WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2024
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Ginny ~ What a great photo of you and the grands! I know you all will have a wonderful visit.
Rosemarie ~ Gibbs garden is a beautiful place to go in the Spring. I have not been there but have seen photos of all the flowers that are grown there.
Heather ~ John has made a great card for BiBi! She will love it. John's writing and artistic talents are outstanding. Glad you are able to move better.
Barbie ~ I agree with your thoughts on the diversity of talents that so many of the ladies here exhibit. Sometimes I feel bad that I don't have much to offer mainly because I live a very quiet life. But, I love reading about every post and learning what all is going on.
Julie ~ In what part of the US are you located. I assume somewhere in the Northeast since you mentioned the Amish custom regarding DST.
Carol in GA
Carol, Yes I am in upstate NY (Elmira) but also a "snowbird" in Bradenton, FL:-)
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Morning ladies
Im up and fed the cat and will call and make an appointment for Alfie at the Vet ,his hips or legs are sore and he is having some issues.
Right now he is snoozing under the covers.3 -
Allie - I agree with Tracy. I don't think a birthday should be tied to behavoir. You give a birthday present because you love that person not because of how they act.
Everyone take care, Sue in WA
I agree with this. Love is not filled with a lot of conditions and hoops to jump through.
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@Julieann404 NY/FL - Don't know if I ever said, "Welcome to the group," but welcome! Glad to get to know you.
Heather - Sounds like that's definitely the root of your pain, and I think we're capable of being both relieved and depressed at the same time. I also think we have this notion embedded in our cultural matrix that arthritis is just for "old folks," so it's hard to take it onboard when we still feel young and vital. If you've got bone spurs in your hips, a hip replacement could make a huge difference for your pain levels--the right knee replacement did for me. Something like 95% of hip replacements are quite successful, even life-changing, but unfortunately, we tend to only hear about the ones that aren't. I think your overall physical health would make you a great candidate.
Woke up with a stinker of a headache, probably barometric, with the rain due to arrive about 11 a.m. Luckily, the headaches usually fade as the weather front moves in and then through. Not my favorite, driving in the rain, but I probably will be when I head for my early afternoon acupuncture appointment.
And that is pretty much my excitement for the day. Time to get a couple hundred steps in the house, since it's still dark outside, and then laundry and yoga. Corey put that casserole together for dinner last night, but it needs a couple hours in the oven, so we had a quick frozen pizza last night, and I'll put the casserole in about 4 to give it time to bake for our dinner tonight. I'm looking forward to a nice quiet day today.
Later, y'all,
Love,
Lisa in AR
PS - Just a couple of shouts to our MIAs - Rori, Michelle NV, KJ, April and a few others. Hope you're all OK, we know you're busy, especially those with kids, grandkids, etc., that you're taking care of, but want you to know we're thinking of you.5 -
Annie, I've read lots of books about healthy eating, weight loss, exercise, and habit formation and I've found good ideas that will work for me and many that won't. I use what helps and ignore the rest. About eating the first bite and discarding the rest. That wouldn't work for me. I found out from Gretchen Rubin's writings that I am an "abstainer" not a "moderator". I do better to have no french fries (or ice cream or Doritos) rather than having one or two. I learned from my parents the value of not wasting food, so I don't buy or prepare something I don't plan to eat. Intentional shopping and intentional eating are part of my life plan. We use small plates for all our eating and avoid restaurants as much as possible.
Barbie in dark NW WA
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Barbie yes I am also an abstainer. That is a great book, partly because it allows for all sorts of people.
Annie in Delaware4 -
Hi Gals,
Birthdays and other stuff…. Ok this is kinda long and could be taken as “judgy” I guess this just hit a nerve with me… so please know that I love you just the way you are!All the comments about Birthday gifts and conditional love are hard for me. One of my childhood memories is my mother saying “I will love you more if……” and often the “…..” were things I just did not feel capable of completing. So …if you were thinner, ….if you got along with your siblings more …..if you got all A’s …..if you were prettier. I only remember a few times being told “I love you” with no if. And my mom is the same now. The only saving grace was my Dad not only said I love you but he’d say “I love you just the way you are.”
And sometimes Mom managed to add the “if” without saying it directly.
