"Are you turning into a man?"

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  • Hmm I don't actually know who Jillian Michaels is, but judging from the pictures posted - if that's ugly - wow some of you must have scarily high standards here.
    *rolleyes*
    The lady looks pretty good to me and feminine 'strong' features or not.
  • 1PatientBear
    1PatientBear Posts: 2,089 Member
    And then you told him to get comfortable with being face down in a pillow, right?

    My guy seems to like my new strength and baby muscles, lucky for him since I know my goal and will go after it whether he likes it or not.

    Yep! I'm glad that my husband likes my muscles and the fact that I'm getting stronger, but I'd be doing what I want to reach my goals anyway. His appreciation is just a bonus.

    He did start lifting a few months after I did, which I took as a compliment.

    Jillian does look manly to me but it's not her body, it's her hard manly face.


    I'm not a huge Jillian Michaels fan (I don't know a whole lot about her, honestly) but dissing her face is not cool. Besides, I never think it's prudent to insult someone who could kick your *kitten*, and that woman is a badass.

    Why not? Why am I not allowed to say someone has an ugly face. I think she's ugly, oh well. Boo hoo. Oh no, hopefully she's not reading this, she might kick my *kitten*.

    Grow up. If you don't think she's attractive, fine. No need to say so. That's classless.
  • serenere
    serenere Posts: 70 Member
    I always thought that muscular arms are sexy in a woman. Sadly, my family keeps criticizing my efforts to get in shape saying that I will end up looking like a lesbian. O__o And sadly they mean this joke in an offensive way. I'm straight but this is not the point, I have no kind of sexual orientation prejudices whatsoever. The fact that Jillian is actually a lesbian is not helping my cause with my family & friends while arguing that I want a body exactly like hers.

    Well, I guess it's a matter of personal taste. But I still don't see how some guys can actually think that a very fit woman like Jillian hasn't a great body...

    Plus guys, I think that if your GF/wife is trying to live a healthier life and get in shape you shouldn't be an obstacle saying that you like her extra kilos or that if she lifts weight she will look too masculine. People should always be supportive when their loved ones are trying to live a healthier life.

    Well...I could talk about that for hours...muscles are sexy as hell. I admire and appreciate a woman with muscles. <3
  • FlaxMilk
    FlaxMilk Posts: 3,452 Member
    I always thought that muscular arms are sexy in a woman. Sadly, my family keeps criticizing my efforts to get in shape saying that I will end up looking like a lesbian. O__o And sadly they mean this joke in an offensive way. I'm straight but this is not the point, I have no kind of sexual orientation prejudices whatsoever. The fact that Jillian is actually a lesbian is not helping my cause with my family & friends while arguing that I want a body exactly like hers.

    Trying to fight a losing battle with that audience. Do your thing and look good for you. Luckily, your family has no need to stress about how appealing you are sexually.
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  • gigglybeth
    gigglybeth Posts: 365 Member
    I don't watch Extreme Weight Loss because I think that dude is an amazing trainer, I watch because he's effing hot. So hot I have watched 8 episodes this weekend and can't remember his name. Don't even care what his name is tbh, as long as he stays sexy.

    Chris something, I think is his name? We went out Saturday night and saw a guy who looked just like him at the bar. So cute!

    Even though he's gay, Bob Harper is adorable, too.
  • acpgee
    acpgee Posts: 7,949 Member
    I was working as a fashion model in my teens and twenties and my agencies used to ***** about my weight training. My favorite complaint from my booker at Premier Model Management in London was that my tits were starting to look like two steaks. The gay Paris editor for Italian Vogue used to pat my thigh and say, "Alice, you do too much exercise".
  • jus_in_bello
    jus_in_bello Posts: 326 Member
    I cannot even fathom, not even for a second, staying with a guy who thought it was ok to insult my body, muscles, choices, etc.

    A comment like that, even in jest, would get a nasty look and a prompt, "eff you".


    Imagine for a second if the situation were slightly different. Say, perhaps, that you had a lapse in routine for a few weeks, you haven't been able to go to the gym for a while. In what universe would it be ok for him to say, "are you turning in to a fat-as$?"

