Less Alcohol - NOVEMBER 2019 - One Day at a Time

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  • looneycatblue
    looneycatblue Posts: 1,489 Member
    @dawnbgethealthy thank you so much for sharing your experience, it helped me to understand mine more. I think mine was also due to a crystal floating around, it was so sudden, no warning, lucky for me I was sitting at the time. I am back at work today, a little drained, and feeling a little off, but so much better. I don't know how you dealt with it for 6 months and then a second round. So good that you found a doctor that knew exactly how to help you!

    @anglilacs I am way past TOMs. I am sorry that you also get Vertigo, what do you do to make it better? (I also have that problem if I am trying to enter replies on my phone, gets so frustrating!

    @MissMay I know that I drank way too much on Saturday, maybe I also had a Vertigo episode at the time, but I think it was mostly due to the TQ. Maybe the fall dislodged the crystal??? Don't know, just know I don't want to experience either of these again.

    Thank you everyone for your kind words and your shares. It is nice to know that I can come here to sound off sometimes, and I will get some great feedback from you. I hope I can be of some support to you too! <3
  • looneycatblue
    looneycatblue Posts: 1,489 Member
    @MissMay Wow, what a terrible ordeal for you to go through! Punched, Choked, and then, just sorry, they were drinking too much, and expected to come back in the morning to open gifts!!! I totally understand you not wanting to be anywhere near them! Your Husband should understand this too, and support your mental health.

    Something similar happened many moons ago between my 1st husband had his father, his father started drinking as soon as I left to go play bingo with his step Mom. Husband, and our 2 very young Sons stayed at the house. When we came back home from bingo, his father had him on the ground, punching and choking him, by boys were hiding out in one of the bedrooms... we packed up and drove home. 9 hour trip from Northern back down to Southern CA. We did not see him again after that, until his funeral.
  • dawnbgethealthy
    dawnbgethealthy Posts: 7,927 Member
    My goal is 16-20 AF days for the month.
    I didn't get there in October, ended up with 10 or 11AF days. Daily drinking is so very easy to slip back into!

    November 15 - AF
    November 16 - A bunch of red wine (not my drink of choice) at a girlfriend's who invited me for Lasagna. Although I had one glass or two glasses each night in Dallas, it made me feel lovely. Did not feel lovely, thought that I was going to puke, did not feel well in the morning.
    November 17 - AF
    November 18 - AF
    November 19 - Tuesday, 3 drinks. I like my decision to allow myself drinks on stressful Tuesdays, I haven't always had drinks on Tuesdays since starting this, but mostly.
    November 20 - AF - getting towards that 16-20 AF days : - )
    November 21 - AF - really really felt like having drinks, had a long stressful workday. I managed to resist.
    November 21 - 3 drinks - nope, haven't had 4AF days in a row yet since joining this challenge, hadn't really occurred to me. Kind of happy to get 2 in a row once in awhile though. I made a drink before I even got out of my work clothes today!


    Running tally 13AF days out of 22 days so far.
  • dawnbgethealthy
    dawnbgethealthy Posts: 7,927 Member
    @looneycatblue

    Wow, how traumatizing for your sons!! So sorry that happened!
    I am curious to know now how your sons view alcohol, I expect that they are fully grown now. Do they ever talk about the incident?
    Yikes!
  • dawnbgethealthy
    dawnbgethealthy Posts: 7,927 Member
    @ellie117
    Yes, the weight thing. I think that it has a lot to do with what @MissMay was talking about, toxicity. The body and liver is so busy dealing with the booze that it fails to process anything else.
  • MissMay
    MissMay Posts: 3,783 Member
    edited November 2019
    @dawnbgethealthy --- in this part of your post the other day
    -November 16 - A bunch of red wine-
    I misread A as A the abbreviation for alcohol. And was looking quickly for another A.
    One in a row, two in a row or three....all good 😊
  • MissMay
    MissMay Posts: 3,783 Member
    @whitpauly that sounds horrible to have a drinking dream. More like a nightmare. At least you knew it was a dream. When I drank heavy I would not be able to tell if it were a dream or not. 🤐
  • MissMay
    MissMay Posts: 3,783 Member
    ellie117 wrote: »
    Really struggling this month. October I went completely sober with my husband, and November we aimed to drink but much less than we used to. Unfortunately I have not been able to stick with it. No surprise my weight has gone up and my craving for bad/excessive foods have as well. Mentally my mood has been all over the place, and my only comfort still seems to be high-calorie, fatty foods that don't fit into my daily goals.

