I really struggle with emotional eating

cookiecrumbles9

I had a baby almost a year ago and started gaining weight rapidly with my pregnancy I was also severely depressed and by the time I gave birth I had gained 60lbs I’m still trying to lose 44 and can’t seem to I started counting my calories and I’m seeing that I over eat a LOT it’s making me depressed I hate my body and not fitting into anything I feel so uncomfortable. Any advice on how to not cave in when I’m feeling emotional?

Ultravioleta3000

Hi Cookie:
Sounds like you need some support, being with people who value you and make you feel good. Be kind to yourself, value yourself, that is where you start. Craving is normal change your thoughts around the cravings, find something busy to do with your hands and let it pass. Be good to yourself, look at yourself with compassion, take care of yourself as you would a very beloved person in your life. you deserve love.

Darlene_Oregon

@cookiecrumbles9 - I'm in the process of losing weight also. I'm not an emotional eater. But what helps me is to plan my entire days meals first thing in the morning (sometimes the night before). That way, you can see if your within you're calorie range. If not, you can tweak your meals. Then stick to your plan. When you see the weight coming off you will be inspired and stick to it.
MFP suggested 1200 calories a day for me. Make sure that you're honest about the amount of exercise you are doing in your profile. That way, MFP can give you a reasonable calorie range. I'm not an expert, but I do believe if you maintain a calorie deficient, you will lose weight.
Also, if you don't already have one, you may want to get a good kitchen scale. Sometimes, we underestimate the amount of food we are eating.
Please don't get depressed. Sometimes, it takes a while for the weight to come off. But if you stick within your calorie range, it will come off. Also, I don't think it hurts to have a cheat day once a week or so.
Good luck to you, Darlene

MargaretYakoda

Recognizing that you struggle with emotional eating is a great first step. Well done there.

If you’re still struggling, you may wish to consider discussing this with a therapist.

But in the meantime, there are some things you can try.

Journaling helps some people.
I use sugar free gum, or some other types of things meant for chewing.
I discovered miswak sticks which have beneficial properties for gum and tooth health. I also have some silicone necklaces that are for chewing. Both are available on amazon and aren’t expensive.
Even sugar free gum is available in bulk on amazon.

There’s also a bulk eaters thread here somewhere on the forums. You might have a look at that.

But the main thing is you are not alone.
Lots of support here.
💐💐💐

lisakatz2

Cookie, have you ever been on medication for depression before? If not, it may be worth a try. I am 61 and have experienced depression since I was 17 years old. When my neurotransmitters are not in balance, I go on food rampages, especially carbs/sweets. Consider a consult.

Another thought is to log onto the community when you feel like binging and ask for help. I've found great advice here, and the people are kind, knowledgeable, and supportive.

As mentioned earlier, you are not alone!

Itadakimasu7

@cookiecrumbles9 - It's tough with newborns. If there is anyway you can get a break for yourself and have fun, a dance class, a book club, whatever for a little bit of time each week it might help. It really helped me, I was very heavy when I had my son but luckily lived near a gym and I think the break everyday for 20-30 minutes (all I could spare) was as good as the exercise. I know that isn't always an option though.

I'm an emotional eater too and always feel overwhelmed, I use an app called 'Insight Timer' for meditation and relaxation and listen to Lofi music during the day. That helps some. I take a supplement called L-Theanine, it's from green tea, and it really helps a lot with anxiety.

takinitalloff

I struggled with emotional eating my entire life. A couple years ago I read Allen Carr's Easy Way to Quit Emotional Eating and it completely changed the way I think/feel about food. I'm down almost 80 lbs now, and I'm free! I no longer have to fight my way through craving after craving all day, every day. I recommend this book to people all the time, and while not everyone finds it helpful, those who do connect with it find it life-changing, like I have. If you try the book, please read it beginning to end, the way it was meant to be read. Don't try to skip ahead. (There's an audiobook as well, if you can't find the time to read.)

On a different note, having a baby is a big deal and we often don't give ourselves enough time & space to fully heal, and adjust to the new reality of being a mother/parent. I know you're busy and overwhelmed, but see if you can do something nice for yourself every day. It doesn't have to be a big event... maybe listen to a song you love, or rub some lotion on your hands/legs/feet, watch the clouds go by... even if it's just for a couple minutes of peace and taking a few deep breaths. You deserve to take care of yourself and have some pleasant moments.