My behavior is not/was not always great, but I have learned with my nephew and god kids to even at the toughest moments to say I love you! With no conditions attached.
And when we need to talk about behavior to have that conversation often with words like “so tell me about how that ended up happening” or “I would like to understand how you made that decision”. I have heard the back story on so many occasions, and been able to step in with suggestions on how not to have that happen again, or to step in where an adult is need to control a bad situation with a teacher or other child.
Those “kids” are 24, 26 and 30 now and I get the calls about work challenges, crazy co-workers or bosses with comments like I am so angry I need to talk though this decision. But they know they are loved “just the way they are”
We each are so much more than our behavior and if we are not listened to and cared about we learn to not trust, to build up walls to protect ourselves.
Love ya all,
Kim in N. California
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I would love to talk with her,I will send her a card with a Amazon g.c.in it .just because I love her anyway..
But she wont even attempt to call or even acknowledge that im around..
She was my first grandbaby and always will be..I can't believe I will have 4 grandkids by October.. well im dressed and am all antibioticed up..think I will bring my in ear headphones and listen to music while they do all the mess in my mouth..plus im asking for N02.5 -
Heather ... arthritis IS depressing in my opinion and bone spurs are no joke! I have had great success with physical therapy in relation to osteoarthritis in my knees (diagnosed in my 40s). Pain reduced and mobility regained significantly with PT. Still, surgery is in my future. My husband, you might recall my discussions several years ago, had horrific back pain due to stenosis and bone spurs along his vertebrae. He required surgery. The therapy route may help you considerably in the short term and will only help strengthen you in the event you require surgery in the future.
Annie ... I have a hard time throwing out food. So if I was to go with the "two bites" thing, I would have to put only two bites worth on my plate! Lol.
Pip ... a trip to Alaska is on my bucket list. Lucky girl!
Allie ... Love Carmen with a birthday gift. Just do it.
My husband and I took a day trip on Tuesday to see his childhood homes and properties/camps the family formerly owned in the Allegheny National Forest area of PA. It was a nice day and we had a nice drive but the memories stirred up were too much for both of us. We ended up in tears. Time is so very short, isn't it?
Today, we are taking lunch to my mom. She loves it when my husband comes with me and we bring Chinese takeout. So my rings will be tight tonight!
Have a good day!
Beth near Buffalo9 -
Kim ... family can be so dysfunctional. Hugs
Allie ... for decades I sent gifts to my two nieces that we no longer saw due to a very nasty divorce situation. Never heard a reply. Never even knew if they got the gifts. I reached out every year. Christmas. Easter. Valentine's Day. Birthdays. Nothing. And I almost stopped. My husband asked me why I was sending gifts. Was it to receive acknowledgement or to show them they were thought of and loved. So I kept sending the gifts. And then, one year, one of the girls ... then in her 20s ... reached out! She's shared a lot since then and I feel blessed that we now have a relationship! Choosing love is never wrong.
Beth
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Hi Gals,
Birthdays and other stuff…. Ok this is kinda long and could be taken as “judgy” I guess this just hit a nerve with me… so please know that I love you just the way you are!All the comments about Birthday gifts and conditional love are hard for me. One of my childhood memories is my mother saying “I will love you more if……” and often the “…..” were things I just did not feel capable of completing. So …if you were thinner, ….if you got along with your siblings more …..if you got all A’s …..if you were prettier. I only remember a few times being told “I love you” with no if. And my mom is the same now. The only saving grace was my Dad not only said I love you but he’d say “I love you just the way you are.”
And sometimes Mom managed to add the “if” without saying it directly.
My behavior is not/was not always great, but I have learned with my nephew and god kids to even at the toughest moments to say I love you! With no conditions attached.
And when we need to talk about behavior to have that conversation often with words like “so tell me about how that ended up happening” or “I would like to understand how you made that decision”. I have heard the back story on so many occasions, and been able to step in with suggestions on how not to have that happen again, or to step in where an adult is need to control a bad situation with a teacher or other child.
Those “kids” are 24, 26 and 30 now and I get the calls about work challenges, crazy co-workers or bosses with comments like I am so angry I need to talk though this decision. But they know they are loved “just the way they are”
We each are so much more than our behavior and if we are not listened to and cared about we learn to not trust, to build up walls to protect ourselves.
