Unable to start a relationship
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Motorsheen wrote: »Just get a mail-order bride. You know, one from some strange and exotic land.....
like, Saskatchewan.
Lol.
Saskatchewanonians are far too exotic. No one can handle a proper Saskatchewanonian.1 -
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TarryTaffyTwo wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »Just get a mail-order bride. You know, one from some strange and exotic land.....
like, Saskatchewan.
Lol.
Saskatchewanonians are far too exotic. No one can handle a proper Saskatchewanonian.
Too much hair on their feet...1 -
Motorsheen wrote: »You know, one from some strange and exotic land.....
I have five old core friends from schoolyard days. We are all white. Two of them are still in their first marriage to women who are about our same age and white. The other three had their first marriages end in divorce, and all three are married to women of color who are a lot younger.
I'm the outlier, never having been married.
I wonder about the stigma of having been divorced versus that of never having been married. It is kind of funny to think someone who has been divorced might have an advantage.
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chris_in_cal wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »You know, one from some strange and exotic land.....
I have five old core friends from schoolyard days. We are all white. Two of them are still in their first marriage to women who are about our same age and white. The other three had their first marriages end in divorce, and all three are married to women of color who are a lot younger.
I'm the outlier, never having been married.
I wonder about the stigma of having been divorced versus that of never having been married. It is kind of funny to think someone who has been divorced might have an advantage.
Skin colour has nothing to do with the likeliness of a relationship working or not. It's attitude, personality, maturity and what each person brings to the relationship. Even people from different demographics can make a relationship work if they want to.
There's always a little bit of stigma for someone who's never been married. But, it also may not mean anything. Friend of mine rarely dated, and didn't meet his future wife until he was mid 50's. She had already been divorced from her first husband for a few years.
Don't overthink it. Just do it, and enjoy. Don't act needy, and look at each opportunity as a new start. Even if you're in a long term relationship, enjoy to comfort and familiarity. But, look at it as if you're still being wowed by this incredible person sitting across from you.1 -
XxFunctionalStrengthxX wrote: »Skin colour has nothing to do with the likeliness of a relationship working or not.
I agree with you. The other poster wrote about "exotic ... mail-order brides," I think they were joking, but it had me make the connections. There is often some ridicule for an older American man with a younger foreign-born wife.
I think a women with similar interests, from a similar social circles and demographic is where my hope lies. But I agree with you, any two people can potentially make a deep connection.
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chris_in_cal wrote: »From age 21 to age 45 or so, I used to love to go to bars and clubs with friends. Dance, watch sports, throw darts, listen to music, drink, occasionally all of the above. It was a lot of fun. I don't do that much anymore, and I miss that important source of younger adult socializing.
I enjoy exercising, but I'm not much of a gym person. I go to yoga studios, I run, I swim in the ocean, and when there is access I go to pools and swim.
Yoga studios have been my go to place for meeting different people over the last 10 years. But I always tread very very lightly on socializing, because we are all sort of vulnerable, exposed, and there to find some peace and calm. There aren't a lot of creepy folks in the studios I go to, but I know it happens, and it isn't good.
I've gone to a running meet up here in Honolulu, once, then the island shut down. Generally running is pretty solitary. Same with swimming.
Last but not least, last year I got a bug and joined a beginner salsa dance class at a studio in San Diego, California. I paid for a four week beginner class. Oh my word I felt awkward. 25 women and 25 men and usually it was pretty balanced, if anything there were more men. I enjoyed myself and signed up for a second 4 weeks. Ultimately I stuck with it about 6 months, right up until the time I moved to Honolulu.
With dancing, I was about the oldest, not always, but definitely a 30s vibe for most of the students. I happily saw some of the same people. Between sticking out a little and really trying to figure out how to dance, I did not make any social connections with students. I could have if I had continued on, probably.
Prior to moving I looked up yoga studios and dance studios... No dance here yet, but I did begin my yoga practice at a new studio until everything shut down.
A couple of years ago I decided to try and find a connection, I put myself out a little more than usual trying some new things, then bam I relocated and bam again the world shut down.
BTW: over two years on MFP I got within 25 lbs of my goal weight last year...that felt awesome. The last two months have been a pretty sad relapse the other direction. I'm trying to catch myself and get back on track to reaching my goal. I just feel better when I'm logging my foods and make progress toward my goal weight.
Just a handful of new challenges, right? Good luck...be well.
sorry - we're the same age and i had to respond to the dancing times in the twenties
those were the days my friend. it would be fabulous to have that same sort of element of socializing - well - when things settle. i hope you will find what you're looking for! stay safe 0 -
I’m single for the first time in my life and just enjoying casually dating for now.
Eventually I would like to back in a LT relationship. My criteria for a mate is pretty low....
Funny
Not living in his mom’s basement.
Hope I’m not aiming too high 😂7 -
When the wrong people leave your life the right things can start happening.
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Pebbles can be enchanting
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Diatonic12 wrote: »When the wrong people leave your life the right things can start happening.
SO TRUE❤️
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TwitchyMacGee wrote: »
Hawt 😍
But does he have a job?
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forestfreek wrote: »TwitchyMacGee wrote: »
Hawt 😍
But does he have a job?
Yes, he is a model recently signed with IMG models. Cindy Crawford’s son2 -
TwitchyMacGee wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »TwitchyMacGee wrote: »
Hawt 😍
But does he have a job?
