WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2023
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Rosemarie2972 wrote: »Heather: Your plan for Easter Lunch sounds delicious!
Heather and Karen: I envy how you are both working out. I feel so short time with so many tasks. I did walk 2 miles today on the treadmill at the gym.
Terri: I hope your hospital stay goes okay
Debbie: Praying for Destiny. How is she?
Machka: Sorry your spouse had a melt down. You are doing a great job caring for him, loving him and also holding a job. What you said about high school not having to define a person's future...you gave math as an example.. was inspiring.
Katla: I hope Carmine has several friends. When my spouse passed recently 3 of my friends took me to dinner. We don't regularly stay in touch, but they were there for me in February!
RV Rita: I know it will be awhile before you move...but at least this time will give a chance to decide where you want to go.
Kylia: I hope everything is okay with your heart and that the tachycardia isn't a problem.
Anitanap2: Enjoy your new book! And work on getting strong!
I am still sore from squatting at my new volunteer position on Tues and Wed. To the point where I am taking Tylenol. I walked on the tread mill today but did not do the elliptical in order to rest those muscles. I do sit in the red recliner quite a bit and hope this changes in the future. I might try to add in some gardening next week, so that I move about a little more. Thank you to all that wished me well and had kind things to say about the loss of my husband.
Best,
Rosemarie from Georgia
Rosemarie
You have just lost your husband!
Whatever you choose to do with your time, I wish for you for it to be based on your personal priorities and include self-nurturing activities, whatever those may be for you. And 2 miles on the treadmill is superb in my book. Well done!
Regular exercise is part of my self-nurturing and is high on my personal priority list...but I also must admit that getting my house excavated, emptied, spiffied up, and on the market needs to be a bit higher on my list than it is.
I know this because my house is intermittently chirping quietly in the background of my awareness. That “low battery” chirp is not going to go away, so I am gearing up to rearrange my schedule to get over there more than once a week.
I will be at peace once I rebalance, even though it will necessitate temporarily giving up some self-nurturing activities here at the Old Folks’ Home.
Not the exercise, though. If I don’t exercise, I don’t have energy to do things like work at the old house.
But I can give up jigsaw puzzle time, or TV time, or any number of other low priority activities to work on the house, and I will. Soon.
Karen in Virginia4 -
Machka May this weekend give your batteries a chance to recharge and your body a chance to reset.
Karen I love the "low battery chirp" reference! It fits perfectly for several scenarios currently in my life.
No pork for me any more. Ended up in shower last night with 2 Imodium after dinner. Ugh. Just not doing it any more.
Yesterday was just steady all day. SIL not there (surprise). I kept having to tell the mechanic that helps upfront to stay in the back unless I tell him I need help. I told him I would let him know if I needed help. The day before he got 1.5 billable hours done because if SIL gets two customers at once she gets overwhelmed. The shop needs him to stay in the back to get mowers done. Anyway, I handled it. I get into the rhythm and it just flows. Yes, I have to take lots of notes sometimes but I am more than capable of handling 3-4 customers. I do need to finish a few things this morning before work. SIL was taking off today too, but the furnace guys are going to be here this morning. We will see.
Funny- I sleep with grey bear and brown bear. They are fluffy aromatherapy bears. Grey bear was a gift from my DH last fall. Brown bear from my BFF 14 years ago. Well, we got back from my brother's house and the next morning I woke up with "seeds" in the bed. Initially, I freaked out trying to figure out where we picked up bugs! Then I put on my glasses and realized they were seeds. Where in the !! did seeds come from? I read the tags on my bears. Grey bear is filled with flax seeds! I checked him all over and could find no holes. I figured I was squishing them out like feathers from a pillow. Last night I found the hole in his backside. He got stitches this morning He was a brave bear! I am just happy to not wake up to seeds hopefully! My DH is like the princess and the pea, he felt them every morning! I only noticed when I made the bed. That is your Friday Funny!
Better get ready for work! Will be working all weekend again.
May we all take a page from the book of Destiny. Courage, positivity, and resilience. Just choose one or better yet all three. She is inspirational! Healing thoughts and prayers continue.
Much love,
Kylia in Ohio where it is raining again9 -
We are having dinner tonight at Oscar’s, the “fancy” restaurant here that has the reasonable prices. We asked 4 other couples to join us, so 10 altogether.
It’s been a struggle getting the arrangements made.
Apparently they are short on staff for tonight. Instead of arranging for more staff, or simply telling us they couldn’t accommodate us and working with us to choose another date, they accepted our reservation for 10 and have been moaning and groaning ever since.
First they said we couldn’t sit together, that they would have to seat us at 2 tables.
