the losers. 🥰
Where do you get your information?..... Ladies, this young man is on his own. He does not speak for my gender.
Thank God.
Anyway nooshi I respect your view.
In other news, I’m about to go full Joker on you guys. But not only on you guys, in real life as well. I will not forfeit my truths about anything, ever! And I don’t simply assume stuff, I don’t find comfort in making up stuff.
For the record... I don't think you have any haters like you said in one of your previous post. People may not agree with some things you said and vice versa. Doesn't mean a war needs to start. You put your opinion out there, others are going to have some too. 😊6 -
I met my lovely wife @eatpolerepeat here on MFP. 😘
I also met my side piece @Minion_training_program here on MFP.
I’m sorry some of you are having so much trouble with online dating. I found it very easy. I just saw the ones I wanted and declared them mine. 😁5 -
PaperDoll_ wrote: »I met my lovely wife @eatpolerepeat here on MFP. 😘
I also met my side piece @Minion_training_program here on MFP.
I’m sorry some of you are having so much trouble with online dating. I found it very easy. I just saw the ones I wanted and declared them mine. 😁
:laugh: this is why I ❤ ya4 -
slimgirljo15 wrote: »PaperDoll_ wrote: »I met my lovely wife @eatpolerepeat here on MFP. 😘
I also met my side piece @Minion_training_program here on MFP.
I’m sorry some of you are having so much trouble with online dating. I found it very easy. I just saw the ones I wanted and declared them mine. 😁
:laugh: this is why I ❤ ya
See kids? I got a wife, a side piece, and yet the ladies keep throwing themselves at me.
Might I suggest changing your dating profile pics to that of a sloth? Bonus if it has its own stuffed animal. 😁4
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