Yes, he is a model recently signed with IMG models. Cindy Crawford’s son
That’s cool!! Love Cindy and her family. I obviously don’t know them personally but they seem to be solid in their marriage and family life.
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TwitchyMacGee wrote: »
Something tells me that he's misunderstood.5 -
Motorsheen wrote: »TwitchyMacGee wrote: »
Something tells me that he's misunderstood.
Something tells me you’re misunderstood @Motorsheen...
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forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »TwitchyMacGee wrote: »
Something tells me that he's misunderstood.
Something tells me you’re misunderstood @Motorsheen...
Boy Howdy, don't you know it !1 -
Motorsheen wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »TwitchyMacGee wrote: »
Something tells me that he's misunderstood.
Something tells me you’re misunderstood @Motorsheen...
Boy Howdy, don't you know it !
Come to the Sally Ann with me. Hold my hand and help me find the right outfits for my show. I’ll understand the hell out of you.
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forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »TwitchyMacGee wrote: »
Something tells me that he's misunderstood.
Something tells me you’re misunderstood @Motorsheen...
Boy Howdy, don't you know it !
Come to the Sally Ann with me. Hold my hand and help me find the right outfits for my show. I’ll understand the hell out of you.
I'm not exactly sure what a Sally Ann is.... but if they have the cutest outfits, then count me in!1 -
Motorsheen wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »TwitchyMacGee wrote: »
Something tells me that he's misunderstood.
Something tells me you’re misunderstood @Motorsheen...
Boy Howdy, don't you know it !
Come to the Sally Ann with me. Hold my hand and help me find the right outfits for my show. I’ll understand the hell out of you.
I'm not exactly sure what a Sally Ann is.... but if they have the cutest outfits, then count me in!
You need to hang out with Canadian girls more often🥰
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forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »TwitchyMacGee wrote: »
Something tells me that he's misunderstood.
Something tells me you’re misunderstood @Motorsheen...
Boy Howdy, don't you know it !
Come to the Sally Ann with me. Hold my hand and help me find the right outfits for my show. I’ll understand the hell out of you.
I'm not exactly sure what a Sally Ann is.... but if they have the cutest outfits, then count me in!
You need to hang out with Canadian girls more often🥰
I absolutely love Canada and Canadians!
Really, I do.
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Motorsheen wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »TwitchyMacGee wrote: »
Something tells me that he's misunderstood.
Something tells me you’re misunderstood @Motorsheen...
Boy Howdy, don't you know it !
Come to the Sally Ann with me. Hold my hand and help me find the right outfits for my show. I’ll understand the hell out of you.
I'm not exactly sure what a Sally Ann is.... but if they have the cutest outfits, then count me in!
You need to hang out with Canadian girls more often🥰
I absolutely love Canada and Canadians!
Really, I do.
What’s not to love?
Maple syrup, poutine, moose and whiskey.
In any order that you may want 😃
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forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »TwitchyMacGee wrote: »
Something tells me that he's misunderstood.
Something tells me you’re misunderstood @Motorsheen...
Boy Howdy, don't you know it !
Come to the Sally Ann with me. Hold my hand and help me find the right outfits for my show. I’ll understand the hell out of you.
I'm not exactly sure what a Sally Ann is.... but if they have the cutest outfits, then count me in!
You need to hang out with Canadian girls more often🥰
I absolutely love Canada and Canadians!
Really, I do.
What’s not to love?
Maple syrup, poutine, moose and whiskey.
In any order that you may want 😃
You forgot Wayne Gretzky.
..... are you really Canadian, or do you just have a thing for Tim Horton?
Not Judging.1 -
Motorsheen wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »TwitchyMacGee wrote: »
Something tells me that he's misunderstood.
Something tells me you’re misunderstood @Motorsheen...
Boy Howdy, don't you know it !
Come to the Sally Ann with me. Hold my hand and help me find the right outfits for my show. I’ll understand the hell out of you.
I'm not exactly sure what a Sally Ann is.... but if they have the cutest outfits, then count me in!
You need to hang out with Canadian girls more often🥰
I absolutely love Canada and Canadians!
Really, I do.
What’s not to love?
Maple syrup, poutine, moose and whiskey.
In any order that you may want 😃
You forgot Wayne Gretzky.
..... are you really Canadian, or do you just have a thing for Tim Horton?
Not Judging.
Don’t go there with Wayne Gretzky.
#traitor
#sellout
What’s Tim Hortons?
Never heard of it.
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forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »forestfreek wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »TwitchyMacGee wrote: »
Something tells me that he's misunderstood.
Something tells me you’re misunderstood @Motorsheen...
Boy Howdy, don't you know it !
Come to the Sally Ann with me. Hold my hand and help me find the right outfits for my show. I’ll understand the hell out of you.
I'm not exactly sure what a Sally Ann is.... but if they have the cutest outfits, then count me in!
You need to hang out with Canadian girls more often🥰
I absolutely love Canada and Canadians!
Really, I do.
What’s not to love?
Maple syrup, poutine, moose and whiskey.
In any order that you may want 😃
You forgot Wayne Gretzky.
..... are you really Canadian, or do you just have a thing for Tim Horton?
Not Judging.
Don’t go there with Wayne Gretzky.
#traitor
#sellout
What’s Tim Hortons?
Never heard of it.
You can't blame Wayne.
Edmonton:
Los Angeles:
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Kind of true.
But obviously you’ve never seen northern girls in flannel.6 -
forestfreek wrote: »Kind of true.
But obviously you’ve never seen northern girls in flannel.
@forestfreek
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