Then they said everybody had to have baked potato and asparagus for the sides.
Then they said "no appetizers".
Then they said we all had to have the same salad, either House or Caesar, but we all had to agree on which one.
Then they said we had to pick 2 desserts. When one of the choices was gelato, they said they couldn’t scoop gelato for several people because it was too labor intensive.
At that point, the 10 of us decided we would individually order our meals ahead of time from wherever we wanted to get food from, or bring food from home, and we reserved a room to eat in.
When I reserved the room, but before I canceled the Oscar’s reservation, our Activities Director Willa asked what we were planning to do in the reserved room. I told her the 10 of us were going to get together to talk and get better acquainted over a meal, and our reservation at Oscar’s had inadvertently become a burden for an overextended staff, so we were taking things into our own hands to remedy the situation.
It escalated from there - the next thing I knew, Charmaine, the Executive Director of the retirement community, was on the phone with me, and an hour later, the Dining Director Steven called and asked me to come to his office.
Everything is now resolved, and we are eating at Oscar’s, together at one table, and can order what we want.However, Steven couldn’t resist giving me crap about my input on an unrelated issue. It had to do with his Sunday Brunch policies, which had been the topic of conversation at a community meeting led by Charmaine a couple of weeks ago. Steven doesn’t want to have a dine-in Sunday Brunch. He wants to turn Sunday Brunch into strictly take-out. He won’t admit this in an open meeting, but he told me and my wife this 3 months ago when we first moved in, so I know it to be true. He is doing everything in his power to get his way by being obstructionist about policies concerning taking leftovers home (no doggy bags allowed on Sundays), or switching to normal weekday fare (no prime rib or shrimp), and any number of other deliberately resident-unfriendly policies. He won’t prevail, but he is punishing those of us who spoke up at the meeting. It’s ridiculous. We were all very polite and reasonable, and continue to be so. But I can’t help thinking that this latest kerfuffle over the Oscar’s reservation has to do with his peevishness, because the Oscar’s party includes several of us who spoke up about the Sunday Brunch policies at the community meeting. I’m beginning to think Steven is a petulant little boy. Unfortunate.
I have just about worn myself out with this stupidity the last 2 weeks.
Karen in Virginia11 -
Karen- That is just not acceptable behavior from the restaurant! I have never heard of such a thing and have worked in several restaurants. Wow! Just Wow! As for Steven, well, I deal with folks like him everyday and just shake my head.
Hugs!
Kylia2 -
Machka May this weekend give your batteries a chance to recharge and your body a chance to reset.
No pork for me any more. Ended up in shower last night with 2 Imodium after dinner. Ugh. Just not doing it any more.
Much love,
Kylia in Ohio where it is raining again
Thank you ... thank you to many of you who wished me rest and recouperation. It has been a long and hugely stressful week.
We rarely eat pork or beef anymore, and if we do, it's a very small amount. There's no point eating something we're not that fond of and which doesn't sit all that well.
Machka in Oz
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grandmallie wrote: »The picked Carpentry as what he wanted now he hates Carpentry.
Kids their age should try out different things ... try carpentry for a while, if you like it, great, if not, try something else. Drafting? Cooking? Mechanics? Music?
Didn't he like guitar at one time?
M in Oz3 -
Morning ladies
Im with Miles,who is sleeping.. Im going to try and get my place picked up over the weekend.
It is atrocious..junk everywhere im ashamed of myself.
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Karen - That's why I could never live in one of those communities. I like to have complete control over my choices and really can't be bothered with dealing with difficult people. A restaurant is there for my convenience, not mine for them. You are more patient than I could ever be. Plus meetings! You are supposed to be retired! Sounds like work!
Could you just get someone in to sort out your house? Or just sell it 'as is'. I've noticed that Americans seem to have to do up their houses to sell. We tend to just knock a bit off the price and do up the new place we are moving into. I couldn't get excited enough about doing up something I'd lost interest in.
Windy today. Very windy. We had rain overnight. I'm back to normal health wise. Did my exercises and my writing this morning. Hooray!
Rosemarie - I used to be very fat, unfit, and almost crippled. I was 62. My progress was slow. I lacked confidence in my body and in myself. I've built up exercise slowly over many years. I could never have done 2 miles on a treadmill then. I could barely climb into a car. It is never too late. I was 68 when I started 'running'. You are still in shock, grief and trauma. To be even standing is great going. Bravo!
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx6 -
I am looking forward to a good day and a fresh cup of coffee. Breakfast with friends is always nice.
I plan to spend time practicing yoga this morning in my room. I have my yoga mat ready to go and I look forward to stretching exercises. After that, I’ll see what comes next.
