Getting Called Out In Public - "You Are Fat"

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  • johnrossmckay
    johnrossmckay Posts: 66 Member
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    Smile and say "interesting". That's it. Unsaid....Interesting that you feel the need to belittle someone.
  • EvanKeel
    EvanKeel Posts: 1,904 Member
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    You know that homeless guy on the streets who's probably schizophrenic and shouts about how the squid won't stop talking to him? You pity him and maybe do what you can to make sure other people don't suffer the same fate.

    Perhaps I'm biased but there's really very little difference in my mind between that guy and anyone who shouts about hating anyone based on [insert any number of qualities] in public. They're both sick, they both need help, and neither one should probably be confronted.

    Whatever they're shouting about really is all about them and not about you, but it doesn't keep them from trying to make it about you.
  • Striving4Fit_MrsOrtiz
    Striving4Fit_MrsOrtiz Posts: 410 Member
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    What bothered me even more was the fact that she said "I hate all you fat people"

    OMG she just offended so many people all at once without knowing us.... based just on weight she "hates" us.

    Society has come to this?

    My own brother has said this to me before. He hates fat people, because it's pure laziness and disgust. Sad for me, right?!
  • trackmyday1973
    trackmyday1973 Posts: 393 Member
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    Accept that you ARE fat. Don't be insulted by it. You're slowly but surely changing your body anyway.

    The point is not that I don't accept it. It's just rude to say it.
  • trackmyday1973
    trackmyday1973 Posts: 393 Member
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    Well some have asked....it wasn't a kid it was a grown woman in her 40-50's

    Regardless, you are all correct. When I wrote this post...it just happened and instead of binging I turned to this thread.

    I am glad I did.

    I am over it now. I HAVE WON - WHY???? BECAUSE I AM FOCUSED AND DIDN'T TURN TO FOOD BINGING.

    In the end..... I won :)

    Thanks to each and every one of you who posted here and all my MFP friends. You are all the reason why MFP works.

    Thank you,

    The show must go on :)

    Happy Calorie Tracking Day Everyone :)
  • MsPudding
    MsPudding Posts: 562 Member
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    What bothered me even more was the fact that she said "I hate all you fat people"


    Response: Stop, look her up and down very slowly with a faint look of bemusement, do one of those long exhales through the side of your mouth whilst slowly shaking your head that mechanic specialise in, then laugh and then walk off.

    Absolutely guaranteed to make her hunt out a full-length mirror when she gets home.
  • aliencheesecake
    aliencheesecake Posts: 570 Member
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    What bothered me even more was the fact that she said "I hate all you fat people"

    OMG she just offended so many people all at once without knowing us.... based just on weight she "hates" us.

    Society has come to this?

    It's too bad it's no longer PC to give someone a well deserved punch in the mouth.
  • aliencheesecake
    aliencheesecake Posts: 570 Member
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    I know how devastating that can be... I was out hiking at a state park, feeling great the whole time because I was burning calories and having fun. Then at the end, on the way back to the car, these 2 teenage idiots start to make rude noises at me and laugh/snicker to each other. It really hurts, especially when you're trying to change. I just ended up crying after that, but then got over it because I am trying to change, they don't know anything about me, and they are sad, unhappy people. I've had things like this happen before many times, and I let it take me down. Not anymore though. NOT anymore.

    But to hear she said "I hate all you fat people" - now that is extreme. To use the word hate and then group us together like we're all one and the same... That's nuts. She must have mental health issues, for sure.

    Keep your head up, hun. Don't let haters take you down. I know easier said than done, but just keep reminding yourself of what you are doing and how far you've come.

    Thanks. Yes, I felt the same...all happy I lost almost 15 lbs...and then I get a rude comment like that.

    I am over it now. It's just, as others have said, pathetic.

    Oh well, she's the fuel that will keep me going (not that I needed it cause I am focused and determined)

    Get real loud and dramatic... "OHMYGOD??? You think I'm fat???? How will I live???? What do I do???? I'm crushed by your opinion, random person-i-don't know showing her rudeness!"

