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Why do people give up?

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  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,328 Member
    because it is hard to be consistent and people are impatient. and consistency is required for weight loss.
  • threewins
    threewins Posts: 958 Member
    Successful weight loss is extremely difficult. The success rate is quite low.
  • BelleHastyle
    BelleHastyle Posts: 5 Member
    pink_mint wrote: »
    I know this question has been asked before here in the archives but I'm asking for 2020. Feel free to offer your personal experience.

    Why do people typically give up their weight loss efforts? What makes people get discouraged to the point they say 'forget it'?

    And then on the other end, what finally worked for you? What mindset did you take on that made the difference and led to success with (edit: sustainable) weight loss?

    I ask because I'm feeling impatient right now.

    because people don't always find a way out of the situation
  • rheddmobile
    rheddmobile Posts: 6,681 Member
    In the past I have given up when I felt really kicked around by life. For example, when I ruptured my ACL and couldn’t exercise, when I was in a lot of pain from lupus, when I had to move home to help care for my father after his stroke, when my husband got his dream job but then the company went bankrupt after we had made plans for the money we were going to be making. Feeling like life is unfair and so it’s not fair that I can’t eat whatever I want to and at least get some pleasure out of that. The other factor was wanting to eat the same way my husband eats (and left to himself he eats like a child.)

    What changed this time was a diabetes diagnosis which was discovered when I was in the hospital with an ovarian torsion caused by a giant tumor. The tumor turned out to be benign but I was very, very sick and the stress sent my blood sugar through the roof. I had blurred vision, my extremities hurt, and I lost twenty-five pounds in a month because my stress hormones were completely blocking my insulin from metabolizing food. It became very clear to me that I needed to get my diabetes under control or I was going to die. So I went home from the hospital and changed literally everything about my life.

    Some people on the forum say that small, gradual changes to diet and lifestyle work best. Well, maybe they do for those people, but that is not what I did. I changed everything. I knew that I couldn’t continue to live a stress-filled life where food was my primary source of comfort and pleasure. I got a new job and said goodbye to the boss who made me cry with frustration and their evil payroll company which made me beg them to send my check every month while I wondered if they would get around to it before my bills came due. I told my husband that about five different things he does, or fails to do, had happened for the last time. These were big, long-standing problems which had caused trouble in our marriage for decades. I completely redid my kitchen, patio, living room, and bedroom, so that my house was much more pleasant to live, eat, and cook in. I looked for new activities to enjoy that weren’t going out to eat. I started walking, then running, and lifting weights, and being active every day. And I figured out a way of eating which I enjoy which is much more healthy.

    Four years on, I am normal BMI with normal a1c levels, controlled by diet and exercise. I run races and even win my age group at local 5Ks sometimes. I can deadlift and squat my body weight. I used to be a person who couldn’t easily walk to the mailbox. My husband is now a friend and supporter instead of a source of stress. I like most things about my life, and when I want to do something to self-comfort in times of stress, I dance to music instead of eating. It’s better this way, so why would I go back?
  • nanastaci2020
    nanastaci2020 Posts: 1,004 Member
    Impatience and expecting FAST and constant results can be very disheartening. Feeling like "I'm doing all this work but have nothing to show for it" can then lead to "why bother?" reasoning.

    For me it finally made sense when I 'realized' that weight loss was all about numbers and science and cals in vs cals out. That realization may not work for everyone, of course. Even once I understood it still took some trial efforts to get myself into a routine. And for me, it was also coming to understand that my own nature is to be lazy so I needed to fight that. To make plans, choose to be more active, etc. Which is going to be a lifelong process, I know. Because it is easy to fall into a rut of failing to plan, and then just doing whatever, and 3-6 months later: I'm unhappy with how my clothes fit and I'm motivated to get back in control.
    pink_mint wrote: »
    I know this question has been asked before here in the archives but I'm asking for 2020. Feel free to offer your personal experience.

    Why do people typically give up their weight loss efforts? What makes people get discouraged to the point they say 'forget it'?

    And then on the other end, what finally worked for you? What mindset did you take on that made the difference and led to success with (edit: sustainable) weight loss?

    I ask because I'm feeling impatient right now.

  • suzyjmcd2
    suzyjmcd2 Posts: 263 Member
    I think a lot of people try to change too much too fast. Taking away everything you love and going all in can often times backfire. I have friends on here who have done that, and never let themselves have a treat, and exercise an incredible amount, so that they've got these huge 800-1000 deficits every day, and don't eat any of that back. They're hungry and they're unhappily missing "treats." It's just too much to be able to keep up as a lifestyle change. And to keep the weight off, it's GOT to be a lifestyle change.

    I think gradual changes to tweak both exercise and food is the way to go. Improve one habit, then another, and then another until you're at a place that gets you to a healthy weight, and makes you happy and keeps you satisfied. And then keep that up for life! Don't do anything you're not going to be willing to do for the rest of your life!
  • Lildarlinz
    Lildarlinz Posts: 100 Member
    For me...
    I see everyone else around me enjoying chocolates,biscuits and junk food...and I think oh one won’t hurt and then it ends up being another one the next day and the next
    I’ve realised at work I eat too much junk...so I’ve started to take my own food in rather than go the cafe and so far (2 weeks dieting) I’ve lost 4lb xx
    So it’s great...I’ve just replaced cafe food for healthy options or lower calorie and I feel better for it in myself :) and then I have junk food on another day x