What was your worst idea for a first date?
that_night_in_paris
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Or maybe it wasn't that the idea was terrible, it just didn't execute like you thought it would because your breath was hot that day. (Or your dating profile didn't convey the chipped front tooth well enough...whatever.)
For me, it was the time we met up on a Saturday morning and got cinnamon rolls at a gas station (lol, they made them fresh on-site) and then for a walk around a public golf course afterward.
It was so bad lol.
I think 40 minutes had went by and I looked over to see her walking with her arms crossed and gazing at freeway traffic to the east. That's when I knew. The New York Jets are not a good conversation starter.
For me, it was the time we met up on a Saturday morning and got cinnamon rolls at a gas station (lol, they made them fresh on-site) and then for a walk around a public golf course afterward.
It was so bad lol.
I think 40 minutes had went by and I looked over to see her walking with her arms crossed and gazing at freeway traffic to the east. That's when I knew. The New York Jets are not a good conversation starter.
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that_night_in_paris wrote: »Or maybe it wasn't that the idea was terrible, it just didn't execute like you thought it would because your breath was hot that day. (Or your dating profile didn't convey the chipped front tooth well enough...whatever.)
For me, it was the time we met up on a Saturday morning and got cinnamon rolls at a gas station (lol, they made them fresh on-site) and then for a walk around a public golf course afterward.
It was so bad lol.
I think 40 minutes had went by and I looked over to see her walking with her arms crossed and gazing at freeway traffic to the east. That's when I knew. The New York Jets are not a good conversation starter.
Anything with cinnamon rolls involved sounds good to me..4 -
I went out on a date with a guy who asked if I'd be willing to get a tan, and dye my hair a darker color. So, I'd look more like his ex-girlfriend.3
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You would think, right?_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »that_night_in_paris wrote: »Or maybe it wasn't that the idea was terrible, it just didn't execute like you thought it would because your breath was hot that day. (Or your dating profile didn't convey the chipped front tooth well enough...whatever.)
For me, it was the time we met up on a Saturday morning and got cinnamon rolls at a gas station (lol, they made them fresh on-site) and then for a walk around a public golf course afterward.
It was so bad lol.
I think 40 minutes had went by and I looked over to see her walking with her arms crossed and gazing at freeway traffic to the east. That's when I knew. The New York Jets are not a good conversation starter.
Anything with cinnamon rolls involved sounds good to me..
Was I supposed to lick icing off my pinky in slow motion... just put the word in, ladies.2 -
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we went out to eat. took her for a walk after. got back to her apartment later.
i had to go pee and went into the bathroom right after we got there.
she'd murdered the toilet at some point hours before i guess and forgot to flush it. it was horrific.2 -
I don’t think I had a bad one, not that I could remember. Other then meeting up with a guy at a higher end restaurant and the first thing he asked the waitress was if they were serving pitcher of beers, when she said no, he wanted to leave and we ended up at hooters down the street ...that was a red flag I chose to ignore.
Best one...
We went to a club, I wanted to dance 💃0 -
I don’t think I had a bad one, not that I could remember. Other then meeting up with a guy at a higher end restaurant and the first thing he asked the waitress was if they were serving pitcher of beers, when she said no, he wanted to leave and we ended up at hooters down the street ...that was a red flag I chose to ignore.
Best one...
We went to a club, I wanted to dance 💃
I'm usually the one who wants to go to hooters.1 -
Liquor Store Robbery
... in hindsight, that should probably wait until at least the third date.1 -
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Against my better judgment I let a friend set me up on a blind date. I knew it was bad when the guy recounted his recent birthday - which he celebrated by getting very drunk, throwing a cop over his car and going to jail. Then told me he really liked women with boob jobs (which I don't have). I headed for the exit (saying I was going to the restroom) after he told me "oh, you work with smart people. Smart people scare me."
Asked my friend why in the world she thought I would have anything in common with this cretin and she said "He's tall. I thought you liked tall guys."
One and only blind date I ever went on.3 -
_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »I don’t think I had a bad one, not that I could remember. Other then meeting up with a guy at a higher end restaurant and the first thing he asked the waitress was if they were serving pitcher of beers, when she said no, he wanted to leave and we ended up at hooters down the street ...that was a red flag I chose to ignore.
Best one...
We went to a club, I wanted to dance 💃
I'm usually the one who wants to go to hooters.
I wouldn’t have mind going to hooters in the first place but we were already seated and set to order, the fact that he wanted to abruptly leave just because there was no pitcher of beers .... pretty high maintenance and dramatic. He turned out to be an alcoholic0 -
Motorsheen wrote: »Liquor Store Robbery
... in hindsight, that should probably wait until at least the third date.
I've got a mask for the occasion 😏3 -
Motorsheen wrote: »
Haha. Nope. I'm honestly glad to be married and out of the dating scene.1 -
Met some guy, at a bar, and agreed to a date, admittedly, I had "beer goggles" on...
...WoW - those goggles were magic! 😬
Date - went to a bar, he chain smoked and made fun of my pale skin - that was the basic gist of all the conversation..."skinny ghost" he kept calling me, and laughing. In my head I was desperately trying to think of exit strategies because he drove - lesson learned, DO NOT let the first 'date' pick you up and drive.3 -
Well I put out on the first date and we’ve been married for 25 years so I guess it wasn’t such a bad idea lmao!0
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_Kashmir_314 wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »Liquor Store Robbery
... in hindsight, that should probably wait until at least the third date.