    Embarrass the **** out of her. ;)
  • aliencheesecake
    aliencheesecake Posts: 570 Member
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    Accept that you ARE fat. Don't be insulted by it. You're slowly but surely changing your body anyway.
    Why should she accept someone else's rude behavior?
  • PaulHalicki
    PaulHalicki Posts: 576 Member
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    "You Are Fat"

    Yes, and I'm working on that. But you'll always be an idiot.

    (You don't have to say that out loud, just thinking it is enough.)
  • Valerielynbruno
    Valerielynbruno Posts: 3
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    I have had this happen on several occasions - once when I had reached my goal weight (I've since gained my weight back and starting from scratch, but oh well). I also suffer from an auto-immune disease that makes my hair fall out - so the times I've been brave and gone out in public as a bald woman, you can just imagine the stares and comments! :)

    It stings and it feels awful, but they get power from knowing they've hurt you. If they get nothing in response, they just feel unfulfilled - and being able to make a mean person feel worse is definitely worth your silence and not acknowledging them. Once they are out of sight/ear shot - go ahead and feel bad if you want, and cry...I have done that, and it's healthy to express your emotions. But with people like that, never let them see a reaction. You can smile and shake your head in pity, but that's about all I'd give them. Take comfort in the knowledge that you are not an awful person like them, and that while the hurt they inflict on you is temporary, they are stuck with whatever hell they are living and they are choosing it for themselves. In the end, you win.
  • Sassyallday
    Sassyallday Posts: 136 Member
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    Ever heard this saying, "Tain't no use arguin' with fools and crazy people."?

    Anyone who does this is one or the other.

    I've also found that people who notice and comment on the weight of others usually have weight issues of their own. I dated someone who said something cruel to me about my body. I later found out that he had recently lost weight and felt that he "deserved" more of a hottie than me. Last I heard (from him), he was alone, confused about how to relate to women and miserable. Oh, well!
  • trackmyday1973
    trackmyday1973 Posts: 393 Member
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    Accept that you ARE fat. Don't be insulted by it. You're slowly but surely changing your body anyway.
    Why should she accept someone else's rude behavior?

    Exactly.

    Nobody should have to accept rude behavious.
  • Sassyallday
    Sassyallday Posts: 136 Member
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    Love it! Love your response and your outfit. You are clearly a woman who celebrates who she is - - -every day. You go, girl!
  • PaulHalicki
    PaulHalicki Posts: 576 Member
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    once when I had reached my goal weight (I've since gained my weight back and starting from scratch, but oh well).

    Yeah, me too. I lost 70 lb. in 6 months in 2005. I came up just shy of my max weight in the last few weeks. Starting over. South Beach Diet worked for me the first time, but due to several factors it's just not cutting it this time. I started MFP yesterday and in my mind I have the same enthusiasm for that as I did with SBD when it worked for me. So hopefully I'll be skinny again soon.
  • Alpina483
    Alpina483 Posts: 246 Member
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    When I wrote this post...it just happened and instead of binging I turned to this thread.

    I am glad I did.

    I am over it now. I HAVE WON - WHY???? BECAUSE I AM FOCUSED AND DIDN'T TURN TO FOOD BINGING.

    In the end..... I won :)

    Best comeback :) You did win!
  • Sassyallday
    Sassyallday Posts: 136 Member
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    Oops! My last response was meant for gershia. I am still not good and posting in reply to someone else's post or quoting others. Must work on this. :)
  • trackmyday1973
    trackmyday1973 Posts: 393 Member
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    When I wrote this post...it just happened and instead of binging I turned to this thread.

    I am glad I did.

    I am over it now. I HAVE WON - WHY???? BECAUSE I AM FOCUSED AND DIDN'T TURN TO FOOD BINGING.

    In the end..... I won :)

    Best comeback :) You did win!

    Thank you :) I feel happy about staying strong and staying focused :)
  • rachseby
    rachseby Posts: 285 Member
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    I would say "Yup, but I used to be fatter. Did you used to be nicer?"

    But then again, I'm not easily offended. Roll with it.
    That would be a good comeback...although I always think of things like that to say after the fact...Once this guy said "get out of the way fatass" to me and I was so in shock that I didn't know what to say...

    Or say, "I can lose weight, but you'll always be ugly"...I know that's kind of going down to her level, but I think that sometimes it is necessary.
  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,771 Member
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    My reply - "And why would I care what you think?"

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