Katla in Illinois
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Hello, my darlin's,
Rain's coming in shortly, but if it follows the predictions, we will see only the northwestern edges of it. That beautiful scent in the dawn air of rain just departed and more coming in is filling the house through the open windows, and at 65 degrees, it's really lovely. Spring at its best, at least for this moment.
Tales of Lisa and Poo... TMIHad to go back and look, but I was at 145 the last day of February and 141 this morning. Am willing to call that good for maintenance mode. There are days I wonder why I think I have any control at all - my body knows what it wants, and it will be the weight that it wants, and any control I think I have over that is just an illusion.
I say this because yesterday, I was at 144, but it was one of the D-days (D for "doody" - Look, you either laugh at this stuff or they find you out in the woods following around behind the little animals.) The D-days are about once a week now. I can only get a few steps from the bathroom and then I'm headed right back. Hours of that are exhausting, at best.
Fortunately, on this side of D-day, I get a few days where I can actually leave the house and do things like get my hair cut, which I hope to do this morning.
I am trying to get the rhythm sorted out, but all the options are the nuclear options - imodium stops me up for days, and any form of laxative, even at a quarter of the dose, pushes me immediately into D-day, but in liquid form. Right now it's awful, but at least it's not exiting at 90 miles an hour and requiring hazmat cleanup protocols.
To add to that, I know, I know, I know that people who really want to help me feel better are going to suggest taking fiber. Fiber, no matter the ingredients, in almost any form, whether it's food, pills, chewables, dissolve in liquid, whatever, adds razor blade edges to D-days. After finding myself curled up on the bathroom tiles more than once, crying, I stopped doing that. Fiber is not the answer for me, but I'm awfully glad for you if it is the answer for you.
So, I'll continue to work on it. I have added a probiotic, but if it has made a difference, I can't tell it. I'm going to finish the bottle and see if there's a change when I stop.
If you braved all that, it my not sound like it, but the new medication really is helping. Some of the brain fog has lifted. Days that aren't like yesterday are really good days. I feel like myself for hours on end.
I do read everything y'all write, but of course I haven't written anything down to reply to anything. My brain fog has a lot to answer for. Sooooo many hugs to those who need them, and cheers for everyone who celebrates their own triumphs. Love y'all more than you know. I spend time every morning with you, and appreciate your presence in my life.
Lisa in AR
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Lisa You made me laugh! I am allowed to do that because I too have those days! "Following little animals" and "hazmat cleanups"!!! LOL!!! I realize that it isn't really funny in the moment, but otherwise I would be crying more often. Hugs as this gets sorted out.
Today is no patience day.....mechanics that don't write all the information on an invoice, mechanics that only order half the parts needed, just no patience.
Rosemarie Give yourself grace! You are hurting and healing. We have your back!
At home at moment waiting on furnace person. Will try to do something productive.
Kylia3 -
Allie ~ Miles on the truck reminded me of my GD.
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Good morning ladies!
I am up half a pound. I've got to stop backsliding.
Annie in Delaware4 -
31. Discover the joy in the simple things of life. Like kissing Joe good morning, petting the pooches, inhaling then tasting that first sip of tea.
Inspired by you all I got down on the floor yesterday to do some of my PT stretches. Miracle of miracles, was able to get back up, thanks to the foot forward torque method. Will try again today with the other foot. Forgot to scan body before and after, will try to remember to do that today too Monthly average step count way short but daily creeping back up toward goal. Looking for an easier way to measure “Fuel better.” March average weight one tenth of a pound less than February but happy to end the month four pounds lighter than at beginning.
Allie fingers Xd.
Lanette hope the Roof Doctor give you some credit for the 30 yr shingles if they have to be replaced sooner
Barbie “…waiting for congratulations from others is a recipe for disappointment.” Truth this. Just like having any kinds expectations for others’ behaviors…
Tracey yours to Annie and for your MIL having to face such material losses after losing your FIL.
Likewise Mary and Heather to Annie, especially “You will have to change the habits of a lifetime from being a dutiful daughter to being their proper carer.”
Whooshing healing and comfort to Terri, Destiny. Comfort and strength to Machka.
Machka hope your weekend is truly restful and restorative.
Karen what an annoying chirp! It takes so much energy to ignore… :laugh: Could the dining director be under some pressure to cut costs, staff? If not, then perhaps he is no longer a good fit… What Heather said about dealing with people and meetings.
Kylia glad to hear Grey Bear’s surgery was successful
Lisa many hugs back atcha. Appreciate your wit, writing and grit. Wish I could woosh the doody days and pain away.
