Social Eater—saying "No"?
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I think it can help to be clear upfront. If someone invites me to visit, at the time I accept, I say something like, "Please don't go through any trouble preparing food. I'm following a special diet right now." Or "I will come over after lunch, so please don't prepare a meal." Another option is to offer to bring lunch or a snack, again after explaining why. Or meet at a restaurant that has healthy options. I think most food-pushers don't mean to be rude; often I think they are anticipating enjoying a treat with company and feel disappointed when their plans are foiled. By explaining the situation ahead of time, everyone can plan and know what to expect.
That's a good way to go about it!
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I politely decline. If they keep asking then I explain with something like:
I feel better when I don’t have too much sugar.
I feel better when I stay within my calories.
I feel better when I don’t snack between meals.
Usually they don’t push after that because they would have to urge me to feel bad. And it’s not judging (I hope) if they choose to eat. I am not saying it’s bad. Just that I feel bad when I do it. Which is true.0 -
I have IBS, and absolutely blame that if need be. "Thanks, it looks/smells lovely, but my tummy is really acting up right now and I don't want to make it worse." Even if I'm is fine and there's nothing in the offered food that would be an issue. This makes it rude for the food-pusher to continue.
Then there are people that just absolutely don't care. My dad's new wife loves baking, knows perfectly well I have to eat gluten free, and completely ignores it. She keeps baking stuff and giving it to me. Last Christmas I donated two big Christmas cakes (baked by her) to my office potluck, and one of my colleagues brought home the leftovers. Everyone was happier that way.3 -
This won’t always work, but I try to be the one serving/cleaning/arranging the food, even if I’m not the host. Many times family get togethers or other informal events (so not a sit down dinner) afford the opportunity for me to be the “can I get you anything? Water? A napkin? Can I take these plates to your kids/to the garbage/etc?” person. Or I’ll put myself in charge of setting out the dishes/food/drinks and jump to clean up/do dishes/clean kitchen, so there’s less opportunity for others to push things on me, or criticize what I eat or don’t eat. If my ha d’s are always full with dishes or glasses. No one realizes I haven’t eaten the cake5
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I politely decline. If they keep asking then I explain with something like:
I feel better when I don’t have too much sugar.
I feel better when I stay within my calories.
I feel better when I don’t snack between meals.
Usually they don’t push after that because they would have to urge me to feel bad. And it’s not judging (I hope) if they choose to eat. I am not saying it’s bad. Just that I feel bad when I do it. Which is true.
That's a smart way to go about it
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