    Thinking about going drastic for 2020 and being completely sober. I don't know if I can/want to do so, but it seems to be the most effective thing for steady weight loss and maintenance :/

    All our bodies are different and react different when cutting back and wanting to drop the pounds. Don't lose faith yet.
  • whitpauly
    whitpauly Posts: 1,483 Member
    MissMay wrote: »
    Drinking sucks. It's a poison that can kill someone physically, emotionally and spiritually.

    Welcome @Whydahdad71. It, like so many other things we put into our bodies are known to take a toll on us if we allow it to become out of control. That is why we choose to have less. Being mindful and responsible for our liquid consumptions.

    Well said 💗 6:36 am in Vegas another 24,hope everyone has a wonderful day!
  • dawnbgethealthy
    dawnbgethealthy Posts: 7,927 Member
    @looneycatblue

    Wow, how traumatizing for your sons!! So sorry that happened!
    I am curious to know now how your sons view alcohol, I expect that they are fully grown now. Do they ever talk about the incident?
    Yikes!

    They were very young, 3 and 5, we never talked about it again, I am not sure if they remember, maybe I should ask them. They are 36 and 39 now. My oldest is very conservative, he enjoys making specialty drinks for his friends, but doesn't drink much himself, I don't think that he has ever been drunk. My youngest has been more experimental, starting around 16, got into some trouble, nothing too serious. However at 18 he became his father's punching bag, this was my last straw, and we separated and divorced. Unfortunately about 2 years later my Sons father passed away. My boys had and still have many emotions that they need to work through. Thank you for asking.

    Oh geez, so it cycled, your ex's father beat him up, and then he did the same to his son, your boy.
    Thank you so much for sharing with us.
    Big hugs.
  • MissMay
    MissMay Posts: 3,783 Member
    jc4meandu wrote: »
    i drank alcohol as a teenager and into my late 20's. I stopped drinking any alcohol March 5th 2001. Unfortunately I have struggled not with alcohol but food as a comfort. I was recently diagnosed with type 2 diabetes so it has really been a blessing in a odd way.

    Welcome @jc4meandu. You have had more than your share of struggles in your life and also the sadness of seeing loved ones die from alcohol.
    Luckily you have picked a better path and your making room for a better you. Thank you for sharing.

  • jc4meandu
    jc4meandu Posts: 273 Member
    Yes ma’am God bless you. Ty ✝️
  • dawnbgethealthy
    dawnbgethealthy Posts: 7,927 Member
    My goal is 16-20 AF days for the month.
    I didn't get there in October, ended up with 10 or 11AF days. Daily drinking is so very easy to slip back into!

    November 15 - AF
    November 16 - A bunch of red wine (not my drink of choice) at a girlfriend's who invited me for Lasagna. Although I had one glass or two glasses each night in Dallas, it made me feel lovely. Did not feel lovely, thought that I was going to puke, did not feel well in the morning.
    November 17 - AF
    November 18 - AF
    November 19 - Tuesday, 3 drinks. I like my decision to allow myself drinks on stressful Tuesdays, I haven't always had drinks on Tuesdays since starting this, but mostly.
    November 20 - AF - getting towards that 16-20 AF days : - )
    November 21 - AF - really really felt like having drinks, had a long stressful workday. I managed to resist.
    November 22 - 3 drinks - nope, haven't had 4AF days in a row yet since joining this challenge, hadn't really occurred to me. Kind of happy to get 2 in a row once in awhile though. I made a drink before I even got out of my work clothes today!
    November 23 - AF - 7 days left in the month only! That went by fast.


    Running tally 14AF days out of 23 days so far.