littleblackskirt wrote: »
JFT Sunday 2nd August
Log everything yes
Stay in the green yes
Back exercises no
Foot exercises no
5 fruit and veg 7
Start work laundry yes
Mow lawn, when will it be dry this week? no, was wet
Watch F1 only saw a little bit, made trip to the hospital to drop some things off for Dad. Was weird, the main doors are locked and I had to be buzzed in, not allowed into the ward.
mytime6630 wrote: »
Going to try again tomorrow to stick to my goals.
My daughter called tonite, and again is haunted by something that happened years ago ... going on 13 years now. This is what started her mental illness. I know it is in her head now, reliving it over and over.. (a guy at a church she attended may her feel uncomfortable .. and she relives that so often, as if it is happening again). I feel so bad for her. She will not tell her psychiatrist .. even though she needs to. I think medication is the only thing that helps her, and she is on so much already, and therapy also. Such a helpless feeling as a mom .. and all I can do is listen to her. I just do not know what to say. Do I sympathize with her.. and let her talk, or try and give her ideas to take her mind off of this incident? She keeps writing to the church .. she wants an apology, or wants them to do something to the guy. But ... to most people, this was not that big of a deal .. she distorts things.
I try and tell her to turn on music, do some painting, something to distract her, etc., but then she gets upset and gets off the phone.
She tells me nites are the worse, and I've tried to tell her to try getting up earlier in the day, so she is more tired in the evenings. But.. she lives alone, and I have no control.
But at least tonite ... since it is close to bed.... I am not going to eat my feelings. Because that will not help.
But .. I would love some suggestions as to how to help my daughter .. what do I say? Or should I just be quiet, and listen, and not say anything. We used to tell her... that this is going on 5 years, then 10 year, now almost 13 years.. its the same thing over and over. Her psychiatrist told us that these feeling will never go away.. that was why he diagnosed her as hizoaffective... distorted thoughts, irrational thinking, voices saying awful things to her, which I think these "voices" are this guy from the church.
And this virus is not helping, because she is even more alone. Hubby still will not let her in our house because she goes places, and works in a nursing home a few hours a week. And with him just finishing cancer treatments, his immune system is low.
Sorry for the long post.. sometimes I think I just need to write it to someone ... who really does not know me personally. So thank you online friends for listening.
Anyhow, tomorrow is monday, ...I've got to get back in control!!
SO JFT, Mon
1. log all food
2. go for a walk... I've been walking now 6+ miles a day, so proud that at least I am doing that!
3. plan menus
4. help hubby with business
5. do laundry.
6. positive thoughts .. think have, and could be much worse.
pridesabtch wrote: »
@mytime6630 I have no answers for you. I have flashbacks and such from time to time, but usually just around the anniversary of incidents. For me I need to get it out and feel safe. Sometimes that means I need physically held (not an option for you right now), sometimes I just need a comforting voice to tell me I'm safe. Time doesn't heal all wounds unfortunately. Her being alone can't help the situation, but you can't fix that and you needn't feel responsible for her situation. I guess my advice is not to dwell on how long she has been struggling, and don't make light of her pain, just assure her that she is in a safe place now and that "He" has no power over her.
Best of luck, you are in my prayers.
mytime6630 wrote: »
My daughter called tonite, and again is haunted by something that happened years ago ... going on 13 years now. This is what started her mental illness. I know it is in her head now, reliving it over and over.. (a guy at a church she attended may her feel uncomfortable .. and she relives that so often, as if it is happening again).
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