I've got a mask for the occasion 😏
Lmfao!!!!0 -
The worst one I can recall wasn't a bad idea, but it was carried out poorly and the result was disastrous.
A guy I had been dating for a few months finally decided that we should have a "proper" date and had saved up money and we both finally had enough time off from school to drive to the city (it was about an hour away).
His idea was to take me to some swanky Sicilian place he'd heard of and then walk around the plaza and just have a nice evening. However, he didn't look up directions to it and instead relied on the general directions of his "friend" who I didn't know and wasn't from the city (I am). We spent a good two hours searching for this place, driving through neighborhoods where shootings were not uncommon and carjackings have occurred when people stop at lights... only to find out that the "place" he had in mind had closed months before and been out of business! So he was trapped in a car with a very hungry me who hadn't eaten in hours (I get extremely cranky when I don't eat for that long) who was chewing him out for not properly looking up this place or asking myself or someone else who actually LIVED there for directions (he was from the other side of the state). Then he had to put up with me all the way home (another hour's drive back home), being hangry.
The only other incident I can think of was again, not terrible, but should have been a red flag. The guy (10 years older than I was and in the middle of a separation) asked to meet me at a Country Kitchen (that's like Denny's for those that don't know) and then used the fact that I had walked there to offer to drive me back home and weasel his way into my apartment. I should have known better.
That was a disastrous relationship if ever I had one. Ugh.1 -
So the guy took me to a McDonald's, I guess to be fair I was 17. And he dropped his 32 oz. Cup of soda directly on me
More recent. Planned a date. Only to find out he needed a ride and to pick him up from his moms house. I canceled date. So not sure if that counts.
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iuoyuwwrmlioxneunm wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »So the guy took me to a McDonald's, I guess to be fair I was 17. And he dropped his 32 oz. Cup of soda directly on me
More recent. Planned a date. Only to find out he needed a ride and to pick him up from his moms house. I canceled date. So not sure if that counts.
A lot of people hit hard economic times and have to move back in with parents, and sometimes they live with them because their parents need care and support due to health problems.
I guess it would depend on the reason why they are still living with their parents... just living with your parents doesn't automatically make you a terrible or unattractive person devoid of value and self-worth. But if his name is Norman and his mother owns a motel out front, that's probably not a good sign. Or he can't afford his Oxy addiction otherwise...
I've dated people of different socio economic status. But theres a series of events that led up to me backing out. But in general I do believe theres definitely red flags if you live at home and have no car.2 -
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iuoyuwwrmlioxneunm wrote: »Red flags seem to correlate with his ability or inability to be a provider. Kind of adherence or a deviation from antiquated gender norms. If he isn't a provider, how is supposed to support her offspring? Despite there being many forms of birth control, and after the fact including abortion and then adoption. You could say that is the naturalistic fallacy, if going by that, you could justify saying a woman not being caregivers of their offspring by being stay-at-home moms is a red flag. Men provide resources, women take care of children.
With women, men usually don't look for provider traits in women, so an attractive woman living at her parents with no car isn't always a dealbreaker, especially in urban environments where public transit is advanced and common.
I disagree. I have many Male friends who would not consider a female partner that does not have the ability to take care of one self. If I pay my bills...I look for someone who is just as capable. If I wanna go on a vacation or steak dinner with my partner, I do not want to have to pay for him. Just as i wouldnt expect him to pay for me. I dont think this is an antiquated idea.
I get there will be some cases, rare cases, where someone is trying to work through some hard times. But I've found that if they cant afford to take care of themselves there are extreme reasons why. Not working. Drugs or alcohol. Severe Mental health problems.
And I have not dated men solely because how they parented or did not parent. Even though I will not have more kids. I could not be with someone I didnt respect how they parented.
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iuoyuwwrmlioxneunm wrote: »If he lives with his parents and has no car, and pays his own way, and you pay yours, he is cool then I guess? I don't see how a man living with his parents and having no car translates to him being a leech?
I've never read a study on adults who live at their parent's home who have no car. Does some type of correlation, if one even exists, translate to forming a stereotype about an entire group of people?
Ohh, you are a single mother. How many recipients of welfare are single mothers?
I'm a single mom. Not a recipient of welfare. Ive also worked very hard to get where I'm at...emotionally and financially...so I look for a similar mate. Because wed share those commonalities.
I'm speaking from my own personal experiences with dating. Not a study. Not sure why my life experiences offend you so much. It's my choice to date or not date a person. I've not categorized or bashed an entire group of people. Just spoke on my preferences and again personal experience.2 -
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iuoyuwwrmlioxneunm wrote: »With welfare programs like TANF, section 8 housing, and Snap benefits, a lot of mothers are supported by the welfare system. You could say they made terrible decisions and now the taxpayer, mostly men, have to pay for it.
I don't judge a woman for being a single mother on welfare, but she sure will ironically judge a man for living with his parents and having no car - i. e.
recieving support in some form.
Your "red flag" isn't uncommon, it's a common red flag with women. It just has its roots in antiquated gender roles for men. Feminism says you can work or be a stay-at-home-mother, but what about men and their provider role?
😂wow did you just say tax payers, mostly men pay for single women on welfare?
And I'm all for a man being a stay at home dad. But that's not what we are talking about. Men living with their parents. Grown men. Not taking care of anyone.
I've dated a teacher who was also a great dad. He was not societies standard of a typical male role.
Why do I get the sense of some lame attempt at trolling here?3 -
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