Carol what a cutie! Looks like a country song…
Time to get up, PT, shower and go to chiropractor before lunch with T.
Lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
2023: Be of good cheer. March: Move more, fuel better, live NOW.
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I am sitting in my chair and looking out my windows. It’s windy outside & I’m happy to be inside. In the distance I see trucks & cars on the highway. There are more freight trucks than cars this morning. Trees nearby are blowing in the wind. I did my yoga exercises before breakfast. I hope this becomes a good day.
Katla in Illinois8 -
Anne - I think that in the US the cancel the contract window is just 3 days! But you can cancel - do the research and then do a new contract with the same company if it turns out that it wasn't a scam. and you and dad would have the other quotes to help get the best deal you can.
Kim4 -
LisaInArkansas wrote: »Hello, my darlin's,
Rain's coming in shortly, but if it follows the predictions, we will see only the northwestern edges of it. That beautiful scent in the dawn air of rain just departed and more coming in is filling the house through the open windows, and at 65 degrees, it's really lovely. Spring at its best, at least for this moment.
Tales of Lisa and Poo... TMIHad to go back and look, but I was at 145 the last day of February and 141 this morning. Am willing to call that good for maintenance mode. There are days I wonder why I think I have any control at all - my body knows what it wants, and it will be the weight that it wants, and any control I think I have over that is just an illusion.
I say this because yesterday, I was at 144, but it was one of the D-days (D for "doody" - Look, you either laugh at this stuff or they find you out in the woods following around behind the little animals.) The D-days are about once a week now. I can only get a few steps from the bathroom and then I'm headed right back. Hours of that are exhausting, at best.
Fortunately, on this side of D-day, I get a few days where I can actually leave the house and do things like get my hair cut, which I hope to do this morning.
I am trying to get the rhythm sorted out, but all the options are the nuclear options - imodium stops me up for days, and any form of laxative, even at a quarter of the dose, pushes me immediately into D-day, but in liquid form. Right now it's awful, but at least it's not exiting at 90 miles an hour and requiring hazmat cleanup protocols.
To add to that, I know, I know, I know that people who really want to help me feel better are going to suggest taking fiber. Fiber, no matter the ingredients, in almost any form, whether it's food, pills, chewables, dissolve in liquid, whatever, adds razor blade edges to D-days. After finding myself curled up on the bathroom tiles more than once, crying, I stopped doing that. Fiber is not the answer for me, but I'm awfully glad for you if it is the answer for you.
So, I'll continue to work on it. I have added a probiotic, but if it has made a difference, I can't tell it. I'm going to finish the bottle and see if there's a change when I stop.
If you braved all that, it my not sound like it, but the new medication really is helping. Some of the brain fog has lifted. Days that aren't like yesterday are really good days. I feel like myself for hours on end.
I do read everything y'all write, but of course I haven't written anything down to reply to anything. My brain fog has a lot to answer for. Sooooo many hugs to those who need them, and cheers for everyone who celebrates their own triumphs. Love y'all more than you know. I spend time every morning with you, and appreciate your presence in my life.
Lisa in AR
https://kookybrea.com/products/aspero
Frankincense gets rid of brain fog.
💕 Mary from Arizona/Minnesota2 -
March, 2023 Action for happiness.org
Word of the year: Appreciate : today I appreciate the progress I’ve made the last 3 months.Exercise goals added
Yoga 10 mins 3 times a week 11/15-(100%,100%)
Walk 7,000 every day 29/31 (84%,86%,)
Arm weights twice a week 3/10 (100%, 60%hurt my elbow, hurt my shoulder)
Meditation: daily. 28/31 (82%(started Feb))
1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 9/8–(100%,100%,0%)
2. Average 7,000 steps a week. (7,700,100%-9851,100%—9526,100%)
3. Update budget every 2 weeks 2/2 —(100%,100%,100%)
4. Contact close family every week (4x) 15/158/ —(100%,100%,100%)
5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)26/64–(100%,100%,100%)
6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2—173.5-(100%,100%,100%)
7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 20/20-(100%,88%,100%)
8. Read 12 books at least this year. 10/12 (100%,100%,100%)
9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR——3/12—(100%.100%,100%)
10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+700+$71(100%,100%,100)
Decided that if I do more than stated I will not grade higher than 100% 2/5/23
January Met —100%
February met —-90%
March met met —-90%
April met ————-90%
May met
June met
July met — met
August met
September met
October met —
November met—
December met—1. Set an intention to live with awareness and kindness. I intend to live with more awareness and kindness every day.58. 29. Choose a different route today and see what you notice. If I have the chance will do this. Probably with a walk. Did take a different route for my walk. Different scenery to look at (but not my favorite)
2. Notice three things you find beautiful in the outside world. The blue water of Lea Lake, Snow on the mountains at a distance, walking a nature trail. All at Bottomless Lakes State Park.