Love ya all,
Kim in N. California
@Kim I’m with you. Much the same things but NEVER heard my Dad say he loved me. Mom never did until I was an adult. I just read the various comments on here and think “I’m glad they had that growing up” or, “I’m glad for what they do or say” and move on.
Know that I love you all and the most important part: BELIEVE you all love me back!
love from New Mexico, RVRita5 -
Yesterday, Wednesday, I couldn’t get into the community all day! Error kept saying “Gateway issue”. Well, I know what that means so sent a message to MFP and they replied they knew about it and were working on it. I checked last night and was able to get in at about 8:30 pm, but was too tired to post. All caught up!
RVrita5 -
Today is:Butterflies, Moths, Spiders… time to research and get lost in the internet today!! Also, white day, but strangely, they show a pat of butter in the picture. Not truly white! Be an amateur scientist today! Do some chemistry with food!! (Recipes work!)
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Have to do it! HAPPY ‘PI’ DAY! (Been watching the Big Bang Theory lately! 3.14…. To infinity…..
RVRita
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NP rang just before I set off to say she wasn't qualified to do the brachial test! I still went up there to have the bloods done for the Ramipril. She said she would reschedule, but I suggested we ask the doctor as it doesn't seem necessary now. So will wait to hear.
She was very sweet. Her dad had recently had his knee replaced through the NHS, but through a private local hospital. We talked about pain management and my cruise decisions. So, I will talk to the ANP on the 25th, who she said was amazing. She said I definitely had enough medical reasons to cancel on the insurance.
Had a little cry just now. Beth's story about her niece made me cry. Just feel weepy.
The docs is only 100 yards away and I limped every step.
Looking forward to seeing all the family at Shandiz. I wonder if Bea will be wearing her dress.
We will go on the bus.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx7 -
Well back and lived to tell the story.. hardest part was the shot of novicaine in the pallet ,that was a doozey.
Other than that all went well..really like the Dr loads he was telling corny jokes,I did alot of eye rolling
But he didn't charge me for the filling and gave me a discount on the extraction and N20
So that was great
1/2 my face will be numb for a bit but ,I'll live to tell the story..
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One of my happiness commandments that I wrote for myself says "Come from a place of love" 6
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Kim ... family can be so dysfunctional. Hugs
Allie ... for decades I sent gifts to my two nieces that we no longer saw due to a very nasty divorce situation. Never heard a reply. Never even knew if they got the gifts. I reached out every year. Christmas. Easter. Valentine's Day. Birthdays. Nothing. And I almost stopped. My husband asked me why I was sending gifts. Was it to receive acknowledgement or to show them they were thought of and loved. So I kept sending the gifts. And then, one year, one of the girls ... then in her 20s ... reached out! She's shared a lot since then and I feel blessed that we now have a relationship! Choosing love is never wrong.
Beth
Beth, the best gift you gave your niece (both of them) was keeping the line of communication open. Wonderful that one of them reached out and you now have a relationship that I'm sure is valued by both of you. Sad that divorce can shatter extended family too.
Heather good that you are getting some answers to your ongoing pain.
Had a busy morning making perogies for Easter. Made sixteen dozen so putting my feet up for most of the rest of the day....except for short walks around the yard with my doggies. I am now down a full pound so I think the bit of walking I'm doing is helping with my weight loss. Going for a haircut tomorrow morning then might schedule Miss Lucy in for a groom. Will see what the weather is going to be like next week.
Joy
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I’ve read through but didn’t make a lot of notes.
Kim - I am sorry you grew up without unconditional love from your mom.
You sure know how to give it.
Beth - that’s what I do with most of my family in NB, I don’t send gifts or cards every holiday, but I try to fairly regularly.
Allie - I’m so happy to see you are sending Carmine a card, she may not say anything now but it might make a difference later.
Heather - I’m so sorry you didn’t have better news.
I have been having classes in the afternoons this week and it’s completely turned my days around.
The last three days we have had presentations by Behaviour Analysts, one thing I learned is that we think of behaviour as bad, very rarely good. In actuality though even our act of answering the phone or not answering the phone when it rings is a behaviour. Neither good nor bad, just neutral.
What we refer to as bad behaviour, they are changing the term to “distressed behaviour”, the theory is that no child sets out to behave badly some type of distress happened to cause it.