    NONE. That crap is never ok. Husband or not.

    This. This a million times over.

    I don't care who it is, no one should speak like this about anyone's body. Seriously, don't tolerate it.
  • ladyark
    ladyark Posts: 1,101 Member
    When i first started trying to get healthy and showed my husband pictures of what i wanted to look like his response was " well i dont like that or think it is attractive"

    My response" Well, i will do it anyway and it will totally be your choice if you stick around or not"

    Well, as far as i can tell he is quite enjoying what he see's now. He compliments me on what he see's and loves touching and feeling his fit wife. I think he would be happy if i stopped where i am but, thats not going to happen so he has resigned himself to a wife that lifts.

    I'm not turning into a man but, i have better arms than some lol and i can pec flex as well as the next man. Who knows whats next lol.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    And then you told him to get comfortable with being face down in a pillow, right?

    My guy seems to like my new strength and baby muscles, lucky for him since I know my goal and will go after it whether he likes it or not.

    Yep! I'm glad that my husband likes my muscles and the fact that I'm getting stronger, but I'd be doing what I want to reach my goals anyway. His appreciation is just a bonus.

    He did start lifting a few months after I did, which I took as a compliment.

    Jillian does look manly to me but it's not her body, it's her hard manly face.


    I'm not a huge Jillian Michaels fan (I don't know a whole lot about her, honestly) but dissing her face is not cool. Besides, I never think it's prudent to insult someone who could kick your *kitten*, and that woman is a badass.

    Why not? Why am I not allowed to say someone has an ugly face. I think she's ugly, oh well. Boo hoo. Oh no, hopefully she's not reading this, she might kick my *kitten*.

    Grow up. If you don't think she's attractive, fine. No need to say so. That's classless.

    Then I guess I have no class in your book. Trust me, I won't lose a minute of sleep over it.
    And here's another thing, technically I can say whatever I feel. It's up to you to decide if you let it get your panties in a bunch.

    You can say whatever you feel, this is true. But it just makes you look like a jerk when you put someone down like that. It would be like me seeing your profile pic and making fun of you for being small. It just isn't cool.
  • Blitz_40
    Blitz_40 Posts: 110 Member
    When I was competitive, my mother used to call me "The Shoulders", as in "Here comes The Shoulders, ask her if she's going shopping too". Made me very self conscious about them and for years i wouldn't wear sleeveless or heaven forbid, halter anything. Ever. I don't know why it bothered me so much. My competitive group was very small, females lifters in the early 80's were considered freaks and *kitten*, but for some reason that didn't bother me at all. :indifferent:
  • JamieH1984
    JamieH1984 Posts: 86 Member
    If lifting is wrong I don't want to be right.
  • slim4health56
    slim4health56 Posts: 439 Member
    Trust me ... Jillian is HOT! Too bad shes in to the ladies! :D

    You mean too bad for you? There's always someone in the crowd who has to go there...
  • This is what my husband asked me this morning when he saw me drinking my whey protein shake after lifting weights this morning. I'm starting stage 2 of nrolfw this week. How can I convince my husband that I will not "look like Jillian" when I'm done?- he's apparently not a fan of her arms/shoulders. Should I just make him read the book?

    Keep the suspense alive. Tell him to "wait and see".
  • Mjandjt
    Mjandjt Posts: 58 Member
    Just adding my two cents...I've spent the better part of my life being afraid of being "too strong...not girlie enough...careful she'll kick your *kitten*..." And where has it gotten me? Overweight, unhappy, and more pissed off lol. I want to be strong, I want defined muscle, I want to be a man I guess! FFS...to each their own...I'm going to make me happy. Men have a tendency to flock to confidence regardless of physique. I'm a more confident person when I like the way I look...bring on the muscles! :love:
  • stealthq
    stealthq Posts: 4,298 Member
    Dudes saying that are usually concerned that their woman will look better than they do.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness industry for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

    Or that they'll get their teeth knocked out the next time they say something so stupid. :P