3. Start today by appreciating your body and that you are alive. I am healthy and above ground. I can walk,talk,hear, see, taste, and smell (mostly). I appreciate that I alive and have a healthy body.
4. Notice how you speak to yourself and choose to use kind words. I will try…
5. Bring to mind people you care about and send love to them. I sent texts to my long distance friends to send them love.
6. Have a ‘no plans’ day and notice how that feels. Most days are like that for me. So much less stress!
7. Take three calm breaths at regular intervals during your day. Sounds like a plan.
8. Eat mindfully. Appreciate the taste, texture and smell of your food. Started at breakfast.
9. Take a full breath in and out before you reply to others. I will need to keep this in the front of my mind all day.
10. Get outside and notice how the weather feels on your face. Every day!
11. Stay fully present while drinking your cup of tea or coffee. In the process of doing that right now!
12. Listen deeply to someone and really hear what they are saying. I will have to really try to get this done today.
13. Pause to watch the sky or clouds for a few minutes today. I love doing this!
14. Find ways to enjoy any chores or tasks that you do. I made a necessary task to go for a liver scan enjoyable by buying lunch for myself for a change.
15. Stop. Breathe. Notice. Repeat regularly. I really need to do this today! Didn’t remember to do this.
16. Get really absorbed with an interesting or creative activity. I have stones to paint. Will be distributing along the trails in exchange for free peddle boat and paddle board rentals. Didn’t do this. Too windy out. I colored instead.
17. Look around and spot three thing you find unusual or pleasant. Will do. 1. Lady wanting us to cut a lock off of her propane tank. 2. The rock formations around the park. 3. The lake surface when wind blows over it.
18. If you find yourself rushing, make an effort to slow down. I will consciously try to do this. I completed this!
19. Appreciate nature around you wherever you are. Easy here. I do it every day! Appreciation list in spoiler
20. The blues,of the lake
21. BirdsTweeting in the sky and trees
22. Birds drinking water out of a plastic cover
23. Kids laughing
24. Salty look of the sand
25. The piles of dirt along dug out canal
26. The blue sky with wispy clouds
27. The strong cold wind
28. The boardwalk
29. The hides to watch birds
30. The blue ponds made by the canal
31. The ducks swimming in the ponds
32. The quack of the ducks
33. The snow cap mountains in the distance
34. The white dry spots of salt and Lyme along the trail
35. The dead branches and bushes along the budding ones
36. A spot of green here and there
37. The red of branches preparing for spring
38. The bubbling water in the canal
39. The beginning green of the salt Cedars
40. The baby fish in the puddling waters of canal overflow
41. The mud sludge gathering under the bridge
42. The brown prairie grass bending in the wind
43. The tall swamp grass bowing down
44. The bubbling water as it splashed out from under the bridge
45. The white salty mounds along the dirt trail
46. Holes dug by animals for burrows
47. Tumbleweeds trapped in the brush
48. The coo of a dove welcoming me back from the walk
49. 20.Focus on what makes you and others happy today. Going to try!
50. 21. Listen to a piece of music without doing anything else. I listened to music while walking, but not just sitting still.
51. 22. Notice something that is going well, even if today feels difficult. Doing the wash and calling my mother.
52. 23. Tune into your feelings, without judging or trying to change them. I try all the time since I’ve been meditating. Working well since I started in January.
53. 24. Appreciate your hands and all the things they enable you to do. They do too many to list!
54. 25. Focus your attention on the good things you take for granted. Even the little things like sunshine, a cup of coffee, you are alive, nature, etc. These are some of mine.
55. 26. Choose to spend less times looking at screens today. I will! I had 58% less screen time this week than last week. Working on this!
56. 27. Cultivate a feeling of loving-kindness towards others today. I’ve been working on this in my meditations.
57. 28. Notice when you are tired and take a break as soon as possible. I will try.
59. 30. Mentally scan your body and notice what you are feeling. Will do this during meditation today.
60. 31. Discover the joy in the simple things of life.Barbie's Happiness Commandments
Be Barbie
Lighten up
Do it now
Dance more
Choose strategy over willpower
Cultivate an attitude of gratitude
Come from a place of love
Stay in the moment
Act the way you want to feel
Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good
Don't expect praise or recognition
It is what it is
Don't take things personally
Treat yourself like a toddler
What's fun for other people may not be fun for you, and vice versa
You can choose what you do, but you can't choose what you like
Be kind, no exceptions
Ask always, how could my life be better with less?
RVRita
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