It is our job to find out the reason.
One example given, was a little boy (non verbal) that every morning from 730-735 every morning would have a terrible tantrum, then it stopped except for a couple days a week.
It turned out that if the curtains were opened he saw other school busses go by and thought he missed his bus, his behaviour stopped when his bus arrived. The reason that it changed to only certain days was that Mom started working and Dad didn’t open the curtains.
They talked to the bus drivers. His bus driver out special decorations on it so he learned the others weren’t his bus and he didn’t miss it, the other drivers out signs in the window telling him they weren’t his bus.
I am finding this so fascinating, it makes me think back to every time a child I knew had a behaviour issue and how I may be mishandled it.
Off to class, ceramics this evening so probably won’t be able to catch up until tomorrow morning.
Tracey in Edmonton
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Allie - I really fear the dentist too.2
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SophieRosieMom wrote: »
When I saw Dr. D last week about my foot, he mentioned using Voltaren. I picked up some gel at Walmart a couple days ago and finally sat down to read the box. Too many warnings and it can take up to a week to kick in.
Good grief. It's going back to the store and I'll pick up some Aspercreme, I see they make some with lidocaine. Hope that helps. There's no noticeable swelling on that foot at the end of the day, but still achiness during the day like arthritis - yet none showed up on the X-Ray. Crazy. I'm still thinking nerves.
We're supposed to see sunshine today, I'm ready.
Make it a fantastic day.
Lanette
SW WA State
We use the Amazon brand for Voltaren- so does my mom and MIL. It helps quite a bit.
We don't use it all the time but glad to have it on hand.
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Anniesquats100 wrote: »I just bought myself some 4 oz bowls to control portions and a new nonstick skillet to reduce oil. Yay! Now I have to make room!
Annie in Delaware
using the smaller bowls/plates really helps- I very rarely use the regular dinner plates for myself. I use the kids Tupperware luncheon plates/snack cups/etc. My very favorite bowl I eat most meals out of is a 10oz rice bowl(the white bowls they serve rice in at Chinese and Japanese restaurants). I love the size, easy to hold and great portion control.
The only time I use full size or larger to eat out of is my salads- I go BIG on them(but NOT on the dressing)
Debbie
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Back from acupuncture, the storm held off long enough for me to beat the rain home (just barely). Big fat raindrops were hitting the car as I got home, but now it's just dark out there at 3:20 p.m. Lots of rain to the west headed our way, it looks like.
Good stuff on relationships based in love without conditions or expectations. All well said... not much here to add.
Going to curl up with a good book, I think, and enjoy the rain as much as I can. We're under a tornado watch, but the cooler the temperature gets, the better, and it's dropping fast. It's that collision of cold wind and hot air that gets things rotating. Fingers crossed nothing major.
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR6 -
A little nap ,and I feel much better.
Smiles is spying on chicken's next door.
Lol6 -
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Stats for the day-
Walk w/family- 2hrs 5min 29sec, 119elev, 2.83ap, 81ahr, 95mhr, 6.09mi= 589c
Strava app= 746c
Zwift home spin bike- strava stats- 1hr 23min 4sec, 853elev, 118aw, 18.2amph, gear35, 114ahr, 162mhr, 50arpm, 25.14mi= 596c
Strava app= 563c
Zwift stats= 1hr 23min 6sec, 856elev, 118aw, 50arpm, 18.12amph, 25.1mi= 563c
Total cal 1185
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Absolutely lovely birthday dinner with Bea and the family. She was wearing the dress and the bolero.
We all had a delicious kebab type meal, with salad, rice , and sauces. At the end they play Happy Birthday music, and bring on a cake with a Roman candle.
Here we all are. Apart from DDIL who took the photo.
Here's DDIL. And John.
My son drove the kids home and came back to pick us up. Very kind.
Tomorrow John is picking Edie up from school later, because she has a dance class. She will be staying the night with us, because Bea has a performance in Eastbourne. I'm going to do something with gluten free gnocchi.
On Monday we are going over to babysit Bea, because Edie has a dance performance at The Dôme. Today she came from a football match that they lost 11 - 0. :laugh: The other team were much older!
So, a lovely evening to